Loveable (2024) Movie Script
FOREVER
Can you tell me
about your first meeting?
It was in the summer.
At a party.
I came there
with a close friend of mine.
I wasn't doing well.
I was going through a divorce.
I've been too long
in a really bad relationship.
I had two small children,
who needed me all the time.
Hey. Hey.
I'll be right there.
I'll just say good night.
I've been working on some projects
and trying to apply myself.
And then suddenly he was there.
The funny thing was,
I felt like I knew him.
It's like I thought,
there you are.
Where have you been all this time?
I've never been with anyone
I've never felt this way about anyone.
- Hey. Hey.
- Hey. Hey.
I feel like I know you.
- I just feel like I know you.
- I see.
Okay.
For months, that's all I thought about,
how to get him.
I've been all over the place,
where I might run into him.
Could I have it?
That was not at all certain.
That's what everyone wants.
I had to prove it.
Otherwise, I would never have forgiven myself.
And so one night
we found ourselves in the same place.
He was single.
And he had a lot of friends.
I had kids.
And he loved them from the first moment.
So that's how it was.
Seven years later
Hello?
Yes.
I wrote the proposal yesterday.
Do you need that too?
Okay, I'll call you later, it's chaotic.
Get down.
Rejected.
Yeah...
Wait a minute.
Also denied.
Stop it.
Hey, can you call me?
You need to transfer the money,
there's nothing on the card.
Mikael, please stop.
Hey! Hey!
The light one,
or the one with the sequins?
I want to poop!
- Then go!
- You don't care.
Ludwig?
Can you clear out the dishwasher?
Why me?
Alma made the mess in the kitchen.
- Here, Stella.
- I'm hungry. What's for dinner?
- Dad's picking us up in 45 minutes.
- Teacher said we didn't turn this in.
Stella, not this.
- Mom, you're done...
- Alma, will you help him?
- Ugh, I'm not gonna wipe his ass.
- Oh, please.
- I don't have time. I have to pack.
- Just do as I say.
- Then I'll go without it.
- We'll find something, Ludwig.
You always say that.
I didn't have a hatch last time.
- Mom!
- See, he won't help.
- It stinks in there. Shit!
- Great, you're taking Stella.
You didn't come for them last weekend.
We had a tournament,
so it didn't work out.
You couldn't?
You'll have to talk to me about that.
The kids were waiting for you.
You can't do whatever you want,
and not answer the phone.
- Okay, you're ready.
- I'm gonna go get my headphones.
- Go away!
- I just want to talk to you.
I said, go away. Shut up!
I understand it's hard to see,
when your dad and I are fighting like this.
- Get out! - Get a grip, it hurts.
- I said, shut up!
- I didn't do anything.
- You're mean and annoying. Go away!
- That's enough! You can't...
- I hate you!
Dad, can I move in with you?
I can't stand it here anymore.
It's not out of the question.
- My little girl. Sweetheart.
- Your mouth stinks.
Bye, handsome.
Look into my eyes,
when we say goodbye.
Honey,
you're forty years old!
Come to Barcelona with me!
I love you.
- Hey. Hey.
- Hey. Hey.
I bought the kids wool underwear.
I hope they'll be good for them.
It was quite a chase.
- How are you?
- What would you say?
I think you can see that I'm bothered,
that you never come when you say you will.
I understand. We've overreached.
I didn't do anything about it.
You're not answering your phone.
My battery's dead.
That sucks.
You're amazing.
Did it go well?
Did you manage everything?
It went pretty well.
Really.
I've played with a few people before.
So it worked.
But the producer had
had a slightly different idea.
So we talked for a while.
I was pretty tired.
I was out of shape.
I don't usually sleep well in hotels,
so I was groggy.
It went on all day.
It was exhausting.
It must be exhausting.
Sleeping in a hotel and...
Oh, God,
it's great to be home again.
Wednesday was tough.
We couldn't think of anything. For hours...
Mikael was in trouble at school.
Again.
He threw a rock at the sophomore's window.
They've been asking us for two months
for a meeting.
But I said,
I had to wait for you.
- So that we can be there together.
- Okay.
We'll do it.
I'm glad you told me.
I love you.
- I don't like you.
- You don't?
That's stupid.
You're an idiot. You're leaving me here alone.
It's hell.
I should report you to the police.
Attempted murder.
I almost didn't make it out alive today.
And when I thought,
it couldn't get any worse
and finally made dinner,
the fire alarm went off.
You hung it so high,
I had to put three chairs on top of each other.
Unfortunately, in doing so.
seeing myself in the mirror.
And it was such a horrible sight,
you'd have thrown a bow.
I love you.
I love you.
Honey.
And then today
they threw the whole project on my head.
- Oh, no.
- Please don't say, but no.
I just can't do it.
You can't jump to conclusions
from one experiment.
Can you stop that?
I have nothing to offer them.
You can't think like that.
You've got a lot on your plate.
You're strong,
you care about the truth.
You could have taken the easy way out.
You didn't. That's why I love you.
You can do it, you have to believe in it.
Try to see it from a distance.
From a distance, you're always working,
and that means I can't do anything.
I can't do it if I'm always
all the kids. I'm exhausted.
I can't concentrate on work.
I'm cancelling an appointment this week
after another, for everything, for the dentist...
It's not working.
I can't concentrate on the job.
I'll be home for two weeks now,
so you can work.
Two weeks?
Are you kidding me?
We agreed,
that you'd quit traveling now.
- It wasn't fixed.
- It was. You took another job?
With your requests.
it wasn't a sure thing.
If anything works.
And we have to have some income.
- So you just assumed I couldn't do it?
- No, stop it.
I made it clear,
I don't want it this way!
I don't have time or space to breathe.
I can't do it this way.
You're not the only one working.
We need to find another solution.
I can't back out now.
It's in a fortnight.
I cancel things all the time.
So now you're just gonna do it.
That's completely unserious.
I'll never get a job again.
Well, at least you'll get to try it out,
how I feel.
Yes, I understand.
I'm glad to hear it.
Of course.
Sure.
That's a good idea.
Agreed.
I totally agree.
We really care.
I'm glad we're addressing this.
All right, then.
You're the one with the school
on the phone?
Yes, we appreciate it very much.
We do?
- We have to pull together.
- We're gonna do this together.
- I'll tell her. I'm sure she'll be happy.
- Can you put that down?
Great, we'll keep in touch.
I'm glad we talked it over.
- Can you hang up?
- We have a plan. See you later.
What the hell are you doing?
I'm talking to someone!
You dealt with them over the phone?
- Did he?
- And why not? They called themselves.
I thought you said we were putting it off
for too long and that we need to talk.
Yes, I did,
we need to talk.
That's why we've been putting it off,
because you've been gone for months.
I told you I was waiting for you,
so we could both be there.
- Don't you see how important this is?
- Is it really such a big deal?
I don't have to ask you
to ask me everything.
I've been putting it off for you.
But you don't give a damn about me.
Calm down. We made a deal,
someone from the community would review it.
Then it won't be up to us.
- Is this what you arranged?
- Yeah, I did.
You can't just arrange it,
if I'm not there.
He doesn't need to,
to be judged.
You have no idea what he needs right now.
Are you a complete moron?
Are you?
You just can't do this!
You can't march in here,
do this and not even ask me.
Why did you do it?
Can you answer me?
Why did you do it?
Don't you give a shit what I think?
Fuck you!
Stop it! Stop it!
Can't you see I'm trying to help you?
I'm trying to do something right.
I can't take this anymore!
Marie?
What is it?
That's not how it works.
What do you mean?
I can't.
Someone has to help you with the anger.
- Help?
- Yes.
Some sort of anger management course
or something.
I can't do this.
Neither did I.
- I'm serious.
- I'm serious, too.
I'm not taking an anger management course
I don't need an anger management course. But maybe you do?
The way you treat me,
is killing me.
My behavior?
It's your behavior that's killing me.
You're angry, too.
Look at you. You're furious.
You can't be serious. I'm supposed to be changing,
because you messed up?
Plus, you're at least as angry
as I am.
Hello?
Who wants yogurt?
- I'll do it!
- There you go.
Oh, no.
You see that?
Can you wipe it off?
Thank you. Thank you. That's a big help.
It's gotten a little muddy.
You want some milk?
Good morning.
There's coffee in the pot. Have some.
Mom!
- Mom!
- Stella!
- Mikael. We have to go.
- Okay.
Come on.
- Dad...
- Yeah. (Chuckles)
Let's go, Mikael.
Come on.
- Dad.
- Let's go.
I'm willing to work on myself.
You know that.
But I'm not going to accept
that you're not gonna be a part of this.
Wait for Dad.
Don't you want a divorce?
You want a divorce?
For God's sake, answer me.
Dad's coming.
- Who wants to go to bed?
- I...
You're gonna sleep here?
I have a headache.
I need to sleep.
- Can't we talk?
- I don't have time for this right now, Marie.
Can't we at least sleep together?
I gotta get my shit together.
I'm not feeling well.
I can't just change.
You know how tired I am.
I can't do it.
You'll wake the kids.
We'll talk about it tomorrow.
It's getting late.
- Have you met anyone else?
- Not at all.
So what's going on?
- What's going on?
- We'll talk tomorrow.
We need to get some sleep.
Please.
I can't stand this.
I can't stay here like this.
- Okay, no.
- No?
I'll leave.
Until you figure out what you want.
The kids will be with you.
- Okay.
- Okay?
Okay.
Is that a good solution in your opinion?
I'm leaving?
You came up with it.
If that's what you need, fine.
I just can't last in this house,
when it's like this.
I understand that.
Just do what's best for you.
So you're thinking,
this is the best thing for me?
Mikael,
do you think I'm very angry?
- No.
- Marie, leave him out of this.
- Mikael, does your mom seem upset?
- Stop it.
He would have told me,
if he thought he would.
Can you at least give me a hug?
I love you.
Oh, shit...
You're such a bastard.
Awful...
- Thank you. You're very kind.
- You're welcome.
- I'll call you. Good luck.
- Thank you. You too.
This is Sigmund. I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
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Give me a break.
- Hey. Hey.
- What are you doing here?
I just wanted to see you.
Why don't we grab a coffee?
Don't come in here.
It's embarrassing.
What's so embarrassing about that?
that I came to say hello?
Just go away, Mom!
Don't you see how much this hurts?
I'm just trying to be nice.
You don't have to talk to me like that.
You can at least give me a hug.
I don't want you to come here.
Is that so hard to understand?
Why not?
I never come here.
This is so horrible,
that anyone would stop by?
I never go to school with you.
I thought you'd be happy.
My God, this is embarrassing,
that your mother came to say hello.
- What an embarrassment!
- You're crazy, Mom.
Then go!
Just go! Help yourself!
Alma, I'm sorry. It was stupid.
It didn't work, I'm sorry.
This is Sigmund. I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
Hey, it's me.
I just wanted to know,
how you're doing.
And if you go into town tomorrow,
could you bring me some eczema cream?
It's on the top shelf in the bathroom,
on the left.
I'm very itchy.
More than normal.
I don't know what it is.
I can't sleep.
I think I'm gonna have to see a doctor.
You couldn't call me,
or text me?
I forgot to bring
socks and panties.
If you could take them from me, too.
Okay.
Good night.
Darling
I'm in a meeting right now.
I just found the blue panties.
I know you don't like them very much,
but there was a terrible sizzle this morning.
And this is the cream, right?
Have you figured out what you want?
I think we both need
a little time and space.
What's important to me right now
not to define anything.
- I have to get back there.
- But, uh...
You have to treat Mikael's wart.
Once a week.
- The solution is on the shelf in the bathroom.
- I already did.
And a thermos. When I washed it.
after a school trip, it stank.
You have to take it apart
and rinse it with boiling water.
- Okay, I'll do it.
- A...
I never got around to it,
to give you this.
You have to read it.
I haven't found a babysitter yet.
But I will.
Just so you know,
what's in store for us.
When we're together again.
The vacation's already paid for.
Then you can take someone else with you.
- I gotta get back.
- I was looking forward to working again.
But I can't do that in this situation.
And if I don't have a job to get
sick leave, I won't have any money.
Then you'll have to pay
all the bills.
Well, I should be getting back,
so I don't lose my job, too.
- I want to work so badly.
- I know, I know.
I don't understand why you're doing this.
I don't get it.
- We can't discuss it now.
- Am I not good enough for you anymore?
If I got better,
you wouldn't be doing this?
But I can't get better.
I can't do it.
I'm really trying.
I'm exhausted.
I sacrificed everything,
...everything I dreamed of.
- I'm a total piece of shit.
- Don't knock yourself out.
- I'm not worth anything.
- Please don't do this.
If I go on a course with people,
who beat up kids, or psychiatry,
so you want me?
Just tell me what to do!
I'm so horrible,
I don't even know this.
Look at me.
I'm going back inside.
You need to pull yourself together.
Talk to someone. It'll help you.
He won't leave you.
I don't believe that.
He just needs some space.
I don't know.
I have a feeling,
anything can happen.
It's like I don't know him anymore.
I don't know what he's up to.
Never a long relationship before you
he's never had one.
And then he met Dracula.
That was a bit of bad luck.
Seriously.
He doesn't have the experience you do.
With children and previous relationships.
- Did he have any prior relationships?
- Yeah, six months.
But a situation like this
he's never seen before.
When a man has to make an effort,
to make it work.
- I think you need therapy.
- But he doesn't want therapy.
He wants me to change.
He can't say that.
He'd have to say it
in front of a third person.
If he's so scared,
to expose himself to someone else,
she's definitely hiding something.
Has he ever been to therapy?
No, he hasn't.
Is he talking about it with his friends?
He doesn't air things out much.
Except with me.
If he really wants to leave you,
a mediator is mandatory.
When you have kids and you want a divorce.
- He might have nodded at that.
- That's the minimum.
- Maria and Sigmund?
- Yes.
Hello.
Come on in.
So Sigmund says,
he feels he has no space.
And that he feels trapped.
Am I getting this right?
Yes. It's killing me.
I don't know.
It's hard to make sense of it now.
Maybe that's why I need space.
You need space?
You're still working.
And I'm on my own.
I'm exhausted.
You've got plenty of room.
How can you say that?
We agreed that I would finally
to work and you'll fight the war at home.
You take the job anyway, I'll say,
to cancel it, and you want a divorce!
Where the hell are we?
I understand,
you have a lot on your mind, Marie.
But we can focus first
on you, Sigmund?
- Is that all right, Marie?
- It's fine. It's fine.
Why is it difficult for you to get space,
that you need?
That's not so easy to say.
Something else is private space
and it's another thing to work.
You have at least one of them,
I don't have any.
Maria interferes in everything,
she is everywhere.
I don't know how to explain it.
I don't feel good anywhere.
I don't have a way to get involved.
I don't have any space at home.
There's no room for anyone there now.
It's a really hectic time.
I'm starting to wonder,
what you're saying, Sigmund.
Why is it so hard for you
to make that space?
I don't know if it's hard.
But what do you mean?
That you're not getting that space?
We're always in conflict.
Especially when I'm trying,
to make space.
Are conflicts difficult for you?
Yes, they are exhausting.
You think it's just Maria's fault,
that you don't have enough space?
Or you can do something about it
yourself?
I don't know.
In fact, I don't know what to say right now.
There's so much anger,
I can't see clearly.
Sure, one gets angry,
when everything is still on him.
- That's not fair.
- I've got a lot on my plate, too.
I took care of your children
from a previous relationship.
That costs something, too.
Are we gonna count this too?
Of course I appreciate it,
what you're doing for the older kids.
But the fact that you came to us,
cost us something, too.
If I only had them now,
I'd have plenty of time and freedom.
We just have to survive this phase.
The kids are small,
we don't have a nanny.
We have no grandparents to help,
our finances are uncertain.
With four children
we need to stick together.
You can't get out of this,
when the going gets tough.
- I've been divorced once before...
- This is from winter break.
You taped it?
We can't leave,
if he's not wearing a jumpsuit!
It was the only thing
you were in charge of!
But you don't care!
You don't give a shit!
It's out of context.
You can't let it go like that.
Okay, okay, okay, okay. I think,
we don't have to hear it now.
Oh, my God.
You never get angry,
Sigmund?
No...
I don't know.
I'm sure you'll be angry,
when Marie is angry with you.
If you can't tell you're angry,
then maybe that's the problem, too.
But you understand,
that your anger is affecting him?
That's the distance.
I don't think if I go
an anger management course, it's gonna work itself out.
I understand it's hard for you,
defending yourself.
But it seems weird to me to withdraw,
to give you more space.
Now that you have more space
than I do.
We need to work this out together, and I'm
willing to go to therapy. Together.
I'm not ready for that yet.
We're running out of time soon,
so let's get some closure.
I would like to explain and summarize,
what stage we're in now.
Mary, you on this relationship,
you want to work on. Is that right?
And Sigmund,
what do you think now?
I'm not sure,
if I want to continue.
But you have to say something.
I can't live with this uncertainty.
You have to be able to tell if you want to
to try to fix it or not.
This is awful.
I have nothing to hold on to.
I can't leave my seat.
This is hard for Maria.
I understand.
He wants to come home
and put things right.
- Yes.
- Yes, I understand.
We could set a deadline,
by when you'll give Maria a clear answer?
All right, then.
What would you say.
A day or a week?
That would be good,
she wouldn't have to wait too long.
I can comment
in a few days.
Well done.
Until Wednesday evening, then?
Is that all right with you, Marie?
In any case, we'll meet here
on Thursday.
And let's talk some more,
what's next for you.
Together,
or separately.
I think it's important.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Are we done?
I think I got a call from work.
Would you mind helping me
with some personal information?
Sure.
He said he'd get back to me by today
by tonight, but so far, nothing.
I'm sure he'll answer you.
He normally keeps his promises, doesn't he?
Yeah.
Except for the marital one.
It's gonna be okay.
I'm just wondering...
I don't know.
What do you think he's gonna write?
Try not to think about it.
Breathe deeply.
Try to get some sleep.
He loves you. I know he loves you.
If he leaves you, he's a jerk.
And he's not.
I have to go to bed.
Couldn't you answer me?
I fell asleep with Stella.
I just e-mailed you.
Dear Mary,
First of all, I'd like to thank you
for all the great times we had together.
It meant a lot to me.
But you've got to prepare yourself,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
This is Sigmund. I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
Mom!
I can't stand this. I can't take it.
Get ready for this,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
Get ready for this,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
Get ready for this,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
Get ready for this,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
This is Sigmund. I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
I don't care if you don't answer.
I'm going home to get the kids.
Then go wherever you want.
I can do it without you.
But in front of the kids, they're already talking about you
I won't say a word.
I hope you're happy.
I'm not gonna be in this hole anymore.
I'm going home
and let's get this over with.
Kindly at least confirm,
that you received this message.
It's cool.
You can keep the kids.
What?
Did he really write that?
So...
Cool.
I'm so sorry,
that it's like this.
I'll just have to go through
a terrible hell.
I can handle it.
I've got a lot of work to do anyway.
I have to wash the bathroom
and send a few e-mails.
Should I come back later?
I'll take a toothbrush.
I might as well sleep here tonight.
You're too nice, but I can handle it.
No need.
- Are you sure?
- I'll be fine.
But if you change your mind,
you'd call me. Promise?
- Promise? I'll call.
- Okay, bye.
- Hello.
- Hello.
We have to wait for Sigmund.
He just texted me,
he's not coming.
- Did he write that? And why won't he come?
- He didn't write that.
Oh, shit.
But when we have time,
you might as well come in.
Alone?
Maybe you'll get something out of it.
Who knows?
Apparently it turned out a little differently,
than you expected.
I don't know why I'm sitting here,
if he needs me to.
He's just gonna get away with it
and do nothing?
He'll work his share,
whether he comes here or not.
But it's not important to you,
what he's doing now.
You have to take care of yourself now
and your own life.
You need to focus on that,
to get your affairs in order.
What you have inside you.
What do you mean,
what's inside me?
That's the big question.
We should focus on that,
what role do you think you play in this?
Me? He wants to leave.
You think I provoked this?
- Do you think so?
- I don't think so. I don't know what you mean.
So for this situation.
you're not responsible for this situation?
I guess so.
I guess I have a small part in it.
But that doesn't matter much now,
if he wants a divorce.
It's okay. It's okay.
Let's start with yours.
small share.
- Okay.
- You told me last time
that he came home from work
and he wanted to take another one right away.
And that he called the school,
without discussing it with you first.
And then suddenly he wanted a divorce.
Yes.
- Would you tell me again?
- I already told you.
Yes.
But try saying it again.
Tell me how he got home,
after being gone for six weeks.
I was so tired.
I filled the dishwasher.
And he just walked in the door.
And what happens when you see him?
How do you feel?
I'm glad to see him.
I love him. I can feel it.
And then?
He's happy.
He's coming to me, he wants to hug me.
I'll leave the dishes and go to him.
Give me a hug.
- Do you hug him too?
- Not for very long.
Don't you want to hug him?
Actually, no.
Why don't you want to hug him,
if you like seeing him so much?
- I don't know.
- And then what happens?
He's gonna start helping me with the dishes.
Are you missing anything?
If you stop hugging him,
what's he gonna do?
I don't know. Maybe he's a little
surprised or sad.
What about you?
I'll turn away.
In what way?
- I don't know.
- Why are you turning away like that?
I want him to feel bad.
Why do you want to,
to make him feel bad?
- I don't know.
- Because he did something?
- Yes, he left us.
- But that's what you agreed?
- Yes.
- And you agreed.
- Yes.
- Then why do you want him to feel bad?
I don't know.
And then what happens?
- He starts talking about work.
- Does he like sharing that with you?
- Yes. He's pleased. He's talking.
- And you?
I don't like it.
I want him to stop.
- Why?
- I don't know.
It just makes me uncomfortable.
So I'm gonna cut him off.
What do you say?
Mikael was in trouble at school.
Again.
You want him to feel
that Mikael's problems are his fault?
I know it's not his fault.
But you still want to,
to make him feel like he does.
- Yes.
- Why is that?
Because it happened while he was gone.
Because he wasn't here with me.
Do you think in that situation
he could have done something differently?
No.
But you still want to,
to make him feel guilty.
Yes.
Why?
Why do you want to,
to make him feel bad?
You can think of other situations,
where you wanted him to feel this way?
Try to remember the moments
when you acted like this.
Are you all right?
With pleasure
I know we'll be lucky
As long as I'm here.
I live with joy
I'm just an optimist
What's going on in this situation?
I don't want to dance,
because it doesn't make me feel good.
I feel stupid.
If he sees that I'm happy,
he'll laugh at me.
I don't want to fool around like this.
- Here, I'll do it.
- It's okay. It's okay.
It's not worth it.
You don't know what's whose anyway.
- I know. I'll do it.
- If you're the one doing the folding,
I have panties at Mikael's
and Ludvig gets Stella's pants.
You don't even know wool from cotton.
But I do.
Sit down. I'll do it.
No! You're not here forever.
You don't know what's whose.
Eventually, I have to do it myself.
It's just adding to my workload.
All right, then.
Whose is this?
- Yours?
- Yeah, mine.
Nice, Sigmund.
Check it out.
Am I out?
It's Mikaela.
What about this?
Those are Alma's pants.
It's pajamas.
Ludwig's pajamas. You see?
I think you knew
for quite some time that he was going to leave you.
I don't get it.
You've done so much for this relationship.
You're the vulnerable one.
He's the one who wants to leave.
Maybe I expected it,
because I know it from my childhood.
My dad left my mom.
I've been so scared ever since,
that subconsciously
I'm pushing him out of the relationship.
Why would you do that?
Maybe I'm somehow trying to make him
to keep it up.
You're trying to keep him
by pushing him away?
If she feels guilty,
he'll think,
I'm better than him.
And then he'll think,
she's lucky to have me.
And that he has to stay with me.
So I'm trying,
to make him feel worse than I do.
And he didn't figure it out,
how terrible I really am.
You've got to be kidding me.
You don't think so,
you're worse than him?
You're great.
I love you so much.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
That sweater bites terribly.
- He's very bitey. The sweater.
- Really?
All right, then.
You've always been afraid,
of the other person leaving you?
What's gonna happen,
if he leaves you?
I'm gonna die.
- Are you gonna die?
- Yes, I will. Or I'll disappear.
Why?
Because he'll take everything with him,
that is good in my life.
There's nothing left.
So if it's just you...
Isn't that good enough?
Anything that's good,
is tied to him?
In a way, yes.
In a way, he is it,
what's good about me.
Actually, I don't understand,
why she's with me.
But sooner or later
he'll figure it out.
If he has time,
to make room for himself.
Or to be with other people.
He'll see that he's much better
to be there than with me.
Hey. Hey.
My little girl.
You could have at least done your hair.
Hello.
There you are.
- Father's late, I hear.
- Yes, he did.
We want to talk about Alma today.
You've been really good this semester.
I was very impressed,
what you've done.
And in the classroom, you create a good
atmosphere.
You are kind, cheerful and caring.
And you turn in your assignments on time.
Have you seen her workbook?
It's very well done.
I didn't see that one.
Why didn't you show it to me?
I don't have to check her assignments.
She always gets everything right.
That's right.
Other parents complain
at class meetings.
How kids don't do their homework.
How he has to keep jerking them off.
I never chased you.
You do everything on your own.
You don't ask for help or advice.
It's great.
That's right.
Isn't this a little much for you, Alma?
I don't mind.
That'll be your father.
That's him.
Just a second. I'll get him.
- It's going great.
- Why are you talking about this?
- About what?
- That you don't follow the site. Can't you just shut up?
I was gonna say you're independent.
I'm not even allowed to praise you?
- Just don't talk about it anymore.
- It's the truth.
I've never been on that website.
I don't have to. You do what you gotta do.
Good for you. I'm sure it would have
exhausting.
- Come on.
- Why bother.
- Why do you say that?
- You're awful, Mom.
You don't understand anything. You want to,
...you want me to work hard and endure everything.
But I'm not like you.
You don't need anything from anyone.
You're fine with this,
but I'm not like you.
Hey. Hey.
I'll just summarize,
what we said here.
Alma is doing great
in her studies and in her team.
That's great.
Maria Kristin and Erlend live here.
I'm coming!
Hey. Hey.
Is that you?
I thought,
I'd stop by.
Mary.
How are you, little girl?
- But yeah...
- Come on in.
Luckily, you're strong
You are.
You're just like me.
You always have been.
Women in our family
can withstand almost anything.
Actually, I think about it a lot,
what strong women there are in our family.
Mom, me, you, Alma...
I often think about those years with my dad, too.
and the divorce.
Of course it was hard.
But I got through it. I did.
And you have the same power within you.
It's gonna be okay, Marie.
It's gonna be okay.
It will.
- I brought you this.
- What do you think it is?
Just a little present.
Nothing special.
There's a lot of paper on it.
It's a nice deal
right down the street. I know you like it.
- I see.
- Of course you can return it.
I wanted that taste you were talking about,
back in London. You remember?
- Really? I don't remember.
- Yeah, I don't remember.
You loved it.
You said so.
Okay, but you know what?
I stopped drinking black tea altogether.
It makes my teeth yellow.
That's no fun at my age.
You don't enjoy anything.
My neighbor
had her teeth whitened.
That seems to be the fashion now.
Teeth whitening.
I've got a lot of work to do today,
so this wasn't exactly the plan.
Neighbor's water leaked.
I had to help her with it.
Plus, I have a lot of stress
with the concert house tickets.
And Are is giving me this week
at least a hundred calls this week.
Because of the big anniversary
of our association.
- I see.
- Here's a list of what to do.
It's such a mess,
it's almost impossible to live here.
I wanted to put everything in the attic,
but nothing fits in there anymore.
And you took your stuff out of the attic
you didn't take your stuff out of the ground either.
- Everything's still lying there.
- I can take it away.
I'll believe it,
when I see it.
I can still have green tea.
This one's great.
And look at that cute little box.
She's cute.
Don't you want to sit in your seat?
We can switch.
I'd take your place.
Whatever.
But don't you want to sit down
to your old seat?
You always used to sit there.
Like a queen.
You always wanted to sit here.
So you wouldn't have to help.
And Erlend and I did everything.
We were jumping all over you.
And you sat like a princess
waiting to be served.
That was it.
Would you like a piece of caramel cheese?
- Oh, baby girl. You want some? I'll get the bread.
- No, I'll bring bread.
Why are you talking about the seat at the table?
What are you trying to say?
- About what?
- About just sitting here.
And you do everything for me.
That's just the way it was.
But why are you telling me now?
What are you trying to accomplish?
That was just fun.
You were happy to be waited on.
You were such a prima donna.
This is nothing new.
- You think that's funny?
- For God's sake, have a sense of humor.
Does everything have to be such a drama?
When you stop laughing,
you'll have nothing left.
Oh, baby girl.
I bought some at the deli next door
great cheese. Would you like some?
You're actually trying to tell me
that I asked too much of you?
Actually, I really
I felt a little like a maid.
- Sometimes. That's right.
- In what sense?
You were just like that.
It was hard to set boundaries.
You were actually quite demanding.
Really.
Let's take a look.
Mom?
- Mum.
- Yes, I am. What is it again?
I don't think he's doing you any good,
when you give me things.
What do you mean?
I do nothing but give.
I've been alone with you all these years.
In case you didn't notice what I gave you,
I'm really surprised.
- I'm not saying you didn't give me anything.
- I didn't. So what do you say?
I was all alone with you two.
When Dad ran away.
Drunk and desperate.
Every night I'm in the kitchen
crying from exhaustion.
I know that.
I was so unhappy then.
It was a bad dream.
I can't start thinking about it.
I wouldn't do anything today.
That's for sure.
I'm not,
you didn't give anything.
- No?
- I said...
that I don't think he's doing you any good,
when you give me things.
- What do you mean, please?
- That it doesn't make you feel good to give something.
It's not even good for you
to get something.
- Like the tea I gave you.
- You did?
I don't think you were happy,
that you got it from me.
What are you talking about?
I was so happy.
- Really?
- Yes, it was.
- And how did you make that clear?
- I hate these interrogations.
That's what I hate about you.
Now you're telling me you don't like me.
That you hate me in a way.
- Stop it.
- It's like you've been mad at me forever.
It's like you want me to be gone.
So I wouldn't feel good.
Like you want to,
to make me feel miserable.
Maybe you felt this anger
towards your dad, too.
Before he died, he said you laughed at him
and that it made him uncomfortable.
- It was still good, though.
- He's got something to say!
Maybe you wouldn't,
if you knew what you were doing.
Watch your mouth,
Marie!
Be so kind!
It sounds to me like you want to,
to make me feel bad.
I wish you'd ever thought
for others.
But you never cared about that.
It's always me, me, me!
When you came in today, I was thinking:
"That's so sweet.
Maybe he'll ask me: How are you?
Aren't you tired? Do you need help?"
Oh, no, you don't.
Your brother did.
He's gentle and caring.
When you were little, he used to cover me,
when I was tired.
You've never done anything like this.
You're not like that.
Can't you see that you're thinking of me
you don't want to remember anything good about me?
You don't want what I'm giving you.
I must never make you happy.
Why you could never trust
that I had something good in me?
I wish you the best.
That I'm not evil,
that I have a good heart.
Like I'm not good enough for you,
no matter what I do.
I realized I was living with a voice,
telling me I'm terrible.
And useless.
It hangs deep in my chest.
Okay, okay, okay, okay.
And that's my fault, too?
I'm not saying it's your fault, Mom.
But maybe...
I don't think I can take it anymore, Marie.
I'm exhausted.
I was so glad when you came.
But you only came to criticize me.
I'm only human.
I'm not a machine and I can't stand everything.
I'm gonna go for a walk.
When you've finished eating, you can leave.
I can't take that much criticism.
Maybe others around you do,
but I don't.
How are you doing?
Pretty good.
I've been thinking about it,
what we discussed the other day.
That you feel like the bad guy.
The one who can't give.
That must be painful for you.
It's not that... painful.
It's...
It's okay.
Oh?
A lot of people are on it
a lot worse off than me.
But that doesn't mean
that it doesn't hurt you, too.
I don't think I can make it tonight.
talk so much today.
I didn't sleep at all.
I'm so...
- Tired.
- I'm fine. I'm fine.
- Do you want to quit?
- I'm so tired I can't think.
- I think I need to rest.
- You can rest here.
I got the couch right here.
Do you want to lie down?
- I can't do that.
- Why not?
- That would be weird, wouldn't it?
- It's up to you, of course.
You're here at work.
I'm sure you don't want to waste your time.
It would spoil
a whole day's work.
Yes, but I'm taking the time
I want to spend with you now.
If you need to rest,
I'd be happy to let you.
Will you accept this from me?
You're tired.
And what you need is here.
You can rest here with me.
If you want.
Okay.
That's caring.
That was very nice.
I'll sit here with you.
There's no need for that.
I'm sure you've got plenty of work to do.
Don't worry about me.
I'll be better soon.
I'm not going anywhere.
I can sit here and watch you.
Or I can look out the window.
But I'll keep an eye on you.
I'm glad,
I'm glad to have the opportunity.
Damn...
I'm just tired.
No wonder.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry,
I'm just really tired.
It's okay.
He's normal,
for you to feel this way, Marie.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
I don't know what's wrong with me.
I haven't slept at all.
I'm not normally like this.
I don't know...
You're such an idiot.
A terrible fool...
You're an idiot.
I hate you.
You're terrible.
I hate you.
You're...
You're...
You're... completely fine.
You're...
You're a good man.
I couldn't tell you before.
Because...
I felt miserable.
My little girl.
You have a good heart.
You deserve...
You deserve love.
You can have it.
You're amazing.
You're... amazing.
He's fine,
that you need love.
You're amazing.
I love you.
I love you.
Hey! Hey!
Hey! Hey!
Baby girl!
Come here.
Hey. Hey.
Hey. Hey.
Hey. Hey.
You're completely stupid.
You know I think you're stupid?
Yeah, I know.
You're always tired and saying
you have important work to do in Oslo.
But you don't have a job.
You're a total loser.
You shouldn't have had kids in the first place.
I want to move in with my dad.
It's much better there.
He's good.
Not as bad as you.
It's okay,
that you want it.
I understand,
you want this.
- Mum.
- Alma.
My little girl.
He's normal,
for you to feel this way.
This place is closed,
so we gotta find something else.
Over there?
Hello.
I'll just have a soda and a coffee.
Cappuccino.
Me too.
I don't really have much to say.
You wanted to meet.
But tell me what you need.
I'll listen.
I might cry.
But that's not why,
because I'm sad right now.
And I don't want you to feel guilty,
when I talk.
I want you to know,
that if you want to leave,
you can.
You don't have to feel bad.
If that's what it is,
what you need,
you should do it.
You don't have to worry,
I'm not gonna make it.
Because I can handle it.
I can handle it.
Lately, I've realized
how scared I've been.
I was so scared,
that you were going to leave me.
And it was so hard for me to say.
You.
I was so scared,
I was afraid of being alone with myself.
That I hated so much.
I just want to apologize.
That I didn't believe
that you cared about me.
And she made you feel guilty.
For criticizing you.
And she hung up on you.
It's vitally important to me...
to get this straightened out somehow.
In a way it is,
what happened is actually a gift.
I wish I could,
to be together.
But now I understand...
That I don't want to...
I don't want it,
if you don't want it.
If we're not together...
It's okay, too.
I can still live a good life.
Without you.
Thank you.
You're welcome.
Well, I'll have to figure that out
my own problems.
But I understand,
that we're in this together.
And that I have to deal
with my share.
I also know I didn't tell you
what I really need.
I think it was dangerous,
for me to feel what I need to feel.
- I have to go.
- Okay, okay.
Okay.
- Well, hello.
- Hi. Hi.
Hey. Hey.
Hey. Hey.
How are you doing?
It's dangerous for me.
To accept the love you give me.
It scares me.
What are you afraid of?
If you don't mind,
to hold me...
- I think you're gonna leave me.
- Is that what you think?
You're thinking,
I'm gonna leave you.
Let's go.
Let's go.
Can you tell me
about your first meeting?
It was in the summer.
At a party.
I came there
with a close friend of mine.
I wasn't doing well.
I was going through a divorce.
I've been too long
in a really bad relationship.
I had two small children,
who needed me all the time.
Hey. Hey.
I'll be right there.
I'll just say good night.
I've been working on some projects
and trying to apply myself.
And then suddenly he was there.
The funny thing was,
I felt like I knew him.
It's like I thought,
there you are.
Where have you been all this time?
I've never been with anyone
I've never felt this way about anyone.
- Hey. Hey.
- Hey. Hey.
I feel like I know you.
- I just feel like I know you.
- I see.
Okay.
For months, that's all I thought about,
how to get him.
I've been all over the place,
where I might run into him.
Could I have it?
That was not at all certain.
That's what everyone wants.
I had to prove it.
Otherwise, I would never have forgiven myself.
And so one night
we found ourselves in the same place.
He was single.
And he had a lot of friends.
I had kids.
And he loved them from the first moment.
So that's how it was.
Seven years later
Hello?
Yes.
I wrote the proposal yesterday.
Do you need that too?
Okay, I'll call you later, it's chaotic.
Get down.
Rejected.
Yeah...
Wait a minute.
Also denied.
Stop it.
Hey, can you call me?
You need to transfer the money,
there's nothing on the card.
Mikael, please stop.
Hey! Hey!
The light one,
or the one with the sequins?
I want to poop!
- Then go!
- You don't care.
Ludwig?
Can you clear out the dishwasher?
Why me?
Alma made the mess in the kitchen.
- Here, Stella.
- I'm hungry. What's for dinner?
- Dad's picking us up in 45 minutes.
- Teacher said we didn't turn this in.
Stella, not this.
- Mom, you're done...
- Alma, will you help him?
- Ugh, I'm not gonna wipe his ass.
- Oh, please.
- I don't have time. I have to pack.
- Just do as I say.
- Then I'll go without it.
- We'll find something, Ludwig.
You always say that.
I didn't have a hatch last time.
- Mom!
- See, he won't help.
- It stinks in there. Shit!
- Great, you're taking Stella.
You didn't come for them last weekend.
We had a tournament,
so it didn't work out.
You couldn't?
You'll have to talk to me about that.
The kids were waiting for you.
You can't do whatever you want,
and not answer the phone.
- Okay, you're ready.
- I'm gonna go get my headphones.
- Go away!
- I just want to talk to you.
I said, go away. Shut up!
I understand it's hard to see,
when your dad and I are fighting like this.
- Get out! - Get a grip, it hurts.
- I said, shut up!
- I didn't do anything.
- You're mean and annoying. Go away!
- That's enough! You can't...
- I hate you!
Dad, can I move in with you?
I can't stand it here anymore.
It's not out of the question.
- My little girl. Sweetheart.
- Your mouth stinks.
Bye, handsome.
Look into my eyes,
when we say goodbye.
Honey,
you're forty years old!
Come to Barcelona with me!
I love you.
- Hey. Hey.
- Hey. Hey.
I bought the kids wool underwear.
I hope they'll be good for them.
It was quite a chase.
- How are you?
- What would you say?
I think you can see that I'm bothered,
that you never come when you say you will.
I understand. We've overreached.
I didn't do anything about it.
You're not answering your phone.
My battery's dead.
That sucks.
You're amazing.
Did it go well?
Did you manage everything?
It went pretty well.
Really.
I've played with a few people before.
So it worked.
But the producer had
had a slightly different idea.
So we talked for a while.
I was pretty tired.
I was out of shape.
I don't usually sleep well in hotels,
so I was groggy.
It went on all day.
It was exhausting.
It must be exhausting.
Sleeping in a hotel and...
Oh, God,
it's great to be home again.
Wednesday was tough.
We couldn't think of anything. For hours...
Mikael was in trouble at school.
Again.
He threw a rock at the sophomore's window.
They've been asking us for two months
for a meeting.
But I said,
I had to wait for you.
- So that we can be there together.
- Okay.
We'll do it.
I'm glad you told me.
I love you.
- I don't like you.
- You don't?
That's stupid.
You're an idiot. You're leaving me here alone.
It's hell.
I should report you to the police.
Attempted murder.
I almost didn't make it out alive today.
And when I thought,
it couldn't get any worse
and finally made dinner,
the fire alarm went off.
You hung it so high,
I had to put three chairs on top of each other.
Unfortunately, in doing so.
seeing myself in the mirror.
And it was such a horrible sight,
you'd have thrown a bow.
I love you.
I love you.
Honey.
And then today
they threw the whole project on my head.
- Oh, no.
- Please don't say, but no.
I just can't do it.
You can't jump to conclusions
from one experiment.
Can you stop that?
I have nothing to offer them.
You can't think like that.
You've got a lot on your plate.
You're strong,
you care about the truth.
You could have taken the easy way out.
You didn't. That's why I love you.
You can do it, you have to believe in it.
Try to see it from a distance.
From a distance, you're always working,
and that means I can't do anything.
I can't do it if I'm always
all the kids. I'm exhausted.
I can't concentrate on work.
I'm cancelling an appointment this week
after another, for everything, for the dentist...
It's not working.
I can't concentrate on the job.
I'll be home for two weeks now,
so you can work.
Two weeks?
Are you kidding me?
We agreed,
that you'd quit traveling now.
- It wasn't fixed.
- It was. You took another job?
With your requests.
it wasn't a sure thing.
If anything works.
And we have to have some income.
- So you just assumed I couldn't do it?
- No, stop it.
I made it clear,
I don't want it this way!
I don't have time or space to breathe.
I can't do it this way.
You're not the only one working.
We need to find another solution.
I can't back out now.
It's in a fortnight.
I cancel things all the time.
So now you're just gonna do it.
That's completely unserious.
I'll never get a job again.
Well, at least you'll get to try it out,
how I feel.
Yes, I understand.
I'm glad to hear it.
Of course.
Sure.
That's a good idea.
Agreed.
I totally agree.
We really care.
I'm glad we're addressing this.
All right, then.
You're the one with the school
on the phone?
Yes, we appreciate it very much.
We do?
- We have to pull together.
- We're gonna do this together.
- I'll tell her. I'm sure she'll be happy.
- Can you put that down?
Great, we'll keep in touch.
I'm glad we talked it over.
- Can you hang up?
- We have a plan. See you later.
What the hell are you doing?
I'm talking to someone!
You dealt with them over the phone?
- Did he?
- And why not? They called themselves.
I thought you said we were putting it off
for too long and that we need to talk.
Yes, I did,
we need to talk.
That's why we've been putting it off,
because you've been gone for months.
I told you I was waiting for you,
so we could both be there.
- Don't you see how important this is?
- Is it really such a big deal?
I don't have to ask you
to ask me everything.
I've been putting it off for you.
But you don't give a damn about me.
Calm down. We made a deal,
someone from the community would review it.
Then it won't be up to us.
- Is this what you arranged?
- Yeah, I did.
You can't just arrange it,
if I'm not there.
He doesn't need to,
to be judged.
You have no idea what he needs right now.
Are you a complete moron?
Are you?
You just can't do this!
You can't march in here,
do this and not even ask me.
Why did you do it?
Can you answer me?
Why did you do it?
Don't you give a shit what I think?
Fuck you!
Stop it! Stop it!
Can't you see I'm trying to help you?
I'm trying to do something right.
I can't take this anymore!
Marie?
What is it?
That's not how it works.
What do you mean?
I can't.
Someone has to help you with the anger.
- Help?
- Yes.
Some sort of anger management course
or something.
I can't do this.
Neither did I.
- I'm serious.
- I'm serious, too.
I'm not taking an anger management course
I don't need an anger management course. But maybe you do?
The way you treat me,
is killing me.
My behavior?
It's your behavior that's killing me.
You're angry, too.
Look at you. You're furious.
You can't be serious. I'm supposed to be changing,
because you messed up?
Plus, you're at least as angry
as I am.
Hello?
Who wants yogurt?
- I'll do it!
- There you go.
Oh, no.
You see that?
Can you wipe it off?
Thank you. Thank you. That's a big help.
It's gotten a little muddy.
You want some milk?
Good morning.
There's coffee in the pot. Have some.
Mom!
- Mom!
- Stella!
- Mikael. We have to go.
- Okay.
Come on.
- Dad...
- Yeah. (Chuckles)
Let's go, Mikael.
Come on.
- Dad.
- Let's go.
I'm willing to work on myself.
You know that.
But I'm not going to accept
that you're not gonna be a part of this.
Wait for Dad.
Don't you want a divorce?
You want a divorce?
For God's sake, answer me.
Dad's coming.
- Who wants to go to bed?
- I...
You're gonna sleep here?
I have a headache.
I need to sleep.
- Can't we talk?
- I don't have time for this right now, Marie.
Can't we at least sleep together?
I gotta get my shit together.
I'm not feeling well.
I can't just change.
You know how tired I am.
I can't do it.
You'll wake the kids.
We'll talk about it tomorrow.
It's getting late.
- Have you met anyone else?
- Not at all.
So what's going on?
- What's going on?
- We'll talk tomorrow.
We need to get some sleep.
Please.
I can't stand this.
I can't stay here like this.
- Okay, no.
- No?
I'll leave.
Until you figure out what you want.
The kids will be with you.
- Okay.
- Okay?
Okay.
Is that a good solution in your opinion?
I'm leaving?
You came up with it.
If that's what you need, fine.
I just can't last in this house,
when it's like this.
I understand that.
Just do what's best for you.
So you're thinking,
this is the best thing for me?
Mikael,
do you think I'm very angry?
- No.
- Marie, leave him out of this.
- Mikael, does your mom seem upset?
- Stop it.
He would have told me,
if he thought he would.
Can you at least give me a hug?
I love you.
Oh, shit...
You're such a bastard.
Awful...
- Thank you. You're very kind.
- You're welcome.
- I'll call you. Good luck.
- Thank you. You too.
This is Sigmund. I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
I can't talk now.
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Give me a break.
- Hey. Hey.
- What are you doing here?
I just wanted to see you.
Why don't we grab a coffee?
Don't come in here.
It's embarrassing.
What's so embarrassing about that?
that I came to say hello?
Just go away, Mom!
Don't you see how much this hurts?
I'm just trying to be nice.
You don't have to talk to me like that.
You can at least give me a hug.
I don't want you to come here.
Is that so hard to understand?
Why not?
I never come here.
This is so horrible,
that anyone would stop by?
I never go to school with you.
I thought you'd be happy.
My God, this is embarrassing,
that your mother came to say hello.
- What an embarrassment!
- You're crazy, Mom.
Then go!
Just go! Help yourself!
Alma, I'm sorry. It was stupid.
It didn't work, I'm sorry.
This is Sigmund. I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
Hey, it's me.
I just wanted to know,
how you're doing.
And if you go into town tomorrow,
could you bring me some eczema cream?
It's on the top shelf in the bathroom,
on the left.
I'm very itchy.
More than normal.
I don't know what it is.
I can't sleep.
I think I'm gonna have to see a doctor.
You couldn't call me,
or text me?
I forgot to bring
socks and panties.
If you could take them from me, too.
Okay.
Good night.
Darling
I'm in a meeting right now.
I just found the blue panties.
I know you don't like them very much,
but there was a terrible sizzle this morning.
And this is the cream, right?
Have you figured out what you want?
I think we both need
a little time and space.
What's important to me right now
not to define anything.
- I have to get back there.
- But, uh...
You have to treat Mikael's wart.
Once a week.
- The solution is on the shelf in the bathroom.
- I already did.
And a thermos. When I washed it.
after a school trip, it stank.
You have to take it apart
and rinse it with boiling water.
- Okay, I'll do it.
- A...
I never got around to it,
to give you this.
You have to read it.
I haven't found a babysitter yet.
But I will.
Just so you know,
what's in store for us.
When we're together again.
The vacation's already paid for.
Then you can take someone else with you.
- I gotta get back.
- I was looking forward to working again.
But I can't do that in this situation.
And if I don't have a job to get
sick leave, I won't have any money.
Then you'll have to pay
all the bills.
Well, I should be getting back,
so I don't lose my job, too.
- I want to work so badly.
- I know, I know.
I don't understand why you're doing this.
I don't get it.
- We can't discuss it now.
- Am I not good enough for you anymore?
If I got better,
you wouldn't be doing this?
But I can't get better.
I can't do it.
I'm really trying.
I'm exhausted.
I sacrificed everything,
...everything I dreamed of.
- I'm a total piece of shit.
- Don't knock yourself out.
- I'm not worth anything.
- Please don't do this.
If I go on a course with people,
who beat up kids, or psychiatry,
so you want me?
Just tell me what to do!
I'm so horrible,
I don't even know this.
Look at me.
I'm going back inside.
You need to pull yourself together.
Talk to someone. It'll help you.
He won't leave you.
I don't believe that.
He just needs some space.
I don't know.
I have a feeling,
anything can happen.
It's like I don't know him anymore.
I don't know what he's up to.
Never a long relationship before you
he's never had one.
And then he met Dracula.
That was a bit of bad luck.
Seriously.
He doesn't have the experience you do.
With children and previous relationships.
- Did he have any prior relationships?
- Yeah, six months.
But a situation like this
he's never seen before.
When a man has to make an effort,
to make it work.
- I think you need therapy.
- But he doesn't want therapy.
He wants me to change.
He can't say that.
He'd have to say it
in front of a third person.
If he's so scared,
to expose himself to someone else,
she's definitely hiding something.
Has he ever been to therapy?
No, he hasn't.
Is he talking about it with his friends?
He doesn't air things out much.
Except with me.
If he really wants to leave you,
a mediator is mandatory.
When you have kids and you want a divorce.
- He might have nodded at that.
- That's the minimum.
- Maria and Sigmund?
- Yes.
Hello.
Come on in.
So Sigmund says,
he feels he has no space.
And that he feels trapped.
Am I getting this right?
Yes. It's killing me.
I don't know.
It's hard to make sense of it now.
Maybe that's why I need space.
You need space?
You're still working.
And I'm on my own.
I'm exhausted.
You've got plenty of room.
How can you say that?
We agreed that I would finally
to work and you'll fight the war at home.
You take the job anyway, I'll say,
to cancel it, and you want a divorce!
Where the hell are we?
I understand,
you have a lot on your mind, Marie.
But we can focus first
on you, Sigmund?
- Is that all right, Marie?
- It's fine. It's fine.
Why is it difficult for you to get space,
that you need?
That's not so easy to say.
Something else is private space
and it's another thing to work.
You have at least one of them,
I don't have any.
Maria interferes in everything,
she is everywhere.
I don't know how to explain it.
I don't feel good anywhere.
I don't have a way to get involved.
I don't have any space at home.
There's no room for anyone there now.
It's a really hectic time.
I'm starting to wonder,
what you're saying, Sigmund.
Why is it so hard for you
to make that space?
I don't know if it's hard.
But what do you mean?
That you're not getting that space?
We're always in conflict.
Especially when I'm trying,
to make space.
Are conflicts difficult for you?
Yes, they are exhausting.
You think it's just Maria's fault,
that you don't have enough space?
Or you can do something about it
yourself?
I don't know.
In fact, I don't know what to say right now.
There's so much anger,
I can't see clearly.
Sure, one gets angry,
when everything is still on him.
- That's not fair.
- I've got a lot on my plate, too.
I took care of your children
from a previous relationship.
That costs something, too.
Are we gonna count this too?
Of course I appreciate it,
what you're doing for the older kids.
But the fact that you came to us,
cost us something, too.
If I only had them now,
I'd have plenty of time and freedom.
We just have to survive this phase.
The kids are small,
we don't have a nanny.
We have no grandparents to help,
our finances are uncertain.
With four children
we need to stick together.
You can't get out of this,
when the going gets tough.
- I've been divorced once before...
- This is from winter break.
You taped it?
We can't leave,
if he's not wearing a jumpsuit!
It was the only thing
you were in charge of!
But you don't care!
You don't give a shit!
It's out of context.
You can't let it go like that.
Okay, okay, okay, okay. I think,
we don't have to hear it now.
Oh, my God.
You never get angry,
Sigmund?
No...
I don't know.
I'm sure you'll be angry,
when Marie is angry with you.
If you can't tell you're angry,
then maybe that's the problem, too.
But you understand,
that your anger is affecting him?
That's the distance.
I don't think if I go
an anger management course, it's gonna work itself out.
I understand it's hard for you,
defending yourself.
But it seems weird to me to withdraw,
to give you more space.
Now that you have more space
than I do.
We need to work this out together, and I'm
willing to go to therapy. Together.
I'm not ready for that yet.
We're running out of time soon,
so let's get some closure.
I would like to explain and summarize,
what stage we're in now.
Mary, you on this relationship,
you want to work on. Is that right?
And Sigmund,
what do you think now?
I'm not sure,
if I want to continue.
But you have to say something.
I can't live with this uncertainty.
You have to be able to tell if you want to
to try to fix it or not.
This is awful.
I have nothing to hold on to.
I can't leave my seat.
This is hard for Maria.
I understand.
He wants to come home
and put things right.
- Yes.
- Yes, I understand.
We could set a deadline,
by when you'll give Maria a clear answer?
All right, then.
What would you say.
A day or a week?
That would be good,
she wouldn't have to wait too long.
I can comment
in a few days.
Well done.
Until Wednesday evening, then?
Is that all right with you, Marie?
In any case, we'll meet here
on Thursday.
And let's talk some more,
what's next for you.
Together,
or separately.
I think it's important.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Are we done?
I think I got a call from work.
Would you mind helping me
with some personal information?
Sure.
He said he'd get back to me by today
by tonight, but so far, nothing.
I'm sure he'll answer you.
He normally keeps his promises, doesn't he?
Yeah.
Except for the marital one.
It's gonna be okay.
I'm just wondering...
I don't know.
What do you think he's gonna write?
Try not to think about it.
Breathe deeply.
Try to get some sleep.
He loves you. I know he loves you.
If he leaves you, he's a jerk.
And he's not.
I have to go to bed.
Couldn't you answer me?
I fell asleep with Stella.
I just e-mailed you.
Dear Mary,
First of all, I'd like to thank you
for all the great times we had together.
It meant a lot to me.
But you've got to prepare yourself,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
This is Sigmund. I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
Mom!
I can't stand this. I can't take it.
Get ready for this,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
Get ready for this,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
Get ready for this,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
Get ready for this,
I'm gonna walk away from this relationship.
This is Sigmund. I can't talk now.
Please leave a message.
I don't care if you don't answer.
I'm going home to get the kids.
Then go wherever you want.
I can do it without you.
But in front of the kids, they're already talking about you
I won't say a word.
I hope you're happy.
I'm not gonna be in this hole anymore.
I'm going home
and let's get this over with.
Kindly at least confirm,
that you received this message.
It's cool.
You can keep the kids.
What?
Did he really write that?
So...
Cool.
I'm so sorry,
that it's like this.
I'll just have to go through
a terrible hell.
I can handle it.
I've got a lot of work to do anyway.
I have to wash the bathroom
and send a few e-mails.
Should I come back later?
I'll take a toothbrush.
I might as well sleep here tonight.
You're too nice, but I can handle it.
No need.
- Are you sure?
- I'll be fine.
But if you change your mind,
you'd call me. Promise?
- Promise? I'll call.
- Okay, bye.
- Hello.
- Hello.
We have to wait for Sigmund.
He just texted me,
he's not coming.
- Did he write that? And why won't he come?
- He didn't write that.
Oh, shit.
But when we have time,
you might as well come in.
Alone?
Maybe you'll get something out of it.
Who knows?
Apparently it turned out a little differently,
than you expected.
I don't know why I'm sitting here,
if he needs me to.
He's just gonna get away with it
and do nothing?
He'll work his share,
whether he comes here or not.
But it's not important to you,
what he's doing now.
You have to take care of yourself now
and your own life.
You need to focus on that,
to get your affairs in order.
What you have inside you.
What do you mean,
what's inside me?
That's the big question.
We should focus on that,
what role do you think you play in this?
Me? He wants to leave.
You think I provoked this?
- Do you think so?
- I don't think so. I don't know what you mean.
So for this situation.
you're not responsible for this situation?
I guess so.
I guess I have a small part in it.
But that doesn't matter much now,
if he wants a divorce.
It's okay. It's okay.
Let's start with yours.
small share.
- Okay.
- You told me last time
that he came home from work
and he wanted to take another one right away.
And that he called the school,
without discussing it with you first.
And then suddenly he wanted a divorce.
Yes.
- Would you tell me again?
- I already told you.
Yes.
But try saying it again.
Tell me how he got home,
after being gone for six weeks.
I was so tired.
I filled the dishwasher.
And he just walked in the door.
And what happens when you see him?
How do you feel?
I'm glad to see him.
I love him. I can feel it.
And then?
He's happy.
He's coming to me, he wants to hug me.
I'll leave the dishes and go to him.
Give me a hug.
- Do you hug him too?
- Not for very long.
Don't you want to hug him?
Actually, no.
Why don't you want to hug him,
if you like seeing him so much?
- I don't know.
- And then what happens?
He's gonna start helping me with the dishes.
Are you missing anything?
If you stop hugging him,
what's he gonna do?
I don't know. Maybe he's a little
surprised or sad.
What about you?
I'll turn away.
In what way?
- I don't know.
- Why are you turning away like that?
I want him to feel bad.
Why do you want to,
to make him feel bad?
- I don't know.
- Because he did something?
- Yes, he left us.
- But that's what you agreed?
- Yes.
- And you agreed.
- Yes.
- Then why do you want him to feel bad?
I don't know.
And then what happens?
- He starts talking about work.
- Does he like sharing that with you?
- Yes. He's pleased. He's talking.
- And you?
I don't like it.
I want him to stop.
- Why?
- I don't know.
It just makes me uncomfortable.
So I'm gonna cut him off.
What do you say?
Mikael was in trouble at school.
Again.
You want him to feel
that Mikael's problems are his fault?
I know it's not his fault.
But you still want to,
to make him feel like he does.
- Yes.
- Why is that?
Because it happened while he was gone.
Because he wasn't here with me.
Do you think in that situation
he could have done something differently?
No.
But you still want to,
to make him feel guilty.
Yes.
Why?
Why do you want to,
to make him feel bad?
You can think of other situations,
where you wanted him to feel this way?
Try to remember the moments
when you acted like this.
Are you all right?
With pleasure
I know we'll be lucky
As long as I'm here.
I live with joy
I'm just an optimist
What's going on in this situation?
I don't want to dance,
because it doesn't make me feel good.
I feel stupid.
If he sees that I'm happy,
he'll laugh at me.
I don't want to fool around like this.
- Here, I'll do it.
- It's okay. It's okay.
It's not worth it.
You don't know what's whose anyway.
- I know. I'll do it.
- If you're the one doing the folding,
I have panties at Mikael's
and Ludvig gets Stella's pants.
You don't even know wool from cotton.
But I do.
Sit down. I'll do it.
No! You're not here forever.
You don't know what's whose.
Eventually, I have to do it myself.
It's just adding to my workload.
All right, then.
Whose is this?
- Yours?
- Yeah, mine.
Nice, Sigmund.
Check it out.
Am I out?
It's Mikaela.
What about this?
Those are Alma's pants.
It's pajamas.
Ludwig's pajamas. You see?
I think you knew
for quite some time that he was going to leave you.
I don't get it.
You've done so much for this relationship.
You're the vulnerable one.
He's the one who wants to leave.
Maybe I expected it,
because I know it from my childhood.
My dad left my mom.
I've been so scared ever since,
that subconsciously
I'm pushing him out of the relationship.
Why would you do that?
Maybe I'm somehow trying to make him
to keep it up.
You're trying to keep him
by pushing him away?
If she feels guilty,
he'll think,
I'm better than him.
And then he'll think,
she's lucky to have me.
And that he has to stay with me.
So I'm trying,
to make him feel worse than I do.
And he didn't figure it out,
how terrible I really am.
You've got to be kidding me.
You don't think so,
you're worse than him?
You're great.
I love you so much.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
That sweater bites terribly.
- He's very bitey. The sweater.
- Really?
All right, then.
You've always been afraid,
of the other person leaving you?
What's gonna happen,
if he leaves you?
I'm gonna die.
- Are you gonna die?
- Yes, I will. Or I'll disappear.
Why?
Because he'll take everything with him,
that is good in my life.
There's nothing left.
So if it's just you...
Isn't that good enough?
Anything that's good,
is tied to him?
In a way, yes.
In a way, he is it,
what's good about me.
Actually, I don't understand,
why she's with me.
But sooner or later
he'll figure it out.
If he has time,
to make room for himself.
Or to be with other people.
He'll see that he's much better
to be there than with me.
Hey. Hey.
My little girl.
You could have at least done your hair.
Hello.
There you are.
- Father's late, I hear.
- Yes, he did.
We want to talk about Alma today.
You've been really good this semester.
I was very impressed,
what you've done.
And in the classroom, you create a good
atmosphere.
You are kind, cheerful and caring.
And you turn in your assignments on time.
Have you seen her workbook?
It's very well done.
I didn't see that one.
Why didn't you show it to me?
I don't have to check her assignments.
She always gets everything right.
That's right.
Other parents complain
at class meetings.
How kids don't do their homework.
How he has to keep jerking them off.
I never chased you.
You do everything on your own.
You don't ask for help or advice.
It's great.
That's right.
Isn't this a little much for you, Alma?
I don't mind.
That'll be your father.
That's him.
Just a second. I'll get him.
- It's going great.
- Why are you talking about this?
- About what?
- That you don't follow the site. Can't you just shut up?
I was gonna say you're independent.
I'm not even allowed to praise you?
- Just don't talk about it anymore.
- It's the truth.
I've never been on that website.
I don't have to. You do what you gotta do.
Good for you. I'm sure it would have
exhausting.
- Come on.
- Why bother.
- Why do you say that?
- You're awful, Mom.
You don't understand anything. You want to,
...you want me to work hard and endure everything.
But I'm not like you.
You don't need anything from anyone.
You're fine with this,
but I'm not like you.
Hey. Hey.
I'll just summarize,
what we said here.
Alma is doing great
in her studies and in her team.
That's great.
Maria Kristin and Erlend live here.
I'm coming!
Hey. Hey.
Is that you?
I thought,
I'd stop by.
Mary.
How are you, little girl?
- But yeah...
- Come on in.
Luckily, you're strong
You are.
You're just like me.
You always have been.
Women in our family
can withstand almost anything.
Actually, I think about it a lot,
what strong women there are in our family.
Mom, me, you, Alma...
I often think about those years with my dad, too.
and the divorce.
Of course it was hard.
But I got through it. I did.
And you have the same power within you.
It's gonna be okay, Marie.
It's gonna be okay.
It will.
- I brought you this.
- What do you think it is?
Just a little present.
Nothing special.
There's a lot of paper on it.
It's a nice deal
right down the street. I know you like it.
- I see.
- Of course you can return it.
I wanted that taste you were talking about,
back in London. You remember?
- Really? I don't remember.
- Yeah, I don't remember.
You loved it.
You said so.
Okay, but you know what?
I stopped drinking black tea altogether.
It makes my teeth yellow.
That's no fun at my age.
You don't enjoy anything.
My neighbor
had her teeth whitened.
That seems to be the fashion now.
Teeth whitening.
I've got a lot of work to do today,
so this wasn't exactly the plan.
Neighbor's water leaked.
I had to help her with it.
Plus, I have a lot of stress
with the concert house tickets.
And Are is giving me this week
at least a hundred calls this week.
Because of the big anniversary
of our association.
- I see.
- Here's a list of what to do.
It's such a mess,
it's almost impossible to live here.
I wanted to put everything in the attic,
but nothing fits in there anymore.
And you took your stuff out of the attic
you didn't take your stuff out of the ground either.
- Everything's still lying there.
- I can take it away.
I'll believe it,
when I see it.
I can still have green tea.
This one's great.
And look at that cute little box.
She's cute.
Don't you want to sit in your seat?
We can switch.
I'd take your place.
Whatever.
But don't you want to sit down
to your old seat?
You always used to sit there.
Like a queen.
You always wanted to sit here.
So you wouldn't have to help.
And Erlend and I did everything.
We were jumping all over you.
And you sat like a princess
waiting to be served.
That was it.
Would you like a piece of caramel cheese?
- Oh, baby girl. You want some? I'll get the bread.
- No, I'll bring bread.
Why are you talking about the seat at the table?
What are you trying to say?
- About what?
- About just sitting here.
And you do everything for me.
That's just the way it was.
But why are you telling me now?
What are you trying to accomplish?
That was just fun.
You were happy to be waited on.
You were such a prima donna.
This is nothing new.
- You think that's funny?
- For God's sake, have a sense of humor.
Does everything have to be such a drama?
When you stop laughing,
you'll have nothing left.
Oh, baby girl.
I bought some at the deli next door
great cheese. Would you like some?
You're actually trying to tell me
that I asked too much of you?
Actually, I really
I felt a little like a maid.
- Sometimes. That's right.
- In what sense?
You were just like that.
It was hard to set boundaries.
You were actually quite demanding.
Really.
Let's take a look.
Mom?
- Mum.
- Yes, I am. What is it again?
I don't think he's doing you any good,
when you give me things.
What do you mean?
I do nothing but give.
I've been alone with you all these years.
In case you didn't notice what I gave you,
I'm really surprised.
- I'm not saying you didn't give me anything.
- I didn't. So what do you say?
I was all alone with you two.
When Dad ran away.
Drunk and desperate.
Every night I'm in the kitchen
crying from exhaustion.
I know that.
I was so unhappy then.
It was a bad dream.
I can't start thinking about it.
I wouldn't do anything today.
That's for sure.
I'm not,
you didn't give anything.
- No?
- I said...
that I don't think he's doing you any good,
when you give me things.
- What do you mean, please?
- That it doesn't make you feel good to give something.
It's not even good for you
to get something.
- Like the tea I gave you.
- You did?
I don't think you were happy,
that you got it from me.
What are you talking about?
I was so happy.
- Really?
- Yes, it was.
- And how did you make that clear?
- I hate these interrogations.
That's what I hate about you.
Now you're telling me you don't like me.
That you hate me in a way.
- Stop it.
- It's like you've been mad at me forever.
It's like you want me to be gone.
So I wouldn't feel good.
Like you want to,
to make me feel miserable.
Maybe you felt this anger
towards your dad, too.
Before he died, he said you laughed at him
and that it made him uncomfortable.
- It was still good, though.
- He's got something to say!
Maybe you wouldn't,
if you knew what you were doing.
Watch your mouth,
Marie!
Be so kind!
It sounds to me like you want to,
to make me feel bad.
I wish you'd ever thought
for others.
But you never cared about that.
It's always me, me, me!
When you came in today, I was thinking:
"That's so sweet.
Maybe he'll ask me: How are you?
Aren't you tired? Do you need help?"
Oh, no, you don't.
Your brother did.
He's gentle and caring.
When you were little, he used to cover me,
when I was tired.
You've never done anything like this.
You're not like that.
Can't you see that you're thinking of me
you don't want to remember anything good about me?
You don't want what I'm giving you.
I must never make you happy.
Why you could never trust
that I had something good in me?
I wish you the best.
That I'm not evil,
that I have a good heart.
Like I'm not good enough for you,
no matter what I do.
I realized I was living with a voice,
telling me I'm terrible.
And useless.
It hangs deep in my chest.
Okay, okay, okay, okay.
And that's my fault, too?
I'm not saying it's your fault, Mom.
But maybe...
I don't think I can take it anymore, Marie.
I'm exhausted.
I was so glad when you came.
But you only came to criticize me.
I'm only human.
I'm not a machine and I can't stand everything.
I'm gonna go for a walk.
When you've finished eating, you can leave.
I can't take that much criticism.
Maybe others around you do,
but I don't.
How are you doing?
Pretty good.
I've been thinking about it,
what we discussed the other day.
That you feel like the bad guy.
The one who can't give.
That must be painful for you.
It's not that... painful.
It's...
It's okay.
Oh?
A lot of people are on it
a lot worse off than me.
But that doesn't mean
that it doesn't hurt you, too.
I don't think I can make it tonight.
talk so much today.
I didn't sleep at all.
I'm so...
- Tired.
- I'm fine. I'm fine.
- Do you want to quit?
- I'm so tired I can't think.
- I think I need to rest.
- You can rest here.
I got the couch right here.
Do you want to lie down?
- I can't do that.
- Why not?
- That would be weird, wouldn't it?
- It's up to you, of course.
You're here at work.
I'm sure you don't want to waste your time.
It would spoil
a whole day's work.
Yes, but I'm taking the time
I want to spend with you now.
If you need to rest,
I'd be happy to let you.
Will you accept this from me?
You're tired.
And what you need is here.
You can rest here with me.
If you want.
Okay.
That's caring.
That was very nice.
I'll sit here with you.
There's no need for that.
I'm sure you've got plenty of work to do.
Don't worry about me.
I'll be better soon.
I'm not going anywhere.
I can sit here and watch you.
Or I can look out the window.
But I'll keep an eye on you.
I'm glad,
I'm glad to have the opportunity.
Damn...
I'm just tired.
No wonder.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry,
I'm just really tired.
It's okay.
He's normal,
for you to feel this way, Marie.
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
I don't know what's wrong with me.
I haven't slept at all.
I'm not normally like this.
I don't know...
You're such an idiot.
A terrible fool...
You're an idiot.
I hate you.
You're terrible.
I hate you.
You're...
You're...
You're... completely fine.
You're...
You're a good man.
I couldn't tell you before.
Because...
I felt miserable.
My little girl.
You have a good heart.
You deserve...
You deserve love.
You can have it.
You're amazing.
You're... amazing.
He's fine,
that you need love.
You're amazing.
I love you.
I love you.
Hey! Hey!
Hey! Hey!
Baby girl!
Come here.
Hey. Hey.
Hey. Hey.
Hey. Hey.
You're completely stupid.
You know I think you're stupid?
Yeah, I know.
You're always tired and saying
you have important work to do in Oslo.
But you don't have a job.
You're a total loser.
You shouldn't have had kids in the first place.
I want to move in with my dad.
It's much better there.
He's good.
Not as bad as you.
It's okay,
that you want it.
I understand,
you want this.
- Mum.
- Alma.
My little girl.
He's normal,
for you to feel this way.
This place is closed,
so we gotta find something else.
Over there?
Hello.
I'll just have a soda and a coffee.
Cappuccino.
Me too.
I don't really have much to say.
You wanted to meet.
But tell me what you need.
I'll listen.
I might cry.
But that's not why,
because I'm sad right now.
And I don't want you to feel guilty,
when I talk.
I want you to know,
that if you want to leave,
you can.
You don't have to feel bad.
If that's what it is,
what you need,
you should do it.
You don't have to worry,
I'm not gonna make it.
Because I can handle it.
I can handle it.
Lately, I've realized
how scared I've been.
I was so scared,
that you were going to leave me.
And it was so hard for me to say.
You.
I was so scared,
I was afraid of being alone with myself.
That I hated so much.
I just want to apologize.
That I didn't believe
that you cared about me.
And she made you feel guilty.
For criticizing you.
And she hung up on you.
It's vitally important to me...
to get this straightened out somehow.
In a way it is,
what happened is actually a gift.
I wish I could,
to be together.
But now I understand...
That I don't want to...
I don't want it,
if you don't want it.
If we're not together...
It's okay, too.
I can still live a good life.
Without you.
Thank you.
You're welcome.
Well, I'll have to figure that out
my own problems.
But I understand,
that we're in this together.
And that I have to deal
with my share.
I also know I didn't tell you
what I really need.
I think it was dangerous,
for me to feel what I need to feel.
- I have to go.
- Okay, okay.
Okay.
- Well, hello.
- Hi. Hi.
Hey. Hey.
Hey. Hey.
How are you doing?
It's dangerous for me.
To accept the love you give me.
It scares me.
What are you afraid of?
If you don't mind,
to hold me...
- I think you're gonna leave me.
- Is that what you think?
You're thinking,
I'm gonna leave you.
Let's go.
Let's go.