Planet Sex with Cara Delevingne (2022) s01e01 Episode Script
The Orgasm Gap
1
Hey, sexy sirens. Welcome to Scott Club.
Okay, I really wasn't expecting this.
Three, two, one, go!
A trio of lusty ladies licking
tequila shots off my body
in a sex club.
I know it looks pretty steamy,
but I am doing this for science.
I'm trying to get the
low-down on female sexuality.
This is the land of clits.
The land of clits!
Why is the female sex
drive still such a mystery?
This is something I
call the Pussy Sandwich.
If this was inside of you,
this is not that big, obviously.
It's almost like it's this.
I know from my own love life
just how sexual women can be.
So why do straight women
seem to have less free
and fulfilling sex lives than men?
And what can we do about it?
Just try to tease your hole.
You want the pussy to, like, want
that finger and welcome it in.
Strap on and get ready
for some eye-opening stuff.
And no, that is not my orgasm face.
It would be good if you
start masturbating now.
Is that good?
Take one, all right.
Are women as horny as men?
I am horny I don't know!
I do think women are less
able and are less accepted
to speak about how horny they are.
I think female sexual
desire has been repressed.
It's interesting to be able
to talk about all these things
and the discovery of the female orgasm.
I've always wanted to learn about
it, and I'm sure many others too.
So let's start with the basics.
How do females orgasm? And
is it different for males?
I'm in Germany where scientists
are making new discoveries
about the big O.
And I'm down for playing guinea
pig in the wildest experiment.
We are about to go into
a university hospital
where I'm going to masturbate.
Yep, I'm here to have an
orgasm and donate it to science.
Husband and wife team Johannes
Fuß and Sarah Biedermann
studied the chemical changes
in our brains when we cum.
Of course they do.
We realized that there
is not much going on
in the whole field of sex research.
There are a lot of people
doing neuroscience in the field
but there's not so much
exploring of sexuality.
We're assessing neurobiological factors
like chemicals in the brain
and how does the body react
to sexual stimuli.
What I want to know is,
what exactly makes us feel so
good when we get our rocks off?
- Oh, it is pleasant.
- Intimate setting.
There's a bed. It's like a hotel room.
You can have a shower.
I will leave the room and
then I would ask you masturbate
for at least ten minutes.
At least? That's a nice amount of time.
If you take longer, that's no problem.
I'm not looking at
you because I'm scared.
- You don't
- I'm bad at blood.
Before I get down to
some solo sexy time,
I need to give a blood sample.
It's coming out!
Once I hit the big O,
Sarah and Johannes will
take another sample to see
what's changed in my blood.
Good. Cara, when you climax,
you will just blow the whistle.
Oh, yay. I should
always have that whistle.
- I will give this to you, and
- Thank you.
I will come in and
take blood very quickly.
Can I let myself settle for a
minute, or should I just be like,
"Orgasm! Blow whistle!"
It would be good if you
start masturbating now.
And in case I need extra help, sex toys.
Talk about German efficiency.
I have had some weird
sexual experiences,
but this is definitely up there.
- So!
- I'm okay.
- I'll take your blood now.
- Oh!
Masturbation!
Run, Johannes, run!
That blood contains all
the secrets of my climax.
Luckily, this man can pipet like a pro
and is back with the results
before I can say "Ubergasm".
- Hi, welcome back.
- Oh, my gosh.
So tell me, what did you
find? What's in there?
We processed your blood and we found
that it produced endocannabinoids.
Endocannabinoids are basically
your body's own version of cannabis.
- That's what it sounded like. Wow.
- Yeah, exactly.
That's why I felt dopey.
Is it like cannabis?
The body is producing it's
own cannabis-like substance.
- Wow.
- And it makes you kind of high
after masturbation.
And just like cannabinoid
chemicals in plants,
endo-cannabinoids in our
bodies can be a brilliant upper.
A bit like that feeling after a workout
or a runner's high.
Does that happen to everyone?
We know from research that
roughly 80 percent of people
had such an increase
of endo-cannabinoids
after masturbation to orgasm.
- Is it men and women? Both have
- Yeah.
We think that's why sex feels so good.
I feel fantastic.
What a great journey! Thank you, guys.
- Thank you for participating.
- Heroes of sex!
Heroes of sex!
Wow! Orgasm produce endo-cannabinoids.
That is hot news!
And even better, Sarah
and Johannes found
that males and females
can both hit the same high.
So it stands to reason
that men and women
should be having equally
mind-blowing sex, right?
Well, prepare for a shock.
I came across a very interesting study
that said that 95 percent of
straight men orgasm during sex.
But only 65 percent of straight
women orgasm during sex.
I think that number is very high
and most women I've
asked also agree with me.
They say it's probably more
around ten, 15, 20 percent,
but again, who knows?
This tragic state of affairs
is called the Orgasm Gap.
And for the benefit of
people with vaginas and clits,
I want to know how to close it.
Wish me luck!
I'm using a lot of
different terms in this film.
But whether you identify
as a woman or non-binary,
own a vulva or a clit,
we're talking about you.
And for decades, thanks to
prudish and patriarchal attitudes,
you've been missing out on pleasure.
We look back on times when
we used to wear corsets
and showing an ankle was
something like female flirting.
It's come a long way since then.
I still always felt a lot
of shame about being a woman.
Shame about my vagina,
and to kind of put
shame in female sexuality
is really dangerous.
In many countries worldwide,
talking about female
sexuality is still taboo,
including here, in Lebanon.
There's definitely one thing
that unites all Arab countries
the culture of shame
regarding the female body.
It's very deeply embedded.
Women grow up with a fear around sex.
Sura and Hala have
agreed to speak to us
anonymously.
We always say, women are expected
to be very sexually attractive
but not sexually active.
You're not the one in
control of your own body
who gets to call the shots.
Society does, culture does.
And so that causes women
to totally disassociate
from their own bodies.
These two women are
bringing much-needed change
by starting a sexual
wellness brand called Mauj.
Who's reading the video chart?
Openly encouraging female
pleasure without getting shut down
is a massive challenge.
So Mauj created a video series where
the most intimate of women stories
are read out by
volunteers, called Hakuatis.
Hakuati means storyteller in Arabic.
This was typically a role that
only men used to play in society.
So we came up with the idea of
flipping Hakuatia into the feminine.
I felt cold, so he put his
arms around me to warm me up.
Suddenly he grabbed my hand
and put it on his penis.
We really wanted to find a way
to start to share women's stories
when it came to everything
related to their body, sexuality,
masturbation, and sexual pleasure.
If they speak up, there's a risk
that their families might hurt them.
I've always been an
advocate for women's rights.
This was an opportunity
for me to publicly speak up
about a cause I believe in.
Warmth and wetness.
My fingers kept moving,
in and out, around.
I opened my legs wider as
my fingers hit that spot.
It's harder for them to hear stories
that celebrate pleasure and orgasm.
There's still this shame of, like,
"I don't necessarily want
to be associated with that."
They're still not yet at the
level of public discourse as easy
as some of the stories around pain.
Mauj is dedicated to helping
de-stigmatize female sexuality.
It's very difficult to find
pleasure products in the Arab world.
You can't buy a vibrator.
They created a new device called Deem.
What's really special about Deem is
that it is the first product of its kind
designed by and for Arab women.
But breaking taboos can be risky.
So being discrete is
incredibly important.
We wanted Deem to be accessible
and available to every woman,
even women practicing
their religious belief
of not engaging in any
penetration before marriage.
We get asked a lot why our first
product is a pleasure product.
And our answer is,
"Because what's more taboo
than female pleasure?"
Taboos around female sexuality
exist in many more places worldwide.
And that, lovely people,
is holding women back.
I'm in Japan where it's
actually against the law
to show female genitalia.
Step up radical artist Rokudenashiko.
Or should that be, paddler?
In 2014, she decided to
challenge Japanese censorship
around female sexuality
by creating a canoe
modeled on her own vulva.
As you do.
- Hello.
- Hello.
- Nice to meet you.
- Thank you so much.
So That's so cool! Oh, my gosh!
I really want to row in
the vagina canoe, though.
Rokudenashiko's also
been rocking the boat
with her vag-tastic miniatures.
Is this a real mold of a vagina?
- My vagina.
- That's your vagina!
Now I understand, yes.
Why did you start making vagina art?
Pussy is a very taboo subject in Japan,
and I'm trying to change that
perception and make it more fun.
When my art was featured on a news site
I received a lot of backlash.
I was told, "Vaginas
are dirty and smelly,
don't make things like that."
- Crazy. Crazy!
- Crazy!
Originally, in Japan, a lot
of mythology featured pussies
and no one was bothered by it.
Western Christian culture
arrived, sex became taboo.
Now images of vaginas are censored,
as if it's something you shouldn't see.
If someone sees this work
and laughs at how silly it is
I hope to give people the
opportunity to question
why pussies are forbidden.
But it wasn't much of a laugh
when Rokodenashiko was arrested
for breaking Japan's obscenity laws.
Luckily she didn't have to go to prison
but had to pay a pretty hefty
fine of nearly 4,000 Dollars.
You're very inspiring. What
you're doing is amazing.
Yay!
Let's disrupt the
patriarchy! Whoo! Okay, cool.
Today I'm going to make my own vag art.
Okay. Now let's make a mold of a pussy.
Step one, whip up some clay.
I can see why you have nice arms now.
Yay.
See you later!
What? Surely you didn't think I
was going to show you that bit.
- I'll start!
- Do you want to hold it?
Stop looking at it!
What? I get really nervous! My vagina
Oh, my God!
Very cute!
Very pretty!
- Oh, my God! I'm gonna cry!
- Very nice.
It's done!
So, I've made the mold
with help, of course.
It was successful, I hope.
It was a bit of cracking, but, you know?
Now for a bit of vagazzeling.
I never thought I
would do this. For sure.
You don't usually face
your pussy, do you?
I can eat dinner having my
own pussy in front of me.
This is so fun. I'm so glad I did this.
It's really sweet, I love it.
I'm really proud of what I made.
So, wanna know which
plaster master piece is mine?
Is it the moon landing?
The sandy bottom beach sea?
Or the golf course? Hole in one!
Sorry to let you down, but
you're never gonna know.
I admire Rokudenashiko's openness,
but my privates stay private.
So what does that say about me?
I feel, as a model, as
someone who sells their image,
my vagina is the one
private thing I have.
That's the thing that I decide
who sees it, when, how, why.
- But I thank you so much
- Thank you for what?
For what you've done! I'm
gonna tell people about your art
and spread the message
of vagina positivity.
So much fun! I had so much
fun with my vagina today.
I mean, this job really
suits me perfectly,
because the things I
get to do are just so me.
Best time ever!
She's trying to spread
a selfless message
of people, and women
specifically, to love themselves
from something that has
put so much shame on.
And that is seen as a criminal offense?
It's mind-blowing.
Culture has a lot to answer for.
Shame, taboo, even prison.
It's all about control.
But that's not the only reason
women of the world aren't
getting their kicks.
A vital part of our anatomy
has been rudely overlooked.
Until just a few decades ago,
people thought the clitoris was
this tiny, tricky to access button,
hard to stimulate and generally
less of a big deal than the penis.
Nearly 30 years after
the moon landings
It's one small step for man
the clitoris was finally
mapped in 1998 by a woman.
And what a revelation
that was! It's massive,
with three times more
nerves than the penis.
It's time the clitoris was given
the recognition it deserves.
Meet New Yorker Sophia
who is on what she calls,
"a Cliteracy campaign".
Cliteracy is my attempt to blast
the clitoris into public awareness.
Using large scale,
using text, using neon.
It all began when she found out
that her grandma, a mother of five,
had never once had an orgasm.
People with clits are
having not a lot of orgasms,
whether its their clits
being externally excised
or its being shamed, the clit
has this ability for pleasure,
and it's not getting that.
So I thought, "Someone needs
to call bullshit on this."
I put a lot of attention
into how I design the clits
because I feel like that's
the most important part.
I mean, it feels good, it's beautiful,
and also to see, and not
to look closely at it.
There are very few depictions
of it that are actually specific,
it's usually just this
round sort of blob.
But if you actually look closely
at the glands, it is a shape,
and it's also very
diverse, person to person.
All this knowledge
about the mysterious clit
is just blowing my mind.
It's about time I saw
it in all its glory.
This is the land of clits.
The land of clits!
My focus is drawn straight to the booty.
So these are these porcelain
sculptures that I made
in order to honor this part of the body
that is often so shamed.
And I just think,
everyone should be a, like,
in awe of how amazing clits are
but also being drawn to the glands
because there's a ton of nerves.
There's 8,000 nerves
here. This part activates
and then everything else engorges
- This is erectile tissue.
- Wow.
Basically the same amount of
erectile tissue as the penis.
Also, we wake up with morning wood.
We don't even have words
for a clit erection.
- Crazy, huh?
- That's true.
Like, when you wake up, but
you call it morning wood?
- You call it that?
- We should make new words.
If this was inside of me
This is obviously not that big.
It's almost like this
orientation, which is really funny,
but it's just so we understand it.
It's so confusing because it's
never been drawn in its anatomy.
I will always draw
penises on things as a joke
because I think it's funny
and I'm really bad at drawing.
But it's so true. I would
never draw a vagina, you know?
I'm just drawing a penis comic.
Wohoo, that's funny! It's not.
Well, we're taught to think
that penises are hilarious
and, like, cool.
A clit is just, like, "Oh,
you can't find it, ha, ha!"
You know, having sex with other women
where I realize how much more
sensitive women are than they think.
When you take your time and
you are super slow and soft,
you see how much more nerves
there are than in the penis.
It's crazy. It's a beautiful organ.
Exactly. I mean, my son is 19 months old
and he will never not know what
a clit is. I'm proud about that.
- You know what I'm saying?
- Yes!
A huge part of the so-called orgasm gap
is that women have been told to
keep silent about their sexuality.
But I do think things are changing.
- Is it just on or off?
- It has two speeds.
Fast and faster.
- It's just really like
- Okay, we'll plug it in.
I'll show you.
PENDA N'DIAYE FOUNDER, PRO HOE
Penda N'diaye brings women together
to share the secrets of pleasure,
especially within black communities.
So, as much as I love a bit of sex talk,
I'm respectfully sitting this one out.
Black women in particular are undergoing
this incredible revolution right now.
And I think sexual identity is
a huge part of that revolution,
knowing what feels good and
not accepting anything less.
Today, the women are
giving their inside stories
on some homework pender set
to test drive a bunch of new sex toys.
Once you understand the
capacity of your pleasure,
you can use that to inform who we are
and not silencing ourselves.
So I'm really glad that all of
you are joining me in this journey
of pleasure and feeling good,
and you're down for the sex toys
that are here.
My mom gave me my first
vibrator for Christmas.
She's like, "I don't need to now
what you're doing or with whom,
just as long as you're getting it in."
It's honestly just having
conversations with a lot of women
who have never had orgasms.
Sometimes I'm still like, "Wow."
And if you thought you
didn't need a sex toy
well, listen and learn.
- I'm Shadae.
- Hey, everyone.
Hey, this is Shadae's
first sex toy experience.
- You popped the cherries.
- Yes.
How do your partners feel about
you bringing toys into the room?
I was always in my mind thinking
that men may find it
a little intimidating.
There's something so powerful
about being able to please yourself
- without anyone else.
- Right.
First time using it, I was like,
"Damn, this feels so much easier."
And I felt like I had more
control over my orgasms.
Now I know what I need
whereas before, so often
in my sex experiences,
I relied on men.
Today I got liberated.
It felt really freeing to
have that type of discourse
among women that look like me
and that remind me of myself.
I'm Lisa. For me it's exploring
different types of toys
with my partner and then even going
shopping for toys with my partner
to create that ease.
I had the Double Trouble.
And I got to do it with my partner.
And, you know, he would hold it and
I was able to have three orgasms,
- like, back to back to back.
- Yeah.
Growing up as a black girl,
being told not to do things,
you know, we're being limited.
Sexual pleasure is for ultimate freedom.
I feel like I've been able
to be my complete self,
including my sexuality, with my partner.
I'm not used to using
vibrators internally,
- it's more like, clit.
- Yes.
I had an amazing, magical orgasm,
and I pulled it out and looked
at it, and I was like, "Wow!"
This is the way.
It was interesting to see
because I'm used to seeing it
on a dick, I'm not used to
- Or penis.
- Yeah.
There's times when I'm
like, "I'm gonna pee myself."
But I just had to squirt.
So my orgasms are
getting better as I age.
I can't wait to see how
they are in the future.
It's no secret I do love a sex toy,
because honestly, if you're
waiting for someone else
to give you a hand,
it can all be a bit touch and go.
Love you guys so much.
Master interview, take two.
For me, the earliest ideas I ever
got towards sex were, you know,
man plus woman, dick
plus vagina equals orgasm.
I don't want to go into the
art of making a woman cum,
but it's just a lot more
complicated and a lot more fun.
I do feel that generally men are
not equipped with the right tools
to be able to handle
women, especially sexually.
I mean, I get it.
It's a lot more complicated
for a woman to have to tell you,
"You're not doing it right. Sit
down and listen to what I say."
It's an ego killer which
most men can't handle.
Look, I might be unfair
to single men here,
so let's make sure I'm
not missing anything
by getting a 101 on the
power packed in our pants.
Sexpert Marieke Dewitte will love
to get into the juicy details.
Let's start off with a casual question.
Is there any difference between
the male and female orgasm?
Why is the gap so big?
We know that men and women
do not differ in the capacity
to reach orgasm, to experience pleasure,
but only a few women,
less than 30 percent,
can actually climax via penetration
and that's often where it goes wrong.
We don't get the right stimulation.
The clitoris is the female sex organ,
not the vagina. The
vagina is a birth channel.
- Drop the mic right there!
- Yeah, exactly!
I mean, it is much less
sensitive than the clitoris
which is a good thing
or giving childbirth would be horrible.
- Oh, my God!
- It would be the end of humanity.
So the idea that women have less
sexual desire than men is wrong.
They just don't get the
right sexual stimulation.
Physically, the duration of
an orgasm is really short.
It takes about 20, 25 seconds in women
and about five to 25 seconds in men.
And in general, it takes longer
for women to reach orgasm.
For some women, actually, if
you continue to stimulate them,
they also continue to climax,
so that's why women can
have multiple orgasms.
The clitoris is actually a small penis.
It includes the glands and the forehead,
it gets swollen during arousal.
So, in a way, women have on the inside
what men have on the outside.
Most women know that the clitoris
obviously needs to be stimulated
but do they think that penetrative
sex is it that will make them
Well, we maybe have sex in a way
that fits the male sexual script.
For a long time
sex has been studied from
a biological perspective.
Biologists study sex as reproduction.
So we know a lot about
the penis and so on
- because that's for reproduction.
- That's the one giving the juice.
If we think about the female orgasm
and the female sexual response,
there's so much we don't know yet
because we constantly have this
male gaze looking at sexuality.
- Totally.
- But it's also about
focusing on your own sexual pleasure.
And that's also something
that is difficult for women
because we're socialized to prioritize
the pleasure of the partner.
Women, remember those words!
Put your own pleasure first!
Actually, I am something
of an expert in that.
One of my earliest
memories is masturbating,
but I didn't know it
was anything sexual.
It was just, "This feels good!
Why would I not touch there
to feel better about life?"
It just made sense.
But I do think that
there's just a lot more fear
about talking about
women touching themselves.
But just because I think men
can go around and be like,
"Yeah, I just came
nine times today, bro!
I can't even walk!" And
they're like, "Sick!"
"Well, I touch myself."
They're like, "Gross."
Ah, the "m" word! Masturbation.
Probably one of the
best things we can do
to get that orgasm count up for women.
Knowing what feels good can make it
a lot easier to tell someone else.
So I'm on my way to, wait for
it, a group masturbation class.
Only in New York. I mean,
at this point, why not?
I'm Lola Jean, and I am a sex educator.
I like to call it
A masturbation class if more of
like a yolk class for your bits.
Sitting in a room full of women
I'm not gonna lie, I
sat next to my friend
and masturbated next to
each other, but that's it.
I'm terrified.
- Hello.
- Hi.
- So you're here for the workshop?
- Oh, yes.
If not, we're all in
for a little surprise.
- This is like my house!
- Oh, really?
- Is anyone nervous?
- Yeah.
I'm very curious, and if
there's anything I can learn
and feel less shame about having
a vagina, that would be great.
Okay, so how many of you have
been masturbating the same way
since you were, like, seven,
or whenever you started?
- No.
- Definitely.
- The same way?
- Yeah, doing the same thing.
Like humping your pillow,
humping your hand
I've only once spent really an hour
really making love to myself,
like touching every part
of my body, like, I cried.
That's the thing, nothing
is weird or abnormal,
because if you know your button,
oh, my God, you know your thing!
That's amazing to have, and maybe
there's more buttons to figure out.
We're trying to find
different pathways to pleasure.
This is my vulva, but
not my actual vulva
because its eerily and bright red.
So, there's something I
call the pussy sandwich,
and that's where you're gonna
take the outer and inner labia
between your index
finger and your thumb.
The chopsticking of the clitoris
is when you're gonna take
an inverted peace sign and it's
going to go on the inner labia.
So knuckling is something
that's gonna look like drumming,
but it's going to be with our knuckles.
and we can do that kind
of around the inner labia.
This one is called the motorcycle rub.
So you're two middle fingers,
your middle finger and your ring
will be inside of the vagina and
you're gonna rub the motorcycle.
There's one that we're gonna go
back to a lot and change it up,
and that's going from the
bottom of the vulva to the top.
Looks nice with my pants.
Really goes well.
I'm gonna get so self-conscious
because in my mind I'm like, "I
just want the lights to be off."
- Can you
- Or my face to be covered.
Despite the safe space,
I still feel like I need to wear a mask.
Close your eyes and take
a few breaths in and out.
And now we're gonna
make a pussy sandwich.
Masturbation is just another
healthy part of our life,
and there's so much we can gain from
it that actually has nothing to do
with pleasure or
orgasm. It can be stress,
to relieve cramps or a headache.
And as soon as we start
removing that stigma,
the dirtiness, and the same,
the more we can start enjoying
the actual benefits of masturbation
instead of trying to assign
morality to what it means.
Look, I revved, chopsticked and
sandwiched for a full-on hour
and it was kind of sexy, but
it also felt weird for me.
And what I definitely
didn't do was orgasm.
Yet somehow I feel utterly changed.
It is a very brave thing to
come to a class and masturbate
with a group of strangers.
What was that like?
It's the bravest thing I've ever done.
I liked the normalizing aspect and
that we're all just laying here,
it was just much more
exploratory, it felt really safe.
I've never masturbated
in front of anyone ever
apart from when I did
it in bed with my friend.
I can't believe that I did it.
But I haven't actually used my hand
to touch myself in so long.
Because, again, I feel really,
like, so much shame around my vagina.
"My vagina is not like
other girls I've slept with."
You masturbated in front
of people and you survived.
It's like, "Oh, that's nice,
it's actually quite soft!
Oh, my God, I feel great, I feel nice."
- Thank you.
- Absolutely.
Take what you learned here,
go home, be by yourself.
Be in an area that's comfortable for you
and continue to explore
and do these things.
I think I'm learning a lot from
everyone I've met so far, for sure.
It's making me be a lot more
open in my own personal life.
In my mind, the most
important thing about life
is connections with other humans,
and I haven't even begun to have
enough conversations like this
with enough people.
But we can learn so
much from each other.
Sexuality! Yes.
Here we are, heading for
the climax of my journey
to understand women's sexuality
and unlock female pleasure.
I've already put myself
out there like never before
but tonight I'm going all the way.
I'm off to a women-only sex party
to see what happens when everyone's
free to explore their raw sexuality
with no inhibitions.
And more importantly, no men.
We've got lots of newbies tonight.
Always at least over 80
percent are first-timers.
So keep your eyes peeled for anyone
that looks a little bit unsure.
After everything I've learned, am
I brave enough to shed the shame
and put my sexual desires
out there in public?
I'm not gonna lie, I'm pretty nervous,
so I've asked my
friend Elena to join me.
When we were talking
about it, she was like,
"Yeah, I'd be so down for watching
women get off with each other
but I would be a bit more awkward."
There is that one three-way
with another girl and guy,
but that was really it.
That was my one brush.
That's my most straight friend.
Financial advisor Genevieve
set up Skirt Club in 2014
to host sex parties for women.
It now has 18,000 members
in cities all over the world.
Nice to meet you,
darling, how are you doing?
- Pleasure! Nice to meet you.
- How are you doing?
Welcome to Skirt Club.
Consent is a huge thing.
And remember, like you, a lot of
women are here for the first time.
So they're nervous, okay?
They may not have ever
kissed a woman before.
Some women here are straight,
some gay, some bi, some pan.
But most are just curious and horny.
- What's your name?
- I'm Bella.
- I love that!
- Yeah? You're welcome.
Okay, sexy sirens,
welcome to Skirt Club.
We believe in the power
of the feminine here.
Skirt Club is a safe space for
you to explore all of your desires.
We're gonna take good care of
you. Your pleasure is paramount.
That is the key to the gate to heaven.
- Yeah!
- Welcome!
If you do feel uncomfortable,
I'm the consent fairy,
so come and find me.
Please make sure to be safe,
have conscious communication
with each other.
If it's not a "hell, yes," it's a no.
I appreciate the fact that every
single person that's showed up
is gorgeous in every
way, shape, or form.
We're all here for the same
purpose. To enjoy each other.
So, good people, this
is just a little taste
of what women can get up to
when they've let go of shame,
left their inhibitions behind
and feel free to
explore their sexuality.
I think I'm gonna like this.
I've always known that
I've been bisexual.
I am married, I have a family,
but there's a part
of me that needs more.
And I have the position
right now to have both,
and it's amazing.
It makes me feel powerful.
I've never felt that before.
And as the evening hots up,
well, so do I.
Three, two, one, go!
This is tequila shots, Skirt club style.
It's a lot of fun.
Women doing this together,
that's an amazing thing.
It makes you feel super, super safe.
People are here to enjoy
themselves, lift each other up,
appreciate each other.
I feel really truly free.
It's been such a tense formation for me
because I come from a really
conservative background
with, you know, like, long skirts
and, like, really crazy catholic,
and Skirt Club really gave me
the opportunity to express myself.
One of my fantasies is to have
sex with several women at once.
You know, like five,
six women laying on a bed
going down on each other.
That's definitely amazing.
You don't have to be a lesbian.
You don't have to be anything.
You just do whatever you
want. You can be bi-curious.
You can be married, you
can be It doesn't matter.
There's no label on it, so
Skirt Club opens the door.
Girls are generally so
focused on pleasuring the male.
Here it's all about girls and
their pleasure and their right
to own that.
What happened next?
Well, I'm gonna let that be the
only mystery left in this show.
What I've learned about
female sexuality is
there is so much left we need to learn.
I honestly think that most
people know more about space
than the inner workings
of the female orgasm.
I had to come face to
face with my own vagina,
had an orgasm for science,
and attempted to masturbate
in a room full of strangers
which I never thought I would do.
What this has made me feel is
we need to fight for equality
and pleasure more than ever.
We deserve equal pleasure.
We deserve orgasms!
Who doesn't want that?
There is all this pleasure right there
and it's still left unexplored.
Having a clitoris is a super power.
So let's become superheroes
and shout it from the rooftops!
Vaginas!
Hey, sexy sirens. Welcome to Scott Club.
Okay, I really wasn't expecting this.
Three, two, one, go!
A trio of lusty ladies licking
tequila shots off my body
in a sex club.
I know it looks pretty steamy,
but I am doing this for science.
I'm trying to get the
low-down on female sexuality.
This is the land of clits.
The land of clits!
Why is the female sex
drive still such a mystery?
This is something I
call the Pussy Sandwich.
If this was inside of you,
this is not that big, obviously.
It's almost like it's this.
I know from my own love life
just how sexual women can be.
So why do straight women
seem to have less free
and fulfilling sex lives than men?
And what can we do about it?
Just try to tease your hole.
You want the pussy to, like, want
that finger and welcome it in.
Strap on and get ready
for some eye-opening stuff.
And no, that is not my orgasm face.
It would be good if you
start masturbating now.
Is that good?
Take one, all right.
Are women as horny as men?
I am horny I don't know!
I do think women are less
able and are less accepted
to speak about how horny they are.
I think female sexual
desire has been repressed.
It's interesting to be able
to talk about all these things
and the discovery of the female orgasm.
I've always wanted to learn about
it, and I'm sure many others too.
So let's start with the basics.
How do females orgasm? And
is it different for males?
I'm in Germany where scientists
are making new discoveries
about the big O.
And I'm down for playing guinea
pig in the wildest experiment.
We are about to go into
a university hospital
where I'm going to masturbate.
Yep, I'm here to have an
orgasm and donate it to science.
Husband and wife team Johannes
Fuß and Sarah Biedermann
studied the chemical changes
in our brains when we cum.
Of course they do.
We realized that there
is not much going on
in the whole field of sex research.
There are a lot of people
doing neuroscience in the field
but there's not so much
exploring of sexuality.
We're assessing neurobiological factors
like chemicals in the brain
and how does the body react
to sexual stimuli.
What I want to know is,
what exactly makes us feel so
good when we get our rocks off?
- Oh, it is pleasant.
- Intimate setting.
There's a bed. It's like a hotel room.
You can have a shower.
I will leave the room and
then I would ask you masturbate
for at least ten minutes.
At least? That's a nice amount of time.
If you take longer, that's no problem.
I'm not looking at
you because I'm scared.
- You don't
- I'm bad at blood.
Before I get down to
some solo sexy time,
I need to give a blood sample.
It's coming out!
Once I hit the big O,
Sarah and Johannes will
take another sample to see
what's changed in my blood.
Good. Cara, when you climax,
you will just blow the whistle.
Oh, yay. I should
always have that whistle.
- I will give this to you, and
- Thank you.
I will come in and
take blood very quickly.
Can I let myself settle for a
minute, or should I just be like,
"Orgasm! Blow whistle!"
It would be good if you
start masturbating now.
And in case I need extra help, sex toys.
Talk about German efficiency.
I have had some weird
sexual experiences,
but this is definitely up there.
- So!
- I'm okay.
- I'll take your blood now.
- Oh!
Masturbation!
Run, Johannes, run!
That blood contains all
the secrets of my climax.
Luckily, this man can pipet like a pro
and is back with the results
before I can say "Ubergasm".
- Hi, welcome back.
- Oh, my gosh.
So tell me, what did you
find? What's in there?
We processed your blood and we found
that it produced endocannabinoids.
Endocannabinoids are basically
your body's own version of cannabis.
- That's what it sounded like. Wow.
- Yeah, exactly.
That's why I felt dopey.
Is it like cannabis?
The body is producing it's
own cannabis-like substance.
- Wow.
- And it makes you kind of high
after masturbation.
And just like cannabinoid
chemicals in plants,
endo-cannabinoids in our
bodies can be a brilliant upper.
A bit like that feeling after a workout
or a runner's high.
Does that happen to everyone?
We know from research that
roughly 80 percent of people
had such an increase
of endo-cannabinoids
after masturbation to orgasm.
- Is it men and women? Both have
- Yeah.
We think that's why sex feels so good.
I feel fantastic.
What a great journey! Thank you, guys.
- Thank you for participating.
- Heroes of sex!
Heroes of sex!
Wow! Orgasm produce endo-cannabinoids.
That is hot news!
And even better, Sarah
and Johannes found
that males and females
can both hit the same high.
So it stands to reason
that men and women
should be having equally
mind-blowing sex, right?
Well, prepare for a shock.
I came across a very interesting study
that said that 95 percent of
straight men orgasm during sex.
But only 65 percent of straight
women orgasm during sex.
I think that number is very high
and most women I've
asked also agree with me.
They say it's probably more
around ten, 15, 20 percent,
but again, who knows?
This tragic state of affairs
is called the Orgasm Gap.
And for the benefit of
people with vaginas and clits,
I want to know how to close it.
Wish me luck!
I'm using a lot of
different terms in this film.
But whether you identify
as a woman or non-binary,
own a vulva or a clit,
we're talking about you.
And for decades, thanks to
prudish and patriarchal attitudes,
you've been missing out on pleasure.
We look back on times when
we used to wear corsets
and showing an ankle was
something like female flirting.
It's come a long way since then.
I still always felt a lot
of shame about being a woman.
Shame about my vagina,
and to kind of put
shame in female sexuality
is really dangerous.
In many countries worldwide,
talking about female
sexuality is still taboo,
including here, in Lebanon.
There's definitely one thing
that unites all Arab countries
the culture of shame
regarding the female body.
It's very deeply embedded.
Women grow up with a fear around sex.
Sura and Hala have
agreed to speak to us
anonymously.
We always say, women are expected
to be very sexually attractive
but not sexually active.
You're not the one in
control of your own body
who gets to call the shots.
Society does, culture does.
And so that causes women
to totally disassociate
from their own bodies.
These two women are
bringing much-needed change
by starting a sexual
wellness brand called Mauj.
Who's reading the video chart?
Openly encouraging female
pleasure without getting shut down
is a massive challenge.
So Mauj created a video series where
the most intimate of women stories
are read out by
volunteers, called Hakuatis.
Hakuati means storyteller in Arabic.
This was typically a role that
only men used to play in society.
So we came up with the idea of
flipping Hakuatia into the feminine.
I felt cold, so he put his
arms around me to warm me up.
Suddenly he grabbed my hand
and put it on his penis.
We really wanted to find a way
to start to share women's stories
when it came to everything
related to their body, sexuality,
masturbation, and sexual pleasure.
If they speak up, there's a risk
that their families might hurt them.
I've always been an
advocate for women's rights.
This was an opportunity
for me to publicly speak up
about a cause I believe in.
Warmth and wetness.
My fingers kept moving,
in and out, around.
I opened my legs wider as
my fingers hit that spot.
It's harder for them to hear stories
that celebrate pleasure and orgasm.
There's still this shame of, like,
"I don't necessarily want
to be associated with that."
They're still not yet at the
level of public discourse as easy
as some of the stories around pain.
Mauj is dedicated to helping
de-stigmatize female sexuality.
It's very difficult to find
pleasure products in the Arab world.
You can't buy a vibrator.
They created a new device called Deem.
What's really special about Deem is
that it is the first product of its kind
designed by and for Arab women.
But breaking taboos can be risky.
So being discrete is
incredibly important.
We wanted Deem to be accessible
and available to every woman,
even women practicing
their religious belief
of not engaging in any
penetration before marriage.
We get asked a lot why our first
product is a pleasure product.
And our answer is,
"Because what's more taboo
than female pleasure?"
Taboos around female sexuality
exist in many more places worldwide.
And that, lovely people,
is holding women back.
I'm in Japan where it's
actually against the law
to show female genitalia.
Step up radical artist Rokudenashiko.
Or should that be, paddler?
In 2014, she decided to
challenge Japanese censorship
around female sexuality
by creating a canoe
modeled on her own vulva.
As you do.
- Hello.
- Hello.
- Nice to meet you.
- Thank you so much.
So That's so cool! Oh, my gosh!
I really want to row in
the vagina canoe, though.
Rokudenashiko's also
been rocking the boat
with her vag-tastic miniatures.
Is this a real mold of a vagina?
- My vagina.
- That's your vagina!
Now I understand, yes.
Why did you start making vagina art?
Pussy is a very taboo subject in Japan,
and I'm trying to change that
perception and make it more fun.
When my art was featured on a news site
I received a lot of backlash.
I was told, "Vaginas
are dirty and smelly,
don't make things like that."
- Crazy. Crazy!
- Crazy!
Originally, in Japan, a lot
of mythology featured pussies
and no one was bothered by it.
Western Christian culture
arrived, sex became taboo.
Now images of vaginas are censored,
as if it's something you shouldn't see.
If someone sees this work
and laughs at how silly it is
I hope to give people the
opportunity to question
why pussies are forbidden.
But it wasn't much of a laugh
when Rokodenashiko was arrested
for breaking Japan's obscenity laws.
Luckily she didn't have to go to prison
but had to pay a pretty hefty
fine of nearly 4,000 Dollars.
You're very inspiring. What
you're doing is amazing.
Yay!
Let's disrupt the
patriarchy! Whoo! Okay, cool.
Today I'm going to make my own vag art.
Okay. Now let's make a mold of a pussy.
Step one, whip up some clay.
I can see why you have nice arms now.
Yay.
See you later!
What? Surely you didn't think I
was going to show you that bit.
- I'll start!
- Do you want to hold it?
Stop looking at it!
What? I get really nervous! My vagina
Oh, my God!
Very cute!
Very pretty!
- Oh, my God! I'm gonna cry!
- Very nice.
It's done!
So, I've made the mold
with help, of course.
It was successful, I hope.
It was a bit of cracking, but, you know?
Now for a bit of vagazzeling.
I never thought I
would do this. For sure.
You don't usually face
your pussy, do you?
I can eat dinner having my
own pussy in front of me.
This is so fun. I'm so glad I did this.
It's really sweet, I love it.
I'm really proud of what I made.
So, wanna know which
plaster master piece is mine?
Is it the moon landing?
The sandy bottom beach sea?
Or the golf course? Hole in one!
Sorry to let you down, but
you're never gonna know.
I admire Rokudenashiko's openness,
but my privates stay private.
So what does that say about me?
I feel, as a model, as
someone who sells their image,
my vagina is the one
private thing I have.
That's the thing that I decide
who sees it, when, how, why.
- But I thank you so much
- Thank you for what?
For what you've done! I'm
gonna tell people about your art
and spread the message
of vagina positivity.
So much fun! I had so much
fun with my vagina today.
I mean, this job really
suits me perfectly,
because the things I
get to do are just so me.
Best time ever!
She's trying to spread
a selfless message
of people, and women
specifically, to love themselves
from something that has
put so much shame on.
And that is seen as a criminal offense?
It's mind-blowing.
Culture has a lot to answer for.
Shame, taboo, even prison.
It's all about control.
But that's not the only reason
women of the world aren't
getting their kicks.
A vital part of our anatomy
has been rudely overlooked.
Until just a few decades ago,
people thought the clitoris was
this tiny, tricky to access button,
hard to stimulate and generally
less of a big deal than the penis.
Nearly 30 years after
the moon landings
It's one small step for man
the clitoris was finally
mapped in 1998 by a woman.
And what a revelation
that was! It's massive,
with three times more
nerves than the penis.
It's time the clitoris was given
the recognition it deserves.
Meet New Yorker Sophia
who is on what she calls,
"a Cliteracy campaign".
Cliteracy is my attempt to blast
the clitoris into public awareness.
Using large scale,
using text, using neon.
It all began when she found out
that her grandma, a mother of five,
had never once had an orgasm.
People with clits are
having not a lot of orgasms,
whether its their clits
being externally excised
or its being shamed, the clit
has this ability for pleasure,
and it's not getting that.
So I thought, "Someone needs
to call bullshit on this."
I put a lot of attention
into how I design the clits
because I feel like that's
the most important part.
I mean, it feels good, it's beautiful,
and also to see, and not
to look closely at it.
There are very few depictions
of it that are actually specific,
it's usually just this
round sort of blob.
But if you actually look closely
at the glands, it is a shape,
and it's also very
diverse, person to person.
All this knowledge
about the mysterious clit
is just blowing my mind.
It's about time I saw
it in all its glory.
This is the land of clits.
The land of clits!
My focus is drawn straight to the booty.
So these are these porcelain
sculptures that I made
in order to honor this part of the body
that is often so shamed.
And I just think,
everyone should be a, like,
in awe of how amazing clits are
but also being drawn to the glands
because there's a ton of nerves.
There's 8,000 nerves
here. This part activates
and then everything else engorges
- This is erectile tissue.
- Wow.
Basically the same amount of
erectile tissue as the penis.
Also, we wake up with morning wood.
We don't even have words
for a clit erection.
- Crazy, huh?
- That's true.
Like, when you wake up, but
you call it morning wood?
- You call it that?
- We should make new words.
If this was inside of me
This is obviously not that big.
It's almost like this
orientation, which is really funny,
but it's just so we understand it.
It's so confusing because it's
never been drawn in its anatomy.
I will always draw
penises on things as a joke
because I think it's funny
and I'm really bad at drawing.
But it's so true. I would
never draw a vagina, you know?
I'm just drawing a penis comic.
Wohoo, that's funny! It's not.
Well, we're taught to think
that penises are hilarious
and, like, cool.
A clit is just, like, "Oh,
you can't find it, ha, ha!"
You know, having sex with other women
where I realize how much more
sensitive women are than they think.
When you take your time and
you are super slow and soft,
you see how much more nerves
there are than in the penis.
It's crazy. It's a beautiful organ.
Exactly. I mean, my son is 19 months old
and he will never not know what
a clit is. I'm proud about that.
- You know what I'm saying?
- Yes!
A huge part of the so-called orgasm gap
is that women have been told to
keep silent about their sexuality.
But I do think things are changing.
- Is it just on or off?
- It has two speeds.
Fast and faster.
- It's just really like
- Okay, we'll plug it in.
I'll show you.
PENDA N'DIAYE FOUNDER, PRO HOE
Penda N'diaye brings women together
to share the secrets of pleasure,
especially within black communities.
So, as much as I love a bit of sex talk,
I'm respectfully sitting this one out.
Black women in particular are undergoing
this incredible revolution right now.
And I think sexual identity is
a huge part of that revolution,
knowing what feels good and
not accepting anything less.
Today, the women are
giving their inside stories
on some homework pender set
to test drive a bunch of new sex toys.
Once you understand the
capacity of your pleasure,
you can use that to inform who we are
and not silencing ourselves.
So I'm really glad that all of
you are joining me in this journey
of pleasure and feeling good,
and you're down for the sex toys
that are here.
My mom gave me my first
vibrator for Christmas.
She's like, "I don't need to now
what you're doing or with whom,
just as long as you're getting it in."
It's honestly just having
conversations with a lot of women
who have never had orgasms.
Sometimes I'm still like, "Wow."
And if you thought you
didn't need a sex toy
well, listen and learn.
- I'm Shadae.
- Hey, everyone.
Hey, this is Shadae's
first sex toy experience.
- You popped the cherries.
- Yes.
How do your partners feel about
you bringing toys into the room?
I was always in my mind thinking
that men may find it
a little intimidating.
There's something so powerful
about being able to please yourself
- without anyone else.
- Right.
First time using it, I was like,
"Damn, this feels so much easier."
And I felt like I had more
control over my orgasms.
Now I know what I need
whereas before, so often
in my sex experiences,
I relied on men.
Today I got liberated.
It felt really freeing to
have that type of discourse
among women that look like me
and that remind me of myself.
I'm Lisa. For me it's exploring
different types of toys
with my partner and then even going
shopping for toys with my partner
to create that ease.
I had the Double Trouble.
And I got to do it with my partner.
And, you know, he would hold it and
I was able to have three orgasms,
- like, back to back to back.
- Yeah.
Growing up as a black girl,
being told not to do things,
you know, we're being limited.
Sexual pleasure is for ultimate freedom.
I feel like I've been able
to be my complete self,
including my sexuality, with my partner.
I'm not used to using
vibrators internally,
- it's more like, clit.
- Yes.
I had an amazing, magical orgasm,
and I pulled it out and looked
at it, and I was like, "Wow!"
This is the way.
It was interesting to see
because I'm used to seeing it
on a dick, I'm not used to
- Or penis.
- Yeah.
There's times when I'm
like, "I'm gonna pee myself."
But I just had to squirt.
So my orgasms are
getting better as I age.
I can't wait to see how
they are in the future.
It's no secret I do love a sex toy,
because honestly, if you're
waiting for someone else
to give you a hand,
it can all be a bit touch and go.
Love you guys so much.
Master interview, take two.
For me, the earliest ideas I ever
got towards sex were, you know,
man plus woman, dick
plus vagina equals orgasm.
I don't want to go into the
art of making a woman cum,
but it's just a lot more
complicated and a lot more fun.
I do feel that generally men are
not equipped with the right tools
to be able to handle
women, especially sexually.
I mean, I get it.
It's a lot more complicated
for a woman to have to tell you,
"You're not doing it right. Sit
down and listen to what I say."
It's an ego killer which
most men can't handle.
Look, I might be unfair
to single men here,
so let's make sure I'm
not missing anything
by getting a 101 on the
power packed in our pants.
Sexpert Marieke Dewitte will love
to get into the juicy details.
Let's start off with a casual question.
Is there any difference between
the male and female orgasm?
Why is the gap so big?
We know that men and women
do not differ in the capacity
to reach orgasm, to experience pleasure,
but only a few women,
less than 30 percent,
can actually climax via penetration
and that's often where it goes wrong.
We don't get the right stimulation.
The clitoris is the female sex organ,
not the vagina. The
vagina is a birth channel.
- Drop the mic right there!
- Yeah, exactly!
I mean, it is much less
sensitive than the clitoris
which is a good thing
or giving childbirth would be horrible.
- Oh, my God!
- It would be the end of humanity.
So the idea that women have less
sexual desire than men is wrong.
They just don't get the
right sexual stimulation.
Physically, the duration of
an orgasm is really short.
It takes about 20, 25 seconds in women
and about five to 25 seconds in men.
And in general, it takes longer
for women to reach orgasm.
For some women, actually, if
you continue to stimulate them,
they also continue to climax,
so that's why women can
have multiple orgasms.
The clitoris is actually a small penis.
It includes the glands and the forehead,
it gets swollen during arousal.
So, in a way, women have on the inside
what men have on the outside.
Most women know that the clitoris
obviously needs to be stimulated
but do they think that penetrative
sex is it that will make them
Well, we maybe have sex in a way
that fits the male sexual script.
For a long time
sex has been studied from
a biological perspective.
Biologists study sex as reproduction.
So we know a lot about
the penis and so on
- because that's for reproduction.
- That's the one giving the juice.
If we think about the female orgasm
and the female sexual response,
there's so much we don't know yet
because we constantly have this
male gaze looking at sexuality.
- Totally.
- But it's also about
focusing on your own sexual pleasure.
And that's also something
that is difficult for women
because we're socialized to prioritize
the pleasure of the partner.
Women, remember those words!
Put your own pleasure first!
Actually, I am something
of an expert in that.
One of my earliest
memories is masturbating,
but I didn't know it
was anything sexual.
It was just, "This feels good!
Why would I not touch there
to feel better about life?"
It just made sense.
But I do think that
there's just a lot more fear
about talking about
women touching themselves.
But just because I think men
can go around and be like,
"Yeah, I just came
nine times today, bro!
I can't even walk!" And
they're like, "Sick!"
"Well, I touch myself."
They're like, "Gross."
Ah, the "m" word! Masturbation.
Probably one of the
best things we can do
to get that orgasm count up for women.
Knowing what feels good can make it
a lot easier to tell someone else.
So I'm on my way to, wait for
it, a group masturbation class.
Only in New York. I mean,
at this point, why not?
I'm Lola Jean, and I am a sex educator.
I like to call it
A masturbation class if more of
like a yolk class for your bits.
Sitting in a room full of women
I'm not gonna lie, I
sat next to my friend
and masturbated next to
each other, but that's it.
I'm terrified.
- Hello.
- Hi.
- So you're here for the workshop?
- Oh, yes.
If not, we're all in
for a little surprise.
- This is like my house!
- Oh, really?
- Is anyone nervous?
- Yeah.
I'm very curious, and if
there's anything I can learn
and feel less shame about having
a vagina, that would be great.
Okay, so how many of you have
been masturbating the same way
since you were, like, seven,
or whenever you started?
- No.
- Definitely.
- The same way?
- Yeah, doing the same thing.
Like humping your pillow,
humping your hand
I've only once spent really an hour
really making love to myself,
like touching every part
of my body, like, I cried.
That's the thing, nothing
is weird or abnormal,
because if you know your button,
oh, my God, you know your thing!
That's amazing to have, and maybe
there's more buttons to figure out.
We're trying to find
different pathways to pleasure.
This is my vulva, but
not my actual vulva
because its eerily and bright red.
So, there's something I
call the pussy sandwich,
and that's where you're gonna
take the outer and inner labia
between your index
finger and your thumb.
The chopsticking of the clitoris
is when you're gonna take
an inverted peace sign and it's
going to go on the inner labia.
So knuckling is something
that's gonna look like drumming,
but it's going to be with our knuckles.
and we can do that kind
of around the inner labia.
This one is called the motorcycle rub.
So you're two middle fingers,
your middle finger and your ring
will be inside of the vagina and
you're gonna rub the motorcycle.
There's one that we're gonna go
back to a lot and change it up,
and that's going from the
bottom of the vulva to the top.
Looks nice with my pants.
Really goes well.
I'm gonna get so self-conscious
because in my mind I'm like, "I
just want the lights to be off."
- Can you
- Or my face to be covered.
Despite the safe space,
I still feel like I need to wear a mask.
Close your eyes and take
a few breaths in and out.
And now we're gonna
make a pussy sandwich.
Masturbation is just another
healthy part of our life,
and there's so much we can gain from
it that actually has nothing to do
with pleasure or
orgasm. It can be stress,
to relieve cramps or a headache.
And as soon as we start
removing that stigma,
the dirtiness, and the same,
the more we can start enjoying
the actual benefits of masturbation
instead of trying to assign
morality to what it means.
Look, I revved, chopsticked and
sandwiched for a full-on hour
and it was kind of sexy, but
it also felt weird for me.
And what I definitely
didn't do was orgasm.
Yet somehow I feel utterly changed.
It is a very brave thing to
come to a class and masturbate
with a group of strangers.
What was that like?
It's the bravest thing I've ever done.
I liked the normalizing aspect and
that we're all just laying here,
it was just much more
exploratory, it felt really safe.
I've never masturbated
in front of anyone ever
apart from when I did
it in bed with my friend.
I can't believe that I did it.
But I haven't actually used my hand
to touch myself in so long.
Because, again, I feel really,
like, so much shame around my vagina.
"My vagina is not like
other girls I've slept with."
You masturbated in front
of people and you survived.
It's like, "Oh, that's nice,
it's actually quite soft!
Oh, my God, I feel great, I feel nice."
- Thank you.
- Absolutely.
Take what you learned here,
go home, be by yourself.
Be in an area that's comfortable for you
and continue to explore
and do these things.
I think I'm learning a lot from
everyone I've met so far, for sure.
It's making me be a lot more
open in my own personal life.
In my mind, the most
important thing about life
is connections with other humans,
and I haven't even begun to have
enough conversations like this
with enough people.
But we can learn so
much from each other.
Sexuality! Yes.
Here we are, heading for
the climax of my journey
to understand women's sexuality
and unlock female pleasure.
I've already put myself
out there like never before
but tonight I'm going all the way.
I'm off to a women-only sex party
to see what happens when everyone's
free to explore their raw sexuality
with no inhibitions.
And more importantly, no men.
We've got lots of newbies tonight.
Always at least over 80
percent are first-timers.
So keep your eyes peeled for anyone
that looks a little bit unsure.
After everything I've learned, am
I brave enough to shed the shame
and put my sexual desires
out there in public?
I'm not gonna lie, I'm pretty nervous,
so I've asked my
friend Elena to join me.
When we were talking
about it, she was like,
"Yeah, I'd be so down for watching
women get off with each other
but I would be a bit more awkward."
There is that one three-way
with another girl and guy,
but that was really it.
That was my one brush.
That's my most straight friend.
Financial advisor Genevieve
set up Skirt Club in 2014
to host sex parties for women.
It now has 18,000 members
in cities all over the world.
Nice to meet you,
darling, how are you doing?
- Pleasure! Nice to meet you.
- How are you doing?
Welcome to Skirt Club.
Consent is a huge thing.
And remember, like you, a lot of
women are here for the first time.
So they're nervous, okay?
They may not have ever
kissed a woman before.
Some women here are straight,
some gay, some bi, some pan.
But most are just curious and horny.
- What's your name?
- I'm Bella.
- I love that!
- Yeah? You're welcome.
Okay, sexy sirens,
welcome to Skirt Club.
We believe in the power
of the feminine here.
Skirt Club is a safe space for
you to explore all of your desires.
We're gonna take good care of
you. Your pleasure is paramount.
That is the key to the gate to heaven.
- Yeah!
- Welcome!
If you do feel uncomfortable,
I'm the consent fairy,
so come and find me.
Please make sure to be safe,
have conscious communication
with each other.
If it's not a "hell, yes," it's a no.
I appreciate the fact that every
single person that's showed up
is gorgeous in every
way, shape, or form.
We're all here for the same
purpose. To enjoy each other.
So, good people, this
is just a little taste
of what women can get up to
when they've let go of shame,
left their inhibitions behind
and feel free to
explore their sexuality.
I think I'm gonna like this.
I've always known that
I've been bisexual.
I am married, I have a family,
but there's a part
of me that needs more.
And I have the position
right now to have both,
and it's amazing.
It makes me feel powerful.
I've never felt that before.
And as the evening hots up,
well, so do I.
Three, two, one, go!
This is tequila shots, Skirt club style.
It's a lot of fun.
Women doing this together,
that's an amazing thing.
It makes you feel super, super safe.
People are here to enjoy
themselves, lift each other up,
appreciate each other.
I feel really truly free.
It's been such a tense formation for me
because I come from a really
conservative background
with, you know, like, long skirts
and, like, really crazy catholic,
and Skirt Club really gave me
the opportunity to express myself.
One of my fantasies is to have
sex with several women at once.
You know, like five,
six women laying on a bed
going down on each other.
That's definitely amazing.
You don't have to be a lesbian.
You don't have to be anything.
You just do whatever you
want. You can be bi-curious.
You can be married, you
can be It doesn't matter.
There's no label on it, so
Skirt Club opens the door.
Girls are generally so
focused on pleasuring the male.
Here it's all about girls and
their pleasure and their right
to own that.
What happened next?
Well, I'm gonna let that be the
only mystery left in this show.
What I've learned about
female sexuality is
there is so much left we need to learn.
I honestly think that most
people know more about space
than the inner workings
of the female orgasm.
I had to come face to
face with my own vagina,
had an orgasm for science,
and attempted to masturbate
in a room full of strangers
which I never thought I would do.
What this has made me feel is
we need to fight for equality
and pleasure more than ever.
We deserve equal pleasure.
We deserve orgasms!
Who doesn't want that?
There is all this pleasure right there
and it's still left unexplored.
Having a clitoris is a super power.
So let's become superheroes
and shout it from the rooftops!
Vaginas!