Indian Matchmaking (2020) s01e03 Episode Script
I'm Trying My Best!
1
You'll let us warm up a bit, no,
before you start?
There's no hurry to get married
because all the girls are so independent.
And boys always want the wives
to be submissive,
which today's generation
is not going to do.
I would say I tell my grandchildren,
"Please concentrate on your careers.
Later on when you find someone
who is correct for you,
you yourself will be able to judge.
Don't be in a hurry to get married."
Only thing I don't like about him
is that he doesn't talk now.
He's so silent, so silent, so I talk,
and I get my answer from myself only.
[laughing]
[upbeat music playing]
This first.
[Sima] In the last meeting,
we had gone to Aparna's house.
-How are you?
-How are you?
[Sima] She met with Srini.
It was very much a disappointment for her.
Well, we could go eat something.
Um, yeah.
[Sima] I feel it's difficult for Aparna.
Expectations are too high,
and she's a lawyer,
and she's educated so much.
Naturally, she will not accept anybody
so easily.
I don't have time in my life
to invest in people
that are not on the same page as me.
Unfortunately, Srini is definitely not.
[Jotika] Srini, the loser.
But the thing was that I was not
getting good vibes from them.
So they were a little adamant,
that I felt.
I have given good proposals to them.
It was not comfortable with the family,
with the mother, with the sister.
And they were a little egoistic,
and they are feeling as though
they are on the top of the world,
and everybody's down. I felt that way.
It was a negative vibes in the house.
I think she should change
her talking pattern also.
I didn't like it.
-Hi, Aparna, how are you?
-I'm doing well. How are you?
-Yes, fine, Aparna. Fine. How is Mom?
-Good.
I went on a date, and it was miserable,
and I'm still mad about it. [scoffs]
It's unfulfilling, and it's a way
that you wasted another evening.
You got all dolled up,
and you had all these expectations
that maybe they'll work,
and then that's dashed.
But I've still come to the conclusion
that I need a matchmaker
because it's not working what I'm doing.
So now I'm just throwing everything
against the wall.
Something's gotta stick.
According to your preferences,
last time when I spoke to you,
I have few good alliances,
and they're Sindhi boys
and very good, from very good families
That's wonderful.
Yeah, so if you are interested,
then I can send you the details then.
Um, okay, so how old are they?
They're 36 and 38.
Hmm.
Okay, I guess just, after last time,
let's check with them that they really
are ready to meet someone seriously
and consider all the work
that goes into that.
Um, we wanna make sure that
that's kind of where they're at
-in their life.
-Yeah.
[Sima] Aparna is difficult to match,
but she has given a lot of importance
to a Sindhi boy.
So now, I found two proposals for her.
-Okay.
-So I'll send you as soon as possible.
-Okay. I'm looking forward to it.
-Yeah. Okay, Aparna, bye.
Thanks, bye.
[chanting]
I have to chant that Aparna,
she has to have a positive vibes.
[chanting continues]
If she understand that, then her life,
she can get a good partner.
She can get married soon.
[chanting continues]
Matchmaking has become a tough job
[laughing] but I'm trying my best.
[chanting]
Thank you.
[slow pop music playing]
Vinay and I have gone out
probably about six or seven times.
[laughing]
[Vinay]
What was your favorite part of the movie?
Seeing it twice.
-[Vinay] Seeing it twice?
-It was so good.
I thought she was gonna say
watching it with me.
[sheepishly] Oh! Watching it with you.
[Vinay] Aw!
[Nadia] All of the things
that I thought we would connect on,
we 100% connected on,
and there's really so many other things
that we have in common.
[man] Where does Vinay rank in your dates?
Currently, he is at the top.
[people cheer]
-[Vinay] Whatever.
-[laughs]
We made plans to go out again.
The night before, he confirmed,
"Hey, we're still going to a movie
this time, this place tomorrow, right?"
And I was, like, "Yeah, I'll be there."
I was excited about that.
And then he didn't show up.
[phone ringing]
Hi, Nadia. How are you?
I'm good. How are you?
Fine. Looking good in the glasses.
Looking very nice. Very cute.
Thank you.
Yeah. So, how's life?
It's 1:30 in the morning.
My friends are out, and I'm at home.
Vinay and I scheduled to hang out.
Um, he, like, flaked on me.
He didn't show up.
He didn't answer the phone.
I called him multiple times.
I texted him. Nothing.
Um So it was just
That's kind of left
a really sour taste in my mouth.
[Nadia] I called him two times,
and he didn't answer
and didn't text me back.
He was the one who was like,
"Hey, I'm coming,"
and then he didn't show up.
Um
And so, I was really upset by that.
[Nadia over phone]
I'm conflicted right now.
-Nadia, it happens sometimes. So
-Yeah.
He might be having some problem
or something else.
You can't tell someone
you really like them,
you wanna see them,
and then you cancel on them.
You have to ask him, and finalize
whether he's interested or no.
Because when he has met seven times,
so the It's a positive response, like
[Sima] Each match is
a potential life partner,
and you need to take it seriously,
because we cannot force anybody
in this matchmaking.
[Nadia over phone]I just have been upset.
I think I just really need
to kinda sit down with myself
and really think about, like,
what my actual feelings are on Vinay.
Don't think so much.
[laughs]
Yeah, so good luck.
Let me know soon, Nadia.
I will.
So I want to listen the good news
as soon as possible.
-So, good luck to you.
-Okay.
[Nadia] After I spoke with Sima Auntie,
and she said, "Just ask him,"
I was like, "You're right. I'm not asking
for a full-blown detailed report.
I just want an answer.
Like, you just didn't show up,
didn't answer the phone, didn't anything."
Last night, I did this workout class.
It was about 95 degrees.
And from that, I ended up
getting heat exhaustion from that.
I got, actually, IVs in my veins
to get hydrated.
And last night, I was feverish
and couldn't sleep.
So this morning, I texted her.
[Nadia] In my past relationships,
I have let a lot of these things slide,
canceling on me, doing shady things.
But as I'm getting older,
I'm standing up for myself.
[Vinay]
I know I'm a lot to blame in all of this.
But I do think that
when difficulties happen,
it's how you react together
that can make you stronger or weaker.
Later that week,
I got a bouquet of flowers,
a box of chocolates,
and a box of cookies,
and on the cookies,
each individual cookie was, was stickered
with a different "I'm sorry" slogan.
Very respectful, very nice.
Like, I appreciate that.
So I thought that I'm going to try
and keep an open mind,
maybe give it one more chance.
[upbeat sitar music playing]
This is our shrine that we have.
Call it amandiras well.
And for the god,
we have created a wardrobe
where you can see,
we made clothes for them.
Even the god can choose what to wear.
There's these small hangers.
They can wear these dresses.
We change the dresses
on an everyday basis.
So they wear a new dress every day.
That's pretty cool.
I was the designer for all of them.
My family has given me ample amount
of freedom to do whatever I want to do.
I would consider myself
as a person with a creative soul.
It's been a challenge to get a good match
for Pradhyuman.
I am searching potential girls.
[doorbell rings]
[Sima] Today, I'm meeting a beautiful girl
who has come all the way
from Jalgaon to meet Pradhyuman.
-So I met your parents last night.
-Yeah.
-When did you come from Jalgaon?
-Uh, yesterday.
-Achha. Which year born?
-Ninety.
Ninety.
[in Hindi] You have any hobbies?
Painting and all,
and then I do like music.
-And you sing?
-I even like to go yoga in mornings, so
I have a lot of people in mind
after seeing you.
Uh, I can suggest one person,
Pradhyuman Maloo.
So, I think
that will match you I think, because
he's also tall, slim, trim.
-He's also a health freak
-Okay.
and gym-ka, and even you do yoga.
You're also slim, trim, tall.
I think [speaks Hindi]
-I think it will be a good match.
-Okay.
Pradhyuman has seen 150 girls,
and he has rejected all of them.
And he is not ready to meet personally.
Just by biodatas,
he has decided not to meet girls.
I've sent Snehal's biodata.
She's a lovely person,
and they have many things in common.
He's a jewelry designer. She is a painter.
But I was surprised
when he agreed to meet her.
Hi. Thank you.
[Pradhyuman]
After discussing this with my sister,
I think I would be more flexible
to give this process a shot.
And we had a lot of similarities,
and I think that she's cute,
so let's meet up. Why not?
So what do you do over here, in Bombay?
-I'm from Jalgaon, basically.
-Okay.
Yeah. It's like a town.
It's a proper town and all.
-Okay.
-Yeah.
Before this, all my meetings and all,
they were with families and all.
My first Where we two met and all,
had a talk one-on-one.
When you're with family,
you cannot ask so many questions openly.
And what do you do?
I'm a jewelry designer.
So I design jewelry, selling jewelry
So you have studied
and do jewelry designing and all?
Hmm. Studied
I would say I had a very hands-on training
with jewelry.
Uh, designing
and as well as jewelry procurement
and trade shows, yes.
Practical knowledge,
a lot of practical knowledge basically.
Wow. Super.
[Pradhyuman] The first time I saw her,
she seemed like a very relaxed
and a sweet girl, which she is.
It's always good to make
the other person comfortable
and try to, you know, understand them.
I think that's very important
when you're meeting anyone.
So in terms of talking, she seems fun.
So after you finish your education now,
what do you do post that?
-I work for interior designers.
-Okay.
Like, if they want any canvas paintings
and all, I do
I take that, and I make
and give it to them personalized.
Show me some work if you can.
-These painted by you?
-[Snehal] Yes.
[Pradhyuman] Wow. Oh, that's sweet.
It's fun. It's fun to paint.
Lots of colors
-It's pretty.
-and just
Yeah. I love it.
[Pradhyuman] Very nice.
Good stuff.
Before coming, I was
a little bit, um, excited and nervous,
like mixed feelings,
but he was very interested
into my passion,
my art, and what I love to do.
Now I am relaxed.
What are your hobbies?
I am into fitness.
I like traveling, music.
I would say movies. Anything adventurous.
-Okay.
-Theater. All of that.
-Like, anything opposite to me. [giggles]
-You don't like anything adventurous?
Uh, no, not really. [giggles]
Do you like traveling as a
Yes, I do like traveling.
Last I went was Hyderabad one week before.
Mymausistays there.
Okay, but I've got very bleak memory
of that place because
Yeah, it's too far.
[laughs] Too far for you?
From Jalgaon, it's 15 hours train.
This thing in Jalgaon
is really disconnected, man.
Like, right now, you're trying
to find flight connections.
How disconnected is this place!
Just because you cannot reach there
by flight, it's disconnected.
Oh, but it is. Come on, agree with me.
-No, I don't.
-I've never been there.
-There you go. You want some ketchup?
-Do you like caffeine?
Oh, I have a lot of caffeine.
At least we are
I have never tried coffee
and tea in my life.
-You don't like anything bitter.
-Hate it.
-No.
-You like white chocolate?
No. I don't like chocolates.
Who doesn't like chocolates?
Okay.
[Pradhyuman] I'm not sure
we are very mentally compatible.
She's very simple and homely person.
In terms for a long-term perspective,
I was a little apprehensive towards,
you know,
would this translate
into future good times as well?
That was my concern.
I'm not very sure that I would want
to take this conversation ahead.
Are you going back to Jalgaon
on the 27th, right?
Yes, I will.
Then I'll see you in Jalgaon on 27th.
Hell, no. That's not happening.
That's certain that's not happening.
[Pradhyuman] I did take her number,
but does not mean
that I'm going to call her.
-Aparna?
-Yes, hi. How are you?
-It's so nice to meet you.
-So nice to meet you. How are you doing?
-Pretty good.
-Yeah.
The last match for Aparna went very badly,
and I knew that I have to get
what she exactly wanted.
So I introduced her to Dilip.
Like her, he's also Sindhi,
and he has gone to Ivy League school.
And he's very serious
and wants to settle down.
-Cheers.
-Cheers.
-So you're in Seattle now?
-Yeah.
I just moved there, like, 10 months ago.
I have spent my entire life
in New York basically.
-Yeah?
-And then just sort of, like, outgrew it.
-[laughs] All of it. Yeah.
-Physically and mentally outgrew it.
I think she did really well,
because when I saw his resume on paper,
I said, "The only thing
this could come down to was chemistry.
That's it.
Otherwise, viability, he's perfect."
-[Dilip] So you grew up around here?
-[Aparna] I did. I did.
What kind of things do you do for fun?
[Aparna] Um, I travel as much as I can,
which is never enough.
Oh! That's exciting.
It's really nice actually. Um
I was just in Ecuador.
I'm going to Colombia this weekend.
Yeah, I'm doing Panama
in a few weeks after that.
And then I really wanted to go to Iran,
and now we can't go.
But last year we could have,
and I was like, "Darn!"
So
And then I really want to go to Pakistan
and, like, take my mom,
-which is a huge commitment.
-Yeah, that's like so
I didn't think that number
was this large until after work
and struggling getting there and
Yeah. What about you? Where to next?
[Dilip] Uh, I'd like to go to Norway.
Isn't there, like,
only five hours of sunlight a day?
Yeah, that's why you're supposed
to go for the Northern Lights.
-You got more darkness a day.
-Wow.
Oh, man.
Over the years, I've been working on
going into situations with no expectation,
but Vinay and I have gotten
more serious,
and so my friends
are looking forward to meeting him.
I actually cannot believe
that it lasted this long. Like
-Me neither.
-[Shreya] In that way.
Yeah, no. We have fun together,
so it's been good.
-[phone dings]
-Oh, he just texted.
On his way.
And we actually have
a lot of mutual connections.
-That's crazy.
-[Nadia] I know!
-So he's "vetted." Pre-vetted.
-[Nadia] Yeah, pretty much.
We have, like, 40 mutual friends
on Facebook,
-and I was, like, how did we never meet?
-[Shreya] Yeah.
-But it's just funny how things happen.
-Yeah.
Almost every time we've hung out,
we've hung out with his friends.
Which is crazy, 'cause I feel like
normally, guys don't want
-to introduce the girl to his friends.
-[Nadia] Right? It was right away.
Wait. So, is this the first time
he's meeting any of your friends?
-Yeah.
-That's kind of a lot of pressure on
-I feel a little bit of pressure.
-But I also feel a bit more in control,
'cause he's probably a little intimidated.
-Yeah, he better be.
-[all laugh]
I sometimes set my expectations too high,
and then I get very disappointed,
but, uh, the hope is is a relationship.
So we can cross our fingers. [laughs]
-Did you do the islands?
-No.
-I think
-I hate beaches.
-What?
-Yeah, I hate beaches.
You hate beaches. Is it the sand gets
everywhere? Or the ocean is scary?
No, I love the ocean. I lived on the ocean
for 100 days in a boat.
-Okay.
-Obviously, I love the ocean.
But just not just the sand itself.
-It's, like, my worst nightmare.
-Really!
Do not ever make me lay on a beach
for more than, like, three hours.
Maybe two.
So what would be
like a relaxing ten days for you?
What would you do for ten days?
Why would you put the word "relaxing"
in front of it?
That is 'Cause that's relaxed.
Laying in, like Can you relax?
Yeah. For three days. Why would you relax
for ten days? That's weird.
I don't know.
What's happening in your life
that you can't relax in your real life?
I'm concerned if you have to relax
for ten days, you know what I mean?
I'm, like, what's wrong with you?
[inhales deeply] Um, it's
[Aparna]
He's obviously got an adventurous spirit.
He's traveled.
He's adventurous with his career.
He's really looking for the right fit.
I think that says a lot about who he is.
I feel relaxed now that this is all over.
She didn't know Seem to know
how to answer the question
about being about relaxing.
[laughs] So
-Are you ready to get out of here? Okay.
-Yeah.
[Dilip]
Even though I'm not a beach person,
but I could 100% spend ten days
on a beach.
[Aparna] I was in Patagonia
climbing a mountain, and I thought,
"This is the worst thing
that's happened to me in a while."
-[Dilip] Really?
-[Aparna] It's really a terrible thing.
He was so wonderful, but I just
I don't know if the chemistry was there.
I think Sima went above and beyond,
and listened to what I said last time,
and really found someone that suited
exactly the characteristics and qualities
I pointed out to her.
I was happy to see someone
that was a unicorn on paper,
but that doesn't mean
they're a unicorn in real life.
[Krina] Oh, my God! Perfect timing.
I've been hungry.
Thank you so much. This is exactly
what we needed right now. [laughs]
Where is this guy?
[Shreya] Do you think
he was actually on his way?
[Nadia] I don't know, dude. Kinda annoyed.
Wow.
[Shreya] What's up?
Okay, so he just gave me
some lame-ass excuse that he's not coming.
[Shreya] No!
You okay?
[Nadia]
The thing that bothered me the most
was that he literally stood me up
in front of my friends,
and it was really embarrassing.
I feel like if you should text him back
and be like, "You know what? Forget it."
[Nadia] Yeah.
[Nadia] I just got really upset. Like
[crying]
'Cause I am lonely.
[sniffles, sobs]
I'm, like [exhales deeply]
I'm at the age
where, like, all my friends are moving on,
and, like, to this, you know, chapter
And I just feel like
I'm not doing anything.
[sobbing] Sorry.
I hate having my period. [laughs]
[Sima]
Due to her adamant and stubborn nature,
Aparna did not continue with Dilip.
So now, I am introducing her to Shekar.
-Hey, Aparna?
-Yes, hi.
-Hey, I'm Shekar. Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
-How are you doing?
-Good. How are you?
Good.
[Sima] Aparna says
she doesn't want a lawyer,
but Shekar is a lawyer.
He has his own law firm.
He's kind. He's smart. He's successful.
And he also has a very positive energy.
He won't be afraid of her.
-Yes, sir.
-I'm actually Do you have Grey Goose?
-[waiter] Yes, sir.
-I'll have a Grey Goose soda with lime.
-[waiter] Right away.
-[Shekar] Thank you.
-[Aparna] You like Grey Goose?
-Um, yeah.
In fact, for some reason,
I don't like Tito's.
That's just a thing of mine,
and everyone's like
Ah! In Texas, we don't say that.
-Really? Is Tito's, like, a Texas thing?
-It's from Austin. Yeah.
So you're from Houston, born and raised?
Um, I was born in London, and I grew up
in Dubai for a short bit.
Then when we moved to the States,
we basically moved to Houston.
-That is awesome. I've been to London.
-Yeah.
I've always, always wanted to go to Dubai.
Really? Strange place to want to go.
Really? Like, it seems amazing.
I mean, it, like
It seems like so developed
and so, like, kind of futuristic
if you will.
Yeah. I mean, if you like Disney,
it's kind of like Disney World.
-Okay.
-Yeah.
-[Shekar] Oh, thank you.
-Absolutely.
-Cheers! It's nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you, too. Thanks for coming.
And I went to law school
right after undergrad.
So I basically lived out my senior year
of college for three more years.
And it was like chaos.
I look back on it, and I'm like,
"I should have taken a break in between
and become, like, a real person."
-I took, like, four years in between.
-Yeah.
And you became a real person?
Yeah, and you know, I think I was
really happy that I took that time off
and kind of did some soul-searching.
It made me realize I loved law,
so I went to law school.
You really like it?
-What's that?
-You like it?
I love being a lawyer.
Yeah, absolutely love it.
I'm like, "Huh. That's weird."
Okay. Do you like being a lawyer?
-No, not particularly.
-Oh, okay.
[Aparna] I'm pleasantly surprised.
He's extremely easy to talk to.
That's kind of nice, too, right?
Are some people really that uncomplicated?
I mean, that would be interesting.
That would be new.
So what's your ideal vacation, then?
Um, I travel a lot.A lot, a lot, and
Yeah, I've done Egypt, Mauritius,
Morocco, and South Africa.
I really want to go to South Africa, also.
-I didn't like it.
-You didn't like it?
-Weirdly, touristy places freak me out.
-[laughs]
-I went to Cuba, too, though.
-Did you? Okay.
I just snuck in through Canada
back in the day,
like, five-seven years ago.
What was your take on Cuba?
Didn't it feel randomly unsafe?
I've, like, literally traveled
the whole world
to very dangerous places.
We were very just concerned
about the girls we were with because
They should've been concerned about you.
Yeah. [laughs]
It was interesting.
I mean, I love the culture.
-I thought it was great too.
-A lot of it is kind of sad to see.
-I mean
-Yeah. The sex tourism is weird.
-The what?
-The sex tourism. The friend I went with
-I didn't even know that was
-Yeah, it was a real problem back then.
-Oh, my gosh.
-This was 2013 or 14,
and it was all these men who
It was great. It was a fun date,
and I enjoyed the conversation.
It was really nice.
There were construction workers,
and we were like, "Why do you come
all the way to Cuba every year?"
They were like, "Bachelor parties.
It's cheap to buy women."
I thought she was just full of energy,
she was really fun.
I think
she's just a very fascinating person.
-And I was like, "That's horrific."
-Oh, my goodness! That's terrible.
And so, I left my friend alone
for, like, half an hour.
I think she's someone
that I would continuously learn from.
Well, we almost got, like, hijacked
like, killed, basically, also one night.
That's a whole different story.
I'm relieved. I mean,
I'm relieved that he's
presented as an option that, you know
He maybe wasn't everything
on the checklist,
but we all know, and I've always admitted,
and Sima even said,
"The checklist isn't everything.
You have to meet the person."
What Sima did was find me a guy
that was good.
He's good.
[car engine starts, revs]
[tires squealing]
[electronic music playing]
[Pradhyuman] I've met a lot of people.
They're good people,
but I don't see them
as potential matches for my life.
At this point of time,
you do feel lonely at a lot of times.
You feel that when you are going out
with your friends also,
you are the single one,
and they are there as a couple.
In the last couple of years,
I would say that
I wouldn't mind settling down with someone
and have a lot of stability in life.
Because these are the constructive years
in a person's life,
and I would want that at least
in my constructive years,
I have someone to share it with.
Otherwise, you lose a lot of meaning.
[slow tabla music playing]
[hookah bubbling]
This is your first love, right?
[laughs]
-This is not my first love.
-Then what is your first love?
Uh, my first love, I think, is myself.
[laughs]
You're self-obsessed.
I'm not self-obsessed.
Then?
Self-employed.
Okay, what happened, by the way,
about that girl?
Snehal?
Uh, she's a nice girl,
but I don't think she's the one for me.
Like, I didn't get that vibe.
You're so self-obsessed.
How will anyone be for you?
-You have to give that person a
-Self-obsessed.
Of course. A person being self-obsessed
does not give that person their room.
Uh-huh? Really?
My sister got married
when she was 23 or 24 years old.
I would say she was fairly young.
But that time,
the generation was different.
Today's generation,
we have our own thought process.
Things are radically different.
But the problem is I am 30,
and the pressure to get married is strong.
So are you gonna see any girl
in your future?
Well, I'm open to it.
Like, if there's a good match,
I'm always open to seeing
[Khushboo] That.
I ask everyone, "Show me girls.
The more the options, the better."
But it takes its own time if you want
to spend your life with someone
whom you think is going to be
a lifelong partner.
[Pradhyuman]
I feel anxious about the whole thing.
It's not an easy process.
There are days that I feel like shit.
Every step ahead,
it becomes way more challenging.
Half your life is gone.
Only half is left now to spend.
Well, if that is the way,
that doesn't mean
I should pressurize myself.
Let the other half also be good, right?
[laughs]
What's the use if it's becoming bad?
My plan for Pradhyuman
He has to be a little clear
in his decisions.
So I'm sending him to my friend
who is a life coach,
and they can help by meeting and talking.
It's very important to see a lot of angles
before, you know, you can just say that,
"Okay, she's the one,"
or something like that.
[Pradhyuman] Sima had suggested me
that I should meet this life coach.
And I think that it is good
to get a third-person opinion
who is not connected,
who is not emotionally connected
to this whole situation.
I really believe in learning every day.
You know,
having the knowledge develop every day,
so I work on that.
I believe every person
should work on that.
[woman] Here we go!
-[Aparna] It's been a week.
-[woman 2] My gosh! I need wine.
[laughs]
Please pour a large glass of wine.
Tell us about the matchmaker.
Sima. She
Oh, that one.
-Yeah, and
-Oh!
She listened to me this time.
I feel like she did pick up
on the elements of me
-Mm-hmm.
-and present them in these two options.
Do you trust Sima?
-Do we trust her more? I think it's like
-We trust her more.
I feel it's this
We trust that she's listening,
and that's most important.
That's really good.
And that she tried her best
to find two people
who I would like to say,
on paper, were great,
and when you meet in person, were great.
-Maybe one isn't right for me off the bat.
-Right.
But the other one has potential for me
to learn more and see where it goes.
-[Smita] I think
-[Aparna] You're smiling.
-I'm so pumped about this guy.
-[Smita] She's so pumped.
Shekar. Well, he was great.
-Hey, Aparna?
-Yeah.
-Hey, I'm Shekar. Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
-[Aparna] He's an attorney as well.
-Wow!
Which is weird,
because I don't date other attorneys.
-You don't date other attorneys.
-Yeah. I don't.
What's interesting about him, though,
is that he really loves it.
Whoa!
I don't hate him.
That's a big deal, though.
I wanna be very clear. That's a big deal
that I don't dislike someone
after a first date.
I'm very decisive,
so the fact that I'm indecisive
or haven't made up my mind yet,
it's a really big deal.
Usually, I'm quite quick
to be like, "Nope. Yup."
And I do say yup sometimes.
-[Divya] So, he lives in Chicago.
-He lives in Chicago now.
-He has two law offices there.
-Do you like Chicago?
-No, but
-You might grow to love it.
Wait. What? You just took ten steps.
[Smita] She jumped to,
"You're gonna marry this guy."
You have moved me to the Midwest
before I even took another sip of wine.
We're not preemptively moving you,
but I'm trying to figure out
how we, like, meld the two together.
What else? There was more coming.
Um, he's very extroverted.
So, you know, he does that thing
that I hate with people:
when men I'm on a date with start talking
to other people.
I'll tell you a little bit
[Aparna] When they talk to the bartender
and have a real conversation.
-I'm like, "Uh-uh. Focus. Focus."
-[Smita] Okay.
Not because I'm a narcissist,
but because we're
-[all laugh]
-[Smita] I'm glad you caveated that.
I'm glad I caveated that. But focus on me.
We're spending time together.
That person is not consequential
to your life.
He may have been nervous
about meeting you,
and he may have been
really trying to make a good impression.
-[Aparna] Yeah.
-Um, he sounds really promising.
He's definitely very interesting.
I wanted to know more.
Like, when they they said
that it was time for us to leave,
I was a little bummed,
so that's a good sign, right?
[Smita] Aw! That's good!
You have to see him again.
-Maybe I do have to see him again.
-She has to see him again, right?
Well, yeah, I mean Okay, because
I think I'm trying to, like, divorce the,
"Okay, that's a tendency I don't like,"
versus "I think we clicked,"
and what I'm hearing is,
"I think we clicked."
-Yeah.
-Which is not a bad thing.
You clicked with a guy
you didn't think you would click with.
-[Smita] I know. Think about it, lawyer
-Which is amazing!
-He's literally what you didn't want.
-[Aparna] I know.
-[Divya] You did not want a lawyer.
-I know. I hate lawyers.
I'm so excited about this guy.
You have to see him again.
-[Smita] Look how happy she is.
-Okay.
-She already moved me to the Midwest.
-I moved you to Chicago.
How do you feel he felt about you?
I don't know.
We'll see if he wants to see me again.
-I think I'd be open to it for sure.
-It's amazing.
[Aparna]Yeah.
Yeah, I don't honestly think
we have too much in common
other than the fact we're both attorneys.
I think she's very ambitious,
has a lot going for her, clearly,
very educated. Um
But I just think we're just fundamentally
very different people.
We definitely have very different,
I think, outlooks,
and want different things in life.
I mean, even like things
as simple as, like, traveling, right?
You know, the way I travel
is so laid-back that I think, um
You know, for me, vacation's vacation,
and for her, uh, vacation is
more about various experiences.
The way I travel would probably
give her a heart attack and [laughs]
Shekar was not interested in Aparna
because he thinks
that she is very, very rigid.
He needs someone more positive,
more like how he thinks.
Did you guys make coffee?
-[Namita] Yep.
-You want a coffee, too?
-[Namita] She has one.
-I have some.
So what's been going on lately with you?
Um, this guy Vinay,
we went out a few times,
but, uh, he's been a little flaky.
One time he canceled on me
was, like, super shady,
and he still has yet to tell me
what happened.
And the fact that he's not telling me
is making it even more shady.
I feel like, you know, I'm older now,
and I feel like I know what I want,
but when I meet guys
who "fit my," you know, criteria,
they always just end up, I don't know,
not being what I want.
-You're not listening to me.
-Yeah.
[all laugh]
I think, because you're so independent,
I think you scare some of the guys away.
-I I think so too.
-[both laugh]
I think you put too many years
into that dancing
and, you know, those type of stuff.
It's all, like, a part of my life.
You guys put me in dance,
so don't even blame for continuing!
-[laughs]
-[Namita] Yeah, well, we
[Sima] Things didn't work
between Nadia and Vinay.
Clearly, Vinay is not ready for marriage.
So I know two new boys
who are ready to settle down.
[Nadia] Sima Auntie emailed me two people
that she thought would be interesting.
So, this is Savio.
So, 1990.
-So he's three years younger than me.
-[Jaipaul] Twenty-nine.
[Nadia] He's Mallu.
He's 5'9". Oh, dance instructor.
He does soccer, Bollywood,
and urban dancing.
He was born in India,
came to the US to get his MBA.
-He's a software engineer.
-[Jaipaul] Okay.
[Nadia] Moved to San Diego.
[Namita] He's a Catholic.
-Yeah, he's South Indian.
-Oh, okay. That's good.
Um, but is open to being
with someone who is not.
Oh, okay.
What do you think about this one?
Okay, what else you got?
[all laugh]
This is Shekar.
He's Tamil. He's 5'10". He's a lawyer.
In Chicago. Open to relocating
to other cities and states.
Extroverted, traveling,
meeting new people.
He's cute, too.
-Yeah, he is cute.
-He is cute. Yeah.
He wants to find a woman
who is social, outgoing, and active.
-So there, you fit all that.
-Check, check, check.
It's important for his future wife
to be a feminist.
He can't think of anything better
than a strong female role model
for his future children.
He wants to be supportive
of his future partner's career
-and family and hope she feels the same.
-See? I think that's a lot of good checks.
The only requirement is
that he finds someone
-who he can be happy with.
-[Namita] Aw! That's really sweet.
-That's really sweet. Yeah.
-[Namita] I like him.
-[Jaipaul] He owns his own law firm.
-[Nadia] Yeah, he owns his own law firm.
He seems like
he's, you know, outgoing. He's
has a lot of your kind
of personality, your
The things that you would like.
So you could be open to meeting.
But if you have to choose?
Um
[upbeat music playing]
You'll let us warm up a bit, no,
before you start?
There's no hurry to get married
because all the girls are so independent.
And boys always want the wives
to be submissive,
which today's generation
is not going to do.
I would say I tell my grandchildren,
"Please concentrate on your careers.
Later on when you find someone
who is correct for you,
you yourself will be able to judge.
Don't be in a hurry to get married."
Only thing I don't like about him
is that he doesn't talk now.
He's so silent, so silent, so I talk,
and I get my answer from myself only.
[laughing]
[upbeat music playing]
This first.
[Sima] In the last meeting,
we had gone to Aparna's house.
-How are you?
-How are you?
[Sima] She met with Srini.
It was very much a disappointment for her.
Well, we could go eat something.
Um, yeah.
[Sima] I feel it's difficult for Aparna.
Expectations are too high,
and she's a lawyer,
and she's educated so much.
Naturally, she will not accept anybody
so easily.
I don't have time in my life
to invest in people
that are not on the same page as me.
Unfortunately, Srini is definitely not.
[Jotika] Srini, the loser.
But the thing was that I was not
getting good vibes from them.
So they were a little adamant,
that I felt.
I have given good proposals to them.
It was not comfortable with the family,
with the mother, with the sister.
And they were a little egoistic,
and they are feeling as though
they are on the top of the world,
and everybody's down. I felt that way.
It was a negative vibes in the house.
I think she should change
her talking pattern also.
I didn't like it.
-Hi, Aparna, how are you?
-I'm doing well. How are you?
-Yes, fine, Aparna. Fine. How is Mom?
-Good.
I went on a date, and it was miserable,
and I'm still mad about it. [scoffs]
It's unfulfilling, and it's a way
that you wasted another evening.
You got all dolled up,
and you had all these expectations
that maybe they'll work,
and then that's dashed.
But I've still come to the conclusion
that I need a matchmaker
because it's not working what I'm doing.
So now I'm just throwing everything
against the wall.
Something's gotta stick.
According to your preferences,
last time when I spoke to you,
I have few good alliances,
and they're Sindhi boys
and very good, from very good families
That's wonderful.
Yeah, so if you are interested,
then I can send you the details then.
Um, okay, so how old are they?
They're 36 and 38.
Hmm.
Okay, I guess just, after last time,
let's check with them that they really
are ready to meet someone seriously
and consider all the work
that goes into that.
Um, we wanna make sure that
that's kind of where they're at
-in their life.
-Yeah.
[Sima] Aparna is difficult to match,
but she has given a lot of importance
to a Sindhi boy.
So now, I found two proposals for her.
-Okay.
-So I'll send you as soon as possible.
-Okay. I'm looking forward to it.
-Yeah. Okay, Aparna, bye.
Thanks, bye.
[chanting]
I have to chant that Aparna,
she has to have a positive vibes.
[chanting continues]
If she understand that, then her life,
she can get a good partner.
She can get married soon.
[chanting continues]
Matchmaking has become a tough job
[laughing] but I'm trying my best.
[chanting]
Thank you.
[slow pop music playing]
Vinay and I have gone out
probably about six or seven times.
[laughing]
[Vinay]
What was your favorite part of the movie?
Seeing it twice.
-[Vinay] Seeing it twice?
-It was so good.
I thought she was gonna say
watching it with me.
[sheepishly] Oh! Watching it with you.
[Vinay] Aw!
[Nadia] All of the things
that I thought we would connect on,
we 100% connected on,
and there's really so many other things
that we have in common.
[man] Where does Vinay rank in your dates?
Currently, he is at the top.
[people cheer]
-[Vinay] Whatever.
-[laughs]
We made plans to go out again.
The night before, he confirmed,
"Hey, we're still going to a movie
this time, this place tomorrow, right?"
And I was, like, "Yeah, I'll be there."
I was excited about that.
And then he didn't show up.
[phone ringing]
Hi, Nadia. How are you?
I'm good. How are you?
Fine. Looking good in the glasses.
Looking very nice. Very cute.
Thank you.
Yeah. So, how's life?
It's 1:30 in the morning.
My friends are out, and I'm at home.
Vinay and I scheduled to hang out.
Um, he, like, flaked on me.
He didn't show up.
He didn't answer the phone.
I called him multiple times.
I texted him. Nothing.
Um So it was just
That's kind of left
a really sour taste in my mouth.
[Nadia] I called him two times,
and he didn't answer
and didn't text me back.
He was the one who was like,
"Hey, I'm coming,"
and then he didn't show up.
Um
And so, I was really upset by that.
[Nadia over phone]
I'm conflicted right now.
-Nadia, it happens sometimes. So
-Yeah.
He might be having some problem
or something else.
You can't tell someone
you really like them,
you wanna see them,
and then you cancel on them.
You have to ask him, and finalize
whether he's interested or no.
Because when he has met seven times,
so the It's a positive response, like
[Sima] Each match is
a potential life partner,
and you need to take it seriously,
because we cannot force anybody
in this matchmaking.
[Nadia over phone]I just have been upset.
I think I just really need
to kinda sit down with myself
and really think about, like,
what my actual feelings are on Vinay.
Don't think so much.
[laughs]
Yeah, so good luck.
Let me know soon, Nadia.
I will.
So I want to listen the good news
as soon as possible.
-So, good luck to you.
-Okay.
[Nadia] After I spoke with Sima Auntie,
and she said, "Just ask him,"
I was like, "You're right. I'm not asking
for a full-blown detailed report.
I just want an answer.
Like, you just didn't show up,
didn't answer the phone, didn't anything."
Last night, I did this workout class.
It was about 95 degrees.
And from that, I ended up
getting heat exhaustion from that.
I got, actually, IVs in my veins
to get hydrated.
And last night, I was feverish
and couldn't sleep.
So this morning, I texted her.
[Nadia] In my past relationships,
I have let a lot of these things slide,
canceling on me, doing shady things.
But as I'm getting older,
I'm standing up for myself.
[Vinay]
I know I'm a lot to blame in all of this.
But I do think that
when difficulties happen,
it's how you react together
that can make you stronger or weaker.
Later that week,
I got a bouquet of flowers,
a box of chocolates,
and a box of cookies,
and on the cookies,
each individual cookie was, was stickered
with a different "I'm sorry" slogan.
Very respectful, very nice.
Like, I appreciate that.
So I thought that I'm going to try
and keep an open mind,
maybe give it one more chance.
[upbeat sitar music playing]
This is our shrine that we have.
Call it amandiras well.
And for the god,
we have created a wardrobe
where you can see,
we made clothes for them.
Even the god can choose what to wear.
There's these small hangers.
They can wear these dresses.
We change the dresses
on an everyday basis.
So they wear a new dress every day.
That's pretty cool.
I was the designer for all of them.
My family has given me ample amount
of freedom to do whatever I want to do.
I would consider myself
as a person with a creative soul.
It's been a challenge to get a good match
for Pradhyuman.
I am searching potential girls.
[doorbell rings]
[Sima] Today, I'm meeting a beautiful girl
who has come all the way
from Jalgaon to meet Pradhyuman.
-So I met your parents last night.
-Yeah.
-When did you come from Jalgaon?
-Uh, yesterday.
-Achha. Which year born?
-Ninety.
Ninety.
[in Hindi] You have any hobbies?
Painting and all,
and then I do like music.
-And you sing?
-I even like to go yoga in mornings, so
I have a lot of people in mind
after seeing you.
Uh, I can suggest one person,
Pradhyuman Maloo.
So, I think
that will match you I think, because
he's also tall, slim, trim.
-He's also a health freak
-Okay.
and gym-ka, and even you do yoga.
You're also slim, trim, tall.
I think [speaks Hindi]
-I think it will be a good match.
-Okay.
Pradhyuman has seen 150 girls,
and he has rejected all of them.
And he is not ready to meet personally.
Just by biodatas,
he has decided not to meet girls.
I've sent Snehal's biodata.
She's a lovely person,
and they have many things in common.
He's a jewelry designer. She is a painter.
But I was surprised
when he agreed to meet her.
Hi. Thank you.
[Pradhyuman]
After discussing this with my sister,
I think I would be more flexible
to give this process a shot.
And we had a lot of similarities,
and I think that she's cute,
so let's meet up. Why not?
So what do you do over here, in Bombay?
-I'm from Jalgaon, basically.
-Okay.
Yeah. It's like a town.
It's a proper town and all.
-Okay.
-Yeah.
Before this, all my meetings and all,
they were with families and all.
My first Where we two met and all,
had a talk one-on-one.
When you're with family,
you cannot ask so many questions openly.
And what do you do?
I'm a jewelry designer.
So I design jewelry, selling jewelry
So you have studied
and do jewelry designing and all?
Hmm. Studied
I would say I had a very hands-on training
with jewelry.
Uh, designing
and as well as jewelry procurement
and trade shows, yes.
Practical knowledge,
a lot of practical knowledge basically.
Wow. Super.
[Pradhyuman] The first time I saw her,
she seemed like a very relaxed
and a sweet girl, which she is.
It's always good to make
the other person comfortable
and try to, you know, understand them.
I think that's very important
when you're meeting anyone.
So in terms of talking, she seems fun.
So after you finish your education now,
what do you do post that?
-I work for interior designers.
-Okay.
Like, if they want any canvas paintings
and all, I do
I take that, and I make
and give it to them personalized.
Show me some work if you can.
-These painted by you?
-[Snehal] Yes.
[Pradhyuman] Wow. Oh, that's sweet.
It's fun. It's fun to paint.
Lots of colors
-It's pretty.
-and just
Yeah. I love it.
[Pradhyuman] Very nice.
Good stuff.
Before coming, I was
a little bit, um, excited and nervous,
like mixed feelings,
but he was very interested
into my passion,
my art, and what I love to do.
Now I am relaxed.
What are your hobbies?
I am into fitness.
I like traveling, music.
I would say movies. Anything adventurous.
-Okay.
-Theater. All of that.
-Like, anything opposite to me. [giggles]
-You don't like anything adventurous?
Uh, no, not really. [giggles]
Do you like traveling as a
Yes, I do like traveling.
Last I went was Hyderabad one week before.
Mymausistays there.
Okay, but I've got very bleak memory
of that place because
Yeah, it's too far.
[laughs] Too far for you?
From Jalgaon, it's 15 hours train.
This thing in Jalgaon
is really disconnected, man.
Like, right now, you're trying
to find flight connections.
How disconnected is this place!
Just because you cannot reach there
by flight, it's disconnected.
Oh, but it is. Come on, agree with me.
-No, I don't.
-I've never been there.
-There you go. You want some ketchup?
-Do you like caffeine?
Oh, I have a lot of caffeine.
At least we are
I have never tried coffee
and tea in my life.
-You don't like anything bitter.
-Hate it.
-No.
-You like white chocolate?
No. I don't like chocolates.
Who doesn't like chocolates?
Okay.
[Pradhyuman] I'm not sure
we are very mentally compatible.
She's very simple and homely person.
In terms for a long-term perspective,
I was a little apprehensive towards,
you know,
would this translate
into future good times as well?
That was my concern.
I'm not very sure that I would want
to take this conversation ahead.
Are you going back to Jalgaon
on the 27th, right?
Yes, I will.
Then I'll see you in Jalgaon on 27th.
Hell, no. That's not happening.
That's certain that's not happening.
[Pradhyuman] I did take her number,
but does not mean
that I'm going to call her.
-Aparna?
-Yes, hi. How are you?
-It's so nice to meet you.
-So nice to meet you. How are you doing?
-Pretty good.
-Yeah.
The last match for Aparna went very badly,
and I knew that I have to get
what she exactly wanted.
So I introduced her to Dilip.
Like her, he's also Sindhi,
and he has gone to Ivy League school.
And he's very serious
and wants to settle down.
-Cheers.
-Cheers.
-So you're in Seattle now?
-Yeah.
I just moved there, like, 10 months ago.
I have spent my entire life
in New York basically.
-Yeah?
-And then just sort of, like, outgrew it.
-[laughs] All of it. Yeah.
-Physically and mentally outgrew it.
I think she did really well,
because when I saw his resume on paper,
I said, "The only thing
this could come down to was chemistry.
That's it.
Otherwise, viability, he's perfect."
-[Dilip] So you grew up around here?
-[Aparna] I did. I did.
What kind of things do you do for fun?
[Aparna] Um, I travel as much as I can,
which is never enough.
Oh! That's exciting.
It's really nice actually. Um
I was just in Ecuador.
I'm going to Colombia this weekend.
Yeah, I'm doing Panama
in a few weeks after that.
And then I really wanted to go to Iran,
and now we can't go.
But last year we could have,
and I was like, "Darn!"
So
And then I really want to go to Pakistan
and, like, take my mom,
-which is a huge commitment.
-Yeah, that's like so
I didn't think that number
was this large until after work
and struggling getting there and
Yeah. What about you? Where to next?
[Dilip] Uh, I'd like to go to Norway.
Isn't there, like,
only five hours of sunlight a day?
Yeah, that's why you're supposed
to go for the Northern Lights.
-You got more darkness a day.
-Wow.
Oh, man.
Over the years, I've been working on
going into situations with no expectation,
but Vinay and I have gotten
more serious,
and so my friends
are looking forward to meeting him.
I actually cannot believe
that it lasted this long. Like
-Me neither.
-[Shreya] In that way.
Yeah, no. We have fun together,
so it's been good.
-[phone dings]
-Oh, he just texted.
On his way.
And we actually have
a lot of mutual connections.
-That's crazy.
-[Nadia] I know!
-So he's "vetted." Pre-vetted.
-[Nadia] Yeah, pretty much.
We have, like, 40 mutual friends
on Facebook,
-and I was, like, how did we never meet?
-[Shreya] Yeah.
-But it's just funny how things happen.
-Yeah.
Almost every time we've hung out,
we've hung out with his friends.
Which is crazy, 'cause I feel like
normally, guys don't want
-to introduce the girl to his friends.
-[Nadia] Right? It was right away.
Wait. So, is this the first time
he's meeting any of your friends?
-Yeah.
-That's kind of a lot of pressure on
-I feel a little bit of pressure.
-But I also feel a bit more in control,
'cause he's probably a little intimidated.
-Yeah, he better be.
-[all laugh]
I sometimes set my expectations too high,
and then I get very disappointed,
but, uh, the hope is is a relationship.
So we can cross our fingers. [laughs]
-Did you do the islands?
-No.
-I think
-I hate beaches.
-What?
-Yeah, I hate beaches.
You hate beaches. Is it the sand gets
everywhere? Or the ocean is scary?
No, I love the ocean. I lived on the ocean
for 100 days in a boat.
-Okay.
-Obviously, I love the ocean.
But just not just the sand itself.
-It's, like, my worst nightmare.
-Really!
Do not ever make me lay on a beach
for more than, like, three hours.
Maybe two.
So what would be
like a relaxing ten days for you?
What would you do for ten days?
Why would you put the word "relaxing"
in front of it?
That is 'Cause that's relaxed.
Laying in, like Can you relax?
Yeah. For three days. Why would you relax
for ten days? That's weird.
I don't know.
What's happening in your life
that you can't relax in your real life?
I'm concerned if you have to relax
for ten days, you know what I mean?
I'm, like, what's wrong with you?
[inhales deeply] Um, it's
[Aparna]
He's obviously got an adventurous spirit.
He's traveled.
He's adventurous with his career.
He's really looking for the right fit.
I think that says a lot about who he is.
I feel relaxed now that this is all over.
She didn't know Seem to know
how to answer the question
about being about relaxing.
[laughs] So
-Are you ready to get out of here? Okay.
-Yeah.
[Dilip]
Even though I'm not a beach person,
but I could 100% spend ten days
on a beach.
[Aparna] I was in Patagonia
climbing a mountain, and I thought,
"This is the worst thing
that's happened to me in a while."
-[Dilip] Really?
-[Aparna] It's really a terrible thing.
He was so wonderful, but I just
I don't know if the chemistry was there.
I think Sima went above and beyond,
and listened to what I said last time,
and really found someone that suited
exactly the characteristics and qualities
I pointed out to her.
I was happy to see someone
that was a unicorn on paper,
but that doesn't mean
they're a unicorn in real life.
[Krina] Oh, my God! Perfect timing.
I've been hungry.
Thank you so much. This is exactly
what we needed right now. [laughs]
Where is this guy?
[Shreya] Do you think
he was actually on his way?
[Nadia] I don't know, dude. Kinda annoyed.
Wow.
[Shreya] What's up?
Okay, so he just gave me
some lame-ass excuse that he's not coming.
[Shreya] No!
You okay?
[Nadia]
The thing that bothered me the most
was that he literally stood me up
in front of my friends,
and it was really embarrassing.
I feel like if you should text him back
and be like, "You know what? Forget it."
[Nadia] Yeah.
[Nadia] I just got really upset. Like
[crying]
'Cause I am lonely.
[sniffles, sobs]
I'm, like [exhales deeply]
I'm at the age
where, like, all my friends are moving on,
and, like, to this, you know, chapter
And I just feel like
I'm not doing anything.
[sobbing] Sorry.
I hate having my period. [laughs]
[Sima]
Due to her adamant and stubborn nature,
Aparna did not continue with Dilip.
So now, I am introducing her to Shekar.
-Hey, Aparna?
-Yes, hi.
-Hey, I'm Shekar. Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
-How are you doing?
-Good. How are you?
Good.
[Sima] Aparna says
she doesn't want a lawyer,
but Shekar is a lawyer.
He has his own law firm.
He's kind. He's smart. He's successful.
And he also has a very positive energy.
He won't be afraid of her.
-Yes, sir.
-I'm actually Do you have Grey Goose?
-[waiter] Yes, sir.
-I'll have a Grey Goose soda with lime.
-[waiter] Right away.
-[Shekar] Thank you.
-[Aparna] You like Grey Goose?
-Um, yeah.
In fact, for some reason,
I don't like Tito's.
That's just a thing of mine,
and everyone's like
Ah! In Texas, we don't say that.
-Really? Is Tito's, like, a Texas thing?
-It's from Austin. Yeah.
So you're from Houston, born and raised?
Um, I was born in London, and I grew up
in Dubai for a short bit.
Then when we moved to the States,
we basically moved to Houston.
-That is awesome. I've been to London.
-Yeah.
I've always, always wanted to go to Dubai.
Really? Strange place to want to go.
Really? Like, it seems amazing.
I mean, it, like
It seems like so developed
and so, like, kind of futuristic
if you will.
Yeah. I mean, if you like Disney,
it's kind of like Disney World.
-Okay.
-Yeah.
-[Shekar] Oh, thank you.
-Absolutely.
-Cheers! It's nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you, too. Thanks for coming.
And I went to law school
right after undergrad.
So I basically lived out my senior year
of college for three more years.
And it was like chaos.
I look back on it, and I'm like,
"I should have taken a break in between
and become, like, a real person."
-I took, like, four years in between.
-Yeah.
And you became a real person?
Yeah, and you know, I think I was
really happy that I took that time off
and kind of did some soul-searching.
It made me realize I loved law,
so I went to law school.
You really like it?
-What's that?
-You like it?
I love being a lawyer.
Yeah, absolutely love it.
I'm like, "Huh. That's weird."
Okay. Do you like being a lawyer?
-No, not particularly.
-Oh, okay.
[Aparna] I'm pleasantly surprised.
He's extremely easy to talk to.
That's kind of nice, too, right?
Are some people really that uncomplicated?
I mean, that would be interesting.
That would be new.
So what's your ideal vacation, then?
Um, I travel a lot.A lot, a lot, and
Yeah, I've done Egypt, Mauritius,
Morocco, and South Africa.
I really want to go to South Africa, also.
-I didn't like it.
-You didn't like it?
-Weirdly, touristy places freak me out.
-[laughs]
-I went to Cuba, too, though.
-Did you? Okay.
I just snuck in through Canada
back in the day,
like, five-seven years ago.
What was your take on Cuba?
Didn't it feel randomly unsafe?
I've, like, literally traveled
the whole world
to very dangerous places.
We were very just concerned
about the girls we were with because
They should've been concerned about you.
Yeah. [laughs]
It was interesting.
I mean, I love the culture.
-I thought it was great too.
-A lot of it is kind of sad to see.
-I mean
-Yeah. The sex tourism is weird.
-The what?
-The sex tourism. The friend I went with
-I didn't even know that was
-Yeah, it was a real problem back then.
-Oh, my gosh.
-This was 2013 or 14,
and it was all these men who
It was great. It was a fun date,
and I enjoyed the conversation.
It was really nice.
There were construction workers,
and we were like, "Why do you come
all the way to Cuba every year?"
They were like, "Bachelor parties.
It's cheap to buy women."
I thought she was just full of energy,
she was really fun.
I think
she's just a very fascinating person.
-And I was like, "That's horrific."
-Oh, my goodness! That's terrible.
And so, I left my friend alone
for, like, half an hour.
I think she's someone
that I would continuously learn from.
Well, we almost got, like, hijacked
like, killed, basically, also one night.
That's a whole different story.
I'm relieved. I mean,
I'm relieved that he's
presented as an option that, you know
He maybe wasn't everything
on the checklist,
but we all know, and I've always admitted,
and Sima even said,
"The checklist isn't everything.
You have to meet the person."
What Sima did was find me a guy
that was good.
He's good.
[car engine starts, revs]
[tires squealing]
[electronic music playing]
[Pradhyuman] I've met a lot of people.
They're good people,
but I don't see them
as potential matches for my life.
At this point of time,
you do feel lonely at a lot of times.
You feel that when you are going out
with your friends also,
you are the single one,
and they are there as a couple.
In the last couple of years,
I would say that
I wouldn't mind settling down with someone
and have a lot of stability in life.
Because these are the constructive years
in a person's life,
and I would want that at least
in my constructive years,
I have someone to share it with.
Otherwise, you lose a lot of meaning.
[slow tabla music playing]
[hookah bubbling]
This is your first love, right?
[laughs]
-This is not my first love.
-Then what is your first love?
Uh, my first love, I think, is myself.
[laughs]
You're self-obsessed.
I'm not self-obsessed.
Then?
Self-employed.
Okay, what happened, by the way,
about that girl?
Snehal?
Uh, she's a nice girl,
but I don't think she's the one for me.
Like, I didn't get that vibe.
You're so self-obsessed.
How will anyone be for you?
-You have to give that person a
-Self-obsessed.
Of course. A person being self-obsessed
does not give that person their room.
Uh-huh? Really?
My sister got married
when she was 23 or 24 years old.
I would say she was fairly young.
But that time,
the generation was different.
Today's generation,
we have our own thought process.
Things are radically different.
But the problem is I am 30,
and the pressure to get married is strong.
So are you gonna see any girl
in your future?
Well, I'm open to it.
Like, if there's a good match,
I'm always open to seeing
[Khushboo] That.
I ask everyone, "Show me girls.
The more the options, the better."
But it takes its own time if you want
to spend your life with someone
whom you think is going to be
a lifelong partner.
[Pradhyuman]
I feel anxious about the whole thing.
It's not an easy process.
There are days that I feel like shit.
Every step ahead,
it becomes way more challenging.
Half your life is gone.
Only half is left now to spend.
Well, if that is the way,
that doesn't mean
I should pressurize myself.
Let the other half also be good, right?
[laughs]
What's the use if it's becoming bad?
My plan for Pradhyuman
He has to be a little clear
in his decisions.
So I'm sending him to my friend
who is a life coach,
and they can help by meeting and talking.
It's very important to see a lot of angles
before, you know, you can just say that,
"Okay, she's the one,"
or something like that.
[Pradhyuman] Sima had suggested me
that I should meet this life coach.
And I think that it is good
to get a third-person opinion
who is not connected,
who is not emotionally connected
to this whole situation.
I really believe in learning every day.
You know,
having the knowledge develop every day,
so I work on that.
I believe every person
should work on that.
[woman] Here we go!
-[Aparna] It's been a week.
-[woman 2] My gosh! I need wine.
[laughs]
Please pour a large glass of wine.
Tell us about the matchmaker.
Sima. She
Oh, that one.
-Yeah, and
-Oh!
She listened to me this time.
I feel like she did pick up
on the elements of me
-Mm-hmm.
-and present them in these two options.
Do you trust Sima?
-Do we trust her more? I think it's like
-We trust her more.
I feel it's this
We trust that she's listening,
and that's most important.
That's really good.
And that she tried her best
to find two people
who I would like to say,
on paper, were great,
and when you meet in person, were great.
-Maybe one isn't right for me off the bat.
-Right.
But the other one has potential for me
to learn more and see where it goes.
-[Smita] I think
-[Aparna] You're smiling.
-I'm so pumped about this guy.
-[Smita] She's so pumped.
Shekar. Well, he was great.
-Hey, Aparna?
-Yeah.
-Hey, I'm Shekar. Nice to meet you.
-Nice to meet you.
-[Aparna] He's an attorney as well.
-Wow!
Which is weird,
because I don't date other attorneys.
-You don't date other attorneys.
-Yeah. I don't.
What's interesting about him, though,
is that he really loves it.
Whoa!
I don't hate him.
That's a big deal, though.
I wanna be very clear. That's a big deal
that I don't dislike someone
after a first date.
I'm very decisive,
so the fact that I'm indecisive
or haven't made up my mind yet,
it's a really big deal.
Usually, I'm quite quick
to be like, "Nope. Yup."
And I do say yup sometimes.
-[Divya] So, he lives in Chicago.
-He lives in Chicago now.
-He has two law offices there.
-Do you like Chicago?
-No, but
-You might grow to love it.
Wait. What? You just took ten steps.
[Smita] She jumped to,
"You're gonna marry this guy."
You have moved me to the Midwest
before I even took another sip of wine.
We're not preemptively moving you,
but I'm trying to figure out
how we, like, meld the two together.
What else? There was more coming.
Um, he's very extroverted.
So, you know, he does that thing
that I hate with people:
when men I'm on a date with start talking
to other people.
I'll tell you a little bit
[Aparna] When they talk to the bartender
and have a real conversation.
-I'm like, "Uh-uh. Focus. Focus."
-[Smita] Okay.
Not because I'm a narcissist,
but because we're
-[all laugh]
-[Smita] I'm glad you caveated that.
I'm glad I caveated that. But focus on me.
We're spending time together.
That person is not consequential
to your life.
He may have been nervous
about meeting you,
and he may have been
really trying to make a good impression.
-[Aparna] Yeah.
-Um, he sounds really promising.
He's definitely very interesting.
I wanted to know more.
Like, when they they said
that it was time for us to leave,
I was a little bummed,
so that's a good sign, right?
[Smita] Aw! That's good!
You have to see him again.
-Maybe I do have to see him again.
-She has to see him again, right?
Well, yeah, I mean Okay, because
I think I'm trying to, like, divorce the,
"Okay, that's a tendency I don't like,"
versus "I think we clicked,"
and what I'm hearing is,
"I think we clicked."
-Yeah.
-Which is not a bad thing.
You clicked with a guy
you didn't think you would click with.
-[Smita] I know. Think about it, lawyer
-Which is amazing!
-He's literally what you didn't want.
-[Aparna] I know.
-[Divya] You did not want a lawyer.
-I know. I hate lawyers.
I'm so excited about this guy.
You have to see him again.
-[Smita] Look how happy she is.
-Okay.
-She already moved me to the Midwest.
-I moved you to Chicago.
How do you feel he felt about you?
I don't know.
We'll see if he wants to see me again.
-I think I'd be open to it for sure.
-It's amazing.
[Aparna]Yeah.
Yeah, I don't honestly think
we have too much in common
other than the fact we're both attorneys.
I think she's very ambitious,
has a lot going for her, clearly,
very educated. Um
But I just think we're just fundamentally
very different people.
We definitely have very different,
I think, outlooks,
and want different things in life.
I mean, even like things
as simple as, like, traveling, right?
You know, the way I travel
is so laid-back that I think, um
You know, for me, vacation's vacation,
and for her, uh, vacation is
more about various experiences.
The way I travel would probably
give her a heart attack and [laughs]
Shekar was not interested in Aparna
because he thinks
that she is very, very rigid.
He needs someone more positive,
more like how he thinks.
Did you guys make coffee?
-[Namita] Yep.
-You want a coffee, too?
-[Namita] She has one.
-I have some.
So what's been going on lately with you?
Um, this guy Vinay,
we went out a few times,
but, uh, he's been a little flaky.
One time he canceled on me
was, like, super shady,
and he still has yet to tell me
what happened.
And the fact that he's not telling me
is making it even more shady.
I feel like, you know, I'm older now,
and I feel like I know what I want,
but when I meet guys
who "fit my," you know, criteria,
they always just end up, I don't know,
not being what I want.
-You're not listening to me.
-Yeah.
[all laugh]
I think, because you're so independent,
I think you scare some of the guys away.
-I I think so too.
-[both laugh]
I think you put too many years
into that dancing
and, you know, those type of stuff.
It's all, like, a part of my life.
You guys put me in dance,
so don't even blame for continuing!
-[laughs]
-[Namita] Yeah, well, we
[Sima] Things didn't work
between Nadia and Vinay.
Clearly, Vinay is not ready for marriage.
So I know two new boys
who are ready to settle down.
[Nadia] Sima Auntie emailed me two people
that she thought would be interesting.
So, this is Savio.
So, 1990.
-So he's three years younger than me.
-[Jaipaul] Twenty-nine.
[Nadia] He's Mallu.
He's 5'9". Oh, dance instructor.
He does soccer, Bollywood,
and urban dancing.
He was born in India,
came to the US to get his MBA.
-He's a software engineer.
-[Jaipaul] Okay.
[Nadia] Moved to San Diego.
[Namita] He's a Catholic.
-Yeah, he's South Indian.
-Oh, okay. That's good.
Um, but is open to being
with someone who is not.
Oh, okay.
What do you think about this one?
Okay, what else you got?
[all laugh]
This is Shekar.
He's Tamil. He's 5'10". He's a lawyer.
In Chicago. Open to relocating
to other cities and states.
Extroverted, traveling,
meeting new people.
He's cute, too.
-Yeah, he is cute.
-He is cute. Yeah.
He wants to find a woman
who is social, outgoing, and active.
-So there, you fit all that.
-Check, check, check.
It's important for his future wife
to be a feminist.
He can't think of anything better
than a strong female role model
for his future children.
He wants to be supportive
of his future partner's career
-and family and hope she feels the same.
-See? I think that's a lot of good checks.
The only requirement is
that he finds someone
-who he can be happy with.
-[Namita] Aw! That's really sweet.
-That's really sweet. Yeah.
-[Namita] I like him.
-[Jaipaul] He owns his own law firm.
-[Nadia] Yeah, he owns his own law firm.
He seems like
he's, you know, outgoing. He's
has a lot of your kind
of personality, your
The things that you would like.
So you could be open to meeting.
But if you have to choose?
Um
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