Losing It With Jillian (2010) s01e03 Episode Script
May
Tonight on Losing It: I don't want to be fat anymore.
You are well on your way to having all the complications of diabetes.
It's an absolute urgent situation.
- Which woman do you want to be? - The one that finishes.
Let's take a look at what you would look like if you stay on the same path.
We're just following in her footsteps.
- Why are you holding on to this? - 'Cause I've lost too much already.
I'm gonna be back in 8 weeks.
I'd like to introduce the new May family.
America, this week I'm in Bakersfield, California, about to move in with the May family.
Ruth, the mom, and her daughters Ashley and Rachael and son David I had a life that was the good life.
A marriage and a husband and wonderful children.
Beautiful children.
And then 3 years ago, all of that fell apart.
I went through a divorce that I never saw coming.
I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer.
I lost my job.
I really thought, "I'm tough, I can handle this", but I obviously wasn't handling it as well as I thought.
The pounds just started coming and coming and coming.
My mom is a mess.
I don't know how to help her.
You don't realize how this is affecting us too, Mom.
Nobody wants their parents to get divorced.
I didn't really know how to deal with it and so I shoved it inside.
I'm in a downward spiral.
I don't want to be fat anymore.
I really want us to just be happy as a family.
We need someone from the outside to tell us what we need to change on the inside.
Ruth, a healthy woman with your body, height and build should weigh about 170 pounds.
Let's take a look at what you actually weigh.
300 pounds.
Ruth, we know that if you're at that weight and you have the genetics that you have, and what we found on your labs, you have pre-diabetes.
You are well on your way to having all the complications: kidney disease, blindness, amputation, heart attacks.
It's an absolute urgent situation.
Wow.
Girls, let's take a look at what you would look like if you stay on the same path.
I've always told myself I would never get that big.
And to see that me and Ashley, so close, and my mom, it's I mean, we're just following in her footsteps.
I don't want 'em to have to be where I've been.
This family needs a change, and they need it now.
I've got one week to turn them around.
So here goes.
- Hello? - Who's this? This is Rachael.
Who's this? - It's Jillian.
- It's Jillian.
- Oh my gosh, this is real.
- I'm in Bakersfield actually.
- Right now.
- Uhhh.
- She's in Bakersfield.
- Oh my gosh, are you serious? - Yeah.
I need you to wrangle your family, get your gym clothes on, and meet me at the stadium of Bakersfield College in 20 minutes.
- Meet you at the Bakersfield College stadium? - Oh, this is not good.
OK, bye.
- We have to be there in 20 minutes.
- 20 minutes? - Yeah.
- It takes 20 minutes to drive there.
We gotta go.
We gotta go.
As soon as I walked in the stadium, I was really nervous.
I knew we were  we were in for it.
How about this place, huh? This facility is for the most part, free to you three, right? Because you go to school here.
So you're going to be able to use this place anytime you want.
And lucky for you.
I'm going to be more than happy to show you how.
So here's what we're going to do.
I want you to take a lap.
Let's go.
Jogging, jogging, jogging.
Go, go, go.
It's the first workout, and this is where I'm going to assess the family and get a feel for them.
Get over here.
Get over here.
In order to do that, I have to push them Really, really hard emotionally, physically and mentally.
I swear to God, Ashley, don't make me come and get you.
You don't know what fear means until I have to come and get you.
It's nice of you to join us, Ruth.
See, it's getting dark.
So good thing there's lights here.
Up and over.
What's the matter, heavy? Up, up, up, up, up, up.
- What? Something? - Nothing.
Good.
Let me see some passion.
4 more.
Down and up.
Down and up.
3 more.
It's not resting on your head.
It's not a hat.
Keep it up over your head.
- The inside of my feet hurt.
- What's wrong? - My feet hurt.
- What? - Never mind.
- Good.
I'm watching the girls in this workout.
And they're a mess.
- Don't crawl.
- I can't get up.
- What? What? - Nothing.
- What? What did you say? - My legs are giving out.
No, your legs are not giving out.
Your legs are fine.
Your head is giving out.
Get up the stairs.
Tornado balls, yay! Up and down.
- Up and down.
- Ow! Don't knock yourself out, Mom.
Side to side.
Go! Ashley, this is not happening to you.
You're happening to it.
It should look that way.
Bend your knees and take charge of this.
Go! Harder.
Harder.
I want to hear your voice, Ashley.
Go.
Ashley, I want to hear your voice.
Throw it.
Come on, Ashley.
Go.
Louder! No, no.
Ruth, this year.
Let's go.
Go.
Go, go, go, go, go.
Push! Get in there, Ruth.
Go.
Go! You know when transformation happens, Ruth? Right now.
It's a present activity, Ruth.
Right now.
Five seconds.
Everything you've got.
Five.
Go! Who's the new you? Show me the new you.
Three.
Two.
One.
Good.
Ruth, I need you moving.
- I'm gonna pass out.
- Here we go.
No.
No fainting.
That's not on my agenda.
All of you, Jumping Jacks.
Go! Go, Ruth.
No, 30 seconds.
Dig through it.
30 seconds.
Right now, Ruth, is where you decide the woman that you want to be.
Do you want to be the woman that digs in and does this for 30 seconds and finishes it strong, or do you want to be the one that quits at the end.
- Do you? - No.
- Which one do you want to be? - I want to finish.
- Which woman do you want to be? - I want to be the one that finishes.
- Which woman are you going to be? - I'm gonna be the one that finishes.
- Which woman? - I'm gonna be the one that finishes! Then finish it.
- Home, sweet home.
- Yay.
So So wait, where's my room? All right, your room's down the hall.
It's day one.
Ruth is 300 pounds.
The kids are unhealthy.
Everything's crazy.
Her divorce just happened.
I'm not gonna lie.
I'm scared.
After today, it's kind of scary to think that she's going to be here for a whole week.
Coming up on Losing It  - We're gonna have a garage sale.
- You're not getting my Dodger jacket.
- That's not for sale.
- Is this for sale? - No.
- How about this? - I am not getting rid of that.
- All of this crap is going to suffocate you.
- So then get rid of it all.
- You have to do it.
Get rid of it.
Did you hear me? Sell it all! - You have to want it, Ruth.
- I don't.
I don't.
Last night was the first step.
I got to see where the family was fitness-wise.
- But now we need to see how they're eating.
- Ruth! Okay, what is that? That's the bacon grease from breakfast burritos yesterday.
This is from your breakfast yesterday? Ashley, do you see that? - Here.
- No.
- Yeah.
- No.
- Why? You eat it every other day.
- I don't want to eat that.
- Well, you've changed your mind? - You've got a change of heart? - Yeah.
I mean, that that is literally what is killing you.
Oh, my gosh.
I open up the fridge, and all I see is processed crap food.
No, don't.
Here's what I want you to do.
- Yeah.
- Put all of that here.
- Okay.
- Just give me all the condiments.
All of them.
Just give them all to me.
High fructose corn syrup.
This is sugar.
Sugar, Sugar.
Everything is processed.
Nothing fresh.
Every condiment from every country.
Things I've never even heard of before.
What in the hell is hot pepper jelly? - It's jelly made of, like, jalapeños.
- It's sick.
- It's hot.
Come on.
Let's go.
Get the trash thing over here.
Okay, if you throw away my canned fruit, I'm going to be upset.
I'm going to.
'cause it's bad for you.
Hit me.
Come on.
- Get over here and help.
- This is better for her to do, because she doesn't like when we throw her fruit away.
'Cause she bought it.
If you're gonna say that everything is mine just because I'm the one who does the grocery shopping, then you're wrong.
Fine, I'll do grocery shopping then I'll buy my own food.
I buy groceries that you guys like.
Tell me that's not true.
We're all responsible.
Absolutely.
Ruth, talk through your feelings.
Okay, so you don't feel repressed and then you don't explode.
- I am ready to do this.
- You're doing it now.
But I don't want to be attacked for this.
I just want you to understand this is not easy for me.
I expected you to be upset.
The things is that we want to understand that you're hurting, and we want you to express that.
We want you to get over this.
We've tried our own ways.
Obviously, it doesn't work because we just attack each other.
That's why we're doing this.
I know.
Ruth just suddenly goes from zero to 100 instantly.
And we have got to open up the lines of communication here in a healthy way.
All right, come with me.
We're gonna head to the garage.
'cause I want to see the fridges in the garage.
Let's do it.
Ruth's storage.
Ruth, what is all of this? Stuff.
- So why are we holding on to all this stuff? - 'Cause I might use it someday.
No, Ruth, why are you holding on to this? 'Cause I've lost too much already.
The life that I saw myself living is gone.
You're drowning in all of this stuff.
Ruth, life is not slipping away from you.
You are slipping away from life.
We're gonna need to let some of this go to make room for new.
By holding on to all this stuff, it's keeping Ruth from accepting the fact that the marriage is over, her previous life is done.
If I can get Ruth to let this stuff go, then symbolically she'll be ready for new memories, new experiences, and a new life.
So here's what we're gonna do.
We're gonna have a garage sale.
Let's go.
Let's break it down.
Kids, you guys are gonna be going through this.
- What is this? - I don't know.
We haven't even started unloading, and we're running out of room.
This is intense.
This is really intense.
Tell me about it.
I seriously feel like she's gonna flip a lid.
I believe that Ruth wants to change.
I'm just worried about whether she's capable of it yet.
We're gonna find out.
We haven't gotten rid of anything yet.
- Okay.
- How are you feeling right now just at the landscape of the situation? - There's a lot of stuff.
- Yeah.
- A lot of stuff.
Let's start going through things.
Tell me what we have to keep.
You're gonna hate this, but I really would like to keep that popcorn machine.
Is it an air popper? - No.
- Then no.
So let's keep going.
What else? You're not getting my Dodger jacket.
Okay.
Take charge.
- That's not for sale.
- Is this for sale? - No.
I'd like to keep the pumpkins.
No, Buddy.
Get a pumpkin, carve it, leave it on the doorstep.
They mold and die in a couple of days.
I like to put 'em out for the whole month of October.
Do it.
Get rid of it.
You can get rid of all of this crap except the foot spa.
Okay.
How about this? I made it.
It's a Halloween costume.
I was going to wear it last Halloween.
- I am not getting rid of that.
- Ruth, all of this crap is gonna suffocate you.
You got to let go some time.
Now its really obvious what the kids were so afraid of because Ruth is not even the littlest bit in charge.
She's not able to handle this.
- I'm tired of this.
- What about what your kids want for you? - What about that? - They don't understand.
They don't.
Do you know what they said to me? They're afraid that the hole in your heart is being filled with Tupperware, and pumpkins, and bunny costumes.
With food.
They think it because it's true.
- They don't think it because - So then get rid of it all.
- Ruth - Get rid of it all.
- I'm trying.
But I can't do it.
You can.
- Get rid of it.
- You have to do it.
Get rid of it.
Did you hear me? Sell it all! - You have to want it, Ruth.
- I don't.
- Ruth.
- I don't.
- Mom, Mom.
- Ruth.
- Mom.
Mom, come in the house.
Let's go talk.
Let's go talk.
Come on.
Do you know how much crap you're getting rid of out there? And one or two things I want to hang on to and you won't let me? One or two? Ruth, you want to hang on to everything.
I don't! I just told you I'd get rid of stuff.
- Mom, stop this.
- You got to listen.
Listen.
We've had days like this before where we talked to my mom about getting rid of stuff and she does the same thing.
It's just stuff.
It doesn't matter.
This is ruining your life, Mom.
Why are you I don't understand why you're so mad.
I haven't used a bunch of stuff simply because I didn't know who I was anymore.
But I didn't want to give it away, 'cause I thought maybe I'd find myself and maybe I'd want to paint some more.
We want you to do that.
I would love for you to do that, Mom.
You don't do that stuff anymore.
And that's the mom that we want.
That's who we miss.
I checked out when your dad divorced me.
Who cares about Dad? It's over.
It's gone.
It's hard to say it, but you just need to get over it.
Ruth was not able to take control of this situation And David's trying to calm Ruth down, Rachael's trying to confront Ruth, Ashley is having an anxiety attack around the corner and I'm watching this perfect storm wreak havoc on them.
Come on.
Coming up on Losing It You're looking right now at ground zero.
You gonna give up - I feel at ground zero.
- You gonna let anyone break you? It's time to rebuild.
I'm back after eight weeks since I've seen the May family.
I have no idea what to expect.
I'm a little nervous.
Hey, Ruth? - Why are you upset? - Because of yesterday.
I didn't handle yesterday well at all.
I didn't hardly sleep last night.
Have a seat.
I don't think you have any idea What you've done to me.
Ruth, I haven't done anything to you.
Did you promise me that I would have a chance To go through things before the garage sale? Ruth, and you were there That's a yes or a no question, Jillian.
Yes.
And you were there the whole time.
You're not a victim.
You're not.
I can't let you act like that anymore.
The only way that I feel like I could've taken charge Of that yesterday was to stand out in the front of my yard And say "everybody stand back and give me an opportunity To go through my things.
" Okay.
People had their hands on things That you promised me I could have.
You think everything in life happens to you.
And because you feel that way, You're never able to take control Because you're always a victim of a situation.
And that's the truth.
I know you're feeling regret, and remorse, and panic.
I am feeling hatred and I'm feeling anger.
Mom, you can't deny that our garage Has always been a mess.
What do you want me to say? I want the same thing as you do.
You want I want you to validate my feelings.
That you understand how I feel.
You're always, like, "oh, well, no one understands How I feel.
" Well, I feel the same way about you.
- This is not about junk.
- It is about the stuff, mom.
You've made it about the stuff now.
Ashley, I love you more than I love anything That's in that garage.
And I'm sorry.
I'm sorry if I haven't listened to you.
I know you love me and I want you to be happy for yourself.
Not for me.
I want you to find out who you really are.
I want you to find yourself again.
I haven't gotten in the habit of sitting down And talking heart-to-heart with my children.
When Ashley confronted me, I saw a little bit how that kind of behavior Impacts my children.
You're looking right now at ground zero.
Trust me.
I feel at ground zero.
Okay.
Guess what happens then.
It's time to rebuild.
After you, madame.
Let's go.
Push me back.
Who's in charge? Me.
- Who's in charge? - I'm in charge.
- Who's gonna do it? - I am.
You gonna let anybody stop you? Nobody's gonna stop me.
Who's gonna get in the way of your happiness? - Nobody.
- Who? Nobody.
You gonna let anyone break you? - No! - Come on, pull me.
Give me.
Come on.
3.
Pull me.
2.
Pull me.
1.
Excellent job.
Where have you been, Ruth? I'm there.
I just have to find me.
- You don't have to find you.
- I'm here! - You're right here.
- I'm here.
This is the new Ruth, okay? You follow me? I don't know why, but I really listened.
She was able to really get through to me.
Change doesn't always have to suck.
It can hurt.
It will make me better.
All the crap I've gone through has made me better.
But I haven't dealt with it well.
I haven't.
That's not good.
I don't want to make excuses anymore.
I want to take the good parts of the past, Leave the bad parts behind, and move forward.
You can.
What's to stop you? Nothing now.
I can do anything I want to do.
Damn right, Ruth.
I just have to work.
I just have to do it.
I have one final step planned for Ruth And the kids have helped me out with this one.
Now, Ruth, you're feeling good? I am.
Are you gonna change that? The kids wrote a profile about you.
Turns out that there are quite a few people That want to socialize with you.
The kids signed me up for an online dating site.
My first thought is "oh, my goodness, Who's gonna respond to that?" This is an opportunity to meet other people.
My mom got divorced about two years ago And she hasn't been on a date since.
We would like her to go out and meet new people And just experience it.
Part of feeling good about yourself Is trusting people that aren't your family.
This is a little scary.
I've made excuses that I didn't need to date Because I have trust issues and I was hurt.
But there's a million different reasons.
And, you know, I needed to be with my kids.
And, you know, that was good enough.
This whole week has been scary.
But all the things that have been scary Are things that are going to end up really good.
Nothing else, just make a new friend.
Okay.
Come on.
Um, now we got to go get dressed.
Okay, you're gonna try that one on.
And you're gonna try that shirt on.
Something that looks dangerous.
Don't mess up your hair.
Here you go.
We'll leave you and you have to show us.
- Mom? - Are you alive? - Whoo! - I like that shirt.
Oh, yeah, baby.
- You look nice.
- You look wonderful.
Thanks.
I'm nervous.
It's okay to be nervous, mom.
This isn't gonna be natural for you.
First date in over 30 years.
Just pretend he's naked And then it'll take your nervousness away.
- Oh, my gosh.
- I just think that - Hi, there.
- Hi.
- Hey, folks.
- Hi, Richard.
Ruth.
- Hi.
- Ruth.
How are you? Good.
I'm your date.
Oh, my stomach was churning and I started to get a headache.
And, oh, wow, we're on a date.
So where do you like to go and eat actually? I think that's irrelevant now.
Yeah.
I guess so.
I think in my heart I know that I want a relationship.
It's scary.
But I've learned this week That it's something that I need to do.
It's been three days.
Just when I thought all was lost, I saw a different Ruth.
Thank god, because she's showing up right on time.
She's starting to get it.
But tomorrow I got to dig into those girls.
Because right now, the girls are, like, "well, it's all about mom.
It's all about mom.
It's all about mom.
" And they're deflecting all the responsibility That they own.
Tomorrow is gonna be rough on those girls.
Coming up on losing it Rachael! Ashley, I'm going to crush you in this workout.
Come on! Taking care of this body And keeping it healthy.
That's loving yourself.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to do it.
Bummer.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to reach my goal.
Whoa.
Here we go.
You three, take it up to 12.
Hold the pace.
Bruce, stay right where you are.
It's been really difficult for these girls Having to deal with Ruth's anger all the time.
Ruth, look at your babies.
Look at how good they're doing.
Don't focus on the pain.
Focus on your children right now.
And their confidence is just shot.
And it's my job now to try to show them How strong they actually are.
Off.
Good.
Breathe.
Recover.
Ashley, come on.
Ashley finally spoke up.
This is the first time I've seen her use her voice.
And now what I want to do Is see if we can springboard that Into a physical transformation.
You will not.
You're safe.
3, 2, jump.
Do it again at 11.
No.
Yes.
You got this, ash.
Go.
Good.
Dig.
Dig.
Dig.
Dig.
That's good.
There it is.
Ten seconds.
10, 9.
It's right here.
You got it.
No, no, no.
Go.
Try again.
You were five seconds away.
Just got scared.
- No, I was gonna fall.
- No, you weren't.
Got scared.
Yes, I was.
- No, you weren't.
- I'm done.
No, you're not.
I'll eventually get to that speed.
But I don't feel confident enough to do it right now.
You can do it.
It's only been a freaking week.
It's only been a whole life.
Ashley's still struggling.
So I have to find something else For this kid that's gonna empower her And help build her confidence.
Rachael! I'm going to crush you in this workout.
4.
Keep going.
3.
Two more.
Go.
Go! Shoo! Hit hard.
Go.
2.
1.
Legs.
Legs.
Legs! Go! Oh, my god.
Go.
Are you gonna quit this? No.
Look at me.
Are you gonna quit this? Go! Go, Rach.
Go.
Are you gonna fight for this, Rachael? - Yes.
- Are you gonna sabotage this? - No.
- Up! Legs.
Go! - I can't even hold this, Jill.
- I know what, Jill I know what you're doing.
Go! - I'm trying.
- Try harder.
Up.
Deep breath in.
Switch legs.
Rachael, you have natural ability.
I know I can do this stuff.
I just don't do it.
I don't know why.
I just don't.
I don't try 'cause I'm afraid to fail so I don't try.
I'd rather just Know that I'm doing okay.
Is that good enough for you? No.
Rachael, please stop taking second place.
I think Rachael has shut down and given up on life.
And I don't know what is at the root Of her self-sabotage, But I have to figure it out.
Here's the thing, Rachael.
You're 25 years old and living at home.
Why are you quitting everything you start? I don't know.
I just do.
It's not a good enough answer, Rachael.
You're too smart for that.
Why? Well, if I can do this and get by, Then why should I have to excel at it? I've never really been, like, really great at anything.
Like, school.
Like, I was supposed to graduate this June.
Okay.
And I fail out of nursing school.
I felt stupid.
I felt dumb.
I felt I wasn't good enough.
And I never push myself to be conditionally better.
Why? I don't know.
I've just always been like that.
- Why? - I don't know.
Maybe it's just because I'm used to living In the shadow of something else.
Exactly.
The shadow of what? - I don't know.
- Yeah, you do.
Yes, you do.
Shadow of what, Rachael? My mom.
And that is what is stopping you.
I don't know.
Are you failing because you're afraid, if you succeed, You leave your mom? I don't I don't think she's ready to be alone.
That's the key.
You're gonna need to talk to Ruth about this.
Yeah.
I have a really good grasp on the Rachael situation now.
The one I haven't even begun to get through to is Ashley.
So I think tomorrow I want to get them out of the house.
I think it will do wonders for Ashley's self-esteem In particular.
Come on.
The girls used to play soccer When their parents were married.
So I take the girls to meet the soccer team At their college.
And we're going to try an activity that's fun Gets them out of the house And see if I can rebuild their confidence a little bit.
Rachael and Ashley, They're gonna be working with you guys.
You guys up for that today? Yes.
Ready to go? All right, go! Working out in the gym, Running on a treadmill, There's not really anything I can really focus on.
- There you go.
- Something like this Like, my mind's on the ball.
My mind's on keeping the ball in control.
Rachael's really coming out of her shell.
- Whoo! - That's it.
That's it.
But Ashley's kind of laying back a little bit.
And I don't want to wait I want to find out right now What is going on in her head.
Hey, coach, can I pull Ashley for a sec? Yeah.
Let's go, ash.
Touch this, touch that.
Touch this, touch that.
Eight times.
Go.
Fast.
We're one-on-one, Ashley.
It's your worst nightmare.
Me and you.
Go, go, go.
Five Hit it, hit it, hit it, hit it.
All the way back.
We don't stop here.
Can I throw up? You can stop when you puke.
Go.
Lunge.
Why are you always hiding in the corner? - I'm just quiet.
- Why? 'cause I'm afraid of rejection.
Why? - Because I don't trust people.
- Why? Because of my dad.
That's the person you're supposed to trust the most, And he broke my trust.
Sit down for a second.
What does this have to do with you? Nobody wants their parents to be divorced.
Your father He's limited, sweetie.
I don't want to be like that.
I want to be an open, loving person Who loves myself, and I can love other people.
You can be.
But then it means getting out and making friends.
And it means taking care of this body And keeping it healthy.
That's loving yourself.
Ashley, the only person that defines your worth Is you.
Tell me about what you've been through this week already.
I've already done things that I didn't think that I could do.
You know? I was afraid to do this, and, you know, I was afraid that they were going to reject me.
But they didn't.
I confronted my mom.
That takes courage, doesn't it? A lot of courage.
All of these things that you're talking about, What qualities do they require? Perseverance.
Hope.
Power.
Yes.
All of those qualities are within you.
I know.
This family has not been able to move on since the divorce.
The kids can't move forward Because they're so worried about Ruth.
And it's time for Ruth to set them free.
Okay, why don't you tell her your concerns.
I mean, I never thought about this, but I'm scared of you for you being alone.
Like, I don't want you to be alone.
'cause I know that David's gonna leave, And who's gonna be here? Who knows what would happen to you.
I don't know.
Because you don't do anything.
You know what, Rach, I'm not afraid of being alone.
I know, but I'm afraid for you to be alone.
I'm gonna be okay.
After five kids and a husband, I'm honestly looking forward to a little time alone.
Well, it's good to hear that Because that's what we're That's what we're really concerned about.
All of us.
Not just me.
I love having you home.
I do.
But I want you to be happy.
And don't worry about me.
I'll get out there.
I'll make friends.
I can do that.
'cause I know that'll make you happy.
Thank you.
- I love you, sweetheart.
- I love you too.
This is a turning point for us That has really motivated me.
I don't want to go back to the way we were before.
It's my last day here with the mays, And before I leave, I want to make sure These guys are on the right path, moving forward.
I'm gonna be back in eight weeks.
And now I want to hear what you want to show yourselves And your friends and your family.
Ashley.
I want to continue to eat healthy.
And I was thinking that I could lose 40 pounds.
That sounds great.
That's five pounds a week.
Rachael.
I want to wear a size seven.
I think you could be a six.
I don't even remember ever being a six.
- Size six.
- Okay.
Okay.
Ruth? I want to be able to communicate appropriately With my children, And not be so angry.
That's good.
And we can help you with that.
Go on, Ruth.
I want to be more sociable.
- Uh-huh.
You know, that's opening myself up to the possibility Of meeting somebody.
- Go on.
- Gosh, this is really scary.
- Oh, is it? Go.
- Really scary.
I said in the next 60 days I want to lose 20 pounds.
That's an awfully low expectation of yourself.
For me, it feels like a real challenge.
- Yeah.
- It does.
I would think that you could probably lose I'm gonna say 40 pounds.
I'm gonna double it.
No more excuses.
Okay.
We had a pretty good week.
And I think on that note, that's my cue.
Don't let me down.
Don't let yourselves down.
'cause I'll be back in eight weeks To see exactly how you've done.
At the beginning of the week, I realized We needed to work on exercise and diet.
And at the end of the week, I realized our health depends On other areas that are just as important.
You guys have done more in a week Than most people can do in a lifetime.
I am gonna give the next 60 days Everything I have.
Bye.
I'm really excited to see the changes That's happening in my family.
The kids are talking about calories And what we're eating.
There's a lot riding on this, And so I really want to lose weight, And I want to be able to feel like I'm losing the weight.
It's been a really, really rough week.
Really, really rough.
- I'm second-guessing that goal I made.
I don't know if it's right for me right now.
But here we go.
Two pounds.
Two pounds? Yeah.
Bummer! It's hard.
I've fought this stupid body my whole life.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to do it.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to reach my goal.
I'm in Pasadena, California, Heading to a restaurant for the mays family reunion.
The mays have family coming in From all over the u.
S.
And they haven't seen their family members for months.
- We're nervous.
- I'm nervous.
Waiting for the mays to show up This is one of the families I've worried about the most.
I'm Ruth May's father.
We were told that Ruth had set a goal for herself.
And some of her family have joined her in that.
And so, get ready.
I'd like to introduce the new may family.
She's hot! Ashley walks out, and I was floored.
This moment is magic.
She looks incredible.
Absolutely gorgeous.
Wow.
When I walked out and saw everyone's reaction, I was happy for myself, And I was happy that people were proud of what I'd done.
I'm proud of myself.
Then Rachael walks out.
You can just tell when someone knows they're hot.
The kid looks like a supermodel.
I mean, I'm Blown away.
How are you? Relaxed.
I've been nervous.
I'm not used to getting all that attention.
And so just to have all the eyes on me Was definitely nerve-racking.
But it made me feel really good about myself.
Give me a hug! All the hard work's paying off.
And then Ruth comes out.
My gosh! This is a different woman.
She looks amazing.
Absolutely amazing.
I am so thrilled for her.
I love you so much.
I think Jillian always knew I could do this.
She just has such confidence in the process That she knew that if we really Put it to work in our lives, That we would be successful.
You're so skinny! But I think she was pleased with how successful.
Wow! I was pleased with how successful.
I have never been good at losing weight.
But I lost 74 pounds.
I'm really proud of you, mom, For the progress that you've made.
It's been, um Beneficial for all of us.
And we've all learned and grown as a family.
And I just want you to know how much we love you, And that I'm really proud of you.
This is probably one of the hardest things That I've ever done.
And the reason that it has been so successful Is because I've had my family with me On this journey.
Jillian, I want to thank you For saving our lives.
You will always, always have a place in our hearts And in our home and in our family.
We love you, Jillian.
I just can't take the credit for this one.
Not even close.
You guys did this on your own.
I put you through the wringer and back, And what you've accomplished is beyond amazing And inspirational.
With that said, I wanted to see If I can help you out a little bit, So jillianmichaels.
com would like to give you $50,000 towards your school loans for your masters degree, Put you through nursing school, And put you through beauty school.
These guys are rocking.
The girls are doing amazing in school, They're doing amazing with their health.
Ruth is 74 pounds lighter.
She's off of her blood pressure medication.
She's off of her cholesterol medication.
Just the beginning for these guys.
It's just the beginning.
I love the way I feel, and I want to keep this up.
I can do things that I couldn't do before.
I've got more energy.
I've got more strength.
I feel good about myself.
I feel confident, and I don't want to lose that.
Just because the show is ending, That doesn't mean that this part of my life ends.
It's gonna continue, And this is more of a lifestyle change Than it is a diet.
My outlook on life is a lot better.
I really feel that I have control of my life, That I can do this.
And I really look forward to graduating, Being more independent, being able to be More self-sufficient.
I know that what I've done Has gotten me to this point, And that if I want to stay here And continue to improve, That I'm gonna need to stay on this path.
And I'm willing to do that.
I'm learning to live livin' to learn
You are well on your way to having all the complications of diabetes.
It's an absolute urgent situation.
- Which woman do you want to be? - The one that finishes.
Let's take a look at what you would look like if you stay on the same path.
We're just following in her footsteps.
- Why are you holding on to this? - 'Cause I've lost too much already.
I'm gonna be back in 8 weeks.
I'd like to introduce the new May family.
America, this week I'm in Bakersfield, California, about to move in with the May family.
Ruth, the mom, and her daughters Ashley and Rachael and son David I had a life that was the good life.
A marriage and a husband and wonderful children.
Beautiful children.
And then 3 years ago, all of that fell apart.
I went through a divorce that I never saw coming.
I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer.
I lost my job.
I really thought, "I'm tough, I can handle this", but I obviously wasn't handling it as well as I thought.
The pounds just started coming and coming and coming.
My mom is a mess.
I don't know how to help her.
You don't realize how this is affecting us too, Mom.
Nobody wants their parents to get divorced.
I didn't really know how to deal with it and so I shoved it inside.
I'm in a downward spiral.
I don't want to be fat anymore.
I really want us to just be happy as a family.
We need someone from the outside to tell us what we need to change on the inside.
Ruth, a healthy woman with your body, height and build should weigh about 170 pounds.
Let's take a look at what you actually weigh.
300 pounds.
Ruth, we know that if you're at that weight and you have the genetics that you have, and what we found on your labs, you have pre-diabetes.
You are well on your way to having all the complications: kidney disease, blindness, amputation, heart attacks.
It's an absolute urgent situation.
Wow.
Girls, let's take a look at what you would look like if you stay on the same path.
I've always told myself I would never get that big.
And to see that me and Ashley, so close, and my mom, it's I mean, we're just following in her footsteps.
I don't want 'em to have to be where I've been.
This family needs a change, and they need it now.
I've got one week to turn them around.
So here goes.
- Hello? - Who's this? This is Rachael.
Who's this? - It's Jillian.
- It's Jillian.
- Oh my gosh, this is real.
- I'm in Bakersfield actually.
- Right now.
- Uhhh.
- She's in Bakersfield.
- Oh my gosh, are you serious? - Yeah.
I need you to wrangle your family, get your gym clothes on, and meet me at the stadium of Bakersfield College in 20 minutes.
- Meet you at the Bakersfield College stadium? - Oh, this is not good.
OK, bye.
- We have to be there in 20 minutes.
- 20 minutes? - Yeah.
- It takes 20 minutes to drive there.
We gotta go.
We gotta go.
As soon as I walked in the stadium, I was really nervous.
I knew we were  we were in for it.
How about this place, huh? This facility is for the most part, free to you three, right? Because you go to school here.
So you're going to be able to use this place anytime you want.
And lucky for you.
I'm going to be more than happy to show you how.
So here's what we're going to do.
I want you to take a lap.
Let's go.
Jogging, jogging, jogging.
Go, go, go.
It's the first workout, and this is where I'm going to assess the family and get a feel for them.
Get over here.
Get over here.
In order to do that, I have to push them Really, really hard emotionally, physically and mentally.
I swear to God, Ashley, don't make me come and get you.
You don't know what fear means until I have to come and get you.
It's nice of you to join us, Ruth.
See, it's getting dark.
So good thing there's lights here.
Up and over.
What's the matter, heavy? Up, up, up, up, up, up.
- What? Something? - Nothing.
Good.
Let me see some passion.
4 more.
Down and up.
Down and up.
3 more.
It's not resting on your head.
It's not a hat.
Keep it up over your head.
- The inside of my feet hurt.
- What's wrong? - My feet hurt.
- What? - Never mind.
- Good.
I'm watching the girls in this workout.
And they're a mess.
- Don't crawl.
- I can't get up.
- What? What? - Nothing.
- What? What did you say? - My legs are giving out.
No, your legs are not giving out.
Your legs are fine.
Your head is giving out.
Get up the stairs.
Tornado balls, yay! Up and down.
- Up and down.
- Ow! Don't knock yourself out, Mom.
Side to side.
Go! Ashley, this is not happening to you.
You're happening to it.
It should look that way.
Bend your knees and take charge of this.
Go! Harder.
Harder.
I want to hear your voice, Ashley.
Go.
Ashley, I want to hear your voice.
Throw it.
Come on, Ashley.
Go.
Louder! No, no.
Ruth, this year.
Let's go.
Go.
Go, go, go, go, go.
Push! Get in there, Ruth.
Go.
Go! You know when transformation happens, Ruth? Right now.
It's a present activity, Ruth.
Right now.
Five seconds.
Everything you've got.
Five.
Go! Who's the new you? Show me the new you.
Three.
Two.
One.
Good.
Ruth, I need you moving.
- I'm gonna pass out.
- Here we go.
No.
No fainting.
That's not on my agenda.
All of you, Jumping Jacks.
Go! Go, Ruth.
No, 30 seconds.
Dig through it.
30 seconds.
Right now, Ruth, is where you decide the woman that you want to be.
Do you want to be the woman that digs in and does this for 30 seconds and finishes it strong, or do you want to be the one that quits at the end.
- Do you? - No.
- Which one do you want to be? - I want to finish.
- Which woman do you want to be? - I want to be the one that finishes.
- Which woman are you going to be? - I'm gonna be the one that finishes.
- Which woman? - I'm gonna be the one that finishes! Then finish it.
- Home, sweet home.
- Yay.
So So wait, where's my room? All right, your room's down the hall.
It's day one.
Ruth is 300 pounds.
The kids are unhealthy.
Everything's crazy.
Her divorce just happened.
I'm not gonna lie.
I'm scared.
After today, it's kind of scary to think that she's going to be here for a whole week.
Coming up on Losing It  - We're gonna have a garage sale.
- You're not getting my Dodger jacket.
- That's not for sale.
- Is this for sale? - No.
- How about this? - I am not getting rid of that.
- All of this crap is going to suffocate you.
- So then get rid of it all.
- You have to do it.
Get rid of it.
Did you hear me? Sell it all! - You have to want it, Ruth.
- I don't.
I don't.
Last night was the first step.
I got to see where the family was fitness-wise.
- But now we need to see how they're eating.
- Ruth! Okay, what is that? That's the bacon grease from breakfast burritos yesterday.
This is from your breakfast yesterday? Ashley, do you see that? - Here.
- No.
- Yeah.
- No.
- Why? You eat it every other day.
- I don't want to eat that.
- Well, you've changed your mind? - You've got a change of heart? - Yeah.
I mean, that that is literally what is killing you.
Oh, my gosh.
I open up the fridge, and all I see is processed crap food.
No, don't.
Here's what I want you to do.
- Yeah.
- Put all of that here.
- Okay.
- Just give me all the condiments.
All of them.
Just give them all to me.
High fructose corn syrup.
This is sugar.
Sugar, Sugar.
Everything is processed.
Nothing fresh.
Every condiment from every country.
Things I've never even heard of before.
What in the hell is hot pepper jelly? - It's jelly made of, like, jalapeños.
- It's sick.
- It's hot.
Come on.
Let's go.
Get the trash thing over here.
Okay, if you throw away my canned fruit, I'm going to be upset.
I'm going to.
'cause it's bad for you.
Hit me.
Come on.
- Get over here and help.
- This is better for her to do, because she doesn't like when we throw her fruit away.
'Cause she bought it.
If you're gonna say that everything is mine just because I'm the one who does the grocery shopping, then you're wrong.
Fine, I'll do grocery shopping then I'll buy my own food.
I buy groceries that you guys like.
Tell me that's not true.
We're all responsible.
Absolutely.
Ruth, talk through your feelings.
Okay, so you don't feel repressed and then you don't explode.
- I am ready to do this.
- You're doing it now.
But I don't want to be attacked for this.
I just want you to understand this is not easy for me.
I expected you to be upset.
The things is that we want to understand that you're hurting, and we want you to express that.
We want you to get over this.
We've tried our own ways.
Obviously, it doesn't work because we just attack each other.
That's why we're doing this.
I know.
Ruth just suddenly goes from zero to 100 instantly.
And we have got to open up the lines of communication here in a healthy way.
All right, come with me.
We're gonna head to the garage.
'cause I want to see the fridges in the garage.
Let's do it.
Ruth's storage.
Ruth, what is all of this? Stuff.
- So why are we holding on to all this stuff? - 'Cause I might use it someday.
No, Ruth, why are you holding on to this? 'Cause I've lost too much already.
The life that I saw myself living is gone.
You're drowning in all of this stuff.
Ruth, life is not slipping away from you.
You are slipping away from life.
We're gonna need to let some of this go to make room for new.
By holding on to all this stuff, it's keeping Ruth from accepting the fact that the marriage is over, her previous life is done.
If I can get Ruth to let this stuff go, then symbolically she'll be ready for new memories, new experiences, and a new life.
So here's what we're gonna do.
We're gonna have a garage sale.
Let's go.
Let's break it down.
Kids, you guys are gonna be going through this.
- What is this? - I don't know.
We haven't even started unloading, and we're running out of room.
This is intense.
This is really intense.
Tell me about it.
I seriously feel like she's gonna flip a lid.
I believe that Ruth wants to change.
I'm just worried about whether she's capable of it yet.
We're gonna find out.
We haven't gotten rid of anything yet.
- Okay.
- How are you feeling right now just at the landscape of the situation? - There's a lot of stuff.
- Yeah.
- A lot of stuff.
Let's start going through things.
Tell me what we have to keep.
You're gonna hate this, but I really would like to keep that popcorn machine.
Is it an air popper? - No.
- Then no.
So let's keep going.
What else? You're not getting my Dodger jacket.
Okay.
Take charge.
- That's not for sale.
- Is this for sale? - No.
I'd like to keep the pumpkins.
No, Buddy.
Get a pumpkin, carve it, leave it on the doorstep.
They mold and die in a couple of days.
I like to put 'em out for the whole month of October.
Do it.
Get rid of it.
You can get rid of all of this crap except the foot spa.
Okay.
How about this? I made it.
It's a Halloween costume.
I was going to wear it last Halloween.
- I am not getting rid of that.
- Ruth, all of this crap is gonna suffocate you.
You got to let go some time.
Now its really obvious what the kids were so afraid of because Ruth is not even the littlest bit in charge.
She's not able to handle this.
- I'm tired of this.
- What about what your kids want for you? - What about that? - They don't understand.
They don't.
Do you know what they said to me? They're afraid that the hole in your heart is being filled with Tupperware, and pumpkins, and bunny costumes.
With food.
They think it because it's true.
- They don't think it because - So then get rid of it all.
- Ruth - Get rid of it all.
- I'm trying.
But I can't do it.
You can.
- Get rid of it.
- You have to do it.
Get rid of it.
Did you hear me? Sell it all! - You have to want it, Ruth.
- I don't.
- Ruth.
- I don't.
- Mom, Mom.
- Ruth.
- Mom.
Mom, come in the house.
Let's go talk.
Let's go talk.
Come on.
Do you know how much crap you're getting rid of out there? And one or two things I want to hang on to and you won't let me? One or two? Ruth, you want to hang on to everything.
I don't! I just told you I'd get rid of stuff.
- Mom, stop this.
- You got to listen.
Listen.
We've had days like this before where we talked to my mom about getting rid of stuff and she does the same thing.
It's just stuff.
It doesn't matter.
This is ruining your life, Mom.
Why are you I don't understand why you're so mad.
I haven't used a bunch of stuff simply because I didn't know who I was anymore.
But I didn't want to give it away, 'cause I thought maybe I'd find myself and maybe I'd want to paint some more.
We want you to do that.
I would love for you to do that, Mom.
You don't do that stuff anymore.
And that's the mom that we want.
That's who we miss.
I checked out when your dad divorced me.
Who cares about Dad? It's over.
It's gone.
It's hard to say it, but you just need to get over it.
Ruth was not able to take control of this situation And David's trying to calm Ruth down, Rachael's trying to confront Ruth, Ashley is having an anxiety attack around the corner and I'm watching this perfect storm wreak havoc on them.
Come on.
Coming up on Losing It You're looking right now at ground zero.
You gonna give up - I feel at ground zero.
- You gonna let anyone break you? It's time to rebuild.
I'm back after eight weeks since I've seen the May family.
I have no idea what to expect.
I'm a little nervous.
Hey, Ruth? - Why are you upset? - Because of yesterday.
I didn't handle yesterday well at all.
I didn't hardly sleep last night.
Have a seat.
I don't think you have any idea What you've done to me.
Ruth, I haven't done anything to you.
Did you promise me that I would have a chance To go through things before the garage sale? Ruth, and you were there That's a yes or a no question, Jillian.
Yes.
And you were there the whole time.
You're not a victim.
You're not.
I can't let you act like that anymore.
The only way that I feel like I could've taken charge Of that yesterday was to stand out in the front of my yard And say "everybody stand back and give me an opportunity To go through my things.
" Okay.
People had their hands on things That you promised me I could have.
You think everything in life happens to you.
And because you feel that way, You're never able to take control Because you're always a victim of a situation.
And that's the truth.
I know you're feeling regret, and remorse, and panic.
I am feeling hatred and I'm feeling anger.
Mom, you can't deny that our garage Has always been a mess.
What do you want me to say? I want the same thing as you do.
You want I want you to validate my feelings.
That you understand how I feel.
You're always, like, "oh, well, no one understands How I feel.
" Well, I feel the same way about you.
- This is not about junk.
- It is about the stuff, mom.
You've made it about the stuff now.
Ashley, I love you more than I love anything That's in that garage.
And I'm sorry.
I'm sorry if I haven't listened to you.
I know you love me and I want you to be happy for yourself.
Not for me.
I want you to find out who you really are.
I want you to find yourself again.
I haven't gotten in the habit of sitting down And talking heart-to-heart with my children.
When Ashley confronted me, I saw a little bit how that kind of behavior Impacts my children.
You're looking right now at ground zero.
Trust me.
I feel at ground zero.
Okay.
Guess what happens then.
It's time to rebuild.
After you, madame.
Let's go.
Push me back.
Who's in charge? Me.
- Who's in charge? - I'm in charge.
- Who's gonna do it? - I am.
You gonna let anybody stop you? Nobody's gonna stop me.
Who's gonna get in the way of your happiness? - Nobody.
- Who? Nobody.
You gonna let anyone break you? - No! - Come on, pull me.
Give me.
Come on.
3.
Pull me.
2.
Pull me.
1.
Excellent job.
Where have you been, Ruth? I'm there.
I just have to find me.
- You don't have to find you.
- I'm here! - You're right here.
- I'm here.
This is the new Ruth, okay? You follow me? I don't know why, but I really listened.
She was able to really get through to me.
Change doesn't always have to suck.
It can hurt.
It will make me better.
All the crap I've gone through has made me better.
But I haven't dealt with it well.
I haven't.
That's not good.
I don't want to make excuses anymore.
I want to take the good parts of the past, Leave the bad parts behind, and move forward.
You can.
What's to stop you? Nothing now.
I can do anything I want to do.
Damn right, Ruth.
I just have to work.
I just have to do it.
I have one final step planned for Ruth And the kids have helped me out with this one.
Now, Ruth, you're feeling good? I am.
Are you gonna change that? The kids wrote a profile about you.
Turns out that there are quite a few people That want to socialize with you.
The kids signed me up for an online dating site.
My first thought is "oh, my goodness, Who's gonna respond to that?" This is an opportunity to meet other people.
My mom got divorced about two years ago And she hasn't been on a date since.
We would like her to go out and meet new people And just experience it.
Part of feeling good about yourself Is trusting people that aren't your family.
This is a little scary.
I've made excuses that I didn't need to date Because I have trust issues and I was hurt.
But there's a million different reasons.
And, you know, I needed to be with my kids.
And, you know, that was good enough.
This whole week has been scary.
But all the things that have been scary Are things that are going to end up really good.
Nothing else, just make a new friend.
Okay.
Come on.
Um, now we got to go get dressed.
Okay, you're gonna try that one on.
And you're gonna try that shirt on.
Something that looks dangerous.
Don't mess up your hair.
Here you go.
We'll leave you and you have to show us.
- Mom? - Are you alive? - Whoo! - I like that shirt.
Oh, yeah, baby.
- You look nice.
- You look wonderful.
Thanks.
I'm nervous.
It's okay to be nervous, mom.
This isn't gonna be natural for you.
First date in over 30 years.
Just pretend he's naked And then it'll take your nervousness away.
- Oh, my gosh.
- I just think that - Hi, there.
- Hi.
- Hey, folks.
- Hi, Richard.
Ruth.
- Hi.
- Ruth.
How are you? Good.
I'm your date.
Oh, my stomach was churning and I started to get a headache.
And, oh, wow, we're on a date.
So where do you like to go and eat actually? I think that's irrelevant now.
Yeah.
I guess so.
I think in my heart I know that I want a relationship.
It's scary.
But I've learned this week That it's something that I need to do.
It's been three days.
Just when I thought all was lost, I saw a different Ruth.
Thank god, because she's showing up right on time.
She's starting to get it.
But tomorrow I got to dig into those girls.
Because right now, the girls are, like, "well, it's all about mom.
It's all about mom.
It's all about mom.
" And they're deflecting all the responsibility That they own.
Tomorrow is gonna be rough on those girls.
Coming up on losing it Rachael! Ashley, I'm going to crush you in this workout.
Come on! Taking care of this body And keeping it healthy.
That's loving yourself.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to do it.
Bummer.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to reach my goal.
Whoa.
Here we go.
You three, take it up to 12.
Hold the pace.
Bruce, stay right where you are.
It's been really difficult for these girls Having to deal with Ruth's anger all the time.
Ruth, look at your babies.
Look at how good they're doing.
Don't focus on the pain.
Focus on your children right now.
And their confidence is just shot.
And it's my job now to try to show them How strong they actually are.
Off.
Good.
Breathe.
Recover.
Ashley, come on.
Ashley finally spoke up.
This is the first time I've seen her use her voice.
And now what I want to do Is see if we can springboard that Into a physical transformation.
You will not.
You're safe.
3, 2, jump.
Do it again at 11.
No.
Yes.
You got this, ash.
Go.
Good.
Dig.
Dig.
Dig.
Dig.
That's good.
There it is.
Ten seconds.
10, 9.
It's right here.
You got it.
No, no, no.
Go.
Try again.
You were five seconds away.
Just got scared.
- No, I was gonna fall.
- No, you weren't.
Got scared.
Yes, I was.
- No, you weren't.
- I'm done.
No, you're not.
I'll eventually get to that speed.
But I don't feel confident enough to do it right now.
You can do it.
It's only been a freaking week.
It's only been a whole life.
Ashley's still struggling.
So I have to find something else For this kid that's gonna empower her And help build her confidence.
Rachael! I'm going to crush you in this workout.
4.
Keep going.
3.
Two more.
Go.
Go! Shoo! Hit hard.
Go.
2.
1.
Legs.
Legs.
Legs! Go! Oh, my god.
Go.
Are you gonna quit this? No.
Look at me.
Are you gonna quit this? Go! Go, Rach.
Go.
Are you gonna fight for this, Rachael? - Yes.
- Are you gonna sabotage this? - No.
- Up! Legs.
Go! - I can't even hold this, Jill.
- I know what, Jill I know what you're doing.
Go! - I'm trying.
- Try harder.
Up.
Deep breath in.
Switch legs.
Rachael, you have natural ability.
I know I can do this stuff.
I just don't do it.
I don't know why.
I just don't.
I don't try 'cause I'm afraid to fail so I don't try.
I'd rather just Know that I'm doing okay.
Is that good enough for you? No.
Rachael, please stop taking second place.
I think Rachael has shut down and given up on life.
And I don't know what is at the root Of her self-sabotage, But I have to figure it out.
Here's the thing, Rachael.
You're 25 years old and living at home.
Why are you quitting everything you start? I don't know.
I just do.
It's not a good enough answer, Rachael.
You're too smart for that.
Why? Well, if I can do this and get by, Then why should I have to excel at it? I've never really been, like, really great at anything.
Like, school.
Like, I was supposed to graduate this June.
Okay.
And I fail out of nursing school.
I felt stupid.
I felt dumb.
I felt I wasn't good enough.
And I never push myself to be conditionally better.
Why? I don't know.
I've just always been like that.
- Why? - I don't know.
Maybe it's just because I'm used to living In the shadow of something else.
Exactly.
The shadow of what? - I don't know.
- Yeah, you do.
Yes, you do.
Shadow of what, Rachael? My mom.
And that is what is stopping you.
I don't know.
Are you failing because you're afraid, if you succeed, You leave your mom? I don't I don't think she's ready to be alone.
That's the key.
You're gonna need to talk to Ruth about this.
Yeah.
I have a really good grasp on the Rachael situation now.
The one I haven't even begun to get through to is Ashley.
So I think tomorrow I want to get them out of the house.
I think it will do wonders for Ashley's self-esteem In particular.
Come on.
The girls used to play soccer When their parents were married.
So I take the girls to meet the soccer team At their college.
And we're going to try an activity that's fun Gets them out of the house And see if I can rebuild their confidence a little bit.
Rachael and Ashley, They're gonna be working with you guys.
You guys up for that today? Yes.
Ready to go? All right, go! Working out in the gym, Running on a treadmill, There's not really anything I can really focus on.
- There you go.
- Something like this Like, my mind's on the ball.
My mind's on keeping the ball in control.
Rachael's really coming out of her shell.
- Whoo! - That's it.
That's it.
But Ashley's kind of laying back a little bit.
And I don't want to wait I want to find out right now What is going on in her head.
Hey, coach, can I pull Ashley for a sec? Yeah.
Let's go, ash.
Touch this, touch that.
Touch this, touch that.
Eight times.
Go.
Fast.
We're one-on-one, Ashley.
It's your worst nightmare.
Me and you.
Go, go, go.
Five Hit it, hit it, hit it, hit it.
All the way back.
We don't stop here.
Can I throw up? You can stop when you puke.
Go.
Lunge.
Why are you always hiding in the corner? - I'm just quiet.
- Why? 'cause I'm afraid of rejection.
Why? - Because I don't trust people.
- Why? Because of my dad.
That's the person you're supposed to trust the most, And he broke my trust.
Sit down for a second.
What does this have to do with you? Nobody wants their parents to be divorced.
Your father He's limited, sweetie.
I don't want to be like that.
I want to be an open, loving person Who loves myself, and I can love other people.
You can be.
But then it means getting out and making friends.
And it means taking care of this body And keeping it healthy.
That's loving yourself.
Ashley, the only person that defines your worth Is you.
Tell me about what you've been through this week already.
I've already done things that I didn't think that I could do.
You know? I was afraid to do this, and, you know, I was afraid that they were going to reject me.
But they didn't.
I confronted my mom.
That takes courage, doesn't it? A lot of courage.
All of these things that you're talking about, What qualities do they require? Perseverance.
Hope.
Power.
Yes.
All of those qualities are within you.
I know.
This family has not been able to move on since the divorce.
The kids can't move forward Because they're so worried about Ruth.
And it's time for Ruth to set them free.
Okay, why don't you tell her your concerns.
I mean, I never thought about this, but I'm scared of you for you being alone.
Like, I don't want you to be alone.
'cause I know that David's gonna leave, And who's gonna be here? Who knows what would happen to you.
I don't know.
Because you don't do anything.
You know what, Rach, I'm not afraid of being alone.
I know, but I'm afraid for you to be alone.
I'm gonna be okay.
After five kids and a husband, I'm honestly looking forward to a little time alone.
Well, it's good to hear that Because that's what we're That's what we're really concerned about.
All of us.
Not just me.
I love having you home.
I do.
But I want you to be happy.
And don't worry about me.
I'll get out there.
I'll make friends.
I can do that.
'cause I know that'll make you happy.
Thank you.
- I love you, sweetheart.
- I love you too.
This is a turning point for us That has really motivated me.
I don't want to go back to the way we were before.
It's my last day here with the mays, And before I leave, I want to make sure These guys are on the right path, moving forward.
I'm gonna be back in eight weeks.
And now I want to hear what you want to show yourselves And your friends and your family.
Ashley.
I want to continue to eat healthy.
And I was thinking that I could lose 40 pounds.
That sounds great.
That's five pounds a week.
Rachael.
I want to wear a size seven.
I think you could be a six.
I don't even remember ever being a six.
- Size six.
- Okay.
Okay.
Ruth? I want to be able to communicate appropriately With my children, And not be so angry.
That's good.
And we can help you with that.
Go on, Ruth.
I want to be more sociable.
- Uh-huh.
You know, that's opening myself up to the possibility Of meeting somebody.
- Go on.
- Gosh, this is really scary.
- Oh, is it? Go.
- Really scary.
I said in the next 60 days I want to lose 20 pounds.
That's an awfully low expectation of yourself.
For me, it feels like a real challenge.
- Yeah.
- It does.
I would think that you could probably lose I'm gonna say 40 pounds.
I'm gonna double it.
No more excuses.
Okay.
We had a pretty good week.
And I think on that note, that's my cue.
Don't let me down.
Don't let yourselves down.
'cause I'll be back in eight weeks To see exactly how you've done.
At the beginning of the week, I realized We needed to work on exercise and diet.
And at the end of the week, I realized our health depends On other areas that are just as important.
You guys have done more in a week Than most people can do in a lifetime.
I am gonna give the next 60 days Everything I have.
Bye.
I'm really excited to see the changes That's happening in my family.
The kids are talking about calories And what we're eating.
There's a lot riding on this, And so I really want to lose weight, And I want to be able to feel like I'm losing the weight.
It's been a really, really rough week.
Really, really rough.
- I'm second-guessing that goal I made.
I don't know if it's right for me right now.
But here we go.
Two pounds.
Two pounds? Yeah.
Bummer! It's hard.
I've fought this stupid body my whole life.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to do it.
I don't know if I'm gonna be able to reach my goal.
I'm in Pasadena, California, Heading to a restaurant for the mays family reunion.
The mays have family coming in From all over the u.
S.
And they haven't seen their family members for months.
- We're nervous.
- I'm nervous.
Waiting for the mays to show up This is one of the families I've worried about the most.
I'm Ruth May's father.
We were told that Ruth had set a goal for herself.
And some of her family have joined her in that.
And so, get ready.
I'd like to introduce the new may family.
She's hot! Ashley walks out, and I was floored.
This moment is magic.
She looks incredible.
Absolutely gorgeous.
Wow.
When I walked out and saw everyone's reaction, I was happy for myself, And I was happy that people were proud of what I'd done.
I'm proud of myself.
Then Rachael walks out.
You can just tell when someone knows they're hot.
The kid looks like a supermodel.
I mean, I'm Blown away.
How are you? Relaxed.
I've been nervous.
I'm not used to getting all that attention.
And so just to have all the eyes on me Was definitely nerve-racking.
But it made me feel really good about myself.
Give me a hug! All the hard work's paying off.
And then Ruth comes out.
My gosh! This is a different woman.
She looks amazing.
Absolutely amazing.
I am so thrilled for her.
I love you so much.
I think Jillian always knew I could do this.
She just has such confidence in the process That she knew that if we really Put it to work in our lives, That we would be successful.
You're so skinny! But I think she was pleased with how successful.
Wow! I was pleased with how successful.
I have never been good at losing weight.
But I lost 74 pounds.
I'm really proud of you, mom, For the progress that you've made.
It's been, um Beneficial for all of us.
And we've all learned and grown as a family.
And I just want you to know how much we love you, And that I'm really proud of you.
This is probably one of the hardest things That I've ever done.
And the reason that it has been so successful Is because I've had my family with me On this journey.
Jillian, I want to thank you For saving our lives.
You will always, always have a place in our hearts And in our home and in our family.
We love you, Jillian.
I just can't take the credit for this one.
Not even close.
You guys did this on your own.
I put you through the wringer and back, And what you've accomplished is beyond amazing And inspirational.
With that said, I wanted to see If I can help you out a little bit, So jillianmichaels.
com would like to give you $50,000 towards your school loans for your masters degree, Put you through nursing school, And put you through beauty school.
These guys are rocking.
The girls are doing amazing in school, They're doing amazing with their health.
Ruth is 74 pounds lighter.
She's off of her blood pressure medication.
She's off of her cholesterol medication.
Just the beginning for these guys.
It's just the beginning.
I love the way I feel, and I want to keep this up.
I can do things that I couldn't do before.
I've got more energy.
I've got more strength.
I feel good about myself.
I feel confident, and I don't want to lose that.
Just because the show is ending, That doesn't mean that this part of my life ends.
It's gonna continue, And this is more of a lifestyle change Than it is a diet.
My outlook on life is a lot better.
I really feel that I have control of my life, That I can do this.
And I really look forward to graduating, Being more independent, being able to be More self-sufficient.
I know that what I've done Has gotten me to this point, And that if I want to stay here And continue to improve, That I'm gonna need to stay on this path.
And I'm willing to do that.
I'm learning to live livin' to learn