Risque Business: The Netherlands and Germany (2024) s01e04 Episode Script
Episode 4
1
[upbeat rock music playing]
Dong-youp.
That belongs to someone, man.
[laughs]
But imagine if I rolled up
on one of these.
-You seem to be dressed for it.
-I know, right?
Why would there be a club
in a place like this?
Isn't this a junkyard?
I hear the music.
-Boom, boom.
-[distant techno music playing]
HIDDEN INSIDE THE DARK ALLEYWAY
BERLIN CLUBS
[woman in English] Berlin is known
as the capital of techno.
People stay 48 hours to 72 hours
through the whole weekend.
You can see various styles
from all over the world.
[man] Escape the confinement of society.
[woman] People from
all parts of the world there in a club.
[in Korean] Someone's supposed
to be here to guide us.
-[in English] Hi.
-[in Korean] Hello.
[in German] My name is Romy.
-It's nice to meet you.
-[Si-kyung in Korean] Nice to meet you.
[in German] Are you ready
to go to church with me?
-[in Korean] Church?
-Church? Why?
What church?
[in German] I go to the club
every weekend,
so my friends and I
call it "going to church" as a joke.
-[in Korean] I'm Buddhist.
-[laughs]
[Si-kyung] So it's a figure of speech.
Do you love clubbing so much
that you go every week?
[in German] Yes.
The clubs in Berlin are superb.
You can experience something special there
that you can't
in any other club in the world.
A lot happens there
that may be shocking to some.
[Romy] A lot of people have sex there.
That's why the bouncers are picky
about who they let in.
A lot of people get sent away.
-[in Korean] If that happens
-It happens a lot, apparently.
-We'd lose an entire episode.
-[Si-kyung] Yeah.
If that happens, let's just find
a kebab place and talk there.
[laughs]
Have you ever been rejected at the door?
[in German] I've never been turned away.
[in Korean] How do they decide?
Do you need to be dressed well?
[in German] Well, check out my outfit.
KINKY FASHION:
A BOLD AND RACY STYLE
[Romy] It can be easier to get in
if you're dressed for the occasion.
I prepared a surprise gift for you.
Who's wearing it, and who's holding it?
[laughs]
[Romy] Every club has a different vibe,
so it's important to dress accordingly.
How about it? [laughs]
-[in Korean] No way.
-Come on.
Rock, paper, scissors!
[yells, groans]
[exclaims in joy]
[in German] You hold the leash.
[in Korean] Sure.
-[Dong-youp laughs]
-[Si-kyung] This is nice.
[laughs]
[in German] I'm not sure
if you'll be able to get in, but
-[in Korean] At least we have this.
-Stay still.
[laughs]
[Romy in German] Should we go?
Do you see the line there?
We need to stand in line.
[in Korean] My goodness.
THE RITE OF PASSAGE TO THE MAIN STAGE
THE LINE
AFTER A WAIT OF AT LEAST 2 HOURS
ONE MUST BE APPROVED
BY THE BOUNCER TO BE LET IN
MAIN STAGE
PATRONS MAY COME AND GO FREELY
FOR 2-3 DAYS AFTER BEING GRANTED ENTRY
[upbeat techno music playing]
[in German] Our turn's coming up.
Are you nervous?
[in Korean] I'm kind of scared
that he might not let us in.
[in German] Just try to relax.
[in Korean] Just play it cool.
Let's play it cool.
[in German] Doesn't she look great?
We've got the same outfit on.
I love it.
-[in English] Wow.
-Oh.
[in German] Love it.
[Si-kyung in Korean]
Just when I was starting to relax.
[in German] Relax.
[in English] Okay.
[in Korean] Look how scary
that bouncer looks.
[heavy bass rock music playing]
[Si-kyung in English] She got rejected.
Yeah.
Oh.
[in German] I'll stand in line alone,
so we can go in separately.
See you on the other side, hopefully.
-[in Korean] We're not going together?
-Seriously?
Are you ditching us?
[in German] It's easier to get in
when you go separately.
-They tend to turn groups away.
-[in English] Okay.
-Hi.
-Hi.
-It's your first time here?
-[in German] Yes. I'm alone.
[in English] So?
We good?
So how many you are?
-Just two?
-Just two.
Just two.
Just two.
-It's your first time here?
-Yes.
Okay. You know which party today?
Yeah, of course, of course.
-Enter inside.
-Thank you.
Thank you.
[in German] You made it!
Let's go check our stuff in now.
[laughs]
-Awesome.
-[laughs]
I'm gonna go in almost naked.
Keep it kinky.
[Romy laughs]
-[in English] Seriously?
-[Romy] Yeah.
[in German] It's hot and stuffy inside.
The less you wear, the better.
[Si-kyung in Korean] Oh,
she's wearing it underneath.
[Dong-youp] She had
her clubbing outfit ready.
COAT CHECK (=CHANGING ROOM)
THE PLACE WHERE PEOPLE
CHANGE INTO THEIR CLUB ATTIRE
[upbeat sensual music playing]
[Romy in English] I have to sit down.
[Si-kyung] Okay.
[in Korean] Gosh.
-Feel like I should help, but
-[in English] Do you want to
Yeah.
[Romy laughs]
-[Romy] Yeah, woo!
-[Si-kyung] Okay?
-That's good.
-[laughs]
[coughs]
-Okay?
-[in German] Thank you.
[laughing] Thank you.
[in Korean] You're good at that.
Of course. [clears throat]
-[in English] There you go.
-[in German] Thank you.
[laughs]
Come with me.
[Si-kyung in English] Okay.
Wow.
-[indistinct chattering]
-[distant techno music playing]
[Romy in German] What do you think?
Do you like it?
[Si-kyung in Korean] Wow,
this place is no joke.
It smells just like clubs in Korea though.
The humidity, the sweat,
the smell of cigarettes
[in German] Are you ready?
[techno music grows louder]
Welcome.
-[people whooping]
-[heavy techno music playing]
[Romy] Do you hear the music? The bass?
It's good, right? I love it.
This is Berlin.
BERLIN CLUB FASHION
[woman in English] Definitely.
It's totally acceptable to wear lingerie.
BDSM-style type of things,
like harnesses or choker.
Sometimes, you can see naked people.
[man] They use their body as a canvas.
They have tattoos,
piercings, crazy makeup.
[woman] Though you might not look pretty,
don't be too shy about it.
Whatever your sexual identity,
who you kiss, who you do more stuff with
People don't care about what you do.
They just care about themselves.
The clubs in Berlin are a little more
free-spirited and open-minded
than clubs anywhere else in the world.
[in German] Come this way.
[in English] Let's dance!
-[Romy whoops]
-[heavy techno music continues]
[Romy] Yeah!
Oh.
BERLIN CLUB DANCING
[man 1] Usually,
you just jump and move the body.
[man 2] Your body will tell you
what to do.
[woman 1] Usually, the people that go up
to the DJ's box are a little bit crazy.
[man 3] When you go in front
of the speaker,
you can feel this vibration.
It's crazy.
BERLIN CLUB MUSIC
[man 4] If you want to enjoy techno,
Berlin is the place. There's no doubt.
[woman 2] Because of the steady rhythm,
you can dive deep into the music.
You're feeling fine?
Do you want to drink something?
[in German] Yes? Let's go out.
[in English] Go outside.
-[Romy] It's good?
-[Dong-youp] Oh.
[in Korean] This is
It's very different
from the clubs we have in Korea.
[Si-kyung] Oh.
[Romy in German] If it's okay,
I'll pay for your drinks
since this is your first time.
OUTDOOR BAR
Three beers, please.
[in Korean] Thank you.
[in German] Here.
-[in English] Cheerio. Prost.
-Prost.
[in German] What did you think
about all those people dancing?
-[in Korean] It was fun.
-[Dong-youp] Oh, well
I don't usually go clubbing in Korea,
so it was fascinating.
[in German] Right, but what about dancing?
You seemed a little hesitant in there.
[laughs]
-[in Korean] I wish I was a good dancer.
-[laughs]
I didn't really know how to act at first
because of this collar,
-but it's the one thing helping me fit in.
-Is it less embarrassing?
[laughs]
I feel sorry
that I'm such a terrible dancer.
-I know.
-[in German, laughing] It's fine.
We can practice together.
[laughs]
[in Korean] But now that I've seen it,
most people in there
aren't exactly great dancers either.
-They're just enjoying themselves.
-They're very passionate.
[in German] What's important is that
you're dancing, not how well you dance.
Everyone dances in their own style
and finds their happiness.
[Romy] It's fantastic.
[in Korean] How would you rate
tonight's crowd?
[in German] Tonight seems great.
Everyone seems to be happy.
[Romy] They're all enjoying the night.
There are about 300 clubs in Berlin.
TYPES OF CLUBS IN BERLIN
TECHNO CLUBS
CLUBS BASED ON TECHNO MUSIC
AND CULTURE
FETISH CLUBS
CLUBS WHERE PEOPLE ARE FREE
TO EXPRESS THEIR VARIOUS FETISHES
SEX CLUBS
CLUBS WHERE YOU CAN BE FREE
FROM ANY FORM OF TABOO
I'd say people in Berlin
are very open-minded.
[in Korean] I see.
[in German] Feel free to tell me
if you ever want to use the restroom.
The line is always really long.
It's unisex, so we can go together.
[awkward music playing]
[in Korean] To the restroom?
[in German] Yes, all of us. Shall we?
[laughs]
[Dong-youp in Korean] Wait.
THE RESTROOM
[in German] This whole line is
for the restroom.
We'll have to stand in the back.
[in Korean] But why is the line so long?
They should build more restrooms.
THE REASON THE RESTROOM LINE
IS SO LONG
1. IT'S UNISEX
2. VARIOUS ACTIVITIES TAKE PLACE THERE
[upbeat electronic music playing]
[indistinct chatter]
[Si-kyung] Wow,
this place is something else.
Let's interview some people.
-[in English] Hi.
-Hey.
Where are you guys from?
We're from Sweden, originally.
We live in Berlin since six years,
and we have a magazine out,
called Playful magazine.
We cover underground culture,
the kink scene, the techno scene
A MAGAZINE THAT SHOWCASES GERMAN
CLUB AND UNDERGROUND CULTURES
[Si-kyung] What are you doing here?
We're standing in line to the toilet.
Yeah, this is a long line.
I mean like, if you wait too long,
it can become a fight?
-No.
-[man] I've never seen a fight.
So they would just wait?
Yes. Wait patiently.
The toilet line anyways,
if you have an outfit like this,
it's good to bring someone with you.
Yeah, yeah, need help.
It's pretty dirty, and then you can like
Squat.
[laughs]
Oh, yeah.
Usually, in Berlin,
people go to the toilets in groups.
This is kind of a social gathering for us.
-We can talk. We can hang out.
-Yeah, yeah.
And then, of course,
people do lots of stuff in the bathroom.
You can have sex, or you can
LIKE SEX, FOR INSTANCE
[sensual music playing]
[door squeaking, thudding]
There are certain rules in Berlin clubs.
Like, no racist, no homophobia, no sexist.
And as long as you keep to them
and respect people,
-you can basically do
-Anything.
You can At least you can be naked,
or you can have sex.
[woman] So it's very relaxed.
So, "I want my freedom to be respected,
so I will respect your freedom."
-That's what it is, right?
-Exactly.
[in Korean] Right.
I think we can go in now.
-[in English] Please.
-It was so nice to meet you.
-Thank you so much. Ciao.
-You too. Enjoy.
[Romy in German] We'll be interviewing
some people here
-in their twenties and thirties.
-[Si-kyung in Korean] Okay.
[in English] The first time
I went clubbing in Berlin,
there was just like,
a naked guy standing in the corner,
and he was, like, ready to go.
I think it's not unusual to kiss,
to make out,
maybe to have oral sex in the toilet.
Hi. Nice to meet you.
[woman] Hi.
So you guys know
what this program is, right?
-Absolutely.
-Yes.
First of all,
introduce yourselves to the camera?
My name's Firoza. I'm 27 years old.
I make music,
and I'm a presenter from the Netherlands.
FIROZA, #27DUTCH
#MUSICIANANDTVPRESENTER
[Si-kyung] And we met Romy.
I'm a 21-years-old student
born and raised in Berlin.
ROMY, #21GERMAN
#UNIVERSITYSTUDENTINBERLIN
I'm Joyce. I'm 21 years old,
and I'm a university student
from the Netherlands.
JOYCE, #21DUTCH
#UNIVERSITYSTUDENTFROMAMSTERDAM
I'm Jones. I'm 37 years old.
And I'm a sex educator
and a sex counselor in Germany.
-Sex educator?
-Yes.
[laughter]
JONES, #37GERMAN #SEXEDUCATOR
Do you teach people, like, have sex?
Yeah, basically yes.
[Jones] So we do sex workshops
and communication skills, for example.
-I'm intrigued.
-[laughs]
[in Korean] Okay, how about a toast?
-[in English] Yes. Cheers.
-Cheers.
-Cheers.
-Yes.
[Romy] Did I give you one?
-Cheers.
-Okay.
[Romy] Cheers.
[in Korean] When we made the toast,
your eyes
-[in English] Ah, yeah.
-Yeah.
In Germany and the Netherlands,
if you don't look each other in the eyes,
you have seven years of unhappy sex life.
[laughs]
So, our seven years of happy sex.
[in Korean] It's not that
you won't have sex for seven years.
You'll still have sex, but it will be bad.
[Firoza in English]
It's going to be really sad.
Really bad.
I think bad sex is even worse than no sex.
[laughter]
[in Korean] What's love life like
for the younger generation
in the Netherlands and Germany?
[in English] I have a boyfriend,
and I met him
through a dating app called Tinder.
-So it's Tinder.
-Yeah, quite good-known.
It's the old trusty dating app,
but there's also dating apps
where you can disclose
your sexuality straight away.
So you can just get down to business.
-[Si-kyung] So it's fast.
-[Firoza] It's faster.
I'm intersex.
I don't think that you'd know
exactly what that is.
Intersex is when somebody is born
with characteristics of male and female.
I was born a female, but I don't have
a uterus, I don't have ovaries.
-[SI-kyung] He knows about it?
-Yes, he knows about it.
He just knew from the start already
but he didn't mind it at all,
and it was just totally fine
and we went dating, yeah.
It's quite common, but you have also,
like, a lot of other trendy dating apps
in the Netherlands.
For example, you have, like, an app
that you can select a fruit
of the kind of relationship that you want.
So you have a fruit for friends
with benefits kind of relationship
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS:
FRIENDS THAT CAN HAVE SEX
SERIOUS: A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP
MARRIED BUT AVAILABLE:
MARRIED BUT CAN SLEEP WITH OTHERS
ONE-NIGHT STAND: SEX JUST FOR A NIGH
OPEN RELATIONSHIP
A RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH YOU CAN SLEEP
WITH PEOPLE OUTSIDE YOUR PARTNER
I feel like a lot more young people
are starting open relationships.
I feel like
that's a really hot topic right now.
-Yeah.
-[Si-kyung] Open relationships?
[Firoza] Yeah, open relationships.
So it's where you have one partner,
but you're also allowed to date
and have sex with other people.
-Yeah, we know what that is.
-[Firoza] Okay.
I am in an open relationship
at the moment.
-At the moment?
-At the moment. Yeah.
[Jones] She already had
a stable relationship,
and I came to it as a kind of a satellite.
-A satellite?
-[Jones] Yes, a satellite.
Like, you know, a second one,
but way lighter.
After one year, they split up,
and now it's me and my girlfriend,
and we're having experiences
outside of our relationship.
But it needs a deep level of trust.
It's a lot of work,
it's a lot of communication,
-but it's also building trust.
-Yeah.
For me, I really love my boyfriend so much
that I don't think I could
handle someone else emotionally.
I also don't want to.
I mean, maybe even having
a stronger bond with your relationship
when you're experimenting with
different forms of relationship styles.
-[in Korean] I see.
-Interesting.
[Jones in English]
I think the younger generation knows
that the divorce rate for marriages
is about almost 60% in Europe.
-[in Korean] What?
-[in English] Yes.
[Jones] So that's quite a lot, right?
People try to find out
alternative ways of staying together
but also having the freedom to explore.
So it's a challenge.
-It is.
-[Si-kyung] It's an experiment.
[in Korean] He might know
since he's an educator.
[Dong-youp] What is
the average number of times
that people have sex
in Germany and the Netherlands?
[in English] The statistics is, uh
it's like, twice a week.
And the length of intercourse
is about five minutes.
-Five minutes?
-Yeah, five minutes.
Then four rounds. [laughs]
[laughs]
I mean, I know how people can have,
like, sex for several hours,
so this is not a very long time.
You can have sex all night long as a man
if you know what to do.
[in Korean] How do you practice that?
[in English] When you're just about
to come, then take a deep breath.
So if you train this enough, you can
have sex like playing the piano,
going up and down and up and down.
[Jones] And anyone can have sex
for all night long, basically.
But I also know that people enjoy,
like, a "quickie," you know,
what you call a "schnelle nummer"
in German.
[Jones] When you are in an elevator,
for example.
-Or you are parents
-Ah, yeah, yeah. Intense.
it's just before your kids come home,
you have, like, just two minutes
you can have sex.
-That's like, the quickie version of it.
-Ah-ha.
I think Germany
and the Netherlands are pretty the same.
-Similar, right? Yeah.
-We do the same.
[in Korean] We were actually in Amsterdam
before we got here.
We found the Netherlands to be
a very open-minded country.
[Dong-youp] Why do you think that is?
[in English]
I think it's because the Netherlands
was the first country
that legalize same-sex marriage.
-Yeah.
-And sexual education starts
at a really young age.
At the age of four or five years old,
we start sex education.
Later on, at like, an age of 12 years old,
you tell about what sex is, for example.
Like, teenagers here are telling
that they had sexual experience
at like, age of 13 or 14 already.
-Thirteen?
-[Joyce] Yeah.
-Oh.
-Wow.
Korea The recent survey,
it's somewhere around 20 to 24.
Wow.
It's getting younger
and younger and younger.
You?
-[chuckles]
-[all laugh]
[in Korean] I'd say it was
earlier than the average in Korea.
[all laugh]
Where do couples usually have sex
in Germany and the Netherlands?
I think in the Netherlands, it's like,
quite common to have sex
at your parent's house.
-Parent's house?
-[Joyce] Yes.
Even if they're on the second floor,
you're on the first floor,
and just having sex and be quiet.
You don't have to be quiet. [laughs]
They already know.
[in Korean] This is fascinating.
[in English] I also know parents
who slip their teenagers condoms
because they know that
they're going to have sex,
and at least if they have sex,
do it safely.
Actually, this guy is
in the condom business in Korea.
-Really?
-Really?
Number-one selling condom in Korea.
His face on the
And it makes people more excited
because they see your face.
Every time you're happy when you open it.
-[laughs]
-"Now it's my time."
[in Korean] It's not printed
on the actual condoms.
[all laugh]
My face isn't involved in the action.
And we also had a program on TV,
it's been on for ten years.
And it was all about sex,
but also drug culture.
On TV, so it was not on the internet,
you didn't have to go look for it.
It was just at set times on TV
and everyone was watching.
And I watched it as a teenager.
Did you watch it?
Yeah, I watched it too. Yeah.
SPUITEN EN SLIKKEN (2005-2018)
A SHOW ABOUT SEX AND DRUGS
AIRED FOR 14 YEARS ON BNNVARA,
A DUTCH PUBLIC TV NETWORK
FOR VIEWERS 12 AND UP
CURRENTLY AVAILABLE ON YOUTUBE
It really shaped my view of sex and drugs
because we were always very real
and very open about it.
We have a lot of sex ads,
like phone sex ads or, like, sex toys ads.
[Romy] It's very normal.
[vibrating]
[in Korean] When you saw those ads
as a child,
did your parents tell you not to look,
or did they not care?
[in English] No, no. It was all fine.
It was normal for us.
[in Korean] I wonder why that is.
[in English] You don't have some ad?
Not on national TV, no.
Also no alcohol ads
or something like that?
On the nighttime, like beer, soju,
maybe, it's okay.
[Si-kyung] But not in the daytime.
-[Firoza] Oh.
-Okay.
That's why we're doing this program.
Like, we want to put it on the table
and talk about it.
We don't want to judge anything.
We just want to show them that
so many different cultures in this planet.
It's very necessary, um
and have a good communication.
That's a big part in our relationship,
communicate, and our sex life.
Good sex is really feeling comfortable
in your own skin,
and expressing your needs, expressing
your desires and really enjoying them.
[Joyce] I also agree.
It's really important to tell
what you like and what you don't like
and it's just about joy of, like,
interacting together.
[upbeat jazzy music playing]
[Dong-youp in Korean]
We were invited to a party held by
the top female sex toy manufacturer.
-[people cheering]
-[laughs]
[in German] Hi. Welcome.
We are Womanizer.
[man] We are the creators
of the world's best female sex toys.
I heard that they had a nickname in Korea.
[in Korean] "Electric Husband."
ELECTRIC HUSBAND
-Electric husband.
-Electric husband.
[in English] It's a guaranteed orgasm
in three to four minutes.
[woman in English] Are you ready?
One.
Two.
We're taking you to that space,
and it's feeling nice.
Three.
Four.
And now it's getting intense.
-Seven.
-[Si-kyung] No.
No. I'm going to come.
[woman] Almost to climax.
Almost to climax.
-Ten!
-Wow.
[woman] Stop.
[groans]
EPISODE 5
WOMANIZER
[Si-kyung in Korean] Even for a man,
this sensation must be addicting.
[upbeat electronic music playing]
Subtitle translation by: Sonya Hong
[upbeat rock music playing]
Dong-youp.
That belongs to someone, man.
[laughs]
But imagine if I rolled up
on one of these.
-You seem to be dressed for it.
-I know, right?
Why would there be a club
in a place like this?
Isn't this a junkyard?
I hear the music.
-Boom, boom.
-[distant techno music playing]
HIDDEN INSIDE THE DARK ALLEYWAY
BERLIN CLUBS
[woman in English] Berlin is known
as the capital of techno.
People stay 48 hours to 72 hours
through the whole weekend.
You can see various styles
from all over the world.
[man] Escape the confinement of society.
[woman] People from
all parts of the world there in a club.
[in Korean] Someone's supposed
to be here to guide us.
-[in English] Hi.
-[in Korean] Hello.
[in German] My name is Romy.
-It's nice to meet you.
-[Si-kyung in Korean] Nice to meet you.
[in German] Are you ready
to go to church with me?
-[in Korean] Church?
-Church? Why?
What church?
[in German] I go to the club
every weekend,
so my friends and I
call it "going to church" as a joke.
-[in Korean] I'm Buddhist.
-[laughs]
[Si-kyung] So it's a figure of speech.
Do you love clubbing so much
that you go every week?
[in German] Yes.
The clubs in Berlin are superb.
You can experience something special there
that you can't
in any other club in the world.
A lot happens there
that may be shocking to some.
[Romy] A lot of people have sex there.
That's why the bouncers are picky
about who they let in.
A lot of people get sent away.
-[in Korean] If that happens
-It happens a lot, apparently.
-We'd lose an entire episode.
-[Si-kyung] Yeah.
If that happens, let's just find
a kebab place and talk there.
[laughs]
Have you ever been rejected at the door?
[in German] I've never been turned away.
[in Korean] How do they decide?
Do you need to be dressed well?
[in German] Well, check out my outfit.
KINKY FASHION:
A BOLD AND RACY STYLE
[Romy] It can be easier to get in
if you're dressed for the occasion.
I prepared a surprise gift for you.
Who's wearing it, and who's holding it?
[laughs]
[Romy] Every club has a different vibe,
so it's important to dress accordingly.
How about it? [laughs]
-[in Korean] No way.
-Come on.
Rock, paper, scissors!
[yells, groans]
[exclaims in joy]
[in German] You hold the leash.
[in Korean] Sure.
-[Dong-youp laughs]
-[Si-kyung] This is nice.
[laughs]
[in German] I'm not sure
if you'll be able to get in, but
-[in Korean] At least we have this.
-Stay still.
[laughs]
[Romy in German] Should we go?
Do you see the line there?
We need to stand in line.
[in Korean] My goodness.
THE RITE OF PASSAGE TO THE MAIN STAGE
THE LINE
AFTER A WAIT OF AT LEAST 2 HOURS
ONE MUST BE APPROVED
BY THE BOUNCER TO BE LET IN
MAIN STAGE
PATRONS MAY COME AND GO FREELY
FOR 2-3 DAYS AFTER BEING GRANTED ENTRY
[upbeat techno music playing]
[in German] Our turn's coming up.
Are you nervous?
[in Korean] I'm kind of scared
that he might not let us in.
[in German] Just try to relax.
[in Korean] Just play it cool.
Let's play it cool.
[in German] Doesn't she look great?
We've got the same outfit on.
I love it.
-[in English] Wow.
-Oh.
[in German] Love it.
[Si-kyung in Korean]
Just when I was starting to relax.
[in German] Relax.
[in English] Okay.
[in Korean] Look how scary
that bouncer looks.
[heavy bass rock music playing]
[Si-kyung in English] She got rejected.
Yeah.
Oh.
[in German] I'll stand in line alone,
so we can go in separately.
See you on the other side, hopefully.
-[in Korean] We're not going together?
-Seriously?
Are you ditching us?
[in German] It's easier to get in
when you go separately.
-They tend to turn groups away.
-[in English] Okay.
-Hi.
-Hi.
-It's your first time here?
-[in German] Yes. I'm alone.
[in English] So?
We good?
So how many you are?
-Just two?
-Just two.
Just two.
Just two.
-It's your first time here?
-Yes.
Okay. You know which party today?
Yeah, of course, of course.
-Enter inside.
-Thank you.
Thank you.
[in German] You made it!
Let's go check our stuff in now.
[laughs]
-Awesome.
-[laughs]
I'm gonna go in almost naked.
Keep it kinky.
[Romy laughs]
-[in English] Seriously?
-[Romy] Yeah.
[in German] It's hot and stuffy inside.
The less you wear, the better.
[Si-kyung in Korean] Oh,
she's wearing it underneath.
[Dong-youp] She had
her clubbing outfit ready.
COAT CHECK (=CHANGING ROOM)
THE PLACE WHERE PEOPLE
CHANGE INTO THEIR CLUB ATTIRE
[upbeat sensual music playing]
[Romy in English] I have to sit down.
[Si-kyung] Okay.
[in Korean] Gosh.
-Feel like I should help, but
-[in English] Do you want to
Yeah.
[Romy laughs]
-[Romy] Yeah, woo!
-[Si-kyung] Okay?
-That's good.
-[laughs]
[coughs]
-Okay?
-[in German] Thank you.
[laughing] Thank you.
[in Korean] You're good at that.
Of course. [clears throat]
-[in English] There you go.
-[in German] Thank you.
[laughs]
Come with me.
[Si-kyung in English] Okay.
Wow.
-[indistinct chattering]
-[distant techno music playing]
[Romy in German] What do you think?
Do you like it?
[Si-kyung in Korean] Wow,
this place is no joke.
It smells just like clubs in Korea though.
The humidity, the sweat,
the smell of cigarettes
[in German] Are you ready?
[techno music grows louder]
Welcome.
-[people whooping]
-[heavy techno music playing]
[Romy] Do you hear the music? The bass?
It's good, right? I love it.
This is Berlin.
BERLIN CLUB FASHION
[woman in English] Definitely.
It's totally acceptable to wear lingerie.
BDSM-style type of things,
like harnesses or choker.
Sometimes, you can see naked people.
[man] They use their body as a canvas.
They have tattoos,
piercings, crazy makeup.
[woman] Though you might not look pretty,
don't be too shy about it.
Whatever your sexual identity,
who you kiss, who you do more stuff with
People don't care about what you do.
They just care about themselves.
The clubs in Berlin are a little more
free-spirited and open-minded
than clubs anywhere else in the world.
[in German] Come this way.
[in English] Let's dance!
-[Romy whoops]
-[heavy techno music continues]
[Romy] Yeah!
Oh.
BERLIN CLUB DANCING
[man 1] Usually,
you just jump and move the body.
[man 2] Your body will tell you
what to do.
[woman 1] Usually, the people that go up
to the DJ's box are a little bit crazy.
[man 3] When you go in front
of the speaker,
you can feel this vibration.
It's crazy.
BERLIN CLUB MUSIC
[man 4] If you want to enjoy techno,
Berlin is the place. There's no doubt.
[woman 2] Because of the steady rhythm,
you can dive deep into the music.
You're feeling fine?
Do you want to drink something?
[in German] Yes? Let's go out.
[in English] Go outside.
-[Romy] It's good?
-[Dong-youp] Oh.
[in Korean] This is
It's very different
from the clubs we have in Korea.
[Si-kyung] Oh.
[Romy in German] If it's okay,
I'll pay for your drinks
since this is your first time.
OUTDOOR BAR
Three beers, please.
[in Korean] Thank you.
[in German] Here.
-[in English] Cheerio. Prost.
-Prost.
[in German] What did you think
about all those people dancing?
-[in Korean] It was fun.
-[Dong-youp] Oh, well
I don't usually go clubbing in Korea,
so it was fascinating.
[in German] Right, but what about dancing?
You seemed a little hesitant in there.
[laughs]
-[in Korean] I wish I was a good dancer.
-[laughs]
I didn't really know how to act at first
because of this collar,
-but it's the one thing helping me fit in.
-Is it less embarrassing?
[laughs]
I feel sorry
that I'm such a terrible dancer.
-I know.
-[in German, laughing] It's fine.
We can practice together.
[laughs]
[in Korean] But now that I've seen it,
most people in there
aren't exactly great dancers either.
-They're just enjoying themselves.
-They're very passionate.
[in German] What's important is that
you're dancing, not how well you dance.
Everyone dances in their own style
and finds their happiness.
[Romy] It's fantastic.
[in Korean] How would you rate
tonight's crowd?
[in German] Tonight seems great.
Everyone seems to be happy.
[Romy] They're all enjoying the night.
There are about 300 clubs in Berlin.
TYPES OF CLUBS IN BERLIN
TECHNO CLUBS
CLUBS BASED ON TECHNO MUSIC
AND CULTURE
FETISH CLUBS
CLUBS WHERE PEOPLE ARE FREE
TO EXPRESS THEIR VARIOUS FETISHES
SEX CLUBS
CLUBS WHERE YOU CAN BE FREE
FROM ANY FORM OF TABOO
I'd say people in Berlin
are very open-minded.
[in Korean] I see.
[in German] Feel free to tell me
if you ever want to use the restroom.
The line is always really long.
It's unisex, so we can go together.
[awkward music playing]
[in Korean] To the restroom?
[in German] Yes, all of us. Shall we?
[laughs]
[Dong-youp in Korean] Wait.
THE RESTROOM
[in German] This whole line is
for the restroom.
We'll have to stand in the back.
[in Korean] But why is the line so long?
They should build more restrooms.
THE REASON THE RESTROOM LINE
IS SO LONG
1. IT'S UNISEX
2. VARIOUS ACTIVITIES TAKE PLACE THERE
[upbeat electronic music playing]
[indistinct chatter]
[Si-kyung] Wow,
this place is something else.
Let's interview some people.
-[in English] Hi.
-Hey.
Where are you guys from?
We're from Sweden, originally.
We live in Berlin since six years,
and we have a magazine out,
called Playful magazine.
We cover underground culture,
the kink scene, the techno scene
A MAGAZINE THAT SHOWCASES GERMAN
CLUB AND UNDERGROUND CULTURES
[Si-kyung] What are you doing here?
We're standing in line to the toilet.
Yeah, this is a long line.
I mean like, if you wait too long,
it can become a fight?
-No.
-[man] I've never seen a fight.
So they would just wait?
Yes. Wait patiently.
The toilet line anyways,
if you have an outfit like this,
it's good to bring someone with you.
Yeah, yeah, need help.
It's pretty dirty, and then you can like
Squat.
[laughs]
Oh, yeah.
Usually, in Berlin,
people go to the toilets in groups.
This is kind of a social gathering for us.
-We can talk. We can hang out.
-Yeah, yeah.
And then, of course,
people do lots of stuff in the bathroom.
You can have sex, or you can
LIKE SEX, FOR INSTANCE
[sensual music playing]
[door squeaking, thudding]
There are certain rules in Berlin clubs.
Like, no racist, no homophobia, no sexist.
And as long as you keep to them
and respect people,
-you can basically do
-Anything.
You can At least you can be naked,
or you can have sex.
[woman] So it's very relaxed.
So, "I want my freedom to be respected,
so I will respect your freedom."
-That's what it is, right?
-Exactly.
[in Korean] Right.
I think we can go in now.
-[in English] Please.
-It was so nice to meet you.
-Thank you so much. Ciao.
-You too. Enjoy.
[Romy in German] We'll be interviewing
some people here
-in their twenties and thirties.
-[Si-kyung in Korean] Okay.
[in English] The first time
I went clubbing in Berlin,
there was just like,
a naked guy standing in the corner,
and he was, like, ready to go.
I think it's not unusual to kiss,
to make out,
maybe to have oral sex in the toilet.
Hi. Nice to meet you.
[woman] Hi.
So you guys know
what this program is, right?
-Absolutely.
-Yes.
First of all,
introduce yourselves to the camera?
My name's Firoza. I'm 27 years old.
I make music,
and I'm a presenter from the Netherlands.
FIROZA, #27DUTCH
#MUSICIANANDTVPRESENTER
[Si-kyung] And we met Romy.
I'm a 21-years-old student
born and raised in Berlin.
ROMY, #21GERMAN
#UNIVERSITYSTUDENTINBERLIN
I'm Joyce. I'm 21 years old,
and I'm a university student
from the Netherlands.
JOYCE, #21DUTCH
#UNIVERSITYSTUDENTFROMAMSTERDAM
I'm Jones. I'm 37 years old.
And I'm a sex educator
and a sex counselor in Germany.
-Sex educator?
-Yes.
[laughter]
JONES, #37GERMAN #SEXEDUCATOR
Do you teach people, like, have sex?
Yeah, basically yes.
[Jones] So we do sex workshops
and communication skills, for example.
-I'm intrigued.
-[laughs]
[in Korean] Okay, how about a toast?
-[in English] Yes. Cheers.
-Cheers.
-Cheers.
-Yes.
[Romy] Did I give you one?
-Cheers.
-Okay.
[Romy] Cheers.
[in Korean] When we made the toast,
your eyes
-[in English] Ah, yeah.
-Yeah.
In Germany and the Netherlands,
if you don't look each other in the eyes,
you have seven years of unhappy sex life.
[laughs]
So, our seven years of happy sex.
[in Korean] It's not that
you won't have sex for seven years.
You'll still have sex, but it will be bad.
[Firoza in English]
It's going to be really sad.
Really bad.
I think bad sex is even worse than no sex.
[laughter]
[in Korean] What's love life like
for the younger generation
in the Netherlands and Germany?
[in English] I have a boyfriend,
and I met him
through a dating app called Tinder.
-So it's Tinder.
-Yeah, quite good-known.
It's the old trusty dating app,
but there's also dating apps
where you can disclose
your sexuality straight away.
So you can just get down to business.
-[Si-kyung] So it's fast.
-[Firoza] It's faster.
I'm intersex.
I don't think that you'd know
exactly what that is.
Intersex is when somebody is born
with characteristics of male and female.
I was born a female, but I don't have
a uterus, I don't have ovaries.
-[SI-kyung] He knows about it?
-Yes, he knows about it.
He just knew from the start already
but he didn't mind it at all,
and it was just totally fine
and we went dating, yeah.
It's quite common, but you have also,
like, a lot of other trendy dating apps
in the Netherlands.
For example, you have, like, an app
that you can select a fruit
of the kind of relationship that you want.
So you have a fruit for friends
with benefits kind of relationship
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS:
FRIENDS THAT CAN HAVE SEX
SERIOUS: A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP
MARRIED BUT AVAILABLE:
MARRIED BUT CAN SLEEP WITH OTHERS
ONE-NIGHT STAND: SEX JUST FOR A NIGH
OPEN RELATIONSHIP
A RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH YOU CAN SLEEP
WITH PEOPLE OUTSIDE YOUR PARTNER
I feel like a lot more young people
are starting open relationships.
I feel like
that's a really hot topic right now.
-Yeah.
-[Si-kyung] Open relationships?
[Firoza] Yeah, open relationships.
So it's where you have one partner,
but you're also allowed to date
and have sex with other people.
-Yeah, we know what that is.
-[Firoza] Okay.
I am in an open relationship
at the moment.
-At the moment?
-At the moment. Yeah.
[Jones] She already had
a stable relationship,
and I came to it as a kind of a satellite.
-A satellite?
-[Jones] Yes, a satellite.
Like, you know, a second one,
but way lighter.
After one year, they split up,
and now it's me and my girlfriend,
and we're having experiences
outside of our relationship.
But it needs a deep level of trust.
It's a lot of work,
it's a lot of communication,
-but it's also building trust.
-Yeah.
For me, I really love my boyfriend so much
that I don't think I could
handle someone else emotionally.
I also don't want to.
I mean, maybe even having
a stronger bond with your relationship
when you're experimenting with
different forms of relationship styles.
-[in Korean] I see.
-Interesting.
[Jones in English]
I think the younger generation knows
that the divorce rate for marriages
is about almost 60% in Europe.
-[in Korean] What?
-[in English] Yes.
[Jones] So that's quite a lot, right?
People try to find out
alternative ways of staying together
but also having the freedom to explore.
So it's a challenge.
-It is.
-[Si-kyung] It's an experiment.
[in Korean] He might know
since he's an educator.
[Dong-youp] What is
the average number of times
that people have sex
in Germany and the Netherlands?
[in English] The statistics is, uh
it's like, twice a week.
And the length of intercourse
is about five minutes.
-Five minutes?
-Yeah, five minutes.
Then four rounds. [laughs]
[laughs]
I mean, I know how people can have,
like, sex for several hours,
so this is not a very long time.
You can have sex all night long as a man
if you know what to do.
[in Korean] How do you practice that?
[in English] When you're just about
to come, then take a deep breath.
So if you train this enough, you can
have sex like playing the piano,
going up and down and up and down.
[Jones] And anyone can have sex
for all night long, basically.
But I also know that people enjoy,
like, a "quickie," you know,
what you call a "schnelle nummer"
in German.
[Jones] When you are in an elevator,
for example.
-Or you are parents
-Ah, yeah, yeah. Intense.
it's just before your kids come home,
you have, like, just two minutes
you can have sex.
-That's like, the quickie version of it.
-Ah-ha.
I think Germany
and the Netherlands are pretty the same.
-Similar, right? Yeah.
-We do the same.
[in Korean] We were actually in Amsterdam
before we got here.
We found the Netherlands to be
a very open-minded country.
[Dong-youp] Why do you think that is?
[in English]
I think it's because the Netherlands
was the first country
that legalize same-sex marriage.
-Yeah.
-And sexual education starts
at a really young age.
At the age of four or five years old,
we start sex education.
Later on, at like, an age of 12 years old,
you tell about what sex is, for example.
Like, teenagers here are telling
that they had sexual experience
at like, age of 13 or 14 already.
-Thirteen?
-[Joyce] Yeah.
-Oh.
-Wow.
Korea The recent survey,
it's somewhere around 20 to 24.
Wow.
It's getting younger
and younger and younger.
You?
-[chuckles]
-[all laugh]
[in Korean] I'd say it was
earlier than the average in Korea.
[all laugh]
Where do couples usually have sex
in Germany and the Netherlands?
I think in the Netherlands, it's like,
quite common to have sex
at your parent's house.
-Parent's house?
-[Joyce] Yes.
Even if they're on the second floor,
you're on the first floor,
and just having sex and be quiet.
You don't have to be quiet. [laughs]
They already know.
[in Korean] This is fascinating.
[in English] I also know parents
who slip their teenagers condoms
because they know that
they're going to have sex,
and at least if they have sex,
do it safely.
Actually, this guy is
in the condom business in Korea.
-Really?
-Really?
Number-one selling condom in Korea.
His face on the
And it makes people more excited
because they see your face.
Every time you're happy when you open it.
-[laughs]
-"Now it's my time."
[in Korean] It's not printed
on the actual condoms.
[all laugh]
My face isn't involved in the action.
And we also had a program on TV,
it's been on for ten years.
And it was all about sex,
but also drug culture.
On TV, so it was not on the internet,
you didn't have to go look for it.
It was just at set times on TV
and everyone was watching.
And I watched it as a teenager.
Did you watch it?
Yeah, I watched it too. Yeah.
SPUITEN EN SLIKKEN (2005-2018)
A SHOW ABOUT SEX AND DRUGS
AIRED FOR 14 YEARS ON BNNVARA,
A DUTCH PUBLIC TV NETWORK
FOR VIEWERS 12 AND UP
CURRENTLY AVAILABLE ON YOUTUBE
It really shaped my view of sex and drugs
because we were always very real
and very open about it.
We have a lot of sex ads,
like phone sex ads or, like, sex toys ads.
[Romy] It's very normal.
[vibrating]
[in Korean] When you saw those ads
as a child,
did your parents tell you not to look,
or did they not care?
[in English] No, no. It was all fine.
It was normal for us.
[in Korean] I wonder why that is.
[in English] You don't have some ad?
Not on national TV, no.
Also no alcohol ads
or something like that?
On the nighttime, like beer, soju,
maybe, it's okay.
[Si-kyung] But not in the daytime.
-[Firoza] Oh.
-Okay.
That's why we're doing this program.
Like, we want to put it on the table
and talk about it.
We don't want to judge anything.
We just want to show them that
so many different cultures in this planet.
It's very necessary, um
and have a good communication.
That's a big part in our relationship,
communicate, and our sex life.
Good sex is really feeling comfortable
in your own skin,
and expressing your needs, expressing
your desires and really enjoying them.
[Joyce] I also agree.
It's really important to tell
what you like and what you don't like
and it's just about joy of, like,
interacting together.
[upbeat jazzy music playing]
[Dong-youp in Korean]
We were invited to a party held by
the top female sex toy manufacturer.
-[people cheering]
-[laughs]
[in German] Hi. Welcome.
We are Womanizer.
[man] We are the creators
of the world's best female sex toys.
I heard that they had a nickname in Korea.
[in Korean] "Electric Husband."
ELECTRIC HUSBAND
-Electric husband.
-Electric husband.
[in English] It's a guaranteed orgasm
in three to four minutes.
[woman in English] Are you ready?
One.
Two.
We're taking you to that space,
and it's feeling nice.
Three.
Four.
And now it's getting intense.
-Seven.
-[Si-kyung] No.
No. I'm going to come.
[woman] Almost to climax.
Almost to climax.
-Ten!
-Wow.
[woman] Stop.
[groans]
EPISODE 5
WOMANIZER
[Si-kyung in Korean] Even for a man,
this sensation must be addicting.
[upbeat electronic music playing]
Subtitle translation by: Sonya Hong