Limitless (2022) s01e06 Episode Script
Acceptance
1
Switch it on. Switch it on
Impose your will on the sea.
He's at 145.
This is double his heart rate.
Over the past year,
I've been exploring the science
of living longer.
Doing everything I can to hold back time.
But whatever I do, sooner or later,
aging and death will win.
So, what am I going to do about that?
You're gonna tie me up.
This wasn't this wasn't in
the initial contract.
Super attractive.
Okay, Chris.
We are gonna attach the weights to it.
Apparently, this is what I'm going
to do about it.
This fashion disaster is what's called
an age simulation suit.
Designed at MIT,
it's been precisely calibrated
to my physique.
The bungees restrict my movements.
And I'll be carrying an extra 30 pounds
around with me.
And these shoes will make me unbalanced.
I'm doing all this,
so that I can experience
how my body will feel in 50 years' time.
I'm really curious to see
how you look at 87.
And my wife, Elsa,
is a little too interested.
Hey, you're into this suit,
aren't you? This is
- Just leave it like that.
- I can wear this on date night.
"No, no, no, don't put
the fireman suit on.
- Put the the aging suit on."
- Exactly! Put the aging suit
Counterintuitively,
longevity scientists
actually believe that a key
to the longest, healthiest life
might not be to resist aging,
but to embrace it.
You're gonna lose your hearing.
You look ridiculous.
So, I'm finishing my fight
to stay young, by learning how to get old.
You're gonna lose
a little bit of your vision.
This sucks, by the way.
Okay, Chris.
Brutal.
- How you feeling?
- Old.
Okay, rolling through. Rolling.
All on the rehearsal.
All I've been told
is that I'm about to
jump forward 50 years into the future
and spend the next three days
living the life of an octogenarian.
Move to reception, thank you.
The architect
of this strange challenge
is Dr. BJ Miller.
A world-renowned
palliative care physician.
His work centers on unlocking
the transformative power
of accepting aging and death.
Dying offers us something,
we can change how we see it,
what we do with it, how we play with it.
Chris is about to take part
in a truly unique experiment.
Ready, my old man?
I don't know. I mean, ask me
in three days' time, maybe.
We are doing something bold
and novel here.
We're going to combine the arts
and sciences
to create a completely immersive world
for Chris.
It's a constructed world
of a retirement community.
And then, at the end of three days
at Sunset Pines
we're going to kill Chris Hemsworth.
Slow down! Why are you driving so fast?
It's okay. We'll get there.
Maybe you should let me drive.
No way!
I can't see or hear anything.
Welcome to Sunset Pines.
This is my new home, huh?
New best friend.
So, finally, here we are.
And this is what I've been waiting for.
This is my opportunity to beat aging.
Hello.
How hard that can be?
Chris doesn't seem very worried,
but I think he's underestimated old age.
I think he's going to probably want
to get out of there as soon as he can.
This is it.
Okay.
- Elsa.
- Hey. Can you see me?
Where we going?
- Oh, look at this. Hello. Hello.
- How are ya?
Chris. Pleasure, buddy.
Nice to meet you.
I'm BJ. How's the suit feeling, my guy?
A little heavy and slower
than I used to be, but
- Right on. That's the idea.
- That the idea.
So, that's the first part
of this immersion.
The second part is is this place.
- Yeah.
- Sunset Pines.
So, it's a retirement village
made just for you.
All right.
This is a three-day piece
of immersive theater.
It's going to be a little bit surreal.
But there's something very real
about surreal.
Yay!
All the older people that he's meeting
along the way are entirely real.
And they're there for Chris
to interact with
and to befriend and to relate with.
Aw!
But the staff of Sunset Pines,
the carers are actors.
They are going to treat Chris
as though he is an 87-year-old.
They will not break character.
Apologies for the interruption,
Dr. Miller. Welcome,
Mr. Hemsworth, to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
My name is Sofia.
I'm one of the carers here.
I'm going to take you in for orientation.
So, I'd like to ask you
to say your goodbyes now.
- See you later.
- See you later.
All right.
Now, are you happy to walk
or would you like a chair?
- Yeah, I'm okay to walk.
- Okay, no problem.
Now, it can be a little bit
of an adjustment period
here at Sunset Pines.
So, it's totally normal to feel
a little bit
out of place at first,
but I can assure you,
our community are very welcoming
and supportive.
There is a handrail there.
I'll just ask you to use that.
Yep, that's it. All right. Are you okay?
- I'm good, thanks.
- Yeah?
Hey!
- Joy is gonna get you all checked in.
- All right.
And then you'll be shown up
to your apartment.
I mean, this is a wild experience.
I'm kind of trying to piece it together
as I go, but it's
it's just kind of weird.
- Hi, Joy.
- Hello.
This is Mr. Hemsworth.
He's one of our newest residents.
Hello, Mr. Hemsworth.
Welcome to Sunset Pines
where we live every day to the fullest.
- Cool.
- So, I'll I'll put you into our system.
So, if you can just give me a moment.
All right, so, I would just need this
Wearing the suit,
it's just horrible, really uncomfortable.
Everything is heavy.
And I find myself feeling
very restricted.
And then, you know, the lack of vision,
hearing,
I find myself missing 20
to 30 percent of what's being said.
I just need you to look directly
at the lens, please. All done.
It feels really isolating
because everything is,
you know, feels somewhat closed off.
How you doing?
What was that?
- How you doing?
- I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
- I'm feeling a little disorientated.
- Right.
Can't really see properly
or hear properly.
- Well, that's exactly the idea, right?
- Okay.
A big part of the reason to give him
this experience
is we are living amidst an epidemic
of denial that we are denying aging,
older age and we are denying death.
It's a kind of stress.
It's bad for our blood pressure,
it's bad for our hormonal lives,
it's bad for our neurochemistry.
In in this way,
there's a physiologic effect directly
on our bodies.
And this stress can shorten a life.
Increasingly we are seeing
multiple peer-reviewed studies
that suggest that if we can actually
embrace that reality,
if you can find a way to accept it
and to accommodate being older
that you'll be happier, less depressed,
and maybe you'll actually live longer,
and not by just a day or two
but years years longer, potentially.
- Yeah.
- Wow.
Make sense?
Okay, looks like you're ready.
We have your ID printed out.
So, if you can just double-check
that all your details are correct,
date of birth and spelling of your name.
Yeah, the spelling is all right.
I don't know about that photo.
What happened to me?
That's you, brother.
That beautiful old man.
- Wow.
- Well.
It's been a rough 50 years.
Do you need help putting on that lanyard?
I'm just gonna fit it over my giant head.
There we go.
Yes!
There we are.
It's official.
You are a new resident. Michael.
Mr. Hemsworth, how you doing?
I'm Michael. I'm a carer here.
- How are ya?
- Welcome to Sunset Pines.
- Thank you.
- Where we live
Where we live every day to the fullest.
Great ID photo, man.
- Thanks.
- Where we going?
- Apartment nine, spruce.
- Spruce.
- Spruce, eh?
- They're nice suites, dude.
So, over the next few days,
we are going to leap Chris forward
50 years and introduce him
to an accelerated version of aging.
You like croquet?
- Nah, not really.
- Oh, fair enough.
So, he can have a little bit of a taste
of not just as an idea
but a visceral way,
he can touch what it feels like
to be an elder and he can begin to touch
what it feels like
to be at the edge of life
and at the end of life.
Hang on, Fred.
And things are only going
to get weirder from here.
Never.
Watch out, ladies.
Fresh meat coming through.
- Good morning.
- Come on, Chris.
All right, mate.
It's a great environment here.
It's really friendly.
- All right. Welcome.
- Thank you.
- How are you, Fran?
- I'm ready to go.
We'll circle back and say hi later.
Keep away from that woman, okay?
- Yeah.
- She's a deadly card player.
Oh, I'm not much of a card player,
so I'll stay away.
Keep away from her then.
Ian, how you doing?
- Hello. How are you?
- Hello, welcome.
You can pretty much roam
wherever you want here.
Apart from that there.
You don't need to worry about that.
- That's off limits.
- Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, but, this is it.
Your home now, okay?
- Here I am.
- That's you.
Huh, what do you think of this?
Wow.
Take a trip down memory lane.
I got old quick.
My older brother looks the youngest.
That's, uh That's crazy.
Joy mentioned you used
to do some acting.
Yeah. I don't think I'd be doing it
till my hair looks like that.
I thought it was
like local theater, but like
- Mostly local theater.
- Nice job.
We got your books there as well. So
Thorever!
Your wife dropped off some
of the other stuff as well.
So, we just want to make it feel
like a home to you.
So, looking around,
does this feel all right to you?
Feel like it could be home?
I think it feels a little lonely,
doesn't it?
Yeah?
It feels a bit like a hospital, you know?
Yeah.
It's
Everything up until this point
has felt like theater.
It has been quite fun
and then when I find myself in my room,
it kind of begins to hit home
a bit more
and has a bit more weight to it.
Yeah, interesting.
Chris, I'm gonna chuck this bag down,
all right,
and then we're gonna move on
to meet Gary, all right?
He's you're moving buddy.
- Yeah.
- Okay.
He's gonna show you awesome activities.
He's a nice guy, a master of Tai Chi.
- Cool.
- Yeah.
Gary's a bit
of a legend around here.
So, be careful if he challenges you
in anything.
Oh, yeah. I've got a bit
of a competitive spirit myself.
Gary. how you doing?
- Oh, good. Thanks.
- It's your new neighbor. It's Christopher.
- Hello.
- Oh, hi, Chris. Welcome to Sunset Pine.
- Oh, thank you.
- This is the paradise for retirement.
Is it?
What What's the best thing
around here to do?
Ah! We have that traditional bingo.
- Bingo?
- Bingo!
- All right.
- Yeah.
Bit of a workout for the mind.
Bingo is not as
not as physically challenging.
Then, if you like, we do have a ping-pong,
you know, or workout in the gym.
- Yeah.
- And also, aerobic classes.
Terrific.
- Would you like to join it?
- I'd love to.
Come this way.
Whoa, watch your steps, okay?
Okay, guys, how are we feeling, good?
Are we ready to get started?
Yes! Our aerobics class.
Oh, here's Gary. Come in.
Oh, Chris, this way.
Oh, and he's got our new resident here
with us. Hello, Chris. Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.
- How you doing?
The scientists at MI
who developed this suit,
have observed the people who wear it,
tend to go through three distinct phases.
The first being denial,
essentially, that they fight the suit.
Okay. Guys, we're gonna start
with a big, deep breath in, legs apart.
Breathe in.
So, now we're handing Chris
an opportunity to fight his suit.
We're offering him a chance
to beat aging
sort of.
Right. Left. Right. Good movement.
Yes, get that whole body going.
- Whoo!
- Whoo!
Yes!
So, add the hands.
Yes! Bit of drama.
Like we're at the nightclubs.
Come on, back in the day,
you know what I mean.
Yeah, back in the day.
Feels like yesterday.
All right. Let's do the hips.
We're gonna go back and thrust.
Back and thrust.
Look at Gary. He's killing it.
Come on.
Are you okay there, Chris?
You need to sit out?
- Nah, I'm doing good.
- You're all good? Okay.
- Chris, are you ready?
- Yeah, yeah. Come on.
Okay. Here it comes.
Come on, old man.
Something wrong with the bat, I think.
- That's what they always say.
- Stop talking.
The aging suit is brutal.
Affects my movement in a lot of ways.
And it's bloody exhausting.
- Sunset Pines. Sunset Pines.
- Sunset Pines.
Come on, Chris, say Pines.
And I'm trying
to muscle through it, but
I'm just sort of wearing myself out.
And I find myself losing the battle.
No way, Chris, you're giving up already?
- Shut up, Gary.
- Oh, look at that.
This is a lot more difficult
than I thought it was gonna be.
- Sunset Pines. Sunset Pines.
- That's enough Sunset Pines already.
Let's breathe out.
And that's just our warm-up, guys.
- Amazing!
- What?
You've got it in you, Chris.
How you feeling?
I'm gonna take a seat for a second.
Chris is just gonna sit this one out.
All good. Step together. Tap. Tap.
Tap and step together. Tap
The aging suit makes me feel
pretty nervous about the future.
I guess what scares me
is the deterioration
of of physical capabilities.
Not being mobile, not being able to play
with my grandkids,
not being able to surf,
not being able to be active.
All the things I love to do.
Could be incredibly challenging
but also scary, I'm sure.
Great work today, guys,
thank you so much. See you next time.
Good session.
You all right there, Chris?
- Good. Thank you.
- No worries. Take your time, okay?
- Hey, bud.
- Hey.
I just wanna check in at the end
of a a long day, I'd imagine.
Yeah, very long day.
I feel like I've had an intense workout.
- Well, we're not getting any younger.
- Yeah.
So, Gary, I thought it'd be really helpful
if you shared with Chris
some of your background,
story of your younger self.
Well, when I was younger,
I used to be, you know, quite fit.
When I was very active and very physical.
Yeah.
You know. And my favorite was in kung fu.
It became a huge part of my life,
my identity.
I was really good at it, winning lots
of awards and titles.
I was, at one stage, even awarded
a black belt by the Shaolin Temple.
It was really, really something.
And then one day, I had an accident,
you know, in the training.
I went too hard and practically
smashed my knee.
As I got older, my body just
never felt the same again.
I could never be what I used to be.
When you're young, we always think
that we are super or Superman,
that we will live forever.
We never give a thought that
as you age,
you start to realize that different parts
of the body may start breaking down.
But the truth is,
you will grow old
and your body will fail.
So, gradually, you know,
you sort of have to accept
- Yeah.
- the situation.
And that's when Tai Chi came in.
One morning when I was out walking,
I saw a group of elderly people
doing this slow-motion type of exercise.
And the balance that they have,
you know, the flexibility
and the grace got me really curious.
I saw something that I could relate to.
An opportunity
And so, I started to learn Tai Chi.
And I did it more and more.
And as I learn about this,
you know, I found a new way
of connecting to my physicality, you know?
And so, this taught me a lot of things
and a new way of looking and of living.
You know. And maybe that is something
that might be useful to you.
One of the cruelties we do to each other
is we consider aging a failure,
that our body's failing us.
No. No, that's just the way we see it.
Even as our body is maybe weakening,
it's opening up something else.
And this may be part of us
is getting smaller,
there's this room for us to get bigger
in some other way.
That's when humans really shine,
as we come up against the limit.
- Exactly. Yeah.
- It's a gift in a way, isn't it?
Yeah, yeah,
it's a kind of revelation
that once you learn to accept things
for what it is,
you actually find something even deeper
and more valuable.
A lot of what you're saying, you know,
rings true to me,
and it and it makes you think
this is not a bad kind of
How to how to reframe that
and how to how to adjust to it.
How about, let's go
and try out some Tai Chi moves?
- Sounds good.
- Okay.
Well, I hope that by listening
to my experience,
Chris will learn that there are ways
that you can continue to live
the life that you want to.
You can actually expand yourself.
So, you actually discover
a deeper understanding of the body.
It was great talking to Gary.
Makes me realize that, you know,
my approach to the aging suit
shouldn't be to try and beat it.
Should be to adapt and evolve with it.
All right, so day one down.
Sunset Pines Retirement Village.
Officially retired and feeling pretty old
after wearing that suit all day,
pretty restrictive.
I started to get kind of irritated,
especially when people were talking to me
the way that I guess a lot of us
talk to elderly people,
which is that sort of, you know,
speaking very clear and "hello."
And there's almost this kind of
patronizing sort of tone to it.
So, I hope I don't do that
when I speak to elderly people.
Now, I've got to get comfortable
in this room here.
We've got a massive bed here
which looks like something
one of my kids would sleep in.
What else we got in here?
Not much, this is it.
It's a little bit like a prison.
Yeah, good night.
Good morning, residents.
It's another beautiful day here
at Sunset Pines
where we live every day to the fullest.
Lots of fun activities to do today
and tonight
there's our very own Sunset Pines Ball.
So, don't forget your dancing shoes.
Morning, Chris!
Day two at Sunset Pines is designed
for Chris to sort of settle in.
Hey, Chris.
As people wear this suit,
what the researchers at MIT have seen,
is the second stage is you move into
this adaptive response.
Touch your toes, man.
See if you can touch your toes.
So, if I'm going to get any
longevity benefits from this experience
then my objective today is
to adapt to life in the aging suit.
- Wow.
- First up
the rematch with Gary.
Ready to go again, Chris?
And this time, I've adapted
and recruited a doubles partner,
Douglas.
Oh, good shot.
Gary!
Good shot.
Okay. Watch this. Huh?
We're not gonna watch that.
Just hit the ball.
Okay, here it comes.
- That's it. Game over.
- I'm not playing anymore.
Ah! Steady.
So, Chris is trying to adapt
to this suit
to work around it. Hack it.
Too old for this
But he's still in this mode
that this is something to beat.
But adaptation is not how
he's going to beat the suit.
So, I'm doing my best to adapt
to the suit.
But mostly it's just kind of bugging me.
That is mine.
- Thank you very much.
- Good game.
Maybe it's time I tried something
a little less physical.
Oh, are you all right there, Chris?
Poor old bugger.
And a bit more creative.
Hi, everyone. I just wanted
to welcome you to today's art class.
Today we're going to be doing
self-portraits.
Now, don't give me that, you'll be fine.
We're going to explore our identity today.
So, yeah, get into it. Have fun.
- Okay. Thank you.
- Have fun.
Hi, Chris. My name is Natalie.
- Nice to meet you. All right.
- I just wanted to welcome you.
- Good luck.
- Cool. Thank you.
So, the real goal of day two
is to move Chris beyond adaptation
to the third and final lesson
of the suit.
Acceptance and learning
to rely upon others.
What's your favorite color?
I like this bluey-pink kind
of vibe we got going here.
Oh, okay.
Bit on my helmet.
Very nice. It probably makes it look
a little bit more interesting, doesn't it?
Oh, I know I know what I'll do.
I'll give you a rally stripe.
- A rally stripe?
- Yeah.
- Oh, yeah. Bring it on.
- A rally stripe.
Wait, wait. Don't move.
- Yeah?
- What do you reckon, guys?
- Aw. It looks fantastic.
- Nice.
How do you deal with that hand
with that strap on it?
Very tricky, isn't it?
- What do you feel like? An 80-year-old?
- Yep!
Arms feels a little bit heavy.
- You're looking a bit stiff.
- I feel a bit stiff.
So, what's the secret?
How have you guys stayed so active?
- I swim and I walk.
- Yeah.
You know, and I get out and do stuff.
I swim all winter.
- I'm pretty active at 80, so it's not bad.
- Yeah.
I think as well as being physically active
at the same time, keep your mind active.
You know, build up a good relationship
with your family, your children,
grandchildren
make a lot of friends.
Yeah.
And and while you're doing that,
you will also helping yourself
in maintaining your youth.
So, if Chris can accept getting older
and drop this notion
of physical independence,
that's when he can learn
to rely on others.
He's going to have to adopt
a bigger sense of himself
that can accommodate frailty,
and vulnerability, and old age.
This is the lesson if you can learn
to accept that fact.
That's when we get to experience
just how connected we all are
to each other and to the world around us.
This is very, very good for your health.
- So, you got children?
- Yep. Three kids.
How old?
- Nine and seven. Two twin boys at seven.
- Oh!
- Yeah.
- They were fun when they were babies.
Yes, they're fun now.
You miss them when you are out
and about doing
- your acting?
- Yeah, definitely. Yep.
Yep. Yep.
It's looking good. Well done.
- Oh, Chris. Tell me about yours.
- I'm not sure what it is.
It's like me crossed with a koala.
I just need a eucalyptus leaf
to be chewin' on.
No, looks great.
Hey, bud.
- Hello.
- How you doing?
Just
remove the the suit for a minute.
Just a Yeah, it's just so good to
It's nice to have a breather.
- Feel good to take it off?
- It does, yeah.
Well, good news.
You get to be done with that suit.
That experiment is over.
Wonderful.
Yeah, I'll leave it right here
on the couch.
Right, oh. Exactly.
The major lesson here is acceptance.
There's certain things or certain battles
we're just not going to win
and you're not going
to beat that suit
Yeah.
and you're not going to beat aging
and that's okay.
Yeah. But then how do you come
to terms with that? How do people accept?
For me, just couple things
to tell you about.
I So, when I was 19,
a sophomore in college
you know, life was really good.
Then sophomore fall,
friends of mine and I,
we were screwing around
on our commuter train
and my buds and I,
we just climbed it
like you climb a tree.
There was just a parked train
just sitting there.
But when I stood up,
I had a metal watch on my wrist.
And when I stood up,
I was close enough to the power source,
the electricity arced to the watch.
Instantaneous big explosion,
and in a moment just, you know,
everything changed in a way.
I lost one arm below the elbow
and both legs below the knee,
and I came very close to death.
It broke me down.
My life was over. I was just pure loss.
And I thought, "Who am I, now?"
This forced me to reimagine myself.
Adaptation was only going
to get me so far.
I had to accept it.
And somewhere along the way,
it took me a few years,
but there came a point
where I let that old body,
that old sense of self, I let him go.
He died.
What was in store for me
I knew that my identity didn't exist
in my feet.
I look at myself in the mirror
every once in a while and say,
"This is my life. This is it.
This is this is my life."
I think this is a part of acceptance
is where you actually
let the change happen.
Come on.
That's it.
Good girl.
That was a big, big deal for me.
Those years following my accident
and learning to play
with how I saw myself in the world.
My sense of self had expanded
to the point where not only
I could accommodate limb loss.
But I started making meaning
and making sense of my experience.
I went into medicine
and fell immediately in love
with palliative care.
People usually have a misunderstanding
of it that it's all about
end of life and death.
But my job is to treat suffering
and to help people
find meaning in their life.
So, you could also say it's something
of a philosophy.
Come on. Right here.
My story is dramatic,
but it's just a variation on a theme.
We all suffer, we all bump up
against things that we can't control.
And that brings us to this point
of acceptance
and that's a place
where I'm trying to move Chris.
Talking with BJ, I find myself
in awe of his attitude.
He went through one
of the toughest experiences
someone can go through
at a very young age too,
and yet he's accepted that experience,
and I find that such a beautiful approach
to life.
So, are you starting to get a little hint,
a little glimmer
at this thing called acceptance?
Yeah, I mean, one thing I've accepted
and come to terms with is
that I I don't feel invincible,
you know.
And the really interesting thing
that certainly I think about is, like,
well, there will come a day when
you can't take the suit off and
that's an intimidating
- thought for me, you know?
- Mm-hmm.
- It's a big one.
- Yeah.
Yeah, so, it stirs up
a whole lot of
ideas and and thoughts.
And, you know, I I think just living
in that space of sort of goal-orientated
- kind of get through this checklist first.
- Mm-hmm.
It can also be sort of dangerous, right?
Like a
- Absolutely.
- 'Cause it's the assumption
that you have time to get through it
rather than going
Right.
- Man.
- There may not be a tomorrow.
Yeah, absolutely. Yep.
I've come to learn how hard it is
to actually be in the moment.
Is that a skill you have?
It's something I
am aware
that I I I want to achieve
and be better at, you know.
But
you know. Being in it,
being brutally honest with myself.
I'm not. And now
I'm sort of going,
"What's really important?" You know?
You know, I just feel like I'm sort of,
you know, busier and busier and busier,
and I'm not even with the kids
as much as I want to be.
But like, I think about it
that a lot,
you know, and just
Just the sort of fragility of it all.
I just wanna get this right.
It
I've been working so much for
ten or twelve years now,
and found a lot of, you know,
my memories have
it felt like they are in fast forward,
and wishing I had a sort of pause
and taken more time.
And
it makes me think about a story
my mom was telling me about.
The experience she had recently,
where she thought she was facing
the end of her life for a brief moment.
And that she felt
complete peace with her experiences
in the fact that she had many people
around her that loved her,
many people that she loved
and she had a very full life,
and I think it affected me because I
I don't want to find myself
rushing through things anymore.
Yeah. This experience is making me
want to press pause
on everything for a while
and then kind of be much more present
than I've been.
So, at this point,
Chris is opening up a little bit,
which is an invaluable moment
along the way to acceptance.
It's now time to make some
of these lessons more personal for him.
And explore the world of emotional loss.
The finale of day two
is a dance at Sunset Pines.
Do you wanna try this on, see if it fits?
What Chris doesn't know is,
at the dance, his wife,
his real wife, Elsa,
will be waiting for him.
Oh, my God.
And Elsa has signed up to be age 50 years
through the magic of prosthetics.
Yeah, I don't feel bad about my hands now.
- Look at my hands!
- Yeah. There ya go.
So, I'm sitting in the chair,
and they started putting
on the prosthetics
and it start to feel really weird.
I was like, I don't want to do this.
It was a moment of, like,
"I can't do this."
Aging is
is threatening,
especially with women
and in this society,
it made me think about
how much value we give to youth.
This is possibly
the most confrontational,
daring moment of this whole experiment.
Chris does not know this is coming.
This is a big surprise for him.
Yeah, I can I can see my mom actually.
It just makes you feel like,
God is that where we gonna go
and be, you know. It's it's difficult.
But, you know, what's interesting is,
we know from data
that most of us are less afraid
by our own frailty, our own deaths
than we are at the deaths
of people we care for.
So, to explore this further,
we want Chris to meet another resident
of Sunset Pines.
Well, my name is Aisea Vakalalabure.
I'm a Fijian, from Fiji.
And I'm 88 years old.
And here's your table Mr. Hemsworth.
I like you to meet Aisea.
Aisea?
- Hi Chris, pleased to meet you.
- You too.
Do you know who Chris Hemsworth is?
No.
No.
How do you feel now coming
to this life of retirement?
- How
- Very different, very different.
A lot of wonderful people though,
you know?
It's been a very unique experience.
Well, I'll tell you
being an elderly person
is the best thing,
aging is very important in life.
BJ said it was a a great opportunity
to meet you
because you have an important story.
Well.
I come from Fiji and I come
from a chiefly family,
and my eldest brother we were very close.
I was closer to him than to my parents.
To him, I am the small baby brother
but to me, he's everything.
And everywhere he goes
I'm always behind him.
I was his shadow.
From childhood, right up until
we went to the army he's always there,
and he's always looking after me.
And I look at him as a father,
big brother, and my protector.
When our father died,
being the eldest of the family,
he had to take over the role of chief.
And he became a good chief,
and the people loved him.
Unfortunately, this didn't last long.
He became sick.
When he died,
my world came crumbling down.
And I lost
the man that I loved,
my real brother.
And I was devastated,
the loss that I suffered
is unmeasurable.
But in Fijian society
there is a period
of mourning of 100 days and 100 nights
when the whole village is closed down.
No singing. No playing. No nothing.
And as the 100 days began,
I didn't want to be around people
let alone lead a community.
And I thought to myself
will I be good enough?
Will they respect me
as they respected my brother?
I can't do this.
But 100 days is a long time.
It gives you time to think.
To learn, to be more open to others.
To grow.
Day after day.
Every sunrise.
Every sunset.
The grief was changing me.
And that was how I accepted
I must stand up.
Follow his footsteps, put on his shoes,
though big it may be,
and accept the role of being a chief.
What I really want Chris to learn
from Aisea's example
is the importance of giving ourself
time and space
to have very difficult feelings.
Life includes incredible sorrow,
incredible sadness, and that those,
just like aging aren't our enemy,
they're just part of the deal.
You will lose the people you love.
But I was a better community leader
a better man,
because of those hundred days.
And so, I learnt grief is beautiful.
Sounds like where you're from
there's far more acceptance
and welcoming of that transition.
You know, I believe that Western society
don't give enough time to grieve.
Grief is good.
That’s what I believe in.
Gentlemen, here are your meals.
This is Sunset Pines finest,
and, Mr. Hemsworth,
we'll be looking forward to seeing you
at our weekly dance this evening.
- Bon appetit.
- Thank you.
Dancing?
- Should be fun.
- Yes.
It's great talking to Aisea
and so good to hear his story.
But the idea of losing
the people you love,
I think is the scariest thing
and that's not really something
I'm ready to accept just yet.
Sorry, Elsa. Is it okay
if you just keep your eyes closed
- for a little while?
- Mm-hmm.
Just while we do this. Thank you.
So, the last part of day two,
we come to the dance,
and this is where we confront Chris
with Elsa, his beloved wife.
But now Elsa is the one
who's aged 50 years.
This could be good,
or it could be very tragic.
I don't know what's going to happen.
Looking at myself,
it's really confronting,
and so real, like, really, really real.
I feel really vulnerable.
And I'm not sure I want Chris
to see me like this.
Yeah.
- Chris, there you are. Now
- You all right?
I have set you up with a fantastic date.
- Oh, really?
- Yeah, now, I know you're married.
- But we won't tell your wife, okay?
- Yeah, yeah, but?
Come with me. Come on now.
Don't be shy.
- Okay, I'm not shy. I know.
- Not shy though?
- Nervous not not shy though.
- Oh, okay. See the lady in pink there?
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Go get her, boy!
Excuse me, I think I'm your date.
Oh, my God.
- It's so weird!
- Look at you.
Oh, my God.
Is it I just wanna touch your shoulder
and I was like
"Oh, my God.
I know this person."
Did you know?
Oh, wow.
Hello.
Still beautiful.
I think this moment
we will remember forever.
It was so deep and so unexpected.
I felt safe.
It was so beautiful.
- Do you expect it, you know? Not at all?
- I don't know what was going on.
I mean, this is a wild experience.
Looking at my wife having aged 50 years
and it was a strange mixture of emotions
of sort of
love, joy, empathy
and then also
kind of absurd
in a brilliant way.
It's been such a weird
day, like, I don't know.
Just thinking about
life and death and everything.
And then, this
For me, today was, like,
I was just putting on 50 years.
- Yeah. Yep.
- And it's really, really shocking,
not not having those years to adapt.
And I think nature gave you that
- steps to get used to me in a way.
- Yeah.
It's pretty intense diving straight into.
This is what Yeah.
Yeah. It's just it's really
confronting.
No, it was quite shocking
when I saw you then.
I was like, "Oh! Wait, wait."
Been robbed of 50 years.
It was kind of like it was kind of,
you're at the tail end of things maybe.
Got a little a little
sort of teary-eyed.
- I want to live those years with you.
- Yeah.
We need those memories, yeah?
Should we dance?
Should we dance? Sure.
Be careful with my back.
You gotta be careful.
You just try and keep up, all right?
You all right? Moving slow.
Maybe with this experience,
we've ratcheted down Chris's anxieties
or fears around aging and death,
so that he gets to see this idea
that aging ain't so bad.
And that love actually really
can hold you
through just about anything.
I think what is quite confronting
is approaching that age on my own.
What makes it less scary
is having someone to experience it with.
You know, having people around you
that you love,
makes me feel a lot more
accepting.
Sorry, I have to go.
Okay.
I love you.
I love you too.
One of the really important lessons
that Chris needs to learn
is where there is love, there is loss.
There will be losses in his own life.
It's not if, it's when.
And this sets us up for the next piece
of this very strange odyssey
Where we're moving from aging
into mortality, into death.
Good morning, residents.
It's yet another beautiful day here
at Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
Theater Club is starting soon.
And don't forget, there's bingo
in the village hall this evening.
Oh, and we also want
to formally welcome Mr. Hemsworth,
who's already settling right in.
I feel quite immersed,
and at home in the experience now.
And I'm just trying
to be constantly open to it.
Makes me realize, you know,
this this might not be
as bad as I thought it was gonna be.
So here we are at the beginning
of day three, our final day,
and we're moving now towards death,
mortality.
- Hello.
- Hi.
I wanted to introduce Chris
to my friend and colleague
Alua Arthur. And she works as,
what's called a death doula.
Now tell me,
what exactly is a death doula?
So, a death doula is somebody
who does all the non-medical care
and support of the dying person
and the family through the process.
We essentially walk people
toward the end of life.
Wow.
So, if you were talking a lot about
the end of life.
Today, we're gonna talk
about your mortality.
Okay.
- Okay?
- Yeah.
So we have a little exercise prepared
for you,
a little bit of exposure therapy
- All right.
- to get you ready for that.
- Okay.
- You ready?
- Yeah.
- Okay, let's go check it out.
So, as you see,
- we have a bunch of coffins here for you.
- Wow.
Yeah, you have a chance
to take a look at them,
see what you like,
see what you don't like.
- I I have to choose one?
- Yeah, that'd be great.
- Wow.
- You can do a little shopping,
take a look around,
see what you're interested in,
what you're drawn to.
What an odd concept.
This is a little kind of dollhouse vibe.
- It is.
- So I'll maybe not go there.
- We have a beautiful
- Yeah.
pine one here.
All the sort of fancy timbers feel
a little bit of a waste, don't they?
To bury those in the ground.
Feels like that should be furniture
or something.
Maybe cardboard. Compostable.
Really economical too.
- Yeah.
- They are totally compostable,
- biodegradable.
- Yeah.
Everything like that.
I mean, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna
need much where I'm going, I guess.
Breathes well?
Breathes well, beautiful, natural,
Moses vibes.
- Extra-large picnic basket. Good.
- Absolutely. Here we have a mahogany one.
- Oh, yeah?
- Yeah, really beautiful.
This one has been built specifically
for your body.
Maybe you might wanna check it out,
get in it?
- Yeah, cool.
- Ready?
- Just jump straight in there, right?
- Yeah, take it easy.
My hope, in looking at the coffins
with Chris,
is that he will connect to his own body
one day in those coffins.
And so he starts to think
of his death itself.
- Yeah, you already got the position down.
- Yeah, look at that.
- Just like that.
- It's weird I feel like a vampire.
- Yeah, well, close.
- Just going away for the
long night.
- Also called death?
- Yeah.
Yeah.
- Done.
- Well
We're scared
about talking about death
'cause it makes us really uncomfortable,
like it's something wrong.
Trees die, flowers die, animals die,
car batteries die, humans die.
It was it was a strange experience,
wasn't it?
What do you think of coffins generally?
You I don't know, I kind of maybe
would prefer to be cremated, I guess.
Rather than cocooned up
in some space,
there's something sort of
claustrophobic about that thought.
- Oh.
- Yeah.
And maybe you could just
you could throw me in the ocean
and the sharks could have at me, and
- Throw your body in the ocean?
- Yeah.
I'm curious about how you view
what happens after death.
I don't know. I remember as a kid,
sort of lying awake at night,
thinking about the idea of nothing,
you know, and poof just that's it,
you know, forever
- Yeah.
- you know? And not just forever,
- but forever, forever, forever, you know?
- Forever.
And it used to kinda
And it'd, like, keep me up.
You know, it was this, like,
just that complete empty, nothing,
gone kind of idea.
Scared the hell out of me.
The reality is, as we know,
that it could be at any point in time
- Yeah.
- right? You know, often people
think about the end of life
as some faraway notion.
Like it's something that happens
out there, over there
and it comes far sooner
than most people are ready for,
which is why opportunities like this one,
to be present to mortality, is so useful.
What would you say the biggest thing
you've learned
through talking to people
at the end of their days?
Being with somebody
as they have just stopped breathing,
to feel the incredible stillness
in the room
after life has just left a body,
is the most simple, yet the most profound.
In that life really does hang
on a single breath.
It's there one minute
and then it's gone the next.
And when it's gone,
it reminds me that I still have
the capacity to breathe, and to live,
and to be engaged, and to love,
and to laugh, and to
be joyful,
and to wear color, and to
- Yeah, yeah.
- hug, and, you know, dance,
and to live, to live.
Yeah.
That's beautiful.
Later on, today, we're gonna do
a death-bed meditation.
- Mm.
- Get you closer to your death.
Okay, great.
For now, there's somebody
I want you to meet before we do that.
- Okay.
- You ready?
- Yeah.
- Let's go.
One of the benefits for somebody
as young and as vital as Chris
to be talking and thinking about death
is that it really does drive home
the conversation that this is possible
for anybody at any time.
- Natalie.
- Hello, Chris.
But that young people also become sick.
Saw you in art class the other day.
Yeah. Hi.
Hi. Alua said that we should speak.
Yeah. Well, I'm here to tell you
about my experience
with stage-four cancer.
And to be honest, I don't know
how much time I have left.
I'm 27 now.
But when I was 20,
I was diagnosed with stage-three melanoma.
It got into my lymph nodes.
And so, surgery was my only option.
So, they cut off my toe,
they got rid of all my lymph nodes.
And for a 20-year-old, you can imagine,
your life got turned upside-down.
- Yeah.
- And
from there on, I have thought
about death every single day of my life.
No one at 20 expects to be diagnosed
with cancer.
No one prepares you
for a diagnosis like that.
And especially, like, the effects
it has on your family,
and your friends,
and my whole world changed, pretty much,
like, overnight.
Cancer became my overall identity.
Essentially,
I was referred to as the sick one.
For a little while there,
I was I was really lost.
And I needed to find that person
who I once was before.
Yeah.
And so, off I went, I went to Venice.
Not to run away, more to be in a place
where no one knew my story,
so I could truly figure out myself
and how to live alongside this cancer.
And I met a boy, I fell in love.
And he just saw me for me,
which was, honestly,
really, really beautiful.
Alexander is genuine and kind.
And I've often referred to him
as my oak tree.
He's the person who's just
standing steadfast and he keeps me steady.
When you have cancer,
you don't know if you can be loved.
And your relationship with love
and yourself
pretty much goes out of the window.
Love is the most
amazing thing that we have,
and that we can experience in this world.
And the fact that I get
to experience his love, you know
he makes me so happy.
And these are happy tears.
But three months into our love story,
I came home,
and I had a routine scan, and they told me
that the cancer was back in my lungs.
And now, I was stage four.
So, I told him.
And then I said,
"I'm breaking up with you."
And he just turned around
and was like, "No."
And he was like,
"I'm in this."
And he says, "I choose all the time
with you that I have.
It doesn't matter if it's long,
if it's short.
Well, I choose you."
It's probably because of my diagnosis
of the way that I look at time.
The time that anybody has
is so precious.
So, if you just dive in headfirst,
and use whatever time that you have
because nobody knows their timelines.
So, we're just going to love each other.
And we're gonna love each other
no matter what.
No matter how much time we have left.
You know,
we talked about acceptance.
How are you with with acceptance?
With that word or with the idea of it?
I've thought about death every single day
for the past seven years.
Have I accepted my mortality?
Yes and no.
I think people have
a very funny relationship with aging,
they get really scared of it.
But in truth, I would love to age.
I would love nothing more
than to get old,
and I think that's a gift.
We're all we're all gonna die one day.
So, you have to really live life
as much as like you can and enjoy it.
To soak up every single moment.
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
Your life could end at any time.
So just enjoy life, enjoy time,
make the most of it.
And love as much as you can.
This is a heartbreaking experience,
talking to Natalie
and listening to her story and and
hearing someone
talk with such grace and and maturity
about something so, so uncertain is,
is really inspiring.
- Hello.
- Good to see you.
- How are you?
- I'm great, man.
How was your chat with Natalie?
Yeah, an incredible individual.
Could you feel that
this idea
that there tomorrow isn't guaranteed?
Yeah.
There's no certainty around that at all.
Do you feel that?
Absolutely. Yeah.
There was this sort of
essential need to,
sort of, shake the world
and get this message out
and say, "Do not mess around,
do not take it for granted.
Soak up every moment."
And that is sort of the running theme
I've sort of felt with people.
Yeah, it's also to kinda
weave together
in a sort of a a better understanding
of it all.
So,
we have come to the end of the
of your time at Sunset Pines, brother.
All that's left for you to do
is walk through that door.
And
whatever you find there,
just go with it.
Okay.
This is the boldest part
of this whole experiment.
Thanks, brother.
We are going to push
our immersive theater
to its limits.
All right.
We're gonna get you to the hospital.
Cardiac arrest, 180 over 120.
Let's go, let's go.
Oxygen running. Breathe deep.
Chris, Chris!
- Chris, can you hear me?
- I'm not getting a pulse. Get clear.
Clothing clear.
- That was intense, huh?
- Yeah, very strange.
- Quite the experience.
- It was Yeah, yeah.
Well, you know if you're seeing me
at this point,
things probably didn't go according
to plan.
Yeah.
So, we're going to do
the death meditation now.
The intention for this meditation
is to bring you into greater awareness
of the end of your life
and also to create renewed engagement
- with life as it is.
- Yeah.
So, you can begin by closing your eyes.
And now take a deep breath in.
Repeat to yourself,
"My death is inevitable."
"My death is inevitable."
On the out-breath, "I too will die."
"I too will die."
We're going
to take you on a journey.
Everyone you've met
and everything you've done
has been leading to this.
On the in-breath,
- you will grow old.
- You will grow old.
And on the out-breath, repeat,
"Your body will fail."
Your body will fail.
Once you've learned to accept
you can actually find something
even deeper and more valuable.
On the in-breath,
"You will lose the people you love."
"You will lose
the people you love."
You will lose the people you love.
And on the out-breath,
repeat "Grief is beautiful."
Grief is beautiful.
On the in-breath,
"Your life could end at any time."
Your life could end at any time.
Your life could end at any time.
- "You too, will die."
- "You, too, will die."
You, too, will die.
He is my oak tree.
Just enjoy time
And love as much as you can.
As you see yourself on your deathbed
now in your mind's eye,
look closely at who is surrounding
your bedside.
Who is holding your hand?
Your body is weakening
and you're beginning to dissolve.
Release attachment to Elsa.
Release attachment to your children.
Your loved ones cannot save you.
You will create no new memories.
Now you surrender
and release into death.
And you find yourself gaining acceptance
that one day your life will end.
You may open your eyes
and blow out this candle.
- Hello.
- Hey.
Hey! Come here.
Yeah, come on.
Come on. Have a seat.
Either way.
Another unique experience.
How was it? How'd you find it?
It felt really peaceful.
It just felt
It didn't feel intimidating,
it felt sort of like I was off floating
down a river or something, you know?
Onto the next place, wherever that was.
And
It's just
When you said, "Think of the place
you'd be or you wanna be.
Who would be around you
when you're dying, when it's happening."
And I was just imagining myself
in my living room with all my family
and friends around and
and then it sort of struck me,
I was like,
"This is what I have
all the time." Like
- how lucky I am, you know?
- Right on.
- Yeah, absolutely.
- Yeah.
It's a very familiar place
and experience for me.
And it doesn't feel lonely at all,
it feels
it feels like any other Sunday,
when I'm surrounded by loved ones.
Oh, the the conversation
we'd have in the last couple of days
about, you know, just feeling
like I've been missing things
or doing too much,
and I just had a moment of
kind of calm and
pause about it all,
and thought,
it's it's all great,
sure I can do things differently,
but not to look at anything past
as it having been a mistake
or being done wrong.
And then, that sort
of strange parallel with
this idea of acceptance of death
and letting go, and also with life
and letting go,
and doesn't mean you let go
of the steering wheel completely,
but just kind of enjoying the ride
and enjoying the view, you know?
There's something very peaceful
about that that acceptance.
And maybe it's fun the circle back
to this Sunset Pines.
This sort of, what feels maybe
like a tacky tagline.
"Sunset Pines, where we live
every day to the fullest."
- But the clue is in that title all along.
- Yeah.
Welcome, Mr. Hemsworth,
to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
Welcome to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
Welcome to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
Thank you.
Hello.
That was the real instruction.
"Live every day to the fullest."
- You all right?
- You all right?
How was it?
It was awesome.
It's pretty pretty special.
You can do it. It only takes three days.
Yeah, yeah.
We tend to treat life as this right
that we have.
And that by virtue of being born,
we have a right to life,
we have a right to a tomorrow.
No. Life is a gift.
Another day is a gift.
- Before you go, can you sign my picture?
- Sure.
A full life is one that includes death,
includes pain.
But if we can be grateful
for yet another minute
on this beautiful, crazy
planet. Imagine that.
Hey!
This is my oak tree.
- Indy, quick, quick, quick.
- Life doesn't come
at some point in the future,
when you finally find that person,
or lose that weight,
or stop working so much,
or get that job, or whatever it is,
it's happening right now. You're in it.
You're living it.
- Thank you, buddy.
- All right, see you.
The truth is
that we're not limitless.
Thanks, guys.
This experience has come
at the right time for me.
At a time in my life where I really
wanna focus on what matters.
And it all matters.
Every moment.
Every smile. Every tear.
- Daddy!
- Every kiss.
All of it.
This has brought you joy?
- Absolutely.
- Excellent.
Hey, Chris!
Living my longest, healthiest,
happiest life.
That's gonna be the work
of a lifetime.
Tell you what. That's a wrap.
Well done, everybody.
Jake, cut!
Switch it on. Switch it on
Impose your will on the sea.
He's at 145.
This is double his heart rate.
Over the past year,
I've been exploring the science
of living longer.
Doing everything I can to hold back time.
But whatever I do, sooner or later,
aging and death will win.
So, what am I going to do about that?
You're gonna tie me up.
This wasn't this wasn't in
the initial contract.
Super attractive.
Okay, Chris.
We are gonna attach the weights to it.
Apparently, this is what I'm going
to do about it.
This fashion disaster is what's called
an age simulation suit.
Designed at MIT,
it's been precisely calibrated
to my physique.
The bungees restrict my movements.
And I'll be carrying an extra 30 pounds
around with me.
And these shoes will make me unbalanced.
I'm doing all this,
so that I can experience
how my body will feel in 50 years' time.
I'm really curious to see
how you look at 87.
And my wife, Elsa,
is a little too interested.
Hey, you're into this suit,
aren't you? This is
- Just leave it like that.
- I can wear this on date night.
"No, no, no, don't put
the fireman suit on.
- Put the the aging suit on."
- Exactly! Put the aging suit
Counterintuitively,
longevity scientists
actually believe that a key
to the longest, healthiest life
might not be to resist aging,
but to embrace it.
You're gonna lose your hearing.
You look ridiculous.
So, I'm finishing my fight
to stay young, by learning how to get old.
You're gonna lose
a little bit of your vision.
This sucks, by the way.
Okay, Chris.
Brutal.
- How you feeling?
- Old.
Okay, rolling through. Rolling.
All on the rehearsal.
All I've been told
is that I'm about to
jump forward 50 years into the future
and spend the next three days
living the life of an octogenarian.
Move to reception, thank you.
The architect
of this strange challenge
is Dr. BJ Miller.
A world-renowned
palliative care physician.
His work centers on unlocking
the transformative power
of accepting aging and death.
Dying offers us something,
we can change how we see it,
what we do with it, how we play with it.
Chris is about to take part
in a truly unique experiment.
Ready, my old man?
I don't know. I mean, ask me
in three days' time, maybe.
We are doing something bold
and novel here.
We're going to combine the arts
and sciences
to create a completely immersive world
for Chris.
It's a constructed world
of a retirement community.
And then, at the end of three days
at Sunset Pines
we're going to kill Chris Hemsworth.
Slow down! Why are you driving so fast?
It's okay. We'll get there.
Maybe you should let me drive.
No way!
I can't see or hear anything.
Welcome to Sunset Pines.
This is my new home, huh?
New best friend.
So, finally, here we are.
And this is what I've been waiting for.
This is my opportunity to beat aging.
Hello.
How hard that can be?
Chris doesn't seem very worried,
but I think he's underestimated old age.
I think he's going to probably want
to get out of there as soon as he can.
This is it.
Okay.
- Elsa.
- Hey. Can you see me?
Where we going?
- Oh, look at this. Hello. Hello.
- How are ya?
Chris. Pleasure, buddy.
Nice to meet you.
I'm BJ. How's the suit feeling, my guy?
A little heavy and slower
than I used to be, but
- Right on. That's the idea.
- That the idea.
So, that's the first part
of this immersion.
The second part is is this place.
- Yeah.
- Sunset Pines.
So, it's a retirement village
made just for you.
All right.
This is a three-day piece
of immersive theater.
It's going to be a little bit surreal.
But there's something very real
about surreal.
Yay!
All the older people that he's meeting
along the way are entirely real.
And they're there for Chris
to interact with
and to befriend and to relate with.
Aw!
But the staff of Sunset Pines,
the carers are actors.
They are going to treat Chris
as though he is an 87-year-old.
They will not break character.
Apologies for the interruption,
Dr. Miller. Welcome,
Mr. Hemsworth, to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
My name is Sofia.
I'm one of the carers here.
I'm going to take you in for orientation.
So, I'd like to ask you
to say your goodbyes now.
- See you later.
- See you later.
All right.
Now, are you happy to walk
or would you like a chair?
- Yeah, I'm okay to walk.
- Okay, no problem.
Now, it can be a little bit
of an adjustment period
here at Sunset Pines.
So, it's totally normal to feel
a little bit
out of place at first,
but I can assure you,
our community are very welcoming
and supportive.
There is a handrail there.
I'll just ask you to use that.
Yep, that's it. All right. Are you okay?
- I'm good, thanks.
- Yeah?
Hey!
- Joy is gonna get you all checked in.
- All right.
And then you'll be shown up
to your apartment.
I mean, this is a wild experience.
I'm kind of trying to piece it together
as I go, but it's
it's just kind of weird.
- Hi, Joy.
- Hello.
This is Mr. Hemsworth.
He's one of our newest residents.
Hello, Mr. Hemsworth.
Welcome to Sunset Pines
where we live every day to the fullest.
- Cool.
- So, I'll I'll put you into our system.
So, if you can just give me a moment.
All right, so, I would just need this
Wearing the suit,
it's just horrible, really uncomfortable.
Everything is heavy.
And I find myself feeling
very restricted.
And then, you know, the lack of vision,
hearing,
I find myself missing 20
to 30 percent of what's being said.
I just need you to look directly
at the lens, please. All done.
It feels really isolating
because everything is,
you know, feels somewhat closed off.
How you doing?
What was that?
- How you doing?
- I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
- I'm feeling a little disorientated.
- Right.
Can't really see properly
or hear properly.
- Well, that's exactly the idea, right?
- Okay.
A big part of the reason to give him
this experience
is we are living amidst an epidemic
of denial that we are denying aging,
older age and we are denying death.
It's a kind of stress.
It's bad for our blood pressure,
it's bad for our hormonal lives,
it's bad for our neurochemistry.
In in this way,
there's a physiologic effect directly
on our bodies.
And this stress can shorten a life.
Increasingly we are seeing
multiple peer-reviewed studies
that suggest that if we can actually
embrace that reality,
if you can find a way to accept it
and to accommodate being older
that you'll be happier, less depressed,
and maybe you'll actually live longer,
and not by just a day or two
but years years longer, potentially.
- Yeah.
- Wow.
Make sense?
Okay, looks like you're ready.
We have your ID printed out.
So, if you can just double-check
that all your details are correct,
date of birth and spelling of your name.
Yeah, the spelling is all right.
I don't know about that photo.
What happened to me?
That's you, brother.
That beautiful old man.
- Wow.
- Well.
It's been a rough 50 years.
Do you need help putting on that lanyard?
I'm just gonna fit it over my giant head.
There we go.
Yes!
There we are.
It's official.
You are a new resident. Michael.
Mr. Hemsworth, how you doing?
I'm Michael. I'm a carer here.
- How are ya?
- Welcome to Sunset Pines.
- Thank you.
- Where we live
Where we live every day to the fullest.
Great ID photo, man.
- Thanks.
- Where we going?
- Apartment nine, spruce.
- Spruce.
- Spruce, eh?
- They're nice suites, dude.
So, over the next few days,
we are going to leap Chris forward
50 years and introduce him
to an accelerated version of aging.
You like croquet?
- Nah, not really.
- Oh, fair enough.
So, he can have a little bit of a taste
of not just as an idea
but a visceral way,
he can touch what it feels like
to be an elder and he can begin to touch
what it feels like
to be at the edge of life
and at the end of life.
Hang on, Fred.
And things are only going
to get weirder from here.
Never.
Watch out, ladies.
Fresh meat coming through.
- Good morning.
- Come on, Chris.
All right, mate.
It's a great environment here.
It's really friendly.
- All right. Welcome.
- Thank you.
- How are you, Fran?
- I'm ready to go.
We'll circle back and say hi later.
Keep away from that woman, okay?
- Yeah.
- She's a deadly card player.
Oh, I'm not much of a card player,
so I'll stay away.
Keep away from her then.
Ian, how you doing?
- Hello. How are you?
- Hello, welcome.
You can pretty much roam
wherever you want here.
Apart from that there.
You don't need to worry about that.
- That's off limits.
- Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah, but, this is it.
Your home now, okay?
- Here I am.
- That's you.
Huh, what do you think of this?
Wow.
Take a trip down memory lane.
I got old quick.
My older brother looks the youngest.
That's, uh That's crazy.
Joy mentioned you used
to do some acting.
Yeah. I don't think I'd be doing it
till my hair looks like that.
I thought it was
like local theater, but like
- Mostly local theater.
- Nice job.
We got your books there as well. So
Thorever!
Your wife dropped off some
of the other stuff as well.
So, we just want to make it feel
like a home to you.
So, looking around,
does this feel all right to you?
Feel like it could be home?
I think it feels a little lonely,
doesn't it?
Yeah?
It feels a bit like a hospital, you know?
Yeah.
It's
Everything up until this point
has felt like theater.
It has been quite fun
and then when I find myself in my room,
it kind of begins to hit home
a bit more
and has a bit more weight to it.
Yeah, interesting.
Chris, I'm gonna chuck this bag down,
all right,
and then we're gonna move on
to meet Gary, all right?
He's you're moving buddy.
- Yeah.
- Okay.
He's gonna show you awesome activities.
He's a nice guy, a master of Tai Chi.
- Cool.
- Yeah.
Gary's a bit
of a legend around here.
So, be careful if he challenges you
in anything.
Oh, yeah. I've got a bit
of a competitive spirit myself.
Gary. how you doing?
- Oh, good. Thanks.
- It's your new neighbor. It's Christopher.
- Hello.
- Oh, hi, Chris. Welcome to Sunset Pine.
- Oh, thank you.
- This is the paradise for retirement.
Is it?
What What's the best thing
around here to do?
Ah! We have that traditional bingo.
- Bingo?
- Bingo!
- All right.
- Yeah.
Bit of a workout for the mind.
Bingo is not as
not as physically challenging.
Then, if you like, we do have a ping-pong,
you know, or workout in the gym.
- Yeah.
- And also, aerobic classes.
Terrific.
- Would you like to join it?
- I'd love to.
Come this way.
Whoa, watch your steps, okay?
Okay, guys, how are we feeling, good?
Are we ready to get started?
Yes! Our aerobics class.
Oh, here's Gary. Come in.
Oh, Chris, this way.
Oh, and he's got our new resident here
with us. Hello, Chris. Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.
- How you doing?
The scientists at MI
who developed this suit,
have observed the people who wear it,
tend to go through three distinct phases.
The first being denial,
essentially, that they fight the suit.
Okay. Guys, we're gonna start
with a big, deep breath in, legs apart.
Breathe in.
So, now we're handing Chris
an opportunity to fight his suit.
We're offering him a chance
to beat aging
sort of.
Right. Left. Right. Good movement.
Yes, get that whole body going.
- Whoo!
- Whoo!
Yes!
So, add the hands.
Yes! Bit of drama.
Like we're at the nightclubs.
Come on, back in the day,
you know what I mean.
Yeah, back in the day.
Feels like yesterday.
All right. Let's do the hips.
We're gonna go back and thrust.
Back and thrust.
Look at Gary. He's killing it.
Come on.
Are you okay there, Chris?
You need to sit out?
- Nah, I'm doing good.
- You're all good? Okay.
- Chris, are you ready?
- Yeah, yeah. Come on.
Okay. Here it comes.
Come on, old man.
Something wrong with the bat, I think.
- That's what they always say.
- Stop talking.
The aging suit is brutal.
Affects my movement in a lot of ways.
And it's bloody exhausting.
- Sunset Pines. Sunset Pines.
- Sunset Pines.
Come on, Chris, say Pines.
And I'm trying
to muscle through it, but
I'm just sort of wearing myself out.
And I find myself losing the battle.
No way, Chris, you're giving up already?
- Shut up, Gary.
- Oh, look at that.
This is a lot more difficult
than I thought it was gonna be.
- Sunset Pines. Sunset Pines.
- That's enough Sunset Pines already.
Let's breathe out.
And that's just our warm-up, guys.
- Amazing!
- What?
You've got it in you, Chris.
How you feeling?
I'm gonna take a seat for a second.
Chris is just gonna sit this one out.
All good. Step together. Tap. Tap.
Tap and step together. Tap
The aging suit makes me feel
pretty nervous about the future.
I guess what scares me
is the deterioration
of of physical capabilities.
Not being mobile, not being able to play
with my grandkids,
not being able to surf,
not being able to be active.
All the things I love to do.
Could be incredibly challenging
but also scary, I'm sure.
Great work today, guys,
thank you so much. See you next time.
Good session.
You all right there, Chris?
- Good. Thank you.
- No worries. Take your time, okay?
- Hey, bud.
- Hey.
I just wanna check in at the end
of a a long day, I'd imagine.
Yeah, very long day.
I feel like I've had an intense workout.
- Well, we're not getting any younger.
- Yeah.
So, Gary, I thought it'd be really helpful
if you shared with Chris
some of your background,
story of your younger self.
Well, when I was younger,
I used to be, you know, quite fit.
When I was very active and very physical.
Yeah.
You know. And my favorite was in kung fu.
It became a huge part of my life,
my identity.
I was really good at it, winning lots
of awards and titles.
I was, at one stage, even awarded
a black belt by the Shaolin Temple.
It was really, really something.
And then one day, I had an accident,
you know, in the training.
I went too hard and practically
smashed my knee.
As I got older, my body just
never felt the same again.
I could never be what I used to be.
When you're young, we always think
that we are super or Superman,
that we will live forever.
We never give a thought that
as you age,
you start to realize that different parts
of the body may start breaking down.
But the truth is,
you will grow old
and your body will fail.
So, gradually, you know,
you sort of have to accept
- Yeah.
- the situation.
And that's when Tai Chi came in.
One morning when I was out walking,
I saw a group of elderly people
doing this slow-motion type of exercise.
And the balance that they have,
you know, the flexibility
and the grace got me really curious.
I saw something that I could relate to.
An opportunity
And so, I started to learn Tai Chi.
And I did it more and more.
And as I learn about this,
you know, I found a new way
of connecting to my physicality, you know?
And so, this taught me a lot of things
and a new way of looking and of living.
You know. And maybe that is something
that might be useful to you.
One of the cruelties we do to each other
is we consider aging a failure,
that our body's failing us.
No. No, that's just the way we see it.
Even as our body is maybe weakening,
it's opening up something else.
And this may be part of us
is getting smaller,
there's this room for us to get bigger
in some other way.
That's when humans really shine,
as we come up against the limit.
- Exactly. Yeah.
- It's a gift in a way, isn't it?
Yeah, yeah,
it's a kind of revelation
that once you learn to accept things
for what it is,
you actually find something even deeper
and more valuable.
A lot of what you're saying, you know,
rings true to me,
and it and it makes you think
this is not a bad kind of
How to how to reframe that
and how to how to adjust to it.
How about, let's go
and try out some Tai Chi moves?
- Sounds good.
- Okay.
Well, I hope that by listening
to my experience,
Chris will learn that there are ways
that you can continue to live
the life that you want to.
You can actually expand yourself.
So, you actually discover
a deeper understanding of the body.
It was great talking to Gary.
Makes me realize that, you know,
my approach to the aging suit
shouldn't be to try and beat it.
Should be to adapt and evolve with it.
All right, so day one down.
Sunset Pines Retirement Village.
Officially retired and feeling pretty old
after wearing that suit all day,
pretty restrictive.
I started to get kind of irritated,
especially when people were talking to me
the way that I guess a lot of us
talk to elderly people,
which is that sort of, you know,
speaking very clear and "hello."
And there's almost this kind of
patronizing sort of tone to it.
So, I hope I don't do that
when I speak to elderly people.
Now, I've got to get comfortable
in this room here.
We've got a massive bed here
which looks like something
one of my kids would sleep in.
What else we got in here?
Not much, this is it.
It's a little bit like a prison.
Yeah, good night.
Good morning, residents.
It's another beautiful day here
at Sunset Pines
where we live every day to the fullest.
Lots of fun activities to do today
and tonight
there's our very own Sunset Pines Ball.
So, don't forget your dancing shoes.
Morning, Chris!
Day two at Sunset Pines is designed
for Chris to sort of settle in.
Hey, Chris.
As people wear this suit,
what the researchers at MIT have seen,
is the second stage is you move into
this adaptive response.
Touch your toes, man.
See if you can touch your toes.
So, if I'm going to get any
longevity benefits from this experience
then my objective today is
to adapt to life in the aging suit.
- Wow.
- First up
the rematch with Gary.
Ready to go again, Chris?
And this time, I've adapted
and recruited a doubles partner,
Douglas.
Oh, good shot.
Gary!
Good shot.
Okay. Watch this. Huh?
We're not gonna watch that.
Just hit the ball.
Okay, here it comes.
- That's it. Game over.
- I'm not playing anymore.
Ah! Steady.
So, Chris is trying to adapt
to this suit
to work around it. Hack it.
Too old for this
But he's still in this mode
that this is something to beat.
But adaptation is not how
he's going to beat the suit.
So, I'm doing my best to adapt
to the suit.
But mostly it's just kind of bugging me.
That is mine.
- Thank you very much.
- Good game.
Maybe it's time I tried something
a little less physical.
Oh, are you all right there, Chris?
Poor old bugger.
And a bit more creative.
Hi, everyone. I just wanted
to welcome you to today's art class.
Today we're going to be doing
self-portraits.
Now, don't give me that, you'll be fine.
We're going to explore our identity today.
So, yeah, get into it. Have fun.
- Okay. Thank you.
- Have fun.
Hi, Chris. My name is Natalie.
- Nice to meet you. All right.
- I just wanted to welcome you.
- Good luck.
- Cool. Thank you.
So, the real goal of day two
is to move Chris beyond adaptation
to the third and final lesson
of the suit.
Acceptance and learning
to rely upon others.
What's your favorite color?
I like this bluey-pink kind
of vibe we got going here.
Oh, okay.
Bit on my helmet.
Very nice. It probably makes it look
a little bit more interesting, doesn't it?
Oh, I know I know what I'll do.
I'll give you a rally stripe.
- A rally stripe?
- Yeah.
- Oh, yeah. Bring it on.
- A rally stripe.
Wait, wait. Don't move.
- Yeah?
- What do you reckon, guys?
- Aw. It looks fantastic.
- Nice.
How do you deal with that hand
with that strap on it?
Very tricky, isn't it?
- What do you feel like? An 80-year-old?
- Yep!
Arms feels a little bit heavy.
- You're looking a bit stiff.
- I feel a bit stiff.
So, what's the secret?
How have you guys stayed so active?
- I swim and I walk.
- Yeah.
You know, and I get out and do stuff.
I swim all winter.
- I'm pretty active at 80, so it's not bad.
- Yeah.
I think as well as being physically active
at the same time, keep your mind active.
You know, build up a good relationship
with your family, your children,
grandchildren
make a lot of friends.
Yeah.
And and while you're doing that,
you will also helping yourself
in maintaining your youth.
So, if Chris can accept getting older
and drop this notion
of physical independence,
that's when he can learn
to rely on others.
He's going to have to adopt
a bigger sense of himself
that can accommodate frailty,
and vulnerability, and old age.
This is the lesson if you can learn
to accept that fact.
That's when we get to experience
just how connected we all are
to each other and to the world around us.
This is very, very good for your health.
- So, you got children?
- Yep. Three kids.
How old?
- Nine and seven. Two twin boys at seven.
- Oh!
- Yeah.
- They were fun when they were babies.
Yes, they're fun now.
You miss them when you are out
and about doing
- your acting?
- Yeah, definitely. Yep.
Yep. Yep.
It's looking good. Well done.
- Oh, Chris. Tell me about yours.
- I'm not sure what it is.
It's like me crossed with a koala.
I just need a eucalyptus leaf
to be chewin' on.
No, looks great.
Hey, bud.
- Hello.
- How you doing?
Just
remove the the suit for a minute.
Just a Yeah, it's just so good to
It's nice to have a breather.
- Feel good to take it off?
- It does, yeah.
Well, good news.
You get to be done with that suit.
That experiment is over.
Wonderful.
Yeah, I'll leave it right here
on the couch.
Right, oh. Exactly.
The major lesson here is acceptance.
There's certain things or certain battles
we're just not going to win
and you're not going
to beat that suit
Yeah.
and you're not going to beat aging
and that's okay.
Yeah. But then how do you come
to terms with that? How do people accept?
For me, just couple things
to tell you about.
I So, when I was 19,
a sophomore in college
you know, life was really good.
Then sophomore fall,
friends of mine and I,
we were screwing around
on our commuter train
and my buds and I,
we just climbed it
like you climb a tree.
There was just a parked train
just sitting there.
But when I stood up,
I had a metal watch on my wrist.
And when I stood up,
I was close enough to the power source,
the electricity arced to the watch.
Instantaneous big explosion,
and in a moment just, you know,
everything changed in a way.
I lost one arm below the elbow
and both legs below the knee,
and I came very close to death.
It broke me down.
My life was over. I was just pure loss.
And I thought, "Who am I, now?"
This forced me to reimagine myself.
Adaptation was only going
to get me so far.
I had to accept it.
And somewhere along the way,
it took me a few years,
but there came a point
where I let that old body,
that old sense of self, I let him go.
He died.
What was in store for me
I knew that my identity didn't exist
in my feet.
I look at myself in the mirror
every once in a while and say,
"This is my life. This is it.
This is this is my life."
I think this is a part of acceptance
is where you actually
let the change happen.
Come on.
That's it.
Good girl.
That was a big, big deal for me.
Those years following my accident
and learning to play
with how I saw myself in the world.
My sense of self had expanded
to the point where not only
I could accommodate limb loss.
But I started making meaning
and making sense of my experience.
I went into medicine
and fell immediately in love
with palliative care.
People usually have a misunderstanding
of it that it's all about
end of life and death.
But my job is to treat suffering
and to help people
find meaning in their life.
So, you could also say it's something
of a philosophy.
Come on. Right here.
My story is dramatic,
but it's just a variation on a theme.
We all suffer, we all bump up
against things that we can't control.
And that brings us to this point
of acceptance
and that's a place
where I'm trying to move Chris.
Talking with BJ, I find myself
in awe of his attitude.
He went through one
of the toughest experiences
someone can go through
at a very young age too,
and yet he's accepted that experience,
and I find that such a beautiful approach
to life.
So, are you starting to get a little hint,
a little glimmer
at this thing called acceptance?
Yeah, I mean, one thing I've accepted
and come to terms with is
that I I don't feel invincible,
you know.
And the really interesting thing
that certainly I think about is, like,
well, there will come a day when
you can't take the suit off and
that's an intimidating
- thought for me, you know?
- Mm-hmm.
- It's a big one.
- Yeah.
Yeah, so, it stirs up
a whole lot of
ideas and and thoughts.
And, you know, I I think just living
in that space of sort of goal-orientated
- kind of get through this checklist first.
- Mm-hmm.
It can also be sort of dangerous, right?
Like a
- Absolutely.
- 'Cause it's the assumption
that you have time to get through it
rather than going
Right.
- Man.
- There may not be a tomorrow.
Yeah, absolutely. Yep.
I've come to learn how hard it is
to actually be in the moment.
Is that a skill you have?
It's something I
am aware
that I I I want to achieve
and be better at, you know.
But
you know. Being in it,
being brutally honest with myself.
I'm not. And now
I'm sort of going,
"What's really important?" You know?
You know, I just feel like I'm sort of,
you know, busier and busier and busier,
and I'm not even with the kids
as much as I want to be.
But like, I think about it
that a lot,
you know, and just
Just the sort of fragility of it all.
I just wanna get this right.
It
I've been working so much for
ten or twelve years now,
and found a lot of, you know,
my memories have
it felt like they are in fast forward,
and wishing I had a sort of pause
and taken more time.
And
it makes me think about a story
my mom was telling me about.
The experience she had recently,
where she thought she was facing
the end of her life for a brief moment.
And that she felt
complete peace with her experiences
in the fact that she had many people
around her that loved her,
many people that she loved
and she had a very full life,
and I think it affected me because I
I don't want to find myself
rushing through things anymore.
Yeah. This experience is making me
want to press pause
on everything for a while
and then kind of be much more present
than I've been.
So, at this point,
Chris is opening up a little bit,
which is an invaluable moment
along the way to acceptance.
It's now time to make some
of these lessons more personal for him.
And explore the world of emotional loss.
The finale of day two
is a dance at Sunset Pines.
Do you wanna try this on, see if it fits?
What Chris doesn't know is,
at the dance, his wife,
his real wife, Elsa,
will be waiting for him.
Oh, my God.
And Elsa has signed up to be age 50 years
through the magic of prosthetics.
Yeah, I don't feel bad about my hands now.
- Look at my hands!
- Yeah. There ya go.
So, I'm sitting in the chair,
and they started putting
on the prosthetics
and it start to feel really weird.
I was like, I don't want to do this.
It was a moment of, like,
"I can't do this."
Aging is
is threatening,
especially with women
and in this society,
it made me think about
how much value we give to youth.
This is possibly
the most confrontational,
daring moment of this whole experiment.
Chris does not know this is coming.
This is a big surprise for him.
Yeah, I can I can see my mom actually.
It just makes you feel like,
God is that where we gonna go
and be, you know. It's it's difficult.
But, you know, what's interesting is,
we know from data
that most of us are less afraid
by our own frailty, our own deaths
than we are at the deaths
of people we care for.
So, to explore this further,
we want Chris to meet another resident
of Sunset Pines.
Well, my name is Aisea Vakalalabure.
I'm a Fijian, from Fiji.
And I'm 88 years old.
And here's your table Mr. Hemsworth.
I like you to meet Aisea.
Aisea?
- Hi Chris, pleased to meet you.
- You too.
Do you know who Chris Hemsworth is?
No.
No.
How do you feel now coming
to this life of retirement?
- How
- Very different, very different.
A lot of wonderful people though,
you know?
It's been a very unique experience.
Well, I'll tell you
being an elderly person
is the best thing,
aging is very important in life.
BJ said it was a a great opportunity
to meet you
because you have an important story.
Well.
I come from Fiji and I come
from a chiefly family,
and my eldest brother we were very close.
I was closer to him than to my parents.
To him, I am the small baby brother
but to me, he's everything.
And everywhere he goes
I'm always behind him.
I was his shadow.
From childhood, right up until
we went to the army he's always there,
and he's always looking after me.
And I look at him as a father,
big brother, and my protector.
When our father died,
being the eldest of the family,
he had to take over the role of chief.
And he became a good chief,
and the people loved him.
Unfortunately, this didn't last long.
He became sick.
When he died,
my world came crumbling down.
And I lost
the man that I loved,
my real brother.
And I was devastated,
the loss that I suffered
is unmeasurable.
But in Fijian society
there is a period
of mourning of 100 days and 100 nights
when the whole village is closed down.
No singing. No playing. No nothing.
And as the 100 days began,
I didn't want to be around people
let alone lead a community.
And I thought to myself
will I be good enough?
Will they respect me
as they respected my brother?
I can't do this.
But 100 days is a long time.
It gives you time to think.
To learn, to be more open to others.
To grow.
Day after day.
Every sunrise.
Every sunset.
The grief was changing me.
And that was how I accepted
I must stand up.
Follow his footsteps, put on his shoes,
though big it may be,
and accept the role of being a chief.
What I really want Chris to learn
from Aisea's example
is the importance of giving ourself
time and space
to have very difficult feelings.
Life includes incredible sorrow,
incredible sadness, and that those,
just like aging aren't our enemy,
they're just part of the deal.
You will lose the people you love.
But I was a better community leader
a better man,
because of those hundred days.
And so, I learnt grief is beautiful.
Sounds like where you're from
there's far more acceptance
and welcoming of that transition.
You know, I believe that Western society
don't give enough time to grieve.
Grief is good.
That’s what I believe in.
Gentlemen, here are your meals.
This is Sunset Pines finest,
and, Mr. Hemsworth,
we'll be looking forward to seeing you
at our weekly dance this evening.
- Bon appetit.
- Thank you.
Dancing?
- Should be fun.
- Yes.
It's great talking to Aisea
and so good to hear his story.
But the idea of losing
the people you love,
I think is the scariest thing
and that's not really something
I'm ready to accept just yet.
Sorry, Elsa. Is it okay
if you just keep your eyes closed
- for a little while?
- Mm-hmm.
Just while we do this. Thank you.
So, the last part of day two,
we come to the dance,
and this is where we confront Chris
with Elsa, his beloved wife.
But now Elsa is the one
who's aged 50 years.
This could be good,
or it could be very tragic.
I don't know what's going to happen.
Looking at myself,
it's really confronting,
and so real, like, really, really real.
I feel really vulnerable.
And I'm not sure I want Chris
to see me like this.
Yeah.
- Chris, there you are. Now
- You all right?
I have set you up with a fantastic date.
- Oh, really?
- Yeah, now, I know you're married.
- But we won't tell your wife, okay?
- Yeah, yeah, but?
Come with me. Come on now.
Don't be shy.
- Okay, I'm not shy. I know.
- Not shy though?
- Nervous not not shy though.
- Oh, okay. See the lady in pink there?
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- Go get her, boy!
Excuse me, I think I'm your date.
Oh, my God.
- It's so weird!
- Look at you.
Oh, my God.
Is it I just wanna touch your shoulder
and I was like
"Oh, my God.
I know this person."
Did you know?
Oh, wow.
Hello.
Still beautiful.
I think this moment
we will remember forever.
It was so deep and so unexpected.
I felt safe.
It was so beautiful.
- Do you expect it, you know? Not at all?
- I don't know what was going on.
I mean, this is a wild experience.
Looking at my wife having aged 50 years
and it was a strange mixture of emotions
of sort of
love, joy, empathy
and then also
kind of absurd
in a brilliant way.
It's been such a weird
day, like, I don't know.
Just thinking about
life and death and everything.
And then, this
For me, today was, like,
I was just putting on 50 years.
- Yeah. Yep.
- And it's really, really shocking,
not not having those years to adapt.
And I think nature gave you that
- steps to get used to me in a way.
- Yeah.
It's pretty intense diving straight into.
This is what Yeah.
Yeah. It's just it's really
confronting.
No, it was quite shocking
when I saw you then.
I was like, "Oh! Wait, wait."
Been robbed of 50 years.
It was kind of like it was kind of,
you're at the tail end of things maybe.
Got a little a little
sort of teary-eyed.
- I want to live those years with you.
- Yeah.
We need those memories, yeah?
Should we dance?
Should we dance? Sure.
Be careful with my back.
You gotta be careful.
You just try and keep up, all right?
You all right? Moving slow.
Maybe with this experience,
we've ratcheted down Chris's anxieties
or fears around aging and death,
so that he gets to see this idea
that aging ain't so bad.
And that love actually really
can hold you
through just about anything.
I think what is quite confronting
is approaching that age on my own.
What makes it less scary
is having someone to experience it with.
You know, having people around you
that you love,
makes me feel a lot more
accepting.
Sorry, I have to go.
Okay.
I love you.
I love you too.
One of the really important lessons
that Chris needs to learn
is where there is love, there is loss.
There will be losses in his own life.
It's not if, it's when.
And this sets us up for the next piece
of this very strange odyssey
Where we're moving from aging
into mortality, into death.
Good morning, residents.
It's yet another beautiful day here
at Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
Theater Club is starting soon.
And don't forget, there's bingo
in the village hall this evening.
Oh, and we also want
to formally welcome Mr. Hemsworth,
who's already settling right in.
I feel quite immersed,
and at home in the experience now.
And I'm just trying
to be constantly open to it.
Makes me realize, you know,
this this might not be
as bad as I thought it was gonna be.
So here we are at the beginning
of day three, our final day,
and we're moving now towards death,
mortality.
- Hello.
- Hi.
I wanted to introduce Chris
to my friend and colleague
Alua Arthur. And she works as,
what's called a death doula.
Now tell me,
what exactly is a death doula?
So, a death doula is somebody
who does all the non-medical care
and support of the dying person
and the family through the process.
We essentially walk people
toward the end of life.
Wow.
So, if you were talking a lot about
the end of life.
Today, we're gonna talk
about your mortality.
Okay.
- Okay?
- Yeah.
So we have a little exercise prepared
for you,
a little bit of exposure therapy
- All right.
- to get you ready for that.
- Okay.
- You ready?
- Yeah.
- Okay, let's go check it out.
So, as you see,
- we have a bunch of coffins here for you.
- Wow.
Yeah, you have a chance
to take a look at them,
see what you like,
see what you don't like.
- I I have to choose one?
- Yeah, that'd be great.
- Wow.
- You can do a little shopping,
take a look around,
see what you're interested in,
what you're drawn to.
What an odd concept.
This is a little kind of dollhouse vibe.
- It is.
- So I'll maybe not go there.
- We have a beautiful
- Yeah.
pine one here.
All the sort of fancy timbers feel
a little bit of a waste, don't they?
To bury those in the ground.
Feels like that should be furniture
or something.
Maybe cardboard. Compostable.
Really economical too.
- Yeah.
- They are totally compostable,
- biodegradable.
- Yeah.
Everything like that.
I mean, I'm not gonna I'm not gonna
need much where I'm going, I guess.
Breathes well?
Breathes well, beautiful, natural,
Moses vibes.
- Extra-large picnic basket. Good.
- Absolutely. Here we have a mahogany one.
- Oh, yeah?
- Yeah, really beautiful.
This one has been built specifically
for your body.
Maybe you might wanna check it out,
get in it?
- Yeah, cool.
- Ready?
- Just jump straight in there, right?
- Yeah, take it easy.
My hope, in looking at the coffins
with Chris,
is that he will connect to his own body
one day in those coffins.
And so he starts to think
of his death itself.
- Yeah, you already got the position down.
- Yeah, look at that.
- Just like that.
- It's weird I feel like a vampire.
- Yeah, well, close.
- Just going away for the
long night.
- Also called death?
- Yeah.
Yeah.
- Done.
- Well
We're scared
about talking about death
'cause it makes us really uncomfortable,
like it's something wrong.
Trees die, flowers die, animals die,
car batteries die, humans die.
It was it was a strange experience,
wasn't it?
What do you think of coffins generally?
You I don't know, I kind of maybe
would prefer to be cremated, I guess.
Rather than cocooned up
in some space,
there's something sort of
claustrophobic about that thought.
- Oh.
- Yeah.
And maybe you could just
you could throw me in the ocean
and the sharks could have at me, and
- Throw your body in the ocean?
- Yeah.
I'm curious about how you view
what happens after death.
I don't know. I remember as a kid,
sort of lying awake at night,
thinking about the idea of nothing,
you know, and poof just that's it,
you know, forever
- Yeah.
- you know? And not just forever,
- but forever, forever, forever, you know?
- Forever.
And it used to kinda
And it'd, like, keep me up.
You know, it was this, like,
just that complete empty, nothing,
gone kind of idea.
Scared the hell out of me.
The reality is, as we know,
that it could be at any point in time
- Yeah.
- right? You know, often people
think about the end of life
as some faraway notion.
Like it's something that happens
out there, over there
and it comes far sooner
than most people are ready for,
which is why opportunities like this one,
to be present to mortality, is so useful.
What would you say the biggest thing
you've learned
through talking to people
at the end of their days?
Being with somebody
as they have just stopped breathing,
to feel the incredible stillness
in the room
after life has just left a body,
is the most simple, yet the most profound.
In that life really does hang
on a single breath.
It's there one minute
and then it's gone the next.
And when it's gone,
it reminds me that I still have
the capacity to breathe, and to live,
and to be engaged, and to love,
and to laugh, and to
be joyful,
and to wear color, and to
- Yeah, yeah.
- hug, and, you know, dance,
and to live, to live.
Yeah.
That's beautiful.
Later on, today, we're gonna do
a death-bed meditation.
- Mm.
- Get you closer to your death.
Okay, great.
For now, there's somebody
I want you to meet before we do that.
- Okay.
- You ready?
- Yeah.
- Let's go.
One of the benefits for somebody
as young and as vital as Chris
to be talking and thinking about death
is that it really does drive home
the conversation that this is possible
for anybody at any time.
- Natalie.
- Hello, Chris.
But that young people also become sick.
Saw you in art class the other day.
Yeah. Hi.
Hi. Alua said that we should speak.
Yeah. Well, I'm here to tell you
about my experience
with stage-four cancer.
And to be honest, I don't know
how much time I have left.
I'm 27 now.
But when I was 20,
I was diagnosed with stage-three melanoma.
It got into my lymph nodes.
And so, surgery was my only option.
So, they cut off my toe,
they got rid of all my lymph nodes.
And for a 20-year-old, you can imagine,
your life got turned upside-down.
- Yeah.
- And
from there on, I have thought
about death every single day of my life.
No one at 20 expects to be diagnosed
with cancer.
No one prepares you
for a diagnosis like that.
And especially, like, the effects
it has on your family,
and your friends,
and my whole world changed, pretty much,
like, overnight.
Cancer became my overall identity.
Essentially,
I was referred to as the sick one.
For a little while there,
I was I was really lost.
And I needed to find that person
who I once was before.
Yeah.
And so, off I went, I went to Venice.
Not to run away, more to be in a place
where no one knew my story,
so I could truly figure out myself
and how to live alongside this cancer.
And I met a boy, I fell in love.
And he just saw me for me,
which was, honestly,
really, really beautiful.
Alexander is genuine and kind.
And I've often referred to him
as my oak tree.
He's the person who's just
standing steadfast and he keeps me steady.
When you have cancer,
you don't know if you can be loved.
And your relationship with love
and yourself
pretty much goes out of the window.
Love is the most
amazing thing that we have,
and that we can experience in this world.
And the fact that I get
to experience his love, you know
he makes me so happy.
And these are happy tears.
But three months into our love story,
I came home,
and I had a routine scan, and they told me
that the cancer was back in my lungs.
And now, I was stage four.
So, I told him.
And then I said,
"I'm breaking up with you."
And he just turned around
and was like, "No."
And he was like,
"I'm in this."
And he says, "I choose all the time
with you that I have.
It doesn't matter if it's long,
if it's short.
Well, I choose you."
It's probably because of my diagnosis
of the way that I look at time.
The time that anybody has
is so precious.
So, if you just dive in headfirst,
and use whatever time that you have
because nobody knows their timelines.
So, we're just going to love each other.
And we're gonna love each other
no matter what.
No matter how much time we have left.
You know,
we talked about acceptance.
How are you with with acceptance?
With that word or with the idea of it?
I've thought about death every single day
for the past seven years.
Have I accepted my mortality?
Yes and no.
I think people have
a very funny relationship with aging,
they get really scared of it.
But in truth, I would love to age.
I would love nothing more
than to get old,
and I think that's a gift.
We're all we're all gonna die one day.
So, you have to really live life
as much as like you can and enjoy it.
To soak up every single moment.
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
Your life could end at any time.
So just enjoy life, enjoy time,
make the most of it.
And love as much as you can.
This is a heartbreaking experience,
talking to Natalie
and listening to her story and and
hearing someone
talk with such grace and and maturity
about something so, so uncertain is,
is really inspiring.
- Hello.
- Good to see you.
- How are you?
- I'm great, man.
How was your chat with Natalie?
Yeah, an incredible individual.
Could you feel that
this idea
that there tomorrow isn't guaranteed?
Yeah.
There's no certainty around that at all.
Do you feel that?
Absolutely. Yeah.
There was this sort of
essential need to,
sort of, shake the world
and get this message out
and say, "Do not mess around,
do not take it for granted.
Soak up every moment."
And that is sort of the running theme
I've sort of felt with people.
Yeah, it's also to kinda
weave together
in a sort of a a better understanding
of it all.
So,
we have come to the end of the
of your time at Sunset Pines, brother.
All that's left for you to do
is walk through that door.
And
whatever you find there,
just go with it.
Okay.
This is the boldest part
of this whole experiment.
Thanks, brother.
We are going to push
our immersive theater
to its limits.
All right.
We're gonna get you to the hospital.
Cardiac arrest, 180 over 120.
Let's go, let's go.
Oxygen running. Breathe deep.
Chris, Chris!
- Chris, can you hear me?
- I'm not getting a pulse. Get clear.
Clothing clear.
- That was intense, huh?
- Yeah, very strange.
- Quite the experience.
- It was Yeah, yeah.
Well, you know if you're seeing me
at this point,
things probably didn't go according
to plan.
Yeah.
So, we're going to do
the death meditation now.
The intention for this meditation
is to bring you into greater awareness
of the end of your life
and also to create renewed engagement
- with life as it is.
- Yeah.
So, you can begin by closing your eyes.
And now take a deep breath in.
Repeat to yourself,
"My death is inevitable."
"My death is inevitable."
On the out-breath, "I too will die."
"I too will die."
We're going
to take you on a journey.
Everyone you've met
and everything you've done
has been leading to this.
On the in-breath,
- you will grow old.
- You will grow old.
And on the out-breath, repeat,
"Your body will fail."
Your body will fail.
Once you've learned to accept
you can actually find something
even deeper and more valuable.
On the in-breath,
"You will lose the people you love."
"You will lose
the people you love."
You will lose the people you love.
And on the out-breath,
repeat "Grief is beautiful."
Grief is beautiful.
On the in-breath,
"Your life could end at any time."
Your life could end at any time.
Your life could end at any time.
- "You too, will die."
- "You, too, will die."
You, too, will die.
He is my oak tree.
Just enjoy time
And love as much as you can.
As you see yourself on your deathbed
now in your mind's eye,
look closely at who is surrounding
your bedside.
Who is holding your hand?
Your body is weakening
and you're beginning to dissolve.
Release attachment to Elsa.
Release attachment to your children.
Your loved ones cannot save you.
You will create no new memories.
Now you surrender
and release into death.
And you find yourself gaining acceptance
that one day your life will end.
You may open your eyes
and blow out this candle.
- Hello.
- Hey.
Hey! Come here.
Yeah, come on.
Come on. Have a seat.
Either way.
Another unique experience.
How was it? How'd you find it?
It felt really peaceful.
It just felt
It didn't feel intimidating,
it felt sort of like I was off floating
down a river or something, you know?
Onto the next place, wherever that was.
And
It's just
When you said, "Think of the place
you'd be or you wanna be.
Who would be around you
when you're dying, when it's happening."
And I was just imagining myself
in my living room with all my family
and friends around and
and then it sort of struck me,
I was like,
"This is what I have
all the time." Like
- how lucky I am, you know?
- Right on.
- Yeah, absolutely.
- Yeah.
It's a very familiar place
and experience for me.
And it doesn't feel lonely at all,
it feels
it feels like any other Sunday,
when I'm surrounded by loved ones.
Oh, the the conversation
we'd have in the last couple of days
about, you know, just feeling
like I've been missing things
or doing too much,
and I just had a moment of
kind of calm and
pause about it all,
and thought,
it's it's all great,
sure I can do things differently,
but not to look at anything past
as it having been a mistake
or being done wrong.
And then, that sort
of strange parallel with
this idea of acceptance of death
and letting go, and also with life
and letting go,
and doesn't mean you let go
of the steering wheel completely,
but just kind of enjoying the ride
and enjoying the view, you know?
There's something very peaceful
about that that acceptance.
And maybe it's fun the circle back
to this Sunset Pines.
This sort of, what feels maybe
like a tacky tagline.
"Sunset Pines, where we live
every day to the fullest."
- But the clue is in that title all along.
- Yeah.
Welcome, Mr. Hemsworth,
to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
Welcome to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
Welcome to Sunset Pines,
where we live every day to the fullest.
Thank you.
Hello.
That was the real instruction.
"Live every day to the fullest."
- You all right?
- You all right?
How was it?
It was awesome.
It's pretty pretty special.
You can do it. It only takes three days.
Yeah, yeah.
We tend to treat life as this right
that we have.
And that by virtue of being born,
we have a right to life,
we have a right to a tomorrow.
No. Life is a gift.
Another day is a gift.
- Before you go, can you sign my picture?
- Sure.
A full life is one that includes death,
includes pain.
But if we can be grateful
for yet another minute
on this beautiful, crazy
planet. Imagine that.
Hey!
This is my oak tree.
- Indy, quick, quick, quick.
- Life doesn't come
at some point in the future,
when you finally find that person,
or lose that weight,
or stop working so much,
or get that job, or whatever it is,
it's happening right now. You're in it.
You're living it.
- Thank you, buddy.
- All right, see you.
The truth is
that we're not limitless.
Thanks, guys.
This experience has come
at the right time for me.
At a time in my life where I really
wanna focus on what matters.
And it all matters.
Every moment.
Every smile. Every tear.
- Daddy!
- Every kiss.
All of it.
This has brought you joy?
- Absolutely.
- Excellent.
Hey, Chris!
Living my longest, healthiest,
happiest life.
That's gonna be the work
of a lifetime.
Tell you what. That's a wrap.
Well done, everybody.
Jake, cut!