I am a Killer (2018) s05e04 Episode Script
If Things Were Different
[foreboding music playing]
[somber voice] Thanksgiving night of 1999,
I did something really ignorant
to someone that did not deserve it.
I let my anger turn to rage.
But that's not who I am anymore.
[music intensifies]
[somber voice] I've had to deal with
reliving that night for almost 24 years.
I really don't know
what it was that triggered me,
but I believe the state should release me.
I'm nowhere near as violent as I was.
[eerie music playing]
[man 1]
I think we could all be dangerous people.
[man 2] People say you're a monster.
[man 3]
I'm not sitting here saying I'm innocent.
[man 4]
I just murdered some guy in cold blood.
[music fades out]
[gentle piano music playing]
[woman] Growing up, I always wondered
what my life would be like
if my dad was here.
And how different things would be.
Hey, get that camera out of my face.
Hey! Hey!
[chuckling over video]
[chuckles]
[indistinct chattering over video]
[woman] He would be the person
that I could call no matter what,
and he would be there.
I feel like if my dad was here,
we'd be best friends.
There is no excuse
for what Michael Highley did.
Whether it was drugs,
or just mental illness,
or a combination of the two,
I don't think there's any excuse
for killing my father.
[music fades out]
[uneasy instrumental music playing]
[Highley] Since I've been locked up
for almost the last quarter of a century,
I've had to do a lot of self-reflecting.
And I still do not understand
why I reacted that way.
[man] Let's get this one on you.
[music continues]
[Highley] It still brings up
some messed-up feelings
when I think about that day.
It wasn't something I intended.
My life should have been so much better.
[music fades out]
[gentle mandolin playing]
[Highley] Growing up
in the south suburb of Chicago,
I lived with my mother,
my grandmother, my grandfather,
and a couple of siblings that I had.
[music fades out]
The only thing I knew about my father
was he was in the Marine Corps,
and the only real memory I have
was watching him in his vehicle
pull out of the yard and drive away.
[melancholic music playing]
[Highley] I started drinking
around the age of seven or eight.
One of the friends that I had growing up
was part of a local gang.
Him and his friends were always showing up
with 12-packs of beer, bottles of whiskey.
And
by the time I reached my ninth birthday,
I would say I was a full-blown alcoholic.
Being intoxicated,
it helped hide some of the confusion
and anger that I had.
And it helped me hide some
intimate details about myself
that I didn't want to face.
[rhythmic pensive music playing]
[Highley] It was one of those things
of trying to fit in
and make sure that I had, you know,
people I could call friends.
I was, uh, definitely exposed
to a lot of violence.
I was kind of a hothead,
and I had a lot of anger.
Got angry at someone,
you tried to beat him up.
You were throwing punches,
you were throwing kicks,
you were headbutting people.
That was how you proved
you were one of the boys.
[music fades out]
[sweeping somber music playing]
[music fades out]
[Highley] After moving to Montana,
I was supposed
to be working for my stepdad,
but he wasn't paying me.
So I decided to try and get even
by stealing some rifles.
I knew some people that that were willing
to purchase them for for cash and drugs.
But some of the individuals
that I did business with
turned in some of the hunting rifles
to the police.
So I was, uh, arrested,
and that was the start of my
my prison life.
[dark, foreboding music playing]
Prison wasn't the learning experience
that I think they wanted it to be,
and, uh, even being incarcerated,
I I was still intoxicated.
[music becomes sinisterly rhythmic]
[Highley] Coming out of prison,
I had buried the issues
with my feelings deep enough
to where I wasn't dealing with them,
and my main concern was
where my next 12-pack is gonna come from.
Where my next quarter gram
is gonna come from.
I had that attitude,
"Nobody is going to tell me I can't."
So I kept drinking, kept getting high.
Unfortunately, that wasn't
a really good attitude to have.
It was just making me more explosive.
[dramatic final beat]
[music fades out]
[somber acoustic guitar music playing]
[Highley] The night before
Thanksgiving of 1999,
I rode my pedal bike to my local bar.
I brought the bike inside
and left it in the corner.
An old acquaintance of mine,
Mr. Harris, told me he would be willing
to keep an eye on it for me.
So I told him I was going to be
over at the pool table,
and that was pretty much the start
of a bad night.
[uncomfortable chuckle]
One of the bartenders approached me,
and he accused me of being
one of several people
that he suspected went back
behind the bar a night or two prior
and took some money out of what they call
the "shake a day" container.
[balls clattering]
- My anger meter was raising quickly.
- [pinball machine clanging]
If you're going to accuse me of something,
make sure I did it.
[music becomes suspenseful]
I wasn't out-of-control angry,
but I was just about there.
I'm not exactly sure
how much time went by,
but the bartender
caught my attention and said,
"I'm sorry, the individual
that did take the money confessed to it."
But I just kept
thinking about being accused
of doing something I didn't do.
I continued to drink.
I dwelled on it.
[balls clatter]
And when I glanced up,
I noticed the bike was gone.
My anger level instantly started to boil.
[music continues]
I asked Mr. Harris, "Where's the bike?"
And I slapped his shoulder.
He turned and looked at me and told me,
"Even if I knew where it was,
I wouldn't tell you."
And
that that was it.
I went from being angry
to being in a full-blown rage.
I remember the bartender yelling,
"Take it outside."
I remember
Mr. Harris coming out of the bar,
walking across the street.
As soon as he got close enough to me,
I stabbed him three times.
[music crescendos, steadies]
[music fades out]
[sighs]
I still do not understand
what it was that triggered me.
I cannot even begin to speculate
what was going through my mind.
[dramatic sting]
[gently uneasy piano music playing]
[woman] Throughout his life,
Michael had a habit.
He gets angry, he does something,
and he doesn't think about it
until after he does it.
I couldn't understand it.
I'm Carol,
and I'm Michael Highley's mother.
[music fades out]
[melancholic music playing]
[Carol] When Michael was younger,
he was drinking all the time.
And he was doing drugs,
but I didn't realize he was doing that
because he didn't do it here.
I'd come home, he'd be
he'd be home for dinner,
and he'd ask to go play with his friends.
But what he was doing
was actually going to a drug dealer.
When he got in trouble,
Michael always had this "fight or flee."
This one incident,
the dope dealer was chasing him home.
Probably he was getting chased
'cause he owed the drug dealer some money.
And he went and took
his sister's .22 rifle.
He just stuck the rifle out the window,
and he shot him.
[music continues]
[music fades out]
[Carol] I thought if I took him away
from this environment,
that things would smooth out.
But it seemed like
no matter what we say or what we did,
somehow or another
it didn't get blocked into his head.
I think it just went, psst,
one ear and out the other.
But as far as the anger issue,
I took him to the doctors
trying to find why he blows up like that.
Everybody tried to pinpoint it,
but nobody knew what was going on.
And that's why I always told Michael,
"Think before you do something.
Just turn around and walk away."
But he don't listen,
and that's why this last incident
with the knife happened.
[somber piano music playing]
[Carol] When I found out the person
that Michael knifed had died,
I was thinking [sighs]
"This is something
I can't get him out of."
I don't know why he was that angry.
I don't think it ever stuck in his brain
to think about something
or the consequences of doing it
before he did it.
[train bell ringing faintly]
[music fades out]
[car horn honks]
[melancholic music playing]
[man] When we get these cases,
they're always tragic.
There should've been different ways
to handle a dispute than this.
But now this happened,
and someone is dead.
My name is John W. Larson.
I'm a district judge in Montana,
and I presided over the case
of Michael Highley.
[music continues]
[music fades out]
[John] Prison is generally a last resort.
We have to give them
a chance to change their life.
You're not thrown back in jail
for every violation.
But Highley was given a lot of chances,
and chances can't be unending.
[foreboding music playing]
[John] Mr. Highley did have
sufficient opportunities to change,
but he had these violent tendencies.
And in the end,
someone was stabbed to death.
And when there's such violence,
we have to make sure
that everybody else is protected.
[music continues]
[John] The sentence in Highley's case
is one that is appropriate.
It had enough punishment,
but it wasn't extreme.
It had a component,
uh, for rehabilitation.
[uneasy piano music playing]
[John] There was a requirement
that before he'd be considered for parole,
he complete rehabilitative programs
both in chemical dependency
and mental health.
So Highley needs
to take advantage of his sentence
and utilize these chances to change.
[music fades out]
[gentle mandolin music playing]
[Highley] The first few years in prison
were really tough for me.
I shut down mentally.
I didn't want to think
about what got me here.
And that was pretty much
what I did for my first few years.
But I had gotten to a point
where I was trying
to make changes in my life.
And listening to gay individuals
try to explain how things
are so much different in the world now,
and how things are so much more accepted
It was 2016 that I came out
as being transgender.
And mentally, I have never looked back.
And it's helped me move forward
from where I was back in 1999.
[somber orchestral music playing]
[Highley] I should have faced it
a long time ago.
But an individual had to die,
and I had to be sent to prison
for pretty close to the rest of my life
for me to realize
that facing the world the way I did,
it it wasn't a life I should have lived.
And it had me reviewing
everything that I have
ever done in my life.
It helped me
realize that I shouldn't have been ashamed
of who I was.
[sniffs]
[music fades out]
[melancholic music playing]
[Highley] I started wearing
women's clothes at a really young age.
It was right around the time
that my father had left.
I did a lot to try and suppress it
because
the way society looked at people
that were transgender back in them days
wasn't remotely socially acceptable.
And I had been caught a few times
dressed up in women's underwear
when I was in junior high school.
They caught me in the
in the boys' locker room
wearing, uh, a teddy
and my gym shorts around my ankles and
I was laughed at and made fun of and
Yeah, it was, uh it was traumatizing.
[somber music playing]
[Highley] I would have to say
that trying to fit into a man's world
while inside, I felt different.
I didn't process it very well.
The way I dealt with it
was by drinking all the time,
trying to medicate myself
to where I didn't think about it anymore.
And being intoxicated to help deal with
feeling so down on myself.
So I kept drinking, kept getting high,
and there was a lot of violence.
[music fades out]
But since I came out as being transgender,
I've been the happiest I've ever been.
[resolute instrumental music playing]
[Highley] I've been trying for parole
because my thirst
for rehabilitation has never been
so far to the forefront
like it has been since I made the decision
just to accept that this is who I am.
My current name is Ezdeth Antinua Highley.
You can like me or or not.
I've got to live with me, not you.
[music fades out]
[foreboding melancholic music playing]
[birds chirping]
[woman] We received notifications
that Michael Highley
wanted to change his name.
And they told us what he wanted
to change his name to.
I had the lady on the phone
spell it for me,
and it was E-Z-D-E-T-H.
And I said, "Easy death?"
I was shocked.
That's kind of a slap in the face
to a victim's family
where that's what it looks like
that's what his name is.
Eventually, when they told us
Highley wants to transition
as much as you can in prison,
I I don't know.
It's a lot to deal with
and to try and understand.
And I'm
I'm sure it is for him internally,
for what he's feeling.
[music fades out]
[birds chirping]
[gentle somber piano music playing]
[plants rustling]
[Leslie] Paul was hilarious growing up.
A little prankster.
We always had to watch what he was doing
so we didn't get in trouble
and join in in the shenanigans.
He was just fun to have around.
A good brother.
In the late '90s,
Paul was living in Missoula.
And he met
his girlfriend Tracy in about '97.
And then they went on
to have twin baby girls.
And they were born in 1999.
He was really excited about being a dad.
I think it's unfortunate
that he had to pass away
and didn't even get that chance.
[birds chirping]
[music fades out]
I'm not really sure why Highley
thought that he should stab my brother.
But they ended up getting into, uh,
an argument about the bike.
Paul told his friend,
"Put that in the back of your truck,
and it'll be funny
to see him say, 'Where's my bike?'"
You know, it was just
a simple joke that went wrong.
I think that's pretty severe anger issues
that you have if you want to stab somebody
um, over a bicycle
that wasn't even stolen.
[troubling violin music playing]
[Leslie] Highley has been up for parole
multiple times.
But I feel that
when you take somebody's life,
that you should spend
the remainder of your life incarcerated.
At the last parole hearing via video,
Highley said that he felt
like he was a woman,
and maybe that that's where some of his
anger or rage came from.
It's hard to say what you feel about that.
I mean, I feel for people that feel
feel that way anyways in their life.
But he killed somebody violently,
and it doesn't make it go away
'cause your name changes.
[music fades out]
[gently eerie music playing]
[woman] There's a lot more going on
contributing to Ezdeth's behavior
than just her gender identity.
I think it provides context
for some of the things
that she was going through,
and some of the things
that she was struggling with.
But the vast majority of people
with gender identity issues
do not commit murder.
My name is Laura Kirsch.
I'm a clinical
forensic psychologist in Montana.
And I primarily evaluate
criminal defendants
for the Montana judicial system.
[music continues]
Human behavior
is very hard to parse apart.
Why anyone does anything
is an interaction of so many variables
that are internal to a person
and then external as part of a situation.
I think a large driver
of her behavior at that time
seems like anger, substance use,
and antisocial personality traits.
Is some of that
due to her gender identity? Probably.
But being able to draw a straight line
from her gender identity to the murder,
I think, would be highly impossible to do.
[somber piano music playing]
Based on the information that I've read,
it sounds like she had a pretty antisocial
and delinquent childhood.
And I think when you have someone
who perhaps doesn't start out
with a whole lot of
great emotion regulation capacity,
and they're raised in an environment
where they don't get the extra assistance
that they need with it,
that could certainly lead
to using violence
as a means to solve problems
or as a means to express herself.
But I don't think they provide an excuse
or a justification for her behavior.
[music fades out]
[tense music playing]
[music becomes rhythmic]
[device clicks on]
[Highley]
Since I came out as being transgender,
I've been the happiest I've ever been.
It gave me a body high
like nothing I have ever done before.
The thing that made me decide
to start facing my issue
was remembering the contentment
and freedom it caused me to feel
every time I'd be in the basement
wearing a dress and high heels.
And I had decided I just don't care
what people think anymore.
But an individual had to die,
and I had to be sent to prison
for pretty close
to the rest of my life for me to realize
that facing the world the way I did,
it it wasn't a life I should have lived.
My life should have been so much better.
[device clicks off]
[music fades out]
[Laura] One of the characteristics
that's pretty consistent
with antisocial personality
is kind of a self-centeredness
or self-absorption.
And I thought it was striking
in all of the material
that she was very self-focused.
So it's possible
that a lot of her behavior was driven
by antisocial personality traits.
And I think it's striking
how much she's focused on herself
and how little she's spoken
of the victims and the victim family.
[somber music playing]
I think if Ezdeth
would like a better chance
of getting paroled in the future,
she needs to show
genuine remorse for what she did.
So part of her journey that she's on
should incorporate really considering
the impact of her behavior
on her victim's family,
on his young daughters,
who have faced significant obstacles
growing up without a father.
And it's not totally clear
from what I've seen and heard
that she recognizes that and understands
that she was a major factor
in their difficult childhood.
[music fades out]
[birds chirping]
[grim melancholic music playing]
[dog barks]
I have some pictures
of my brother Paul Harris.
There's some in here that my niece Madison
has never seen before.
At the time of Paul's death,
we didn't know
what was gonna happen with the girls.
I was a single mom to a five-year-old,
and I wasn't sure, you know,
could I take two babies,
and all of a sudden have three kids,
and be a single mom.
You know, now I think
I should have just made it work.
[music continues]
[music fades out]
[Leslie] I think this is the first picture
that I saw of you girls.
Look at how tiny you are.
I don't even know who's who. Can you tell?
Yeah, you can tell that's Brianna
because of her dark hair.
After my dad passed away,
my mom was in and out of the picture,
and my twin sister and I were in and out
of group homes for years.
Because of what Michael Highley did,
I was surrounded by drug use, abuse,
neglect, all those things growing up.
I just remember thinking all the time,
like, I would give anything
to just have, like, a regular family.
It does anger me
that we didn't get that chance
because of somebody else's choice.
I definitely feel like if he was here,
things would be different.
[sniffs]
[voice breaks] But I'm just thankful for,
you know, the family that we do have,
and, um, that they stepped in to help
'cause
[sniffs]
you know, through everything
that we went through as children
I think we're pretty okay. [laughs]
[melancholic music playing]
[Maddie] It doesn't matter to me
if Michael Highley has changed or not.
Whether he was suffering
with a mental illness or a drug problem.
I don't think there's any excuse
for killing my father.
[music continues]
[Maddie] They didn't give me
very long to talk.
It was just, "Why do you think
he shouldn't be released early?"
And I just said,
"Because he took my dad
away from our family."
I believe that he should serve
the sentence that he was given for murder.
Any and all future parole hearings,
I will testify that Michael Highley
should not be released early.
[birds chirping]
[music fades out]
[machinery clanging]
[somber discordant violin music playing]
[woman] It feels terrible.
Somebody calls and tells you
your son is dead.
You know, every mother's fear
is losing their children.
But I have forgiven Highley.
You can't keep holding on
to things like that
because they hurt you
more than anybody else.
I'm Cheryl, and I'm Paul Harris's mother.
[music fades out]
[Cheryl] I always run the scenario
through my mind about,
"Well, what if Paul
wouldn't have moved his bike?"
Would he still be here?
If it wasn't for that one little thing.
I mean, there's all these parameters
that we can bring in and try to make sense
of something that happened.
But trust me when I tell you,
I've gone through 10,000 of those,
and they don't help.
Nothing that I could say or do
would bring my son back.
Nothing.
[gentle, uplifting music playing]
[Cheryl] So I decided
that I was gonna forgive him,
and I wanted to at least give him a chance
that he could change.
[Cheryl] I asked about having
Michael's sentence reduced.
I didn't want to punish him,
just lock him in a corner
and leave him there forever.
I asked
if he was gonna be getting any training.
I was trying to find the
a good side to him being in prison
and taking different classes, and
one that would help him.
[somber music playing]
[Cheryl] I am glad
that Michael Highley is changing.
I think he is learning the hard way.
But he's coming to terms
with being transgender,
and I think it's hard for him
being in prison and trying to find
those changes and those answers.
I hope he gets out of prison
and can live a life
that everybody deserves.
I would like the best
to happen to him that could,
but he also has to do some of it too.
[music fades out]
[somber piano music playing]
[Highley] Everything I have done
in the last 13 years
has been to better myself,
but I am a work in progress.
[sniffs, exhales]
I shouldn't have put my victim
in the position of being a victim.
But I am always thinking about
his mother and his children,
and it definitely means a lot to me
to hear that she has forgiven me.
That That definitely takes a
a strong woman to say that.
[music fades out]
Coming to terms with what I did
Thanksgiving night of 1999
has taken me a really long time.
But that's not who I am anymore.
Transitioning has helped me
maintain my thoughts of rehabilitation
because it gives me
something to strive for.
I'm steps away from being the person
that I've always wanted to be.
I am a woman
trapped inside of a man's body.
I am not this Michael Highley.
My name is Ezdeth.
[tense somber music playing]
[Leslie] Highley has been
up for parole multiple times,
but I feel that when you take
somebody's life,
that you should spend
the remainder of your life incarcerated.
When they told us
what he wanted to change his name to,
I had the lady on the phone
spell it for me,
and it was E-Z-D-E-T-H.
And I said, "Easy death?"
I was shocked.
That's kind of a slap in the face
to a victim's family
where that's what it looks like
that's what his name is.
[music fades out]
I'm sorry that she sees it that way,
and I really do hope
that she will be open-minded enough
to give me the opportunity to prove
that it is not intended
as a slap in the face
to any of her family.
When I came up with the name,
it was a made-up character
in a role-playing game
that had
qualities that I appreciated.
She would always try to deal
with situations in a communicative way.
And she always tried to find balance.
It's not supposed to mean anything
to anybody else but me.
[melancholic music playing]
[Laura] I think what comes across
in everything that I've read
and seen about Ezdeth
is that she's got a number
of antisocial personality traits.
And one of the characteristics
that's pretty consistent
with antisocial personality
is kind of a self-centeredness
or self-absorption.
I think it's striking
how little she's spoken
of the victims and the victim family.
And it's not totally clear
from what I've seen and heard
that she recognizes that and understands
that she was a major factor
in the daughters' difficult childhood.
[sniffs]
[sighs]
[sighs]
[sniffs]
How How How do you say I'm sorry
for for for taking a
taking away someone's loved one?
How How do you say you're sorry?
[sniffs]
Maybe that's something I need to do is
learn the fancy words
that people will accept.
I regret the fact that they had
to grow up without their dad.
But to me, actions do speak
louder than words.
Twenty-five years ago,
I was a drunken, addicted jackass.
Everything was about me.
That's not who I am anymore.
It's your actions that have to prove
that you've learned,
that you're trying to change.
You know, I would like
for my victim's family
to find peace in
in this atrocity that I have caused.
[sniffs]
I want the few remaining family members
that I have to find peace
out of all this bullshit.
[sniffs]
And nobody else
is gonna find it until I do.
And I am doing my best.
That's what I want my actions to show.
[sniffs]
[sighs, sniffs]
[somber violin music playing]
[music fades out]
[somber voice] Thanksgiving night of 1999,
I did something really ignorant
to someone that did not deserve it.
I let my anger turn to rage.
But that's not who I am anymore.
[music intensifies]
[somber voice] I've had to deal with
reliving that night for almost 24 years.
I really don't know
what it was that triggered me,
but I believe the state should release me.
I'm nowhere near as violent as I was.
[eerie music playing]
[man 1]
I think we could all be dangerous people.
[man 2] People say you're a monster.
[man 3]
I'm not sitting here saying I'm innocent.
[man 4]
I just murdered some guy in cold blood.
[music fades out]
[gentle piano music playing]
[woman] Growing up, I always wondered
what my life would be like
if my dad was here.
And how different things would be.
Hey, get that camera out of my face.
Hey! Hey!
[chuckling over video]
[chuckles]
[indistinct chattering over video]
[woman] He would be the person
that I could call no matter what,
and he would be there.
I feel like if my dad was here,
we'd be best friends.
There is no excuse
for what Michael Highley did.
Whether it was drugs,
or just mental illness,
or a combination of the two,
I don't think there's any excuse
for killing my father.
[music fades out]
[uneasy instrumental music playing]
[Highley] Since I've been locked up
for almost the last quarter of a century,
I've had to do a lot of self-reflecting.
And I still do not understand
why I reacted that way.
[man] Let's get this one on you.
[music continues]
[Highley] It still brings up
some messed-up feelings
when I think about that day.
It wasn't something I intended.
My life should have been so much better.
[music fades out]
[gentle mandolin playing]
[Highley] Growing up
in the south suburb of Chicago,
I lived with my mother,
my grandmother, my grandfather,
and a couple of siblings that I had.
[music fades out]
The only thing I knew about my father
was he was in the Marine Corps,
and the only real memory I have
was watching him in his vehicle
pull out of the yard and drive away.
[melancholic music playing]
[Highley] I started drinking
around the age of seven or eight.
One of the friends that I had growing up
was part of a local gang.
Him and his friends were always showing up
with 12-packs of beer, bottles of whiskey.
And
by the time I reached my ninth birthday,
I would say I was a full-blown alcoholic.
Being intoxicated,
it helped hide some of the confusion
and anger that I had.
And it helped me hide some
intimate details about myself
that I didn't want to face.
[rhythmic pensive music playing]
[Highley] It was one of those things
of trying to fit in
and make sure that I had, you know,
people I could call friends.
I was, uh, definitely exposed
to a lot of violence.
I was kind of a hothead,
and I had a lot of anger.
Got angry at someone,
you tried to beat him up.
You were throwing punches,
you were throwing kicks,
you were headbutting people.
That was how you proved
you were one of the boys.
[music fades out]
[sweeping somber music playing]
[music fades out]
[Highley] After moving to Montana,
I was supposed
to be working for my stepdad,
but he wasn't paying me.
So I decided to try and get even
by stealing some rifles.
I knew some people that that were willing
to purchase them for for cash and drugs.
But some of the individuals
that I did business with
turned in some of the hunting rifles
to the police.
So I was, uh, arrested,
and that was the start of my
my prison life.
[dark, foreboding music playing]
Prison wasn't the learning experience
that I think they wanted it to be,
and, uh, even being incarcerated,
I I was still intoxicated.
[music becomes sinisterly rhythmic]
[Highley] Coming out of prison,
I had buried the issues
with my feelings deep enough
to where I wasn't dealing with them,
and my main concern was
where my next 12-pack is gonna come from.
Where my next quarter gram
is gonna come from.
I had that attitude,
"Nobody is going to tell me I can't."
So I kept drinking, kept getting high.
Unfortunately, that wasn't
a really good attitude to have.
It was just making me more explosive.
[dramatic final beat]
[music fades out]
[somber acoustic guitar music playing]
[Highley] The night before
Thanksgiving of 1999,
I rode my pedal bike to my local bar.
I brought the bike inside
and left it in the corner.
An old acquaintance of mine,
Mr. Harris, told me he would be willing
to keep an eye on it for me.
So I told him I was going to be
over at the pool table,
and that was pretty much the start
of a bad night.
[uncomfortable chuckle]
One of the bartenders approached me,
and he accused me of being
one of several people
that he suspected went back
behind the bar a night or two prior
and took some money out of what they call
the "shake a day" container.
[balls clattering]
- My anger meter was raising quickly.
- [pinball machine clanging]
If you're going to accuse me of something,
make sure I did it.
[music becomes suspenseful]
I wasn't out-of-control angry,
but I was just about there.
I'm not exactly sure
how much time went by,
but the bartender
caught my attention and said,
"I'm sorry, the individual
that did take the money confessed to it."
But I just kept
thinking about being accused
of doing something I didn't do.
I continued to drink.
I dwelled on it.
[balls clatter]
And when I glanced up,
I noticed the bike was gone.
My anger level instantly started to boil.
[music continues]
I asked Mr. Harris, "Where's the bike?"
And I slapped his shoulder.
He turned and looked at me and told me,
"Even if I knew where it was,
I wouldn't tell you."
And
that that was it.
I went from being angry
to being in a full-blown rage.
I remember the bartender yelling,
"Take it outside."
I remember
Mr. Harris coming out of the bar,
walking across the street.
As soon as he got close enough to me,
I stabbed him three times.
[music crescendos, steadies]
[music fades out]
[sighs]
I still do not understand
what it was that triggered me.
I cannot even begin to speculate
what was going through my mind.
[dramatic sting]
[gently uneasy piano music playing]
[woman] Throughout his life,
Michael had a habit.
He gets angry, he does something,
and he doesn't think about it
until after he does it.
I couldn't understand it.
I'm Carol,
and I'm Michael Highley's mother.
[music fades out]
[melancholic music playing]
[Carol] When Michael was younger,
he was drinking all the time.
And he was doing drugs,
but I didn't realize he was doing that
because he didn't do it here.
I'd come home, he'd be
he'd be home for dinner,
and he'd ask to go play with his friends.
But what he was doing
was actually going to a drug dealer.
When he got in trouble,
Michael always had this "fight or flee."
This one incident,
the dope dealer was chasing him home.
Probably he was getting chased
'cause he owed the drug dealer some money.
And he went and took
his sister's .22 rifle.
He just stuck the rifle out the window,
and he shot him.
[music continues]
[music fades out]
[Carol] I thought if I took him away
from this environment,
that things would smooth out.
But it seemed like
no matter what we say or what we did,
somehow or another
it didn't get blocked into his head.
I think it just went, psst,
one ear and out the other.
But as far as the anger issue,
I took him to the doctors
trying to find why he blows up like that.
Everybody tried to pinpoint it,
but nobody knew what was going on.
And that's why I always told Michael,
"Think before you do something.
Just turn around and walk away."
But he don't listen,
and that's why this last incident
with the knife happened.
[somber piano music playing]
[Carol] When I found out the person
that Michael knifed had died,
I was thinking [sighs]
"This is something
I can't get him out of."
I don't know why he was that angry.
I don't think it ever stuck in his brain
to think about something
or the consequences of doing it
before he did it.
[train bell ringing faintly]
[music fades out]
[car horn honks]
[melancholic music playing]
[man] When we get these cases,
they're always tragic.
There should've been different ways
to handle a dispute than this.
But now this happened,
and someone is dead.
My name is John W. Larson.
I'm a district judge in Montana,
and I presided over the case
of Michael Highley.
[music continues]
[music fades out]
[John] Prison is generally a last resort.
We have to give them
a chance to change their life.
You're not thrown back in jail
for every violation.
But Highley was given a lot of chances,
and chances can't be unending.
[foreboding music playing]
[John] Mr. Highley did have
sufficient opportunities to change,
but he had these violent tendencies.
And in the end,
someone was stabbed to death.
And when there's such violence,
we have to make sure
that everybody else is protected.
[music continues]
[John] The sentence in Highley's case
is one that is appropriate.
It had enough punishment,
but it wasn't extreme.
It had a component,
uh, for rehabilitation.
[uneasy piano music playing]
[John] There was a requirement
that before he'd be considered for parole,
he complete rehabilitative programs
both in chemical dependency
and mental health.
So Highley needs
to take advantage of his sentence
and utilize these chances to change.
[music fades out]
[gentle mandolin music playing]
[Highley] The first few years in prison
were really tough for me.
I shut down mentally.
I didn't want to think
about what got me here.
And that was pretty much
what I did for my first few years.
But I had gotten to a point
where I was trying
to make changes in my life.
And listening to gay individuals
try to explain how things
are so much different in the world now,
and how things are so much more accepted
It was 2016 that I came out
as being transgender.
And mentally, I have never looked back.
And it's helped me move forward
from where I was back in 1999.
[somber orchestral music playing]
[Highley] I should have faced it
a long time ago.
But an individual had to die,
and I had to be sent to prison
for pretty close to the rest of my life
for me to realize
that facing the world the way I did,
it it wasn't a life I should have lived.
And it had me reviewing
everything that I have
ever done in my life.
It helped me
realize that I shouldn't have been ashamed
of who I was.
[sniffs]
[music fades out]
[melancholic music playing]
[Highley] I started wearing
women's clothes at a really young age.
It was right around the time
that my father had left.
I did a lot to try and suppress it
because
the way society looked at people
that were transgender back in them days
wasn't remotely socially acceptable.
And I had been caught a few times
dressed up in women's underwear
when I was in junior high school.
They caught me in the
in the boys' locker room
wearing, uh, a teddy
and my gym shorts around my ankles and
I was laughed at and made fun of and
Yeah, it was, uh it was traumatizing.
[somber music playing]
[Highley] I would have to say
that trying to fit into a man's world
while inside, I felt different.
I didn't process it very well.
The way I dealt with it
was by drinking all the time,
trying to medicate myself
to where I didn't think about it anymore.
And being intoxicated to help deal with
feeling so down on myself.
So I kept drinking, kept getting high,
and there was a lot of violence.
[music fades out]
But since I came out as being transgender,
I've been the happiest I've ever been.
[resolute instrumental music playing]
[Highley] I've been trying for parole
because my thirst
for rehabilitation has never been
so far to the forefront
like it has been since I made the decision
just to accept that this is who I am.
My current name is Ezdeth Antinua Highley.
You can like me or or not.
I've got to live with me, not you.
[music fades out]
[foreboding melancholic music playing]
[birds chirping]
[woman] We received notifications
that Michael Highley
wanted to change his name.
And they told us what he wanted
to change his name to.
I had the lady on the phone
spell it for me,
and it was E-Z-D-E-T-H.
And I said, "Easy death?"
I was shocked.
That's kind of a slap in the face
to a victim's family
where that's what it looks like
that's what his name is.
Eventually, when they told us
Highley wants to transition
as much as you can in prison,
I I don't know.
It's a lot to deal with
and to try and understand.
And I'm
I'm sure it is for him internally,
for what he's feeling.
[music fades out]
[birds chirping]
[gentle somber piano music playing]
[plants rustling]
[Leslie] Paul was hilarious growing up.
A little prankster.
We always had to watch what he was doing
so we didn't get in trouble
and join in in the shenanigans.
He was just fun to have around.
A good brother.
In the late '90s,
Paul was living in Missoula.
And he met
his girlfriend Tracy in about '97.
And then they went on
to have twin baby girls.
And they were born in 1999.
He was really excited about being a dad.
I think it's unfortunate
that he had to pass away
and didn't even get that chance.
[birds chirping]
[music fades out]
I'm not really sure why Highley
thought that he should stab my brother.
But they ended up getting into, uh,
an argument about the bike.
Paul told his friend,
"Put that in the back of your truck,
and it'll be funny
to see him say, 'Where's my bike?'"
You know, it was just
a simple joke that went wrong.
I think that's pretty severe anger issues
that you have if you want to stab somebody
um, over a bicycle
that wasn't even stolen.
[troubling violin music playing]
[Leslie] Highley has been up for parole
multiple times.
But I feel that
when you take somebody's life,
that you should spend
the remainder of your life incarcerated.
At the last parole hearing via video,
Highley said that he felt
like he was a woman,
and maybe that that's where some of his
anger or rage came from.
It's hard to say what you feel about that.
I mean, I feel for people that feel
feel that way anyways in their life.
But he killed somebody violently,
and it doesn't make it go away
'cause your name changes.
[music fades out]
[gently eerie music playing]
[woman] There's a lot more going on
contributing to Ezdeth's behavior
than just her gender identity.
I think it provides context
for some of the things
that she was going through,
and some of the things
that she was struggling with.
But the vast majority of people
with gender identity issues
do not commit murder.
My name is Laura Kirsch.
I'm a clinical
forensic psychologist in Montana.
And I primarily evaluate
criminal defendants
for the Montana judicial system.
[music continues]
Human behavior
is very hard to parse apart.
Why anyone does anything
is an interaction of so many variables
that are internal to a person
and then external as part of a situation.
I think a large driver
of her behavior at that time
seems like anger, substance use,
and antisocial personality traits.
Is some of that
due to her gender identity? Probably.
But being able to draw a straight line
from her gender identity to the murder,
I think, would be highly impossible to do.
[somber piano music playing]
Based on the information that I've read,
it sounds like she had a pretty antisocial
and delinquent childhood.
And I think when you have someone
who perhaps doesn't start out
with a whole lot of
great emotion regulation capacity,
and they're raised in an environment
where they don't get the extra assistance
that they need with it,
that could certainly lead
to using violence
as a means to solve problems
or as a means to express herself.
But I don't think they provide an excuse
or a justification for her behavior.
[music fades out]
[tense music playing]
[music becomes rhythmic]
[device clicks on]
[Highley]
Since I came out as being transgender,
I've been the happiest I've ever been.
It gave me a body high
like nothing I have ever done before.
The thing that made me decide
to start facing my issue
was remembering the contentment
and freedom it caused me to feel
every time I'd be in the basement
wearing a dress and high heels.
And I had decided I just don't care
what people think anymore.
But an individual had to die,
and I had to be sent to prison
for pretty close
to the rest of my life for me to realize
that facing the world the way I did,
it it wasn't a life I should have lived.
My life should have been so much better.
[device clicks off]
[music fades out]
[Laura] One of the characteristics
that's pretty consistent
with antisocial personality
is kind of a self-centeredness
or self-absorption.
And I thought it was striking
in all of the material
that she was very self-focused.
So it's possible
that a lot of her behavior was driven
by antisocial personality traits.
And I think it's striking
how much she's focused on herself
and how little she's spoken
of the victims and the victim family.
[somber music playing]
I think if Ezdeth
would like a better chance
of getting paroled in the future,
she needs to show
genuine remorse for what she did.
So part of her journey that she's on
should incorporate really considering
the impact of her behavior
on her victim's family,
on his young daughters,
who have faced significant obstacles
growing up without a father.
And it's not totally clear
from what I've seen and heard
that she recognizes that and understands
that she was a major factor
in their difficult childhood.
[music fades out]
[birds chirping]
[grim melancholic music playing]
[dog barks]
I have some pictures
of my brother Paul Harris.
There's some in here that my niece Madison
has never seen before.
At the time of Paul's death,
we didn't know
what was gonna happen with the girls.
I was a single mom to a five-year-old,
and I wasn't sure, you know,
could I take two babies,
and all of a sudden have three kids,
and be a single mom.
You know, now I think
I should have just made it work.
[music continues]
[music fades out]
[Leslie] I think this is the first picture
that I saw of you girls.
Look at how tiny you are.
I don't even know who's who. Can you tell?
Yeah, you can tell that's Brianna
because of her dark hair.
After my dad passed away,
my mom was in and out of the picture,
and my twin sister and I were in and out
of group homes for years.
Because of what Michael Highley did,
I was surrounded by drug use, abuse,
neglect, all those things growing up.
I just remember thinking all the time,
like, I would give anything
to just have, like, a regular family.
It does anger me
that we didn't get that chance
because of somebody else's choice.
I definitely feel like if he was here,
things would be different.
[sniffs]
[voice breaks] But I'm just thankful for,
you know, the family that we do have,
and, um, that they stepped in to help
'cause
[sniffs]
you know, through everything
that we went through as children
I think we're pretty okay. [laughs]
[melancholic music playing]
[Maddie] It doesn't matter to me
if Michael Highley has changed or not.
Whether he was suffering
with a mental illness or a drug problem.
I don't think there's any excuse
for killing my father.
[music continues]
[Maddie] They didn't give me
very long to talk.
It was just, "Why do you think
he shouldn't be released early?"
And I just said,
"Because he took my dad
away from our family."
I believe that he should serve
the sentence that he was given for murder.
Any and all future parole hearings,
I will testify that Michael Highley
should not be released early.
[birds chirping]
[music fades out]
[machinery clanging]
[somber discordant violin music playing]
[woman] It feels terrible.
Somebody calls and tells you
your son is dead.
You know, every mother's fear
is losing their children.
But I have forgiven Highley.
You can't keep holding on
to things like that
because they hurt you
more than anybody else.
I'm Cheryl, and I'm Paul Harris's mother.
[music fades out]
[Cheryl] I always run the scenario
through my mind about,
"Well, what if Paul
wouldn't have moved his bike?"
Would he still be here?
If it wasn't for that one little thing.
I mean, there's all these parameters
that we can bring in and try to make sense
of something that happened.
But trust me when I tell you,
I've gone through 10,000 of those,
and they don't help.
Nothing that I could say or do
would bring my son back.
Nothing.
[gentle, uplifting music playing]
[Cheryl] So I decided
that I was gonna forgive him,
and I wanted to at least give him a chance
that he could change.
[Cheryl] I asked about having
Michael's sentence reduced.
I didn't want to punish him,
just lock him in a corner
and leave him there forever.
I asked
if he was gonna be getting any training.
I was trying to find the
a good side to him being in prison
and taking different classes, and
one that would help him.
[somber music playing]
[Cheryl] I am glad
that Michael Highley is changing.
I think he is learning the hard way.
But he's coming to terms
with being transgender,
and I think it's hard for him
being in prison and trying to find
those changes and those answers.
I hope he gets out of prison
and can live a life
that everybody deserves.
I would like the best
to happen to him that could,
but he also has to do some of it too.
[music fades out]
[somber piano music playing]
[Highley] Everything I have done
in the last 13 years
has been to better myself,
but I am a work in progress.
[sniffs, exhales]
I shouldn't have put my victim
in the position of being a victim.
But I am always thinking about
his mother and his children,
and it definitely means a lot to me
to hear that she has forgiven me.
That That definitely takes a
a strong woman to say that.
[music fades out]
Coming to terms with what I did
Thanksgiving night of 1999
has taken me a really long time.
But that's not who I am anymore.
Transitioning has helped me
maintain my thoughts of rehabilitation
because it gives me
something to strive for.
I'm steps away from being the person
that I've always wanted to be.
I am a woman
trapped inside of a man's body.
I am not this Michael Highley.
My name is Ezdeth.
[tense somber music playing]
[Leslie] Highley has been
up for parole multiple times,
but I feel that when you take
somebody's life,
that you should spend
the remainder of your life incarcerated.
When they told us
what he wanted to change his name to,
I had the lady on the phone
spell it for me,
and it was E-Z-D-E-T-H.
And I said, "Easy death?"
I was shocked.
That's kind of a slap in the face
to a victim's family
where that's what it looks like
that's what his name is.
[music fades out]
I'm sorry that she sees it that way,
and I really do hope
that she will be open-minded enough
to give me the opportunity to prove
that it is not intended
as a slap in the face
to any of her family.
When I came up with the name,
it was a made-up character
in a role-playing game
that had
qualities that I appreciated.
She would always try to deal
with situations in a communicative way.
And she always tried to find balance.
It's not supposed to mean anything
to anybody else but me.
[melancholic music playing]
[Laura] I think what comes across
in everything that I've read
and seen about Ezdeth
is that she's got a number
of antisocial personality traits.
And one of the characteristics
that's pretty consistent
with antisocial personality
is kind of a self-centeredness
or self-absorption.
I think it's striking
how little she's spoken
of the victims and the victim family.
And it's not totally clear
from what I've seen and heard
that she recognizes that and understands
that she was a major factor
in the daughters' difficult childhood.
[sniffs]
[sighs]
[sighs]
[sniffs]
How How How do you say I'm sorry
for for for taking a
taking away someone's loved one?
How How do you say you're sorry?
[sniffs]
Maybe that's something I need to do is
learn the fancy words
that people will accept.
I regret the fact that they had
to grow up without their dad.
But to me, actions do speak
louder than words.
Twenty-five years ago,
I was a drunken, addicted jackass.
Everything was about me.
That's not who I am anymore.
It's your actions that have to prove
that you've learned,
that you're trying to change.
You know, I would like
for my victim's family
to find peace in
in this atrocity that I have caused.
[sniffs]
I want the few remaining family members
that I have to find peace
out of all this bullshit.
[sniffs]
And nobody else
is gonna find it until I do.
And I am doing my best.
That's what I want my actions to show.
[sniffs]
[sighs, sniffs]
[somber violin music playing]
[music fades out]