Queer Eye (2018) s05e10 Episode Script

1 It's gorgeous around here.
Is there cable cars? - Yeah, cable car bus system.
- I love that.
This is West Philadelphia, which is a working class, historically black neighborhood.
I mean, there's just so much life and history over here.
- Yeah.
- You just gotta love it.
People see older black neighborhoods and they think, like, all of a sudden, it's dangerous.
And there's so much love in this community.
We're always intimidated by what we don't know.
Better preach, Antoni.
Let me tell you something, the art around here The murals are incredible.
The murials are so beautiful.
- The "murals"? - The "murals.
" - You could say "mural.
" - Murals.
- Murals.
- M-murals.
Murals.
Ladies, would you like to know why I put you in workout clothes today? - Yes! I love athleisure.
- Yeah! It's because our hero this week is a personal trainer and a gym owner! Are we gonna work on my knockout punch today? - Mm-hmm.
- Yeah.
His name is Nate McIntyre.
He's 44 years old.
I wonder if he's related to Reba.
I doubt it, because he's black and lives in West Philadelphia.
Then no.
Well, listen, he is 6'4".
- Ooh! - I know.
Big, tall drink of water, - Johnny would say.
- Yes.
- Stay out of his nook, Johnny.
- Why, bitch? I'll let him tell me that.
He moved to Philadelphia to attend Villanova University on a football scholarship and has never left since.
He opened Bodyrock Gym 12 years ago.
It's a '90s-inspired hip-hop boot camp.
Love that! You can call it hood mentality, you can call it old school hip-hop.
You can call it punk DIY.
Let's go.
Come on, ladies, let's go.
It started off just me and a couple of people out in the middle of a park.
And I've just kind of been bootstrapping my way to where I am now.
Fifteen left, 15 right! Nate was nominated by his ex-girlfriend Kristin and his clients Lauren and Aileen.
I mean, I'm a hard person to train, I think, because I hate working out.
But he made it so fun for me.
He's strict, but he also welcomes you with open arms.
- What's up? - Hey.
All right, step on up to your tire.
I just really fell in lovewith how much care he gives to the people he trains.
Catch you on this one right here.
He has a successful studio in that he has people that come here that really love him and are loyal.
I cheated.
But Nate doesn't have his act together.
Yeah.
I mean, he just hasn't updated it since he moved in.
Like, things are broken or falling apart.
The last time it was cleaned was probably, like, three years ago to, like, throw his birthday party in that space, and I had to wear, like, a dust mask and, like, scrub, like, grime off of the walls.
Oh! Due to necessity, I live in my gym.
He doesn't have any self-care routine whatsoever.
I have a black mother, and she would not be very happy with the fact that I walk around ashy.
Do I want to say that? No, I shouldn't say that.
Nate wears the same worn-out, dirty gym outfit daily.
Phenomenal.
That's what I was hoping you'd say.
Tuck the front of his shirt in.
He'll be fine.
I just think he doesn't feel good enough about himself to keep up with his appearance.
Nate grew dreadlocks in the mid 1990s, and he covers them up with a head wrap every day.
- Oh.
- He won't take the do-rag off.
He, like, sleeps with it, like, when we were still sleeping together.
If it fell off in the middle of the night, he would like pull it back on.
Like, how can we be in a relationship with one another if I can't even see your full self? When it comes to relationships, instead of trying to work on it, he just calls it quits.
- Hmm.
- Heard that before.
You know, I'm no gym expert, but aren't you gonna push yourself through the uncomfortable moments? Yes.
He broke up with Kristin one year ago to, quote-unquote "work on himself.
" The work that he wanted to do is financial.
I think he had a certain vision of where his dad was at, like, when he married his mom, and I think there is a certain way that he compared himself to his dad, and I think the expectations that he was putting on himself got in the way of him loving himself and loving me.
My main focus is getting things going inside of my gym.
You know, it's a little frightening.
Things are changing at such a rapid pace.
All of a sudden you look up and you wonder how you got priced out of your own neighborhood.
Nate's worried that the gym can't compete with the big businesses that are popping up.
It's a super-valid concern.
I want him to be able to be himself and have that reflect in the gym.
The only thing getting in the way of him living the life he wants to be living is himself.
Our mission this week is to give this trainer a brand-new program.
- Yes! - Yes! - One, two, three, count it out.
- One! - One, two, three.
What number? - Two! - Did we just pass it? - I don't know.
- No, that's not it.
- Is this it? - Let's go, let's go, let's go, come on! - Ooh! Ooh! Ooh! That's not it.
It's kind of hard to find this place.
There it is.
I think it's right here.
- There you go.
- There it is! There it is! Found it! - Come on, kids.
Come on.
- Let's go.
One, two, three.
Oh, my, oh, my! Hello, how are you? We're just gonna join you.
What are we doing? Okay, girls, let's show 'em what we got! - One, two, three! - One! - One, two, three! - Two! One, two, three! Hey! You're all sweaty.
- No, no, let's bring it in.
- I can't! I can't! I can't! Hi, nice to meet you.
- Hi, Aileen and Lauren, how are you? - Hi! Nate is amazing.
We've been dedicated to him for 15 and ten years.
Okay, commitment.
He will kick your behind.
That's a great trainer! And he makes you feel good from the inside.
Aww! - Don't have him hug you.
- Aww.
Class, you all are dismissed.
Get some water.
Good class.
Give it up.
Whoo! - Thank you! - Bye.
Take good care of him.
- Is this really happening right now? - It is! I want you to tell us about your gym and make us excited for it.
Let's talk about what a client experiences when they come in here.
You come in, I usually put you through I can put you through what we do.
- No, no, no.
- We're okay.
- We ain't got time for that.
- We're okay.
Do you use these machines in classes or personal training? Honestly, I don't ever use those machines.
I put them in here just so people could know that it was a gym.
- Put a sign that says "gym.
" - We're gonna keep going.
- We want to see the space.
- Show us things.
- Show us! - What is going on? What? - Wow! - What? - What the - Oh, my God! All right, so my living space, I'd say, is kind of like my Achilles heel.
Like, it bleeds into the gym, and then, like, I can't bring people back here.
- Achilles heel is, like, a hidden issue.
- Uh-huh.
Honey, this is, like, our glaring That's what this is for.
You didn't notice.
All right, so, this is Nate.
Da [BLEEPS.]
Right now Nate "lives" in the gym, but there's really nowhere to live.
The bedroom's full of stuff.
Not comfortable.
Downstairs in his "living" area, it's full of crap.
It's gross.
Nate, do you do black sheets so you don't have to wash 'em? Y'all better be lucky I'm not Bobby Berk, 'cause I'd come here and Marie Kondo the hell out of this place.
I can't handle it.
I'm gonna have to pass out.
Does this bring you joy? I know it doesn't.
Bye.
Does this bring you joy? I know it doesn't.
Good day.
Trust and believe.
Wu-Tang? This was the joint, are you kidding me? This, however, was never my joint.
You even do "'90s porn"? '90s porn! Uh, okay, our company bathroom.
Isn't it kind of crazy, though, that his customers have to change in here? The work starts now, honey.
It's just a jimble-jamble of all this stuff all over the bathroom, and he's got his Waterpik right all up in there with everyone's sharticles flying all up in the air.
And no.
No! No! No, you bring your knees in.
There's, like, hairs that are stuck to the wall.
This is outrageous.
This is like one simple brush against the panel.
Lift your bum.
You suck at this! What the [BLEEPS.]
? Oh! Ugh! Oh, my God! I've never seen this before.
There is full-on mold.
On the rice.
No, why would you sniff that? It smells like old spinach.
This is, like, your bathroom, and this is our business bathroom, so double situation, which I love.
I think what is important, though, is, like, boundaries.
There's no boundaries between church and state - Yeah.
- between myself and my clients.
Funny you should talk about church and state, because we're actually having an erosion of that separation in this country anyway.
You're getting political.
Tell me about - Oh, no.
- What is going on underneath our gorgeous head wrap? I know that we are living for head wraps.
I started getting blotches of hair that were falling out.
Can I see? - And do you want to see? - Yeah, I do.
My goodness.
I can't believe I'm taking it off.
- All right, so - Okay, let me see the back.
Okay.
I'm curious about, like, what it is about the locks that we're insisting about carrying with us? Well, my dreadlocks were a big part of just, kind of, how I identified myself when I was younger.
I don't feel happy about the situation that's going on over here.
We don't need to make any decisions.
I'm already really proud of you for taking your head wrap off and showing me your beautiful hair.
I prefer to come, like, as real - and as authentic as possible.
- I love that.
Oh, my God.
It's like when Han Solo gets stuck in that, like, cast resin thing.
That is those jars in Nate's freezer.
Oh, yeah, that can go, too.
Nobody needs that.
Oh, yeah, that color's a crime.
Wait, what is this gorgeous moment? This is Macy Gray's album.
And it's for him.
Maybe he's a producer.
Nate, you've got money here you've never cashed.
Your fridge is kind of empty, and your freezer is full.
- There's some expired items in there.
- No.
When's the last time that you prepared a whole meal in your own kitchen? I do eat inside of here, but it's the whole convenience thing.
I have to say the cleanest thing in this whole room - Is what? - is that wall plaque with Macy Gray's album.
And why is your name on it? My sister is Macy Gray.
Um There's a point where I used to travel on the road with her - until I decided I couldn't do it anymore.
- Do you sing also? - I do sing, yes.
- You do? - Wait, what? This is a plot twist.
- Yeah.
The personality you see now changes completely.
Yeah, KillerWhale's fun.
It's KillerWhale? - Yeah.
That's what we go by on stage.
- Oh.
- Okay.
- I like that.
Okay, come with me, let's take a look - at your closet, dear.
- Tan, please be gentle.
You actually have a closet, but you've got all of this.
- It's a lot of stuff in there.
- It's a lot, mate.
What are you wearing on a date? What would I do on a date? Well, tell me what you'd do on a date and then I wanna know what you'd wear.
I like a restaurant, like, but not, like, too fancy of a restaurant.
I love salsa.
You dance salsa? I dance falsa.
I dance fake salsa.
Can you show me? You just kind of, you know, work it.
- Oh! Oh! - Put your hand up, then turn around.
Oh, nice.
All right.
You twirl, too! All right.
I like that.
He's a sexy man.
I feel like I could make a T-shirt look fly.
- Trying to look more crisp.
- Yeah.
It's not necessarily where I feel the most comfortable.
But now I'm 44 years old, so I don't want to get into this stuff, - but I'm not tied to anything here.
- Yeah.
Do you feel like you have to look a certain way because you've hit a certain age? I feel like there's pressure to look, - act, behave a certain way.
- Yeah.
I just want to look fly.
Well, maybe there's a way of balancing fly and a more appropriately dressed Nate.
That doesn't mean you're getting rid of your essence.
That's what we're gonna do.
We're gonna focus on you and get to the place that makes you feel more confident, because I know that this is not your story.
How did you envision this place being once you got it? This was, like, my opportunity to create the Philadelphia that I wanted to see.
You know, people of all races, colors, creeds inside of space, like, for them to feel comfortable inside of the world of fitness.
I expected it to, you know, provide for me and be able to provide for others.
The first of many gyms.
And, you know, I look up, and all of a sudden I'm 44 years old.
And then now I'm like, "Wait a minute.
If I'm gonna go and accomplish this stuff, you know, it should have happened ten years ago.
" And not having a person to really bounce that kind of stuff off of, it can be difficult.
Has there ever been anyone that you felt like you could talk to about what was going on in your mind? My last girlfriend Kristin, she's probably, you know, the person who's dug the deepest.
This sounds to me like life overwhelmed you.
Yeah.
It's definitely frustrating.
I know we came in here like a force, but we are here to support you 100% in you feeling comfortable, in you getting what you need.
- I'm ready to do it.
- Yeah? Yeah.
No, you gotta have a little bit more excitement than that.
Are you ready? You're a trainer.
Are you ready to get this week started? - Let's go, let's do this! - There we go! Shirts off! One, two, three, Bodyrock.
Three, two, one.
Bodyrock! - We're lunging out.
- Come on, we can lunge out.
Add a pulse at the bottom.
- We got it.
Torso.
- Pulse it out.
- Go! - Tight.
I want Nate to keep the cool neighborhood vibe that he has, but as his neighborhood evolves, his business needs to be able to grow to stay there.
Hair moving south or moving away, it's a tough subject, but I want to show him there can be a different way for him to be confident about the way that he looks.
Let's embrace the beauty of what we get to be now.
Nate has so many clothes in his closet, but none of them represent the person he wants to be.
If you're encouraging people to live their best lives, I want to feel that from you also.
Nate knows exactly what he needs to be doing.
He knows that he needs to be eating better.
He wants this for himself, but he's not doing it.
Why isn't he doing it? I want to find out.
He's not satisfied with where he is in his life or the success of the gym.
I want to show him, "Your best days aren't behind you.
They're still in front of you.
" So, this is West Philly.
- Yeah, we're on Baltimore Avenue.
- Okay.
It runs all the way from the suburbs into areas that are, you know, changing a lot.
There's, like, gentrification going on.
That's the word for the day.
What's your perception of that? Is it a positive thing, a negative thing? I mean, I like neighborhoods that have people who are invested in maintaining them.
It makes you fall in love with being part of something that's bigger than just you.
Have you been to Booker's? I have been to Booker's.
Yeah, this is good food.
- Okay.
After you.
- Great.
- Hello.
- Hi, Saba.
- Hi, guys, how are you? - Good.
- This is Nate.
- Hi, Nate.
Nice to meet you.
Welcome.
There are local businesses that are thriving by staying true to themselves, but also supporting their respective communities.
- Saba, can we use your kitchen, please? - Yes, please.
- Okay, awesome.
Thank you so much.
- Thank you.
- You like Mediterranean food? - I do.
- I like how clean it is.
- Yes! But I also like to keep it simple, because we don't have time, we're busy.
We're running businesses, right? We're gonna do a nice little reveal.
This is a red snapper, and we're gonna whole roast it, and I'm gonna show you, like, how simple it is to do.
I need easy.
Nate's philosophy in the gym is back to basics.
I'm gonna apply that to food.
We're gonna start with a red onion and just slice through it.
There you go.
When's the last time you cooked? I have no idea.
So now we have our onions.
We're just gonna grab a handful.
Lift the fishy by the tail and put it underneath.
- All the flavors from the fish and fat - Oh, right.
All those juices are gonna come pouring down.
And then a bit of Greek olive oil.
That's gonna get them really nice and crispy.
- It's gonna help them brown afterwards.
- This is right up my alley.
- So now the cavity's been cleaned out.
- Okay.
So all we have is the inside.
- See, this is so simple.
- Right? Awesome.
We're gonna make three incisions, to the bone.
I wouldn't cut through it.
What's nice here is that we get to flavor the inside of it.
- I see.
- And it's also gonna look super cute when it comes out of the oven.
- This'll knock some socks off right here.
- Right? And then a little bit of salt and pepper on top because seasoning is everything.
Into the oven.
These puppies are gonna roast side by side, and we'll check on them in about 30, 35 minutes.
- You like cooking! - I do like cooking.
Eating this way is the way I would prefer to eat, but I don't get to do that in the situation that I'm in right now, the way I live.
- I see a lot of willingness.
- Yeah.
You have all of these infomercial relics of all these awesome cooking tools in your kitchen.
But in your freezer, you have, like, 20 pork chops that were all purchased at the same time, and then they all got frozen.
What happens? It's like having pistons moving at the same time.
Like, if you have one that's working and the other three aren't working, eventually the one that's working is gonna stop working.
When one thing is off, it makes it easier for other things to be off.
- For sure.
- My food's off, my diet's off.
My energy level is affected.
Sentiment turns to sediment.
Nate's biggest struggle is follow-through.
He has all of these fantastic ideas, but he doesn't know how to continue with them once they get started.
He needs to learn how to keep it simple.
I fear letting myself down, giving up on some of my dreams, - my overall big mission.
- Right.
You know, if I'm not taking care of myself, then everything else, you know, falls to the wayside.
But how do you feel? I feel like it's now or never.
The one thing that Nate has follow-through in his life right now is fitness.
It's about Nate presenting himself like that in every facet of his life.
- We're ready for this fish.
- I'm hyped about this.
It's like in between my complexion and yours.
Weirdly, it's like our fish baby.
That is a weird expression I never thought I would say.
It doesn't get easier than that.
Okay, let's try it now.
That is banging.
Whoo, mama! Isn't that nice? - We killed it.
- We did kill it! We did.
I smell yumminess.
How's it going? - Want a little piece of fishy? - Yes, please.
- There you go.
- Mmm! - All right.
- I'm eating light and energetic.
- I'm ready to go.
Whoo! - Right? That's what we want.
- Bye.
- Bye, baby.
- This way.
- Go off with Bobby.
- I'll see you guys later.
- Bye.
Are we going to the gym or somewhere else? Just sit back, just live in it.
I think I know where we're going.
You guys got me yesterday.
I was totally off-guard.
- Good.
- Teaching my class, doing my thing.
Next thing you know, I'm getting bum-rushed by these five dudes.
God, this city is so pretty.
Yeah, it's got history to it.
The architecture is like, my neighborhood, you have a mix of so many different people.
You got people from the 'hood, you got college students, business people.
So many different types of people all in one small area.
It's a community.
What was it like when you first opened? Um, just like, you know, you have a newborn baby, you know.
I was very detailed with everything.
And I think that disarray started to happen when I was like, "Am I gonna make rent?" So you're a little worried about gentrification.
Your neighborhood changing, rent's going up, other gyms coming in.
Yeah? I'm not opposed to investing into a neighborhood to make that neighborhood better, but I'm opposed to the idea of, all of a sudden, you know, the mom-and-pop turned into this boutique that nobody can afford anymore.
How does Bodyrock survive gentrification? That's always a thing that I'm thinking about, you know, without having, like, a proper education when it comes to business and marketing.
I can really, truly, honestly say I have been there.
I dropped out of high school at 15, no education at all.
I mean, I used to live in my car.
I've been homeless.
This is a nice car to live in.
No, it was not this car.
And now I have a furniture brand that's in stores all over the world.
So how did you take your business from small to scaled up? You build consistencies in your brand.
What would you say the first step you took towards finding that consistency? I would say, with me, there were visual standards that set the brand apart from other furniture stores.
You said to me yesterday, you know, "I'm gritty, that's my thing.
I don't want to be those other gyms.
" I don't want you to, either.
'Cause what you are, that's what sets you apart, and that's what your clients love.
And so I want to show you some examples of that.
Nate could still have a cool neighborhood gym that stays true to his philosophies, but also appeals to a wider audience.
This is the world famous boxer Danny Garcia's place.
- Oh, okay.
- It's got barber shop, body shop, clothing store and a gym.
The gym is ultimately what I want to show you.
Here is where the dream came true.
Nice.
This was the first thing that opened in the compound.
Danny, he loves the sport, and the community loves him.
So he decided, well, why not open his own? You know, when you in somebody else's gym, you gotta follow other people's rules.
So he's like, "Listen, we're gonna make our own rules here.
" I think it's cool that everything has its own place.
Everything is organized.
- This is not like any corporate gym.
- No, not at all.
But it's inviting, still, 'cause it's clean.
Your focus is what you're doing here.
Your focus is not the space.
You can still be unique, but still have something that you can duplicate as well - if you ever expand.
- Absolutely.
It's cool to see something that's for the community, for his people, our people.
He needs to move onward and upward.
Come on! Yeah, yeah! Come on, Nate! They have some impressive stuff here.
- Oh, wow, this place is nice! - It's nice, right? Hello, Andrew, how are you? - Good, how are you doing? - Good to see you, buddy.
This is my friend Nate.
Nate, this is Andrew.
- Andrew owns this store.
- Nice to meet you.
We are gonna help ourselves to your store.
- All right, thank you.
- Cheers, buddy.
Not only is Nate a gym owner, he's a creative guy.
That's not what he has in his closet right now.
You had said that you want to be fly and funky, fresh.
You said that you are a musician.
You have your band, KillerWhale.
Well, when I'm in my band, that's a lot easier for me, to like, you know, swag, funky, you know, like a mix between, like James Earl Jones' voice and Rick James' cornrows.
Oh, my! Maybe we need to get a bit of KillerWhale - and incorporate that into your closet.
- Yeah.
Do you feel fly when you're working out at the gym in your gym clothes? It's not cool, actually.
Your word is "fly.
" It's not fly what you're wearing.
- Like, all of it should be fly, Nate.
- Yeah.
All right.
Should we shop? - Yeah, let's do it.
- Okay.
So, layering.
Start with something simple.
Go with a pair of jeans.
Grab a T-shirt, but get a jacket with a layer that's more dressed up.
Something like that.
And then, go for a boot, and you've got your look.
Okay.
I'm gonna get you to go around.
- I'm gonna do this myself? - You are.
- Okay.
- These are hot.
- I like those a lot.
- Good, me, too.
Loving this so far.
It feels fly.
Can I just continue to use your word even though it's definitely not within my normal vernacular? Yes.
That's it, I love that.
Nate.
- Yeah.
- How we doing? - We ready? - I'm ready.
I mean, this works for me.
I love the jeans.
I love the jacket.
I don't know about this shirt.
Easy fix.
Does it feel authentic? Yeah, I like the way it's made more to my shape.
Yeah, so, I would like you to give me just a little bit of KillerWhale.
A little bit of KillerWhale? - A verse.
- All right, here we go.
I'm so I just want to be alone I don't need nobody but you I'm on my own Yay! I loved it.
It's a wonderful feeling seeing Nate come alive like this.
He just needed the freedom to be able to express who he truly was the Nate that isvery fly.
I wanted to give you layers again.
I wanted to give you loose so it still feels fly.
I gave you a sneaker so it's more you, and I gave you a trouser because it's more formal.
I saw you had a lot of hats on your wardrobe.
You're a hat guy.
Yeah, that's fly.
I dig that.
Ooh, girl, tell him Ooh, girl, tell him Ooh, girl, tell him Ooh, girl, tell him Ooh! Yeah, girl, tell 'em! You know where we are? This is my old stomping ground.
This is where I went to school.
I played football, so we're gonna go by the football stadium in a second.
- You talking about this football stadium? - Yeah.
Well, maybe I'll just turn in here.
- What are you doing? - Maybe I'll just come in here.
- I haven't been here since I left.
- Oh, really? - Come on, let's go.
- Oh, my goodness.
Wow! Thanks for inviting me back.
What position did you play? Well, defensive lineman.
I was wide receiver.
- Oh, really? - Yeah.
- Oh, okay.
- Fast.
We need to get back to the core Nate.
The Nate that said, "You know what, I'm gonna start a gym.
" He's right here in front of me, but Nate doesn't see him anymore.
What was it like there for you? What brought you to Villanova? Well, coming from where I was in Ohio, I lived kind of, like, in the country, and I wanted to get out.
Football allowed me the opportunity to come to this school.
However, my dad he wanted me to go to a military academy.
Actually, he was a drill sergeant in the military, and there was points in our relationship where we battled.
He thought I was, you know, lazy and hard-headed, you know, and in some ways, yes, that's true.
We hear our parents or people saying, in the beginning of our lives, certain things.
And so you start to say, "Well, yeah.
" Well, see, the thing is that you're not lazy, nor are you hard-headed.
- So don't internalize his words.
- I see that, yeah.
You gotta start to break the cycle with that.
You know, I knew I was gonna take over the world when I was stepping off of this field, some of my most powerful moments.
Yeah, I can point to different areas.
But you know, when life hits, then you start to question, you know, your own capabilities.
Yeah.
You gotta start to fight against that.
- Yeah.
- So what I want to do out here is, I want to show you really what these expectations that you're holding onto, how they're causing burdens in your life and stopping you from being the guy who thought he could conquer everything.
- Yeah.
- You ready? All right, let's do it.
I don't know what to expect.
This is really a workout.
This is gonna be a workout.
- Come on.
- You're gonna try to break me.
- Are you kidding me? - No.
- Old school ass - Weights.
The weights.
Where'd you get these from? These are from my gym.
They came from your gym.
- You gotta be kidding me.
- These are from your gym.
These first weights that are heavy on you are the expectations your father put on you that you're still holding on to.
You coming out the shirt now.
He ready.
Now, what do you think this one represents? I don't know.
You let go of a girl who wanted to be there for you, to support you, because you felt like you had to do it on your own.
Yeah, I just don't know how to ask for help, and I don't know what that even looks like.
So let me put another one, since you don't know how to ask for help.
Seriously? - How's that, heavy? - Yeah, it's still heavy.
Good.
Let me get another one for you.
What'd I tell you? Let's go.
These expectations that you're holding on to "You're lazy.
You're hard-headed.
I'm supposed to do this on my own.
" You gotta start to fight against that.
"I believe in myself.
I can do whatever.
Conquer everything.
" Too much? Need any support? I'm right here with you.
- Thank you.
- You're welcome.
We are breeding this culture of men not asking for help because we tell them, "You have to be strong, you gotta handle it on your own," and that's a problem.
This is all the expectations that you're building up in your head of what your life is supposed to look like.
The more you try to hold on and you feel like you're failing is the more you're just going to dig a deeper hole.
You gotta ask for help.
How do you let that go? That's the question.
And how do you still accomplish what you want to do? It's one by one.
You can have your dreams.
That's what makes you great.
That's why you have people who keep coming to your gym over and over again, because they see your dream.
They believe in you.
But the more you put on these expectations, the more it's messing with your confidence.
So you gotta let it go.
Release it.
How do you feel? I feel light.
- Light, right? - Yeah.
I wanna move.
You feel more like that young man who started here.
- Yeah.
- He's never left you.
All right, now let's go, since you said you're gonna smoke me.
Hold on.
Go.
You know I'm quick, right? Oh, you're beating me! Hold up! Hold up! Getting a workout when I'm working.
All done.
Wow.
Okay, we're gonna go right in here.
I'm gonna get the door for you.
You're such a gentleman.
Welcome.
Hi.
- Hi, how are you doing? - Come on in.
Take a seat here.
Okay.
So is this working for you, wearing your lock sock every day? I'm not gonna lie.
I need a change.
I need to switch that up.
I'm not happy with hiding myself.
You know, I think hair loss can cause a lot of shame, and men don't know how to talk about, like, beauty-related or cosmetic-related issues as much.
But you're not going through anything to be ashamed of or to be embarrassed about.
And you're actually being very brave.
Also, full disclosure, I have not worked with dreadlocks since hair school.
We're gonna, like, triple-team our gorgeous look and find our gorgeous way forward.
It is scary sometimes to change our look and to evolve into something new.
So this is our gorgeous little baby dream team.
But it is okay to feel nervous about it, and it's okay to take that leap of faith and throw that sand down like Indiana Jones, honey, and take that jump.
- Let's just look at it together.
- Yeah, let's take a peek.
All right, if you're not comfortable with wearing your hair out anymore, now could be the time to change it.
And if it's keeping you from feeling more beautiful, this isn't what you need right now.
You should just show more of your face, more of your beautiful face.
All right.
Sometimes when a person cuts off their locks, it can be a little challenging.
So I did bring you a jar, so that if you like, you can keep some of your locks.
And in here I just placed a couple of things.
Sage, just for clarity.
Black obsidian for strength, aquamarine for patience and then two cowrie shells just for wealth, to just kind of increase you in your journey.
I love that so much.
Do you want to hold my little baby hand, or do you got this? How are you feeling? I'm ready.
- This has been a long time in the making.
- It's gonna look Okay, Jerry, let's do this.
Gorge.
Oh, boy.
- The hard part's over! - Yeah.
Yes, king! Let's do it.
Let's start that beauty montage.
New experiences.
Oh, your skin is so beautiful.
- How you doing? - Feels good.
Trusting the process.
That's not how you're supposed to sit in a skirt.
I'm just saying.
When it's long, you can totally go like this as a lady.
It's really, like, high fashion.
You know? When we go through big changes, it's important to remember that there's more things we can do even if we don't have our hair routine to do.
- What are you doing now? - Tinting your hairline a little.
So for, like, the "confidence" that he's gonna be not having with his hair, we're gonna give it to him by serving face.
Oh, my God, you look amazing.
Okay, are you ready to see the new you? - I'm nervous.
- Okay.
Oh, my goodness, wow! Look at you.
That's crazy.
Do you wanna get all up in it and look a little closer? You're literally giving me confidence.
I'm seeing it in your shoulders.
You're feeling it! Look at how handsome you look! Mind blown.
Onward and upward.
Onward and upward.
Yeah, man.
Thanks a lot.
You're welcome.
Oh, they're here! - Hi! - Oh, guys! Are you ready? There's a step, there's a curb.
Almost.
Brace yourself.
Here we go.
- Oh, it's bright.
Oh.
- It sure is.
Booyah! Painted the whole exterior, - painted this white so your sign pops.
- Oh, wow, I didn't even know wow! Doesn't it look gorge? It looks dope.
- We should get out of the heat.
- Yes! - All right.
- Three, two, one! Holy moly.
What? Oh.
Okay.
- All right.
- We got lockers in the back.
Gorgeous lockers.
- Got more graffiti on the wall.
- Look how clean it is.
I wanted to give you a nice, clean slate because I know you'll wanna add more to it.
So I gave it black and white, added some color over there, and then you can go crazy everywhere else.
I'm very appreciative.
Like, I needed this.
I needed it to be cleaned up.
I need to be taking it down to the bare bones.
Just the way I do things.
- I'ma put my stamp on it, no matter what.
- And I want you to.
Honestly, thank you.
Thank you so much.
This is gonna be the flyest gym in America.
- You ready to see more? - Let's see more What? - Whoa! That's crazy.
- Right? - Oh, my goodness! - It looks nice in here.
- No more covering it up.
- I love it.
You know what I love? Making sure that when you have a small space, you have a lot of nice, clean, vertical lines, so doing a cabinet door with drawers inside - Ooh! - makes your kitchen look cleaner.
This is a game changer for me.
More than anything, being able to actually prepare a meal will change my entire life.
I'm, like, really excited.
I can invite someone over to dinner, lunch.
I'd love to invite Kristin over.
- She's given me plenty of meals in my day.
- Aww! She could look at you longingly as you're cooking for her.
- Like, give you the doe eyes.
- Like that? What-what? Whoa! What? Oh, that's cool.
- Got more drawers down here.
- Ooh, I love storage.
- Oh, please, yes! - When you don't have a big room, you wanna make sure that you're utilizing all your real estate.
Wait a minute, this is so fly.
One more thing.
Let's go up to your new check-in desk.
So I created you a new website with Wix.
They're really cool because it allows you to manage your business from here.
- So it's not just a pretty website.
- This is awesome.
People can now go online and schedule.
So you're able to focus on your clients - and not so much on the back office.
- Yeah.
People can come and they can see exactly what I do, how to get involved.
There's no excuses anymore.
Thank you, man.
This is exactly what I needed.
You have been so brave - and courageous this entire week.
- Right.
I've been trying to figure out on my own how to accept help, how to get back to my original, just, like, energy, and that doesn't involve me carrying any preconceived notions about myself.
I mean, I deserve to have a gym that's thriving.
I deserve to be able to come home and be relaxed inside of my space.
You do deserve that.
A lot of men, to be very honest with you, a lot of black men were very much taught, "You're a provider.
You have to hit certain benchmarks.
This is what a man looks like.
This what a man who does for his community looks like.
" And it's always outward, what you're doing for them, and we forget to say to ourselves, "I also deserve.
" And that's all I'm trying to get you to say.
- Yeah.
- Do you deserve love? - I deserve it, yeah.
- And you've also let go of the weight.
- All right.
- Thank you.
Thanks a lot.
I appreciate it.
First things first, you had mentioned, it was a word I'd never heard.
- Booyah nonsense? - Booyah! Sorry, booyah.
So I wanted to add some - Booyah.
- Booyah, and I want people to walk in off the street and think, "He clearly owns this place.
I'm gonna go with that guy.
" But I wanna make sure you're on brand at all times.
So you've got, like, Bodyrock here on the back.
- I love it.
- You've got them on your shorts, too.
These are hot.
It's definitely '90s.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Good.
Okay, pants.
You don't always have to be in joggers.
You don't always have to be in sweats.
- Combination of the two.
- Yeah.
There's a cotton version of it.
They've got elasticated bottoms, so you're still gonna feel like you're in a jogger.
- Awesome.
- Yeah, and I got you button-up shirts, super, super lightweight.
Like, everything is super, super lightweight.
- I can wear this with jogging pants.
- Absolutely, you could.
Okay, next, you need specs.
Oh, my goodness.
That's what a prescription feels like.
That was the issue all along? You couldn't see how much you had? You had no idea? This is what it looked like all the time, huh? No, this is very, very different to how it looked, believe me.
Okay, Nate, come on down.
I know! You look really cute.
- Look at you! - I love burgundy on you.
Those glasses! Let's just see you without the hat, too.
You look so cute.
- It's my suit without putting on a suit.
- Yeah.
I feel light.
I feel fresh.
- I'm quick on my feet right now.
- Ooh! Yes, agile.
Standing ovation.
I appreciate you guys so much.
Honestly, the most important part of this whole experience for me and what's going to change my life more so than anything is being able to take care of myself and my health and my wellness.
I'm ready to take this to the next step, the next level, and it's the foundational stuff.
It's back to basics.
Feel on top of the world right now.
Good.
With that being said, we're out of here.
I might sneak up on you guys.
Here, group huggies.
- Ant, what are we making, my love? - This is a smoothie.
- Ooh! - Almond milk, bananas, medjool dates, lime zest and vegan protein powder.
She's giving me vacation, honey.
- So good.
- Yes.
- Cheers, guys.
- Love.
- Yeah.
- I want to see this gym after Nate was in there by himself.
- Should we do this? - Yeah! You're such a good boy, Walter.
Guys, you ready? - Yes, always.
- Let's do it.
Look how sharp he looks! - He looks so handsome! - Wow, he looks handsome, though.
- Oh, with confidence! - Looks so good! Welcome back to the gym.
What's up? - New beginning! - Darling.
He is hugging everybody.
He is gonna be the mayor of West Philly.
Wow! I'm so proud of you, yo, that's dope! You look like a nice star now.
You look like KillerWhale.
- I look like KillerWhale.
- Mm-hmm.
- Oh, my gosh.
- Oh, my gosh, are you kidding me? Oh, my God, center-part sisters.
Oh, my gosh, it smells good in here! - Look at this.
- We're using the whole space? - Wait, look at this logo.
- I love it.
Oh, my gosh! Wait a second! I can't even believe it.
- I'm in shock.
- Yes! He's feeling himself.
Why wouldn't he? Look at him.
Come on, ladies.
I like Nate a lot.
- This is a beautiful style on you.
- It's a beautiful style on me! We always knew you had style, though.
Yes, queen.
Yes.
This is awesome.
Thank you guys so much.
You're so welcome! - I'm so happy for you.
- Thank you so much.
So happy for you.
I can't wait to work out here because it looks amazing.
Nathon! Oh, my, look at my son! - Look how proud she looks.
- Aww! Welcome to Bodyrock Boot Camp! - You look so well-groomed! - Aww! I love that look.
But I like that hair off.
Yes.
- I love how expressive she is.
- Moms notice every detail.
Oh, this is wonder and then there's room to walk around in here! I like the look of the gym! Wait a second.
He has food in his refrigerator.
Hey, but looks so healthy.
- This is the master room? - Yeah, it's nice.
- This is the master bedroom.
- Open.
So yeah.
I got some competition now.
- Ooh.
- Oh! - Oh, Kristin! - Hello! Hi.
Oh, wow! This gold chains.
Excuse me.
- Aah.
- Oh! Look how beautiful you look! - She still likes him.
- There he is.
- She still likes him.
- Yes.
Mom's over there looking like, "Girl.
" - Uh-huh.
- I do clean up nice.
And the front looks amazing.
- Wow! - You wanna see my place? Yeah, take me to the bedroom.
Oh! Did I say that out loud? And I oh! Oh, wow! Look at this! She's like, "I can sleep here.
" She's like, "I'm about to move over those speakers, honey.
Put in my little jewelry box.
" I want to say thank you so much.
You are my best friend, and I really have appreciated every single time that you've tried to break through to the possibilities that I've always dreamed of, and I know that I can't do it on my own, and I want you to be there with me, so I just Yeah, thank you.
- Oh! - Okay! Yes! Allowing people in and asking for help is not a sign of weakness.
That's accepting that you cannot do it all alone.
Ask for the love and support from the people that surround you.
I feel that this experience has lit a fire underneath me.
I feel like I am in attack mode, and I'm not retreating.
- Fired up! - Booyah! Let's all say booyah! Booyah! He would have been such a good cheerleader.
Oh.
Yeah, man.
Wait, what's happening with this, Bobbers? I really wanted Nate to make the gym his own, so I encouraged him to bring in some graffiti artists so he really feels like it's a part of him.
- So he can show his personality.
- That's awesome.
Are you ever worried that your look is starting to wear you? I always advise not to make drastic change on an impulse, but if you've been feeling for some time that your look needs a little change, like me in this case, it could be time for you to make a little change.
Bye, queen.
You've been fun.