Queer Eye (2018) s07e05 Episode Script

Stein.
I definitely think Dan
can be curmudgeonly.
I'm with a customer right now.
I kind of think he
puts on the grouch thing
to, you know, startle people, and
then he lures them in with kindness.
You're gonna be a movie
star. You know that, right?
He's our friend, Dan.
I mean, we all have
friends that we hate, right?
I like to think that
I'm a very caring person,
but please don't tell anybody.
"Our hero this week is
a man named Dan Stein."
"He is a local legend in New Orleans."
"He's the owner of
Stein's Market and Deli,
a local institution "
- Love an institution!
- Love a deli. Love an institution.
" that's famous for two things.
Sandwiches and Dan Stein." Whoo!
I've been running
Stein's Market and Deli
for a little bit over 15 years now.
It is really the
center of the community.
We welcome everybody.
Annoying, not annoying.
He's known for doing
these crazy ad campaigns.
I think half of New Orleans
has seen my boyfriend's tuchus.
- Cool.
- Dan, you owe me pickles.
I don't owe you anything.
Everybody in the city knows Dan Stein.
We're all there to get our
sandwich and get yelled at.
"Describing Dan as a workaholic
would be an understatement."
"The man works over 80 hours
seven days a week at his deli."
It is all deli.
- Kosher salt.
- All the time.
"He's in his first serious relationship
with his girlfriend of two years, Cara."
He's in a relationship,
with that schedule?
I definitely have
grown to love Dan a lot.
He's nearing a fatherly
figure in our life,
but he gets home really late.
His mind is always on the deli.
At least twice a week,
my mom calls me because Dan was
supposed to come home for dinner
and instead he's still at the deli.
"His good heart and caring
nature has won her over,
but Dan's gruff exterior
and addiction to his deli
has caused one too many
issues in their relationship
and Cara is one foot
in and one foot out."
- Now that makes more sense.
- Yeah. There we go.
He's so busy at the deli that
he can't change his clothes
and shave his face.
"Some people use hair
products to tame their mane."
"Dan uses his own saliva."
- Ew!
- Hot!
I hope he does it after
he brushes his teeth.
Does he, like, overproduce saliva?
'Cause you need a lot of saliva.
- I do think
- He uses his saliva.
Why are you all acting
like that's normal?
That's nasty as hell.
I've only taken Dan to one work event.
He was late,
and then he was wearing
all of his deli clothes,
and I was like, "I am
the new CEO at this job,
and you are late, and
you have not dressed up."
And he promptly sat
down in one of the chairs
and fell asleep.
That didn't go well.
There's just moments I need
to know I can count on him
and that the deli isn't gonna win.
Hey, Regis, did salt go up?
I know I'm in a toxic, codependent
relationship with the deli.
If I were Samson, the deli's my hair.
There's this sort of
sense of frustration
where you just say,
"Is this all I have?"
"Is this all I'm meant to do,
is come to this place
and never smell the roses
and never take a break?"
There is a real feeling
that something has to give.
We love Dan, and we love the deli,
but we know that he deserves to
invest in himself a little bit.
"Madeline wants the Fab
Five to help shape up Dan
to be the boyfriend he
needs to be for her mom
and help him end his
codependent relationship
with his deli."
Our mission this week is to turn
Deli Dan into Cara's dream man!
- Yeah!
- Yeah!
That's cute!
I am hungry.
- Snacks.
- Oh wow!
Stein's. Can you please hold?
Ooh, it smells good.
- Hi.
- What does Dan look like?
- Oh man.
- That him?
Yeah, yeah.
All right. I got a caprese
with one ounce of prosciutto.
Look at that little picture.
He's got a lot of personality.
That's also him. Look at this.
- Oh my gosh.
- Oh God. He's George Costanza.
Can you take me off speakerphone?
I can't hear a thing you're saying.
Dan.
I don't know. Maybe we
should come back later.
When I was little, if I had,
like, a huge crush on someone,
I would just ignore them
because I didn't know what to do
and I was really nervous.
So maybe this is just a case of, like,
Dan-Stein's-in-love-with-us nerves.
- Can I help you?
- Honey, yes. I worked up an appetite.
This place is gorgeous,
and look at your hazel eyes.
- I've heard they're lovely.
- Okay. I wanna order something.
Can I please get an
egg and cheese bagel?
- Double egg would be wonderful.
- Do you know we're here to help you?
- Yes.
- Hi!
- You could help me by placing an order.
- But you're so attractive.
- Wow!
- Could I have this cookie, please?
I wanna make it really
clear none of us have money.
Fine. I'll put you on account.
You're getting a great
review on Yelp from me, honey.
This is top tier.
I'm looking forward to that Yelp review.
Dan Stein would not have
made it past episode one
of America's Next Top Model,
not because he's hot. Because
he doesn't know how to smize.
Where's your internal
That's how Tyra does
it. Come on, Dan Stein!
I would not like anything to eat.
The only thing I'd like
is to know more about you.
I can person the register
if you're nervous to leave.
- No, I will
- I used to work at McDonald's.
- I can do that.
- Thank you.
How did a Philly man
end up in New Orleans?
I used to be a lawyer. That's
where I got my first legal job,
and I stayed down here
'cause I felt comfortable.
Are you open seven days a week?
- No. Six days.
- Okay.
- Are you here seven days a week?
- Oh yeah.
Wow.
Do you feel you can't leave the
business because they need you
or you just like being
here all the time?
It's probably some of the
former, but mostly the latter.
- Look at that quad.
- Look at that action.
Yeah, I've got a good base.
Makes me curious about
what your home is like.
- Are you ready to show us your house?
- I am ready.
- I am ready for you to leave my deli.
- Let's go! Yes.
Show us your home.
Let's see inside. Is
it as cool as the deli?
- Uh, no.
- Oh. Oh.
All right.
- Whoa! Massive kitchen.
- It's nice!
It's beautiful.
Doesn't seem like anyone lives in it.
I mean, that's a good way of putting it.
Your girlfriend doesn't come over.
That is correct.
- Do you invite her?
- Uh, no.
By the time it's like, "Let's
get together on a weeknight,"
it's 11:00 or 11:30, I'm leaving.
- So it's a booty call.
- She's already in bed.
It's not a booty call.
We we snuggle.
And now is this living room?
Not much living done in this room.
It feels like you haven't
quite moved in yet.
- How long have you been here?
- Uh, probably, like, five or six years.
- Huh.
- I don't spend a lot of time here.
You don't spend time
because it's like this
or you choose to keep it like
this so you don't have to?
I think it's the chicken and the egg.
There is so much personality
going on with Dan,
with the paintings of himself, the
photos of himself all over the deli,
but then you get to his house and
no personality.
Whoa, this is huge up here.
This is lovely!
Out of seven nights, how many nights
do you spend at Cara's versus here?
Right now, seven.
We sleep in the same bed at
night, and that's about it.
I think she wants a little bit
more out of the relationship.
- Do you want more out of the relationship?
- Sure.
This is the bathroom.
What's interesting for me is
you have these double sinks,
and one of them is empty
because no one ever comes here.
That's correct.
- Hi!
- Oh!
- Hello.
- Are you Cara?
Aren't you a vision?
Well, thank you.
- When am I getting a hug?
- Kiss him! Kiss him!
Aw. Tell us about Dan, honey.
Oh my gosh. He's like an enigma.
Like, I can find
somebody who dresses well
and someone who has, like,
good Southern manners,
but to find someone with a big heart
who leads every day and every
moment with how can he help others,
it's DNA.
- He's got a super big heart.
- Yeah.
What does he need help with?
Balance is almost too gentle of a word.
I'm an independent woman,
but I'm not so independent
that I wanna be alone on Friday
and Saturday nights, right?
And makes me feel
sometimes disrespected almost.
He's giving cake to the deli,
and you're getting crumbs.
- Right.
- Yeah.
Have you tried to resolve it?
Have you spoken about it? Dan,
what has been the outcome of it?
She's told me a couple things,
and I've tried to do better.
I can tell that Dan was raised right.
He knows that this kind
of behavior is not okay.
Something is wrong here.
Can I go to the bathroom?
- Yes, please.
- Yeah!
To investigate your situation.
Not to, like, blow it up.
Oh, no, please.
Bye.
Love y'all.
All right.
He says that he doesn't dress
up, but he's got a load of ties.
Oh my!
Naughty, naughty Dan.
Hey, Jackie. I need
to show you something.
- Okay.
- Turn around.
- Oh!
- Ooh! Ah!
Does that not hurt?
Can I go harder?
- Ow!
- Ay!
Not too hard. Don't start too hard.
Go. You can go slightly harder.
Ow! That stung, you bitch!
- First of all, where are we?
- We're in your kitchen.
I have a kitchen?
- You don't cook here very much?
- No.
It's time to get the
ingredients together, to plan.
There's so many interesting opportunities
for you and Cara to bond over
that I feel like you're
not taking advantage of
that I really kinda wanna hone in on.
You mentioned that you spend
a lot of time at her house.
Do you remember the last time
when, like, she came over here
and you were in the kitchen
making something for her to eat?
- No.
- Okay.
- So
- 'Cause it never happened.
Would you wanna change that
and try something different?
You know, it kind of pains me
that I've never thought
of that until now.
When you know better, you do better.
- Right.
- That's all that we can do in life.
I just wanna say that when
I look deep into your eyes,
I see my grandfather's eyebrows,
and that makes me feel at
home and comforted and nice.
- They're very big.
- We'll trim them.
- Thank you.
- Can I see your hair?
Please.
Wow, that's nice, thick hair.
You have great hair.
You have a great canvas to work with.
I care less about, like, the
correct order to apply things
and how it makes you look.
I care more about the way that you feel.
And, to me, like, beauty,
skincare, haircare, body care,
all of those things, it's like an avenue
for you to explore your
relationship with yourself.
Let's just fill up our
own cup a little bit,
and this can be an avenue for
you to fill up your own cup.
We have a closet of really boring,
"It is what it is. I
throw on something."
Then you have this, which
is actually kinda great.
There's stuff that
anyone would feel nice in,
but by all accounts,
you never wear this.
- That's correct.
- Is it because you don't care anymore?
Is it because you're exhausted,
and you just think, "Well,
I'm working all the time."
"It doesn't matter"?
Give me the honest answer.
- I used to be more of a preppy guy.
- Okay.
And the occasions to wear
said stylish clothing,
it's not that I don't care,
although that's probably
But I care relatively less.
I dress like this to dinner,
and I know Cara would probably
prefer that I not do that.
Is it because I need to show
you how you put a look together?
Is it because you don't have clothes
that fit that make you feel good?
What is it?
All of the above.
I just want you to have a wardrobe
that makes it clear to Cara
that you care about her.
She deserves that, no?
Yes.
Or no, I don't know.
She deserves that, yes.
I wanna know a little bit about
what was growing up like for you?
Oy! Um
I guess I didn't have a
lot to be super proud of.
You know, I was, like, the
runt of the of the litter.
How do you think that messaging
still plays in your life today?
Since I lack a certain
measure of self-esteem,
I tend to gravitate to areas
where I feel comfortable.
I mean, working at the deli,
that's created the self-esteem that
I feel comfortable with right now.
So I heard from some of the
people who work at the deli,
we heard from Cara,
and it's this over-general sense
that either people think of
you as the most amazing guy
or an asshole.
Doesn't really bother me that much.
There's enough people
that like me that I'm like,
if they didn't get the right
read on me the first time,
in time they will.
I kind of don't believe that.
You say, "I don't care that
people say these things,"
but then also you have low self-esteem.
I don't wanna be known as an asshole,
but I don't
I know that enough people
think of me and think
- Can we stop at that first part?
- Yeah, please.
"I just don't wanna be
known as an asshole."
- Sure.
- Just say that.
I don't wanna be known as an asshole.
Half the people get this guy
that's, like, abrasive and tough
and, like, maybe standoffish,
and other half get
this sweet, loving guy.
I actually don't believe
that both guys are you.
Mm-hmm.
I believe that one guy is a protection,
and the other guy is who you really are.
- I think that's what we gotta figure out.
- Yes.
And why would you like
to figure that out?
'Cause I'm sure it'll help
me grow in some respect.
- Do we know what to do?
- I do.
- Yes.
- Great.
Do you know how to twerk?
- No.
- I'll show you.
Lesson number one.
Don't you dare break the counter!
You can even do a little
- My gosh.
- Cross, like that.
I bet this wasn't part of how
you thought this was gonna go.
- It's lower back.
- Crawl up here.
- You really want me to do a twerk?
- What's it worth to you?
There you go. Put your hands here. Yes!
- Up!
- Up!
I haven't seen such bad
twerking since Tina Belcher.
Yes! Yes!
Gorgeous.
Who knew Dan had moves?
Yeah!
They're not great
moves, but Dan got moves!
- Yes!
- Right here.
- You gotta pop it up.
- Give me a dollar!
This is gonna be a week.
He does grow on you.
I want Dan to turn up and be
an active partner with Cara.
I want him to feel a lot
more refined and sophisticated
for the refined and
sophisticated woman he has.
If you wanna be a successful
businessperson, great,
but you have to attend to
the other areas of your life.
Otherwise, you'll end up
being a grumpy old man.
Hi, Dan.
I really wanna make his home
somewhere that Cara
wants to spend the night.
I want them to start sharing more
aspects of their life together.
I want Dan to show up for Cara
the way he's been showing
up for his business.
I need Dan to realize that I'm sure Cara
would appreciate every once in a while
to have a nice home-cooked meal.
My hope for Dan is that
he can unfurl his fist
holding on to that kind
of gruff-guy persona
and move on with some hope
and some love in his heart
that he can share with Cara
and, most importantly, himself.
When Cara invites you to an event,
do you think, "I should
dress up for that thing"?
Uh, it probably doesn't
occasion me at first.
When we went to Nashville
together, she's like,
"We have to set aside a night for us
to make sure that we have your stuff."
Am I making you wince?
You're 50.
- 49.9.
- Okay, close to 50.
How is it that we've got to this place
where your girlfriend has to tell you,
"Hey, pack appropriately"?
Because I haven't really
gone with a girlfriend
as opposed to going out
My question is this.
You turn up to the event.
- Cara walks in looking like a vision.
- Yeah, exactly.
And then you stand there like
- Uh
- That's pretty much Yeah.
But that happens once.
Is there a learned moment,
or a moment for learning,
thinking, "I can't
let that happen again"?
It goes away, unfortunately.
Maybe what I need you to do going
forward is actively tell yourself,
"I need to do more for her."
My relationships haven't
really gone this deep.
This is my shot, you know, at 50.
No way you have a successful
business without thinking ahead.
Treat her as an extension
of your entrepreneur mind.
You wanted to see success
in the deli, you got there.
If you want success in a relationship,
you know how to get there.
Gotcha. No, you're right.
I want Dan to really start to realize
that he has to be an active
participant in this relationship.
Now, are you open to trying on
anything I want you to try on?
- Yes.
- I've got this wonderful crop top.
- You're gonna look amazing in it.
- That's fine.
I just need him to make a
little bit of effort with Cara,
and it's gonna make all the difference
to her and their relationship.
- Can I see?
- Yes.
- Whoo-hoo! - Would you like
me to get my baseball cap?
Definitely don't want your baseball cap.
You really have such lovely hair.
- Thank you.
- I can't believe you hide it away.
I like it a lot. I like the way it fits.
Maybe the color being a
little bit more stronger
Would you like a poppier color?
My whole thing used to be
everything was classic and simple,
and then the tie would
- One pop.
- Pop.
The cuffing, that
seems That's like
Are you gonna teach me how to do that?
I mean, yes. It's really simple.
So all we're doing is three rolls,
and then it makes it look more fitted.
It looks like that person's
actually styled out their outfit.
I wanted to get you a version of a
sneaker that isn't exactly a sneaker
that you could wear to dinner
and Cara thinks, "He's made an
effort. He has put in thought."
- "He's made an effort!"
- Yeah!
The shoes are actually growing on me.
You've got a smile on your
face, complementing the look.
This was not you yesterday.
I agree.
Great. Okay.
The next look is already set
up. Please give that a go.
- But so far, so good.
- Okay.
- Yeah.
- Thank you.
You all right?
No, I'm not.
- I like.
- You look hot.
I like. I like the blue.
I saw this color, a version of
this color, in your suit jacket
that I'd hoped were gonna
work lovely with your hair.
It's super chic, but also quite casual.
It's a denim shirt.
If you were to take the jacket off,
it's still perfectly appropriate,
but it is still casual.
I have never worn a shirt that
- A tunic, yeah.
- What's it called? Tunic?
- A tunic shirt, yeah.
- Got it.
The detail makes it more interesting
than a regular chambray shirt.
It looks very much like
the man that you are,
which is successful, sophisticated.
We've just made it a casual version
so it doesn't feel like
you're dressing up as your dad.
That's funny 'cause
I guess at this point,
I'm, like, the age of my dad when
I thought of my dad as my dad, so
I wonder if he dressed
as stylishly. Did he?
Uh
No comment.
That's a no!
The way Dan is carrying himself,
it is clear he knows how good he looks.
Ever since I got to know Dan,
he's not held himself in a posture
that feels appropriate
for a successful man.
And for the first time,
I'm seeing who he could
potentially be going forward.
- Thanks for being open.
- I just wanna be lovely.
You are lovely!
- Hello.
- Hi!
- You must be Madeline.
- Madeline.
Hi. Catherine.
- Hi.
- How are you doing?
- I'm good.
- Thank you for coming. Take a seat. Come.
I brought you both here because
I needed to learn more about Dan.
When we were meeting him,
I realized that Dan can
be a bit of an asshole.
- Yeah.
- Yeah.
- And
- I'd say.
But on the flip side, everyone's
like, "He's an amazing guy."
Yeah.
And what I really need
to understand is, like,
is this behavior at the deli
or does this affect his personal
life with friends, family, your mom?
I mean, I think for both of us,
we'd say we've had a few
tough circumstances with Dan
over the years.
So this is definitely something
that's at home and not just at the deli.
I don't think Dan really
understands how his grouchy behavior
is affecting his life.
So there's no better people
to, like, really wake him up
than his nominators, Cara's daughters.
- Hi.
- Hi!
The first time you've seen each other.
It's so important that Dan hears this
because, in Dan's mind, he thinks
everything's okay in his personal life.
So I wouldn't be here if I
wasn't totally team Dan, right?
But the first the first few years,
I really wasn't the most
supportive of y'all's relationship.
I gotcha.
Did you know that she felt
this way for all those years?
No.
- You didn't?
- No.
How do you think the relationship
with him and your mom could be better?
I would say, be more, like,
consistently authentic.
Yeah. Reliable, right?
She doesn't know who she's meeting,
Dan the deli man or Dan the boyfriend.
It's just day-to-day pending.
Yeah.
I think she wishes that she had someone
who she could be a bit
more vulnerable with.
I don't think he knows a
lot of things about her life,
- and it's just simply because he's not there.
- Got it.
You know, he's coming home
at 10:00, she's asleep.
Unfortunately, they just don't
have that ability to connect
whenever they're just
kind of meeting in passing.
Got it. Well, this helps because
I came up with a little game!
I came up with questions
that I asked your lady.
So are you ready to play this game?
What is Cara's favorite candy?
I'm drawing a blank on her favorite.
- Red ball.
- Yeah.
Now the reason I have this
here is as a visual aid
for you to see, like, "what
I know, what I don't know."
You're not helping
my self-esteem issues.
How does Cara like her tea or coffee?
Tea, not coffee. She likes
it with a lot of milk.
- Yeah!
- Boom. We'll go for that.
- Ladies, yes?
- Yeah, that was good!
Can we start asking them questions?
Yes, exactly.
What's her most prized possession?
Her artwork?
- Her teddy bear!
- Did you know there's a bear?
Yeah. Me.
What sibling is she closest to?
- Give me a red ball.
- Okay.
What was her first job?
What is something she has
always wanted to do but hasn't?
What would she consider to
be her greatest strength?
What is she most proud about herself?
She's proud that she's been
able to provide for her family.
- Yeah.
- Totally.
We couldn't have said it better.
What is her love language?
Quality time.
You knew that one. Good job.
Oh, I know it.
I don't spend enough time with her.
With this game, Dan can see he
needs to pay more attention to Cara.
He's definitely spending way too
much time at the deli and being late.
I think she wants somebody
who's gonna be there for her.
It's what we always do.
A big thing that my mom
and I talk about about y'all
is enjoying the little nothings of life.
She wants to hold your hand. She
wants to watch movies on the couch.
- She wants to do the little things.
- She sees you have the potential to do it.
- Otherwise, she wouldn't bother.
- I know.
They want you to win,
but there has to be some acknowledgement
so that the growth can start to happen.
- It's gonna take work.
- Yeah.
- Are you willing to do that work?
- Yeah.
I feel terrible.
This was an opportunity for Dan
to realize he has to
do more work on himself
so that his relationships can flourish.
You never wanna know you've hurt people
and that you have to make changes.
Changes is work.
I need you to go home, and
I need you to write down
the ways that you've been
impacting people negatively
and the ways that you
can be better for them.
He's finally got it.
He's ready to do the work.
Bye, Daniel. Oh!
- We love you. We're rooting for you.
- Thank you.
Your home itself, awesome.
But the thing that
stands out to me the most
is obviously it's not really
somewhere you live, right?
Correct.
But I want you to start
thinking of it more
'cause I almost feel like
it's an area in your life
where you haven't grown up yet.
Fair enough. Yes.
I wanted to take Dan shopping
with me today to help him realize
that his home is not a place
that feels like a home at all.
And if he wants to take his
relationship with Cara to the next level,
he needs to be a fully formed,
fully functioning adult.
And right now, he's not.
My house is very sparse.
There's nothing I feel super proud of,
and I'm glad that you're helping me
because I'm looking at a bunch
of stuff and I'm somewhat lost.
Coming home to a space that
has had zero effort put into it
can't be a good feeling.
I was thinking two little chairs
like this out on your balcony
for you and Cara to
have when you come home
and just have your guys' special moment.
These are nice.
- That table's kind of cool too.
- Cool, right?
I figured you'd like that.
- It reminds me a bit of your deli.
- Yeah, it does.
You've been doing this how long now?
- Fifteen years.
- Yeah.
- And you were a lawyer before?
- Yeah.
What made you decide one day, "I
don't wanna be a lawyer anymore?"
My father wanted me to be a lawyer,
and I wanted to make my dad happy.
And then, uh, I did
private practice one summer.
I really didn't like it,
and, in fact, they were gonna
give me an offer the last day,
and during the exit interview, I said,
like, "I don't really like it here,"
and I didn't get the offer,
and my father was pretty pissed.
My brother's a urologist
at the Cleveland Clinic.
- My father's proud of him.
- Your dad should be proud of you too.
He's I don't know if
he's as proud, but he's
He doesn't he doesn't hate me.
I think, you know, I have
some self-esteem issues,
and a lot of my lack of self-esteem
has translated itself into
my over-dedication to work.
Have you been looking for somebody
that you can kind of hand
the reins to a little bit,
to where maybe you could focus
more on your relationship?
Um
I have not been outwardly looking.
So, for me,
what I see is you could get
away from behind the counter
and doing the stuff that
you're doing in the evening.
Yes.
I mean, that is actually one thing,
is having some more front-hand work
so that I can do my other stuff.
I get where Dan's coming from.
I had stores of my own for years.
I worked there seven days a week,
and I lost my passions
for anything else in life.
And eventually, I started to realize
it was affecting not only my marriage,
but friendships as well.
I finally had to take a step back.
Do you think this making your
house a little less Peter Pan
and more the grown-up, successful
business owner that you are
will help your life
and your relationship?
I do. I really think it'd be nice
to to walk into a place which I'm
like, "Damn, this is kind of cool."
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
I had a chat with Cara,
and I wanted to get to know, like,
what her very favorite things are,
and she was like, "Pasta alla Norma."
I wanna do something that's
just, like, so out of the box
and drastic and different for Cara.
Yeah, that's great
because, like, it's
Yeah, and I'm making eggplant.
- And it's unexpected, right?
- Absolutely.
If you don't like eggplant,
try a nice Norma sauce.
It's basically crisped-up eggplants
in a very simple tomato sauce.
It's a wonderful vegetarian
meal that's hearty, fresh,
and, most importantly, Cara loves it.
I picked up amazing
ingredients, all from your deli.
Okay.
So it's not lost on me
that you have this wealth
of product and resources
available at your very own deli
to make amazing meals at home.
And I'm here to encourage
you to do more of that.
Let's start with the eggplant.
I'm gonna ask you to
cut these into rounds.
Probably about a half inch or so.
Explain what that means.
- Okay, great. You want me to start?
- Absolutely.
Sorry. I'm assuming that you're
super adept in the kitchen.
- You're assuming completely wrong.
- Okay. Got it.
You can lead with the tip,
then probably a half inch.
This is more prep work than I've
probably done in a long time.
When Cara cooks for me,
it shocks me how wonderful a
meal she can throw together.
- She's a good cook?
- Very good.
Oh, she made chili the other night
and, uh, just sent me with
a little thing of chili
and some chips and stuff like that.
Isn't it nice to, like, show up
and, like, your partner just
has everything ready for you?
Oh my God. That was wonderful.
It, like, feels good when you
make something from scratch too.
- Humble.
- I feel like that's actually enough.
You've had enough?
No, I'm saying the eggplant.
You've had enough of watching this?
You're actually doing great.
I basically covered the
entire surface area with oil,
and my goal is for these to
get a beautiful golden brown.
I'm gonna get some of
these Calabrian chilies out
and then ask you to chop them up.
They're gonna kind of, like,
fall apart and disintegrate
a little in the pan.
San Marzano tomatoes.
- What am I doing exactly?
- Breaking it apart.
We have your beautiful penne.
You can dump the whole thing right in.
So I'm actually gonna
slide this off the heat.
I'm gonna gently salt the eggplant.
So I'm gonna go ahead and take
all of this wonderful
garlic and the chilies.
Beautiful.
As you're doing that, I'm gonna
add a bit of dried oregano.
- We're gonna put the eggplant in there.
- Okay.
Go ahead and put that in there.
So we're gonna let
that sit for a second.
Is that enough cheese?
That's definitely enough cheese.
Never enough cheese.
And you're gonna get the
garnishes ready. Some basil leaves.
Cara's a big garnish person. She
always says, "I'm cooking dinner."
"Do you have any basil
at the deli? Are you "
She actually If she isn't
growing it in our garden.
- Do you feel like she's the one?
- Yeah.
- Really?
- Yeah.
You seem more happy about that than me.
Because what's better in the
world than finding your person?
Finding the person that
makes you wanna be better.
- The one that makes you happy.
- I like the way you just said that.
- "Makes me wanna be better." Yeah.
- So what do you wanna do differently?
Like, we're here for a reason.
Uh, I mean, at this point, it's
it's listen, and when
I need to be there,
when she probably, you know,
would like more time from me.
It's like a nice, dramatic,
if you will, gesture of love.
Is this what she wanted?
This was the first thing
that came out of her mouth,
and then she started listing
a whole bunch of other things.
Can I have that list or no?
I'll write it down for you,
but you should be asking her
so you can surprise her.
Good point.
Remember to be creative
in figuring out ways on
how to remind her of that.
Everyone wants to feel special.
Everybody wants to feel loved.
- Delicious.
- Wow.
- I really appreciate you doing this.
- Of course!
Thanks.
- You know exactly how to make this?
- I got a book in the car.
- I'm gonna write it all down.
- Okay.
Get comfortable. Take a seat.
- Smells great.
- It's actually me that you're smelling.
- You smell great.
- I'm kidding. Can I take your hat off?
- Please.
- Okay.
The prognosis is great.
That's the first positive.
No, it's so good. Why are
we covering up in a hat?
I never wanna see a hat on you again.
Okay.
- Do you get what I'm saying?
- Yes.
- We are gonna scrub your knees.
- Wow. Really?
That is an accumulation of dead skin.
Patty, I need some exfoliant.
Dan's knees are the
color of a hardwood floor,
and I am just not understanding
why Dan's knees are
the color of maple syrup
when no other part of his body
is the color of maple syrup.
How come this dead skin
doesn't just fall off?
One could be that you need
to change out your loofah.
It could also be that you're
just not spending enough time.
- And it's called exfoliant?
- Yes.
If you use it once a week,
it's gonna keep getting it off.
Come over here. I'm
gonna wash your hair.
Feel how I'm rubbing this
through your scalp, this oil?
- Yes.
- It's really soothing for your scalp.
Especially for you 'cause
you wear a lot of hats.
So is this a pre-wash?
Exactly, it's a pre-wash oil.
Ooh, you know what you
could also do for Cara?
You could do this for her and
give her a little scalp massage.
And you guys could get freaky.
But pre-wash scalp oil
is for external use only.
Understood.
There we go.
Hair hydrator.
- Do you derive your worth from your work?
- Yes.
As a nonbinary bad bitch myself,
I'm not into, like, this or that.
I don't think that you have to
really change your
priorities, like, so, so much.
I think you have to make room for
both Cara, like, and your work.
But I think it's probably
hard for you to do that
because, like, where you derive a lot
of your self-worth is, like, your job.
Yes. It's definitely an issue.
Like, I heard her say something like,
"You get home at 10:00. I need 7:30."
That doesn't have to be every night
'cause now if she's getting
that no nights a week
I mean, I'm a genius at negotiation.
You should be like, "I can give
you 7:30 three nights a week,"
and she'll be like, "I'd love
that," and you'll be like, "Great!"
No, you're right.
You know, understanding
what the deli is for me
is trying to find another energy
source that obviously involves Cara.
We gotta get this
language of love happening.
We gotta make some time in Dan's life
for him to be the man
that Cara needs him to be.
- Its nose's go time.
- Uh-oh.
- You got enough wax?
- Yeah, I do.
One, two, three. Ah!
I'm exhausted.
The straights have worn me out.
Who's a cutie pie?
- Me?
- Dan is!
Thank you.
- I really appreciate this. Thank you.
- Oh my God. You're so welcome.
- Ready to see the new you?
- I am.
All right. Here's the new Dan.
In three, in two, in one.
Here you are.
- Look at your knees. They're better, no?
- Absolutely, they are. Yeah.
But look at your cute face.
I like it.
You do look noticeably more
relaxed and, like, happier now.
Yeah.
Just take that hour for yourself
'cause when you don't
show up for yourself,
it's really hard to show
up for another person.
And I want you to show up for Cara.
The little time I got to spend with her,
I just adore her. She
has amazing energy.
You know who else I adore
who also has great energy?
This guy. And I mean, look
at how handsome you are.
- Thank you.
- So let's go.
- Let's go.
- Here's your hat.
If you put it on now, I'll come
unglued in a way you've never seen.
Look how cute you look. It
makes your pecs stick out more.
Thank you.
- Are you nervous at all?
- A little bit.
I'm actually nervous
at how I'm gonna look
trying to cook dinner tonight.
They're here! He's here.
Let's do it. You ready?
- I'm ready.
- All right.
Oh my God! Look at you!
- You look so handsome.
- Wow!
- And you know it!
- You look ten years younger too.
Looks great, Jonny.
Oh, you look great, honey.
You would've been proud
of me this morning.
I would've? I can tell.
Yeah, I washed the
knees with the washcloth.
You look so handsome.
- Thank you.
- Ready for this?
Wow.
What do you think?
Wow.
This is night and day.
It looks wonderful.
This is
Move out the way.
- I know! I wanna see it.
- Yeah.
I wanted to create spaces
where you could not only
have moments with yourself,
but also with Cara.
A place where you can entertain,
and this becomes a home,
and more, you know, the deli
is less the center of your life
and just a stop.
It's gorgeous.
It's so nice.
It's Yeah.
- I wanna spend time here.
- Wow.
Hey.
You didn't before.
- Oh, no. You saw before.
- Yeah, we hear you.
- It's very warm. It's welcoming.
- You ready to see more?
- Yes.
- Okay.
Oh wow.
- Right?
- Yeah.
Wow.
Before, in your house,
nowhere to entertain, nowhere
except for the bed to cuddle.
- You see yourself cuddling here?
- Absolutely.
- You do know how to, right?
- Oh yeah.
- Sure? I'm not sure if I believe you.
- Yes.
I'm not sure. Wanna
cuddle me just to show me?
Hi, I'm Cara.
- I just got off of work.
- The final test.
Oh my God!
- Yeah!
- Oh!
You actually are a good cuddler.
This is, like, very strong.
- You ready to see more?
- Yeah.
Oh wow.
- It's wonderful.
- Whoa!
Oh, you painted the bed black. The tree!
The big, tall tree makes
the ceiling seem super tall.
And also the chandelier.
The chandelier is beautiful.
- Nice.
- There we go!
There he is.
I, for one, didn't know
there was a balcony.
Right? It had absolutely nothing on it.
Now it's a special little place
for Cara and Dan to go
out and have alone time.
- This is so nice.
- Yeah?
Yeah. This is so beautiful.
This is
- Sorry. I'm a a little
- It's okay.
- A little in awe?
- A little taken aback, yeah.
Just when you've been
wandering into a place
Like, it's one, wandering
into five or six years,
you're just unaware or capable
of what you could possibly have done
with the place to
make it look like this.
- Yeah?
- Yeah.
It's just Yeah, this
is really [BEEP] great.
This is wonderful.
And obviously it takes
somebody with your skill level
to be able to see and, uh heal.
Do you feel this is a bit healing?
I don't know if the word is
"heal." You know, it makes it
You know
Yeah. If things are inflamed,
they're hard to touch.
If things are less inflamed,
they're more approachable.
Agreed.
- You're the best, man.
- Thank you, Bobby.
- How you been?
- I'm all right.
Good. Good, good, good.
I made a big list of all the
issues that Cara might feel
from the way that I have
been acting towards here.
Causing her to feel or be
alone when she doesn't want to be.
I make her feel less
important than she should feel.
I raise her stress level
because she cannot rely on me.
I'm not inflicting pain
on her because I want to.
I hurt too.
Always.
And the best way for me not to
hurt is to stay in my business.
Working in the store is my ibuprofen.
- And being at the store is my hot bath.
- Yeah.
I appreciate you making
me more aware of this.
- Yeah.
- I do.
And I see a potential
path to fixing the issues.
You are a pretty damn exceptional man
of how you love others and how
you built something that's great.
I'm just so happy for you,
and for what's gonna happen and
the steps you're about to take.
You can be a successful businessperson
without leaving the other
areas of your life unattended.
This is where the growth happens.
Now he can start to change.
Oh! I really do appreciate you.
What's going on tonight?
- I'm I'm cooking dinner.
- Yes!
You know how to make
the pasta alla Norma.
- Right?
- Right.
But, when they get here, you
have to have a little bite
to sort of, like, introduce
them to your new home with.
I thought we could make bruschetta.
- Okay.
- Just a little different.
It actually has strawberries in it.
Got a beautiful Italian
loaf and a baguette.
- And you're gonna drizzle
- A little bit of the olive oil.
A little bit of the
olive oil. Excellent.
So now you're gonna
grab those two pieces
and just put 'em right
into that toaster.
We have some basil,
we have some parm from
your deli, of course,
and we have a garlic clove.
Little bit of balsamic
for some nice acidity.
Little bit of olive oil.
If you can mix that around, please.
This couldn't be easier.
Mm.
- So
- Are you gonna teach me table manners too?
- I only have a week with you.
- I don't know if you
I probably don't come off, but
I'm really appreciative of this.
- I'm trying.
- Hug it out.
Thank you.
- All right, kids, ready for this?
- Yeah!
Wow, mister!
- Holy shit!
- Love this.
- Where's the runway?
- You can give us a runway!
You really are giving,
like, young Brendan Fraser.
- I'm gonna rip his top off.
- Yes!
- Yes!
- Let him get past. His runway!
- Excuse me, sir.
- There we go.
Oh my God.
His pants bring out his
ass. Like, he's got a
I was gonna say the same thing.
Sorry to objectify you,
but isn't that nice?
- Didn't know you had a booty.
- Apology accepted.
All right, thanks.
What is he wearing tonight?
- Shall we try on some other looks?
- That is what I wanna see.
Let's do it. Thank you.
- All right, kids.
- Yes.
- Ready for date look?
- Absolutely.
- Good.
- Can't wait!
- Very dashing.
- Look how handsome he looks!
You're so adorable!
The brown because I wanted to
bring out the beautiful color
of his hair and eyes.
The blue compliments
the brown perfectly.
It fits you amazing.
What do you think Cara's gonna think?
Oh, she's gonna love it.
I mean, compared to what she's
been getting for, like, two years!
How could she not?
He looks like a different man.
First of all, he's smiling so
much more than he has before.
He looks like a gentleman.
He's looking amazing.
My loins are boiling.
- Tell us about the week, how you found it.
- First, I wanna thank you.
I like this. This is great.
You found my look.
- I feel comfortable.
- That makes me so happy.
Physically and mentally.
And then also, thank you
all for the, uh, pep talks
in between the specific help.
Um, they brought some issues up
that I need to make myself aware of
and that I have been made aware of
and that I'm gonna try to remedy,
starting with, you know, tonight
when I, uh, take care of Cara.
I think what you have
displayed is an extreme amount
of vulnerability, humility, and love,
and you are just a gracious man
who deserved every bit of this week.
I do hope that you can
take a little bit of time
to celebrate how far you've come,
celebrate what a great guy you are.
Cara's gonna be here
soon. We should get out.
Uh, just get real nasty
with her, you know?
- Thank you.
- Good luck, my friend.
You're welcome, man.
Just to let you know,
and this is a pro tip,
you can still twerk in
suits. Give it to me, Daddy!
- Give it to me, Daddy!
- Johnny, you're missing this!
Who is it?
It's me!
Oh my God!
- Oh my God!
- Dan!
- You look so handsome.
- Oh my God!
I feel so strange.
Aw!
You look so
Oh!
And looking fresh.
- Oh my gosh!
- Dan!
Look at your house! Look at you!
- I know.
- Look at your suit!
Let me give you a tour.
- Unbelievable!
- It looks insane in here.
I'm truly gobsmacked.
Yeah.
No!
Oh my I'm
Oh my gosh!
Catch me here.
Oh, the pi
Everything looks fabulous!
- You're slaying.
- I'm slaying?
I'm slaying.
- We're moving to your house.
- My house?
No, your house is still really nice,
but we can definitely
come over here sometimes,
as long as I come home earlier.
Wait till you see my bedroom.
Oh my gosh!
- Daniel, this is swanky.
- Yeah.
Ladies first.
Oh my gosh.
Thank you, Daniel.
- Wow.
- The view! Oh my gosh.
It's gorgeous.
I hope that y'all just,
like, sit out here,
drink a glass of wine,
and enjoy each other.
Oh my God.
All right, who wants what?
- The garlic rubbed on both sides
- That's what they told me to do.
So good. Really
delicious, Dan. Thank you.
This is amazing.
- Cheers.
- Kind of?
I've never had this many
people in my room like
- We're proud of you. This is incredible.
- Thank you guys for making me do this.
Everything that was in
you, we're seeing finally.
- We're actually getting to know that Dan.
- Well, I
But we wanna give you
guys some time to talk.
- Yeah.
- Bring it in here.
I love you.
It's, like, a lot of hugs this weekend.
The most hugs we've ever had.
- So proud of you.
- Thank you.
We're alone!
We're having eggplant.
- So you made eggplant just for me?
- I did.
- Cheers.
- Cheers.
- I love you.
- I love you.
That's delicious!
- It's, like, really good!
- Yeah.
- This is all really nice.
- Yeah.
And this is great,
but, you know, I mean,
I, frankly, quite frankly,
think it's gonna take
more work on my behalf,
and they made me, like, realize,
"What do you think
the impact is on Cara?"
It's, like, showing up late.
Not giving her enough time.
Not being there when she needs.
I don't mean to hurt you.
- I know that.
- I know you do.
- I've always known that.
- I know.
I'mma try to be better.
Now you can make pasta,
and before you could
only make reservations.
- I couldn't even make the reservations.
- You couldn't even make reservations!
I hope that this week
we have really showed Dan
that there's so much
more to life than work.
To really find happiness,
you need a well-rounded life.
Here's to trying to be better.
I think you're pretty
amazing, Dan Stein.
Stein's Deli. What can I do for you?
Hi, yeah, I was wondering
if you had any hot meat?
'Cause I went cold turkey.
Looking for some hot meat?
Hi, Dan Stein!
Wow, what a nice button-up shirt.
You look pretty.
Hi hi, everybody.
Why aren't you guys here?
Are you afraid of me?
I was wondering why you're
there because it's after 5:00,
and I think you should be
spending time with Cara.
I have a date with her
at eight o'clock tonight,
but I appreciate your concern.
We love you, and we're
so glad you're doing well.
- Bye, honey.
- It was good to see you.
- Thank you.
- Take care of yourself.
I will. I will try.
I will try to keep doing it.
- He's so sweet.
- Yeah.
No time to iron your shirt?
Don't sweat it.
Steam it whilst you shower.
See? Perfect.
- Let's talk about me?
- All things all things Dan Stein.
All right, well, why wasn't
I talking about me before?
Talk about fashion?
I was watching the
fashion channel last night.
Were you really? Looking for inspo?
no.
Uh, underwear, foo
We don't we don't need
to talk about underwear.
We don't have to talk
about underwear? Why not?
Let's talk about something I think
you are gonna be more
interested in, okay?
Have I been not interested
in any of this other stuff?
Coffee from my coffee people?
That's delicious.
I get one though. You
can't have more than one,
or else I'm gonna be
agitated and pooping all day.
Want me to stand up on
the chair and say that?
Or something like that?
I just, um
What was the question?